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Mercychen:
Yes. These other factors you mentioned are equally important but the major key factor is financial security in marriage. Even the Bible says, money answereth all things.

I can't imagine myself going into Marriage with a man who has no bearing with my two eyes open all because society believes I should be married by age 40 or thereabout.

Society been causing unnecessary pressure that has landed so many into abject poverty and suffering. Meanwhile, they hardly offer any help or succor to such families.

Damn society!

so let me ask, you have four options...............

One, he is rich, poor in respect, nags, complains at everything you do, and he womanizes a lot.........


Second, loyal, nice, not financially buoyant, but tomorrow looks bright and radiating, not a womanizer, God-fearing, churchy, humble and caring even with his little.

Third, he is rich, loyal, nice and he makes it known that he would find it hard to marry one woman, but he is everything you want in a man attitude wise.....

Fourth, he is rich, nice, caring, loving, churchy, worker in church, dedicated and he is all you want in man. He believes in one man one woman, does not womanizer...........

Oya choose your top two.........

EFCC is becoming a useless body, they just throw up unnecessary charges with no basis, and in the end, they lose the case. Instead of them to bar him from traveling out, do a thorough investigation, and when they now have concrete evidence, then they can order an arrest. One should not be surprised that they have not done any investigation, only to just be arresting up and down and achieve nothing in the end.

Mercychen:
Bless you for this.

Everyone is marrying because of societal belief and expectations and not because they are ready in all ramifications. Which is very very baaaaad.

I see the men are not finding this post funny but it is what it is. So, let them deal with it.

Nice one, OP.

You are right, money is very important when it comes to marriage so as to enjoy the marriage, but not the only case to consider. Attitude is a long way more important as money, under normal circumstances, where they both have the right attitude, understanding, God-Fearing, loving, caring, selfless, committed, having money would make the journey worthwhile and everlasting.

Mercychen:
My night was cool. Hope you had a good night's rest too.

Yeah, I only have today to rest. Tomorrow, Church tinz from 5:30 to 6pm. After normal service, House fellowship ( rest only a few hours in between) in the evening. Even the Saturday is not enough cos Ill soon be going to do my laundry. After which I'll go clean the Church. Then come back and cook. I'm praying for strength to accomplish all that in time to be able to have some rest before nightfall.

I still need the hols.

Good morning.

Oya let's do division of labour, when you get tired with laundry, call me to continue from where you stopped.
So what church do you go to..
Reply your mail

Mercychen:
Okey-dokey .. then.

How your night and happy weekend...
At least we have today , tomorrow to rest

Mercychen:
You see, the problem with some people is, they only see the change in other people but fail to see they also changed.

Situations and circumstances make people change and for all he knows he may be the reason behind the change in her. Some men can bring out the demon in you.

To tell you that he too has his own, why didn't he state what actually happened in details. He just said she changed and we are supposed to see her as a devil. My brother, forget! The story is one sided. So I can't really say if the OP is being truthful about you accusations.


Men most times are the cause of sudden change in women.

The bolded isn't always the case o... I've seen ladies who changed when their partners still remains who they knew while the relationship started. The ladies are probably carried away with what is out there, forgetting all that glitters isn't gold.

The only wrong thing any partner can do is beg for love, when the love, affection isn't there any more, no one should force it. Let each follow their heart wherever it leads them.

Mercychen:
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Oh... Ok.



Kikikiki.. fed govt hols come scarce like petrol .
You'll have to wait till may 1st. I think that's when there's going to be a public holiday.

All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

Ah.. Who go wait till May 1st, you want me to collapse, abeg we too go enjoy Easter break o... So how was work today?

Mercychen:
Who wants a divorce? Him, not the woman. So, let him forget about her and the shop.

It's childish to want to take it back from her just because you don't want to do again.

To his question. Yes, the wife can lay claim to the shop because it's her name that is written there or is he bearing theresa? Let him not waste his time.

I get... But following the man's narration, why do women change all of a sudden after marriage?
Or the man was blinded by Love not to see the obvious signs?

