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Why not accept that fornication is very bad and let's move on? Why are you trying to embarrass your self here? We are all guilty of what this man is saying.

To chock you: Those days in Yoruba culture, the night of your weeding, there will be a witness with a white cloth during the time the new couple wants to make first intercores to affirm that the bride was actually a virgine.

So, stop embarrassing your self by using Joseph and Mary as case study. Just agree that fornication is so so bad. Stop defending meritocracy which you know its wrong.

TecM0:





That's because scripture was written by Arabs and Jews of the Middle East, and it is part of their own culture and custum 2000 years ago


Bride price is a cultural thing and it is dumb to jettison your own culture for Arab and Jewish culture


Just imagine if Biblical Joseph had insisted virgin Mary had a bastard since he never disvirgined her, and he had being close minded forming Alpha Male, will there be bases for religion, will Jesus had have such loving upbringing


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Congratulations. The next one will still have concubine. Keep breaking up with them until you turn 50. I am happy for you my dear friend.

Angelacruz:
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2yrs. He cheated on me with another babe. It's hard to move on. I wrote this with a bleeding heart.

Why do some men like cheating? I was never a liability to him nor a bad girl. Y would he treat me like this? Am going insane.

What should i do nairalanders?

No marriage again, what we have now is scam. They should scrap that scam sex industry called marriage . Lafff..

SilverNorGold:
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These days, marriages have become even more volatile than the cryptocurrency market.

Marriages crashing here and there for even the most flimsy reasons. The other day, a pastor divorced his wife because she used Maggi to prepare Egusi soup for him instead of Royco.

Now this.. If you check, don't be surprised that their marriage crashed because the actress kissed Segun Arinze in a movie.

May God help the marriage institution..

Dear younger ones, run from girl from poor home. I warned you. They will drain you financially and psychologically. Run.. Don't say you are not told.

benjackugo:
https://igberetvnews.com/1366850/lady-attacks-boyfriend-gifting-n15000-celebrate-birthday-photo/

Bad plan. It's on professional you might not make big money ever doing this. You have good job, package your self.

Our company do same and client pay 70% before we can even check their cpanel let alone building a whole website to be paid latter..

Don't enslave your self. You are approved tue way you call your self. Think Big Bro.. God will help you.

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Salary Work is one of the worst scam in life.. Despite how long he worked he was still depressed after stay back letter.

Invest and inves while you are working. Don't have mentality of caged man it kills ...

RIP man.

Nawaao:
Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8790419/amp/BP-vice-president-61-hanged-2million-home-inquest-hears.html

Only lazy youth complain if no work. We have seen lots of people using phone to promote what they sell and use dispatched rider to deliver it.. We have also see different business phone can do... Lazy Youths always complaining

otubujohn:
Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/police-detain-jobless-youth-for-attempted-suicide-court-grants-n200000-bail/%3famp=1

You never ready to drive RR. Since you are selling your services this cheap... When you are ready you will step up your game.. My advice soumds harchful hun? Well, that's a best mentor for you. We don't pamper mediocre. You have good job stop building Logo for N2000 Rebrand your self and Think HUGE! You will thank me latter.

Brandstudio01:
Congrats to her. Oluwa please me too

Even if na tokumbo baba

Anyway, I will Build a Professional Logo for your Product or Company For 2k Only. Offer valid today only. See my info below to Chat me up.
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Please don't. Its not a dash. It's money your boss uses to buy your time and expertise.. Rather you can say: It's nice working with you Sir... Period.

dosage150:
Is it really necessary to thank your boss after paying (salary) you for job you did?

Please don't kneel down brother. Why would men kneel down to marry woman? Abomination to our culture.. Our mumu don do...

Kpomosauce:
Yes na real man be this. How will I be kneeling for you to become my responsibility.

Btw, no be all marriage dey start with will you marry me. Some na take me to the boy's house

E pain am... Lafff. Awon deceivers. Lafff..

Le2money:
I can see you are pained to the bone...if not, you won't have to cry like a baby saying wot u don't know about others which you have not even met before...O Boy, They do say "common sense is not common", you are the perfect example for that....Next time, try not to respond senselessly

He was tired of the load. Nobody should use excuse of any celebration.. You think say e easy to Cary DADA Ni? Lafff

nwekeugochukwu:
https://igberetvnews.com/1366361/bbnaija-laycons-fan-cuts-dreadlocks-10-years-celebrate-laycons-victory-photo-video/

Are you asking us this kind of question here? What type of men do we have this days self? Please please if na joke stop am.

jomarq:
it started like this,I give her money to start business after much prejor from my mum that you need wife to be doing something bra bra bra.i give her 100k to start.she later come back to tell me that the money is not enough since she need to secure portion (OK bizz).now I give her another 100k that is not my money(meeting money)b/c am the treasurer.but i didn't tell her that it is meeting money and meeting is closing next month.when I ask her, she said that husband doesn't borrow wife money and get it back I should ask my mum.Elder please is it true b/c I don't know how to make 100k in the next 3weeks.l

Bunch of hypocrates. Forming Christian boy or girl... Formincate Monday to Saturday Then go to church on Sunday then commence his way of life from Monday again circled like that. Deceiving people that he wants to go his imaginary heaven.. Lafff.. Hidden under the word "our God is a merciful God". Use that one to retain in sin all the time. Who are you deceiving? We or your self? Lol...

