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Mercychen, what's your take on this?

safarigirl:
First victim of what?

If you ask me for my biro and I refuse to give you, does that make you a victim? Does that give you the right to slap me and collect the biro?

There is no part of the world you will go to that refusal for sex is a crime, none. But there are many parts of the world that spousal rape is a crime.

You do not have to debase yourself to animalistic ways because something is not going your way. If resorting to violence is the only way you think someone can get something, then there is something severely wrong with your upbringing

How can you equate demanding sex from your wife to someone asking biro from you, they are not to be in the same instance madam. They are not to deny each other sex except they are in mutual understanding of such. Where there is no understanding, abuse is inevitable. They both did wrong in the end, but denying your husband sex in marriage is a breach of union and contract legally binding them, and abusing your wife on the ground of sex denial cannot be excused either. Understanding one's partner is very important, not everyone likes sex as a daily routine, and when you notice something off in your partner, it is important both parties find a way to resolve it before it leads to another problem. The woman ought to have opened up to her husband what bothers her, and the man should have made the move to know what warranted those changes but still, one should never deny the other sex when all things are fine except there is an agreement between them base on understanding.

TheBeezybee:
My candid advice, let her have the baby.
Based on your state right now, YOU ARE SCARED.
That lady is going through a lot already especially health wise.
The deed has been done so I wouldn't advise you cause further WAHALA.
It is better to face the outcome while no life is lost than doing otherwise.

Having the baby would be wrong at this point, remember they already attempted using drugs that caused part of the blood of the formation of the baby to be lost, meaning the baby could be deformed if given birth to.

Mercychen:
Lol...

She's very well.
Thank you.

Extend my greetings to her o, that a well built guy says hi

Mercychen:
Straight away friend zoning.

Me I'm physically fit now. So, no need.

lol
be calming down nah
how is ur twin?

Rosement:
There are muscular guys that don't look appealing to ladies.

Yeah I have seen many, they just work out and forget their build, they have a muscular body with a skinny lower section from waist down. So unappealing. Happy New Year.

Rosement:
Some guys are naturally muscular and some guys exercised to gain muscles not all guys used steroids. If most guys even decide to be artificially muscular, it is not all of them that it will fit.

So you think working out won't fit some men, well maybe they're under bad instructor. Hitting the gym was meant to give you a good body build, and when under an instructor, you get the perfect build you want. Still, people hit the gym for different reasons anyway.

Mercychen:
A man with muscles Biko.
What do I want to do with a legelege man? Hian!

What defines a mans masculinity are his muscles and every woman wants a masculine man.

You're wicked o.. So if legelege like us talk to you now, we're friend zoned already ... When we can hit the gym together.... I dey see women like you too for gym o keeping fit

ruggedtimi:
so if na buhari Dem no go allow am enter?

Buhari too far, even captain of the Nigerian military would beat the daylight hell in those security guards and still lock the estate down for 2 hours. Nothing go happen!!!

FarahAideed:
Estate guards where doing their job and he felt above the estate laws ..in most gated estate in Lagos you have to call before you are allowed in ..In Some you even need a special code before you are allowed In

I'm sure exceptions would be made for important personalities like the President, Vice President, Senate President, Speaker, governor, commissioner of police, some top military generals, most esp when they are with their paraphernalia of office. You cannot deny these people access to any place, because they have what it takes to make the law go in their favor.

Romanoff:
See ehn, it pays to be a decent human being.

Define relationships from begining, don't double date, keeping who you call wife material somewhere and who you you think should just be a sex mate. Not everyone has the psychological maturity to move on and leave you to God.

Sone get craze and won't even mind losing their own lives just to get back at you.

See these two now, this kind of burns can kill any of them.

There is no one way to a relationship, some define theirs and still end in premium tears, but most importantly, we should watch the partners we go out with. some can handle breakups, while some, they cannot, so depending on your partner's attitude and personality, this would determine how you go about the breaking up. For me, if someone says they are not doing again, let them go, no be by force to date who no want date you again, been desperate for anything is very very bad.

MEGA4BILLION:
What a thrilling comeback that ended in a draw

Chelsea Liverpool played out, but lukaku(the bride) is missing in all of this.

Kizyte:
Yes she is

That's it. If I'm praying to God for a wife, then I would expect a virgin. Congratulations brother. I love what I'm seeing.