April 17 and 18 are Easter Sunday and Monday.

We that don't do teaching now nko .. I'm looking forward greatly to any federal government holiday Biko make person relax abeg.

Mercychen, what should we advise this married man?

MufasaLion:
Your wife changed or you ignored the red flags during courtship?

As in, many of us just ignore the red flags and get blinded by love claiming she changed while we got married.

Rollsnjaguar:
Those urging western nations on will be shocked at what Putin is capable of. I know Putin will never loose, instead he will deploy nuclear weapons.

Russia troops commandant from Kremlin, I hail you. Just like football matches, anyone can win, same as war, either sides can win. No country can withstand the whole world against them, not even Russia, but you, the Russian troop commandant from Kremlin believes foolishly like Hitler your fellow power drunk that it's always a win for you. Putin is a daredevil, gaining more enemies than necessary. He can't win a war against the whole world Mr. War monger. Ukraine is an ally to China, infact the largest trade parter of Ukraine is China, India is a friend too, no one wants the west sanction.

The west has positioned itself like big brothers of the world that everyone sees them as brother in times of need, one Russia is envy of.

Russia controls lot of warheads with long distance range cover than all of NATO, but the west has diplomacy knowledge, tactics and skill in building allies, one Russia doesn't use well.

When war starts, Putin already said he's not after winning but rather causing a never seen damage in history but in all, the west would win because it would be one country against the others. In all, only the damage to the world is what we can't imagine.

Beverlyjean:
Are u Guardiola or abi u are an executive in man city. Y did man utd then buy him when they dint have it in their plans. U that u are just watching tv and browsing soccer now know more that Ferguson and Guardiola. He was almost confirmed as a city player cos negotiations were already on going with Juventus. If Guardiola dint want him, why did he later say he knew that Ronaldo will end up refusing them because of Manchester utd . He said he wud have been surprised if Manchester utd dint snatch the deal. Guardiola saw that they lost the CL because they dint hv a box player, he wanted kane but spurs refused to sell. Ronaldo was meant to be the missing puzzle to get him that CL. If u watch the game against PSG in Paris, it showed again that man city might fall short without a player like Ronaldo, halaand, Lewandowski. A Ronaldo in that game in Paris wud have won them the game. Sometime when u watch city , u see that they need that sort of player in the box . Guardiola knew this. And again Ronaldo doesn't get injured , even at his age . His mentality is top notch, he will motivate others to create that mentality of finally winning the CL

My own nah say, as i see wetin u type long, i b think say u go yab me inbetween, but good, it was devoid of insults or vituperation, something uncommon when people share different opinions here esp when it involves ronaldo. Nice.

How are you?

and happy val in arrears..........

Beverlyjean:
Have u ever been in any football dressing rooms in ur life , talk less of Ronaldo's dressing room.

Take it anywhere, Guardiola can't buy Ronaldo; even at his prime, Guardiola did not buy him, talk more of now that he is in his decline. Even Without Ronaldo in city's team, a team to beat city would be extremely good like very very good, and a team Guardiola coaches are always a very good and tactical team, a testament that Ronaldo has nothing to add to Guardiola's team than come and overshadow other genuinely hardworking guys with his pettiness and take all glory syndrome.

mixta140:
Una just like wahala... Nigerians loves breaking simple law ... even this morning one stupid trailer driver stop in the middle of a busy road talking to his girlfriend... if dem catch am now we go dey say them frustrate am... Nigerians loves breaking law... if you like keep lieing yourself na you know ooo

It's still the same people like you that's making the country what it's, how bad things became. There's an issue on ground of someone setting himself ablaze, you're talking of someone who parked, talking to his gf and na blood dey run your veins so.

People would always break law, that's why it's there, but not extort people for personal gains.

Even with personal cars do what you brought up there, and is that an offense warranting an arrest or warning or impounding the means of movement....?

ProudBornoBoy:
Not all that glitters is gold, all the case he has handled should be reviewed, cause this type of person may be involved in blackmailing, torture and framing of innocent people.