Le2money:
Your blv is different from mine....I just quoted her according to my own blv so, next time reason with your head/brain and not with ur Anus

What's happening in church that's different please? Product of europcentric brainwashed.

Le2money:
Dis lady Cha want to register her name too..... Today is Sunday, u can't take his name to Church but instead reverse was d case .... Rubbish

Nothing it's poverty. Poor people's heart is full of evil either man or woman... How many of such news have you heard from the rich or wealthy families? When you see poverty or corona, please hug corona it's morw friendlier than that killer diseas called poverty. Their heart is full of hatred, jealousy, Bitterness, Noise, Desperacy etc. Only few has pire hearth,

Kaycethesage:
What is this one now

Tojubole... Like say you don't have plenty concubines or ex'ssss your self. (Arifin Ile Poo) his mate is marrying 3 wives already you are there typing Lobish. You better go tour house...

Fox12:
I accidentally eavesdropped on him on the phone(Having intimate conversation) with an anonymous girl.
Should I tell my sister about it?

Lol... Uncle, is it until they grow grey hair before you will give them? That's how one of my uncle use to say then... I owe you something lafff

bolaayenimo:
Well done boys. I owe you something

Avoid dating poor ladies they are all self entitled poverty minded people. Yound men, don't,say I do not work you. Stop falling for all this scam. Wake up. Some one that can not afford a luxury for her self is putting you on high jump of getting it for her... Secure your life. Stop fallinh for all this scam.

Kriss216:
Not again

The number of sane girls in Nigeria no reach 10. Go to an average Nigerian girl timeline, you'll be shocked and amazed how low they've become.

All this smelling girls... They can't even act without it been unoticed...

Made4naijalove:
Interent has been buzzing ever since a video of a lady who bashed into her long time boyfriend birthday party.

The video however shows that the boyfriend celebrates another girls birthday by giving a birthday party, it did not go well after the alleged girlfriend accuses the lady for snatching her boyfriend from her.

Watch the video of how the man covers his face in shame;


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5D6HVwJ7ic

You mumu no be,
Small. I don't know why you always Cary other peoole matter on yiur head. Who told you Ondo state is underslavery? Even you in your family, you can't guaranteed that the governance of your home is free from slavery you are there with borrowed data saying rubish... No face your home. Poor people always complain...

Kriss216:
How Oshiomhole single-handedly gave Edo to PDP is God's plan.

Ondo State is a Yoruba state. It's time they say NO to slavery. If they want Liberation, we're here for them. We can't force liberation on anyone.

PDP is coming stronger for 2023.

God bless Edo
God bless Obaseki




Shame on Ambode!

People should stop this game they call marriage. Its becoming more trap day by day... You refused to ead food you go jail? Lol... My nrotyer or madam OP take it easy o

RandomAfrican1:
https://africaatrandom.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Ghana-800x445.jpg
The Central Regional Coordinator of the Domestic Violence and Victim Support Unit (DOVVSU) in Ghana, Superintendent George Appiah-Sakyi recently reiterated that by law, it is an offense for husbands to reject or refuse to eat their wives’ food because this constitutes a form of “emotional abuse”.

According to the police officer, such reculcitrants husbands could be charged for emotional abuse and which has the possibilities of getting them jailed for a maximum of two years or to a fine of 500 penalty units which is equivalent to GH¢6,000 or both when found guilty.

He said this at whiles addressing a sensitization workshop for Muslim Women. During his speech, he also admonished husbands not to beat or molest their wives in anyway even if they are being insulted. He rather suggests that they report the wives to the police station closest by and not take the law into their own hand since verbal assault is also an offense that can be addressed by law.

“If your husbands refuse to eat your food and make you unhappy and causes you emotional pain, you can also report them to the police. If your husband comes home late and causes you to be unhappy you can make a case at DOVVSU,” he said.

He then went on to add that women who refuse to give sex to their husbands should equally be reported because refusal of sex to a legal partner is also a violation which is grounded in law and amounts to emotional abuse which is punishable under the Domestic Violence Act 732 of 2007.

“If your wife wears jeans to sleep and causing you emotional abuse it’s an offence and you can report her to DOVVSU,” Superintendent Appiah-Sakyi stated.