Well, it's good to be generous, be it towards male or female. I've given my female friends money before without expecting anything in return, same as my guys too.

Sanmel:
You do well, thank you..

LOL.. Happy new year

kkokoma:
I spent a year in a school in Western Norway, a small town called Norhemisun, near Bergen. Norwegiens are basically friendly people. I still have a lot of friends around Oslo

How's the weather like, is it that very bad?

Sanmel:
I no die o but the pressure don con dey increase..

No worry, I can ease the pressure.

Magnoliaa:
Hmmm. This one is deep.

@topic, I don't do men, anyway, so I've learnt nothing and I don't think it'll be anything worthwhile to learn, so I don't even want to learn.

Depending on who you dates, we still have great, respectful and nice men there. You don't do men? How to you mean?

Sanmel:
Lol.. You can't be so sure you're the main one..

Have you been in one where he multi dates?

Hello pretty, everythinggirly.

What is your take to this?

everythinggirly:
Do you love her?
Maybe you may need to marry her first before too much spending.


This is why ladies should work. How can he not expect something in return when she is expecting something from him? Are they related by blood that he'll be Father Christmas? Dating doesn't turn a boyfriend to a father figure to foot all responsibilities mbok.

You are intelligent, and cute same time.

So indirectly you're saying we should be planning to travel out before it happens.

TOPCRUISE:
I kinda agree. Don't lose you ATM's especially that of access. I don't receive OTP codes from access when I make any online transaction. They just debit me gbam

You must have frequently use your card on that platform, it recognizes your card and bypasses OTP after frequent card usage .. It happens to all banks.

Kastonkastroll:
Money money money! It is honey, in a rich man's world.

Guys you do know that nigerian girls can even date a chimp if he has money, right?

This is lame, so who marries these days without proper planning?

If people marry and there is no money, you lots would complain why get married, gave birth to kids to make them suffer.

Even if the guy was not on a wheel chair, a guy with prospect and doing well would be preferred to one without bearing and still lost.......

The girl made her decision but in case you have sisters who like paupers who sit lame at home with no plans and expect manna from heaven, let me know, i have recommendations.

And why would a supposedly sane man be losing guard where an acclaimed insane man is? They both seem insane. When i pass through where a mad man is, i look to ensure i am not in harm's way till he is very far away from me, because in the end when there is casualty, a mad man feels nothing.

I for one cannot be in a marriage shrouded in secrecy, as much as i do not like keeping secrets in my home, the final decision lies with the head of the home to make. Just make her know your stand and how you would like your home be ran without been authoritative. You know your wife's weaknesses, remember when the home fails financially, the man is largely blamed, so make the best decision for your home.

Do not over work yourself, you both had once cheated. For me, base on my principled personality, i would not accept a cheating woman back as i would not do what i would not like be done to me either too. There are many women out there that are loyal, moreover, she is in the university, and at her prime age to explore things, allow her have her way, before she claims you denied her, her youthful age exuberance and kept her in bondage. I do not like dating undergraduates to start with sef. Give her a benefit of doubts, but do not have high expectations bro, she is likely to still cheat. I remember then in my school days, one girl had a serious relationship from home, only to be dating one guy in my lodge who has repeatedly told me he does not love the girl and only just eating her, infact, this guy would hurt this girl in her private part, the dumb girl still would not go till it ended in premium tears, and the girl till now, never marry. My ex once told me i do not give her the freedom she wanted, so let your babe enjoy life. There are many women out there to offer you the loyalty you need.

JaneYave:
Our time was up.

Biko how was that time determined? let me learn

Michelle55:
LOL.. Nice try.
By the way I think you're referring to another Michelle and not mine.

Let's read yours, or you didn't have an ex?

Essy23:
One of us was toxic. �

Which of the us is toxic, you or him?

After dating for long, thinking I could make her my perfect match, allowing her have her way always, little did I know that I was indirectly preparing myself to be relegated and be the woman. I can't even say things I'd like her do, before you know, quarrel and misunderstanding from nowhere. I guess our time was up and a need to move on.

Hakeem66:
Chelsea always getting easier draw

Same way Juventus made mouth, pride goes before a fall. How is a team that knocked out Ronaldo an easy team... You would just open your mouth wide like tap water.....