Exactly, well it's just not him, majority of those people in black do that. Even when you're right, they would coerce one to agree to wrong else one endures unbearable pains.

Beverlyjean:
At 37, he is still lighting it up . For those screaming tap tapnaldo and penaldo , please go to youtube and see the goal. By the time messi gets to Ronaldos age, he will be in his sitting room , watching champions league. Ronaldo is a colossus, once he gets criticised, he replies on the pitch. Diego simeone has learnt the hard way and he will rather sing Ronaldos praises b4 the game bcis if he gets criticised, I just pity the next opponent .

Man City are 75% guaranteed to win champions league, but if Ronaldo was in that team it would hv been 100% Guaranteed.

Guardiola can't coach a player like Ronaldo, it would cause lots of friction Between them and they won't get along well. Guardiola is a Disciplined coach and won't tolerate insubordination, one Ronaldo is very known with. Ronaldo is used to dividing dressing room, repugnant attitude when run of play doesn't favor him, likes ignoring someone if not happy, and Guardiola been a no nonsense coach isn't the one to tolerate his impetuous attitude. The coaches he can control know themselves and can do anything to grovel at his feet, clearly not Guardiola.

This guy is very wrong, has he not seen stingy rich men, some people are rich and yet stingy, while some, they are rich, and still get girls that love them genuinely. So it is not a one way thing, but in all, sha have money because even with the love, money would make it sweeter. When someone has money and also successful, it is nature that the person would be shown love more, so in all, sha have money legitimately biko.

Omo, as i dey like this, if possible, na Virgin i go like marry o........but where i want see am now...

I was rushing to click to see a paid vacation from the girl, or a sweet, good looking smartwatch with the cover as his picture, only to be seeing wetin no worth am. Your babe try in 1%.

Olunmercy56:
only few materials things are original in Nigeria, there are many fake people too.

Fortunately, we aren't fake.

Candidlady:
Really hate to ask this....

But since its you ama ask anyways.... The bull iknow would post receipt abi no receipt or you have trashed it?

Small play with you, you're bringing stones.. Maka why

Asquare84:
If the vice president is actually going to wukari in taraba state, what the business of governors orton to go and receive him in the airport, always bringing issues of fulani herdsmen. I am from ugboju in otukpo local government of Benue state. In the whole of Benue state not a single road has been constructed, no pipe burn water, salaries of teachers and pensioners are not paid. Yet this orton will hide under the guise of fulani herdsmen to keep hiding his poor performance.

It does not take away the fact that, the governor ought to receive him since he was in benue. When Buhari came to Lagos, dapo abiodun was there, what biz does Ogun have with Lagos to have abiodun there. I am sure Osinbajo is not aware of the access denial to ortom, the Presidency just do not want him access to anything near them so he does not have much to say than what is in the public discourse.

Stargurl20:
Guys, do not lose a good woman just because she unintentionally had a fling with a guy or something. Learn to forgive, forget and move on with her

If she's a cheat, then she's not good enough. No cheating is done unintentionally, there's always an act of intent between the lines.

doggedfighter:
This account of her death is gut-wrenching.


So this was all about having sex with her by all means.


And when he finally got the forced sex, it became about going raw.

He killed her gruesomely

And Samson Adula the lawyer said his client may not be guilty?

Don't be surprised if the accused is even set free or given a light judgement. Did you see where his lawyer even said his confessions were made under duress.

The report isn't well detailed enough, it could be his detractors trying to pull him down. If he was queried by the NUC, what then was his defense to have been let go. The report brought more questions than answers.

gift0123:
I am a woman for real, but most times, I call a spade a spade, I made that comment because of the way you narrated your story, it was full of insults and you kept pushing him to the wall. You don't follow things with toughness, most times a cool denamor could solve certain things... Especially when it comes to our issues with men. When you push a man so hard and shout at him you chase him out... Follow that matter easily, you will surely get him back abeg..
Take care.

You have some good points up there. Quite apt.

obyrich:
I knew it was over immediately I heard they were called.

It's obvious you're just a keyboard warrior without a tune of reality. Our boys played better, just that in the end, results are all that matters.

why would any sane person be patronizing a prostitute to start with?
how much more a married man.

candidbabe:
Yes oooo
Just for formality sake.
Living faith church has big plasma televisions all over the church which displays the bible .
Sometimes I don't even open the bible throughout the service.

How about a notepad where you needed to jot one or two, do you take that along?

Mercychen:
Look, we all are different and react differently to situations. He may have hit her out of frustration from constant denial. someone else may have reacted differently but fact remains it's his own way of reacting.

Are you now saying because it's not right the way he hit her, she should not forgive him? Or worst still take it up against him? Haba!

In as much as I don't support domestic violence, I still think she should forgive and let go. Two wrongs can not make a right. She should also learn to respect people's feelings to avoid stories that touch.

If she's tired, let her say and stop holding someones son hostage in the name of marriage. Nobody forced her to go be with a man in the first place.

She would have to find a way to forgive him in the end, but saying maybe he is frustrated from constant denial, then he ought not to have hit her. What a sane person was meant to do was get her in good mood, take her out on a surprise date or do something strange but loving, win her back to your side first, then air out your mind, maybe she would say exactly what bothers her. What I know from simple my unmarried self is, once in a while maybe once in a month, always learn to spice up your marriage with some thing sweet especially when it's a young marriage. I just hate violence it never solves anything except maybe when you're at war..

Then married people should draw close to God and go for marriage counseling, then may be both parties would have been reminded it is wrong to deny each other sex.

Your angle of feeling pity for the man is quite understandable, but he's the head of the house, he ought to do better. You can't always force your way every time. His wife might just start saying, shebi you remember the way you did it the last time, come and rape me again, it's open, have your way my lord!.

I know she's not tired and if she's, the man should look into where he failed. She probably must have complained of something till she got fed up.

Mercychen:
Mr Man, sorry o but you're being rided by that woman and she's not a good wife.

On no condition should she deny you sex except she's sick.

Her body is all yours and you have the right to have her anytime you feel like. She has no right to keep her body from your for so long.

Fine, you assaulted her ( which was a fault of hers) and you've apologized. She should forget and move on. Couples quarrel and yours won't be the first. So whybis she making a mountain out of a molehill?

It's either she's seeing someone else or tired of the marriage. I mean, why would she starve you of your conjugal rights for so long in the first place and still go on to deny you of it when you asked for it?

You better shine your eyes. I have a feeling shes getting it from someone else and now you look repulsive to see her.

I agree with every point you made except the bolded, assault should not be taken lightly, that she denied him sex does not mean she should abuse her. As a gentle man, it is wrong denting your marriage with such. He is the man of the house, there are ways he can stamp his feet with out drawing blood. He never mentioned if he tries to talking to her asking if anything bothers her, or if she is troubled, as something might have triggered her reactions.The way he went about his approach was as a master slave relationship, if you do not give me this, i force you to get result that suits me. Sex should be enjoyed by both parties, not just one party. He never mentioned how their sex life was before now, he did not say if his wife is the type that can go a week without making sexual advances, remember not everyone like sex to the extent of having it daily. Wrong to have denied the guy sex, but assaulting is bad, you do not right a wrong with another wrong. Let us imagine she is troubled, and because he wants the man to have his way, she just opened, the man reaches orgasms, and that is the end, no connection, the woman hides her challenges because the man is probably only bothered with having sex and that is all. The woman can be fulfilling her side of giving sex, but the woman would just be not totally into the man, for the feelings, attraction, affection, and bonding would not be there hence in the end, still not happy and rather hides her tears just to make the man happy which in its own is a ticking time bomb which would explode soon.

see your mouth, she is not seeing another man joor. something really bothers the woman that they both need to talk about, resolve it, have a nice date again, and nail it with a good sex. Hopefully they get back to good ways again.