Source; https://africaatrandom.com/ghana-husbands-can-be-jailed-for-up-to-two-years-for-refusing-to-eat-their-wives-food/

You are stupid for saying some men are stupid. Period. Secondly, greediness of many wives and untrained children makes some men scared of disclosing their assets. I have seen a lady that entered their fathers parlor and suddenly said... If daadyy even die today, what can we inherit? This was a man that's not even 55yrs as at that time. Greediness greediness.

seniormallam:
Very true, going to the state government pox,
Baba just thank God, some stingy father's won't even let you know they have account with such money then they'll now die suddenly, it's either one bank staff move the money or after 10years the money get moved to CBN.
Some men are stupid sha, how can you decide to dash government your life savings instead of disclosing your accounts to your wife or child even if they don't know the balance at least they have the number

Association of weak men. They are always confused! This is suspect no big deal in confronting her for clarification, of course not in violence. I am tired of all this children mind set questions on NL. Be in charge of your home. Stop tuning to public for this kind matter. U are confused to rule a small family. Be a Man bro...

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Fantastic. Let them start showing any ladies that wants to blackmail so that all this lousy stupidity would reduced. No shame for them anymore.

benjackugo:
https://igberetvnews.com/1363490/police-arrest-lady-allegedly-blackmailing-peace-mass-transit-ltd-photo/

Men of this days are so so weak to the level that they can't even take a decision without running to seek online advice.

How would you have such a woman and still asking wether to stay with her or not? Do you think that people change easily from their character.

A woman u are supposed to give RED card you are here looking for advice. You better wake up. You are already enslaving your self. Many Marriage is a SCAM let alone talking about Baby Mama stuffs.

Young man, I don't know how to advice people. Than to say Wake up. You men of this era are too weak...

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

Yinmu... Lol the online war lords...

okeyfrank:
ZONE PRESIDENCY TO THE SOUTH WEST [OUTSIDE SOUTH EAST] AND BE READY FOR A MORE DIVIDED NIGERIA.

IT WILL DEFINITELY BE THE BEGINNING OF THE END OF THIS FAILED COUNTRY

You these guys have really turned nairaland to mascaratiny child's play zone. Imagine what you are seeking advice 4... Please please I need to go. I can't stand this

Bawal:
Due to some challenges, I and my wife are staying in one room self con and her 30 year old sister has been staying with us for some months now, my wife is older than her by three years.

Making love has been challenging since then even though the sister puts bed on the floor and sleep,most time when we assume she is asleep and engage in the act, i will later observe that she is not sleeping. Though she will maintain as if she is sleeping and this is constituting an uneasy environment.

In fact most time she knows when we are doing it. We are very uncomfortable over the act and she is not moving out from the house soonest. Though she is an adult that such may not sound strange to her, but indirectly seeing or hearing the sound on when i am performing duty on her elder sister makes us feel uncomfortable especially when we see one another in the morning after the act.

Please whats the right way to manage this situation. Advise please.

You are not suppose to bring this here. Your type are the one making some men looking like zoomby. (I come in peace).. Tell him to send her back to their village or father's house. That woman has no feelings for him anymore. Nothing will change that any time soon.

Worst of all, such woman might have someone that is satisfying her sexual urge reffered to as concubine (ALE).

Most of you children of now ardays (MEN) Are too weak. You fall for women manipulation easily... Please tell him to tell the wife to change or expect a small generator (new wife).

Or Tell him to Rent another house and commence a new life... No need of getting married self. Just distance from that woman.

Latter they can settle. Men, avoid see finish from bad women. Men of nowadays, wake up. Most of you are weak, bending to little suppress from community. Claiming all is well but most smiling and suffering... Always Go for Good and humble women.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Sincerely, I don't know why you are staging this matter like this. Those kids belong to him and his late wife same way you belong to your parent.

So, why taking the matter as eve you are part of the night when they were making the love that proceed the kids?

You guys should be humble also, Family don't build under hatred like this. But to be honest those children belong to him and his late wife but not to you nor your immediate family. Let us respect our selves.

Settle your differences as family. If they they based in abroad, would you fly there all because you want access to another man's kids? Biko, lets be guided.

bestmutiu2019:
please don't mind my bad English,please I need you to help me or advice me on what to do before I kill someone.
My name is ade second to last born in a family of 5,my mum first and second born were male follow by a girl then me and my jnr bro that is ma mum last born
The only girl of my family that is my sister married a guy this guy is so rude and mannerless I don't know maybe it was because of the little money he has,fast forward they had their first born a boy,then two years later my sister gave birth to twins she deliver the first one by herself then CS for the second one,as Almighty Allah pleases my sister died the 3rd day she gave birth to her twins that is November 2017.
Although my late sister husband lost both his parents so those little girls are with my mum she has been taking care of them since then,so one issue arise when one prophet told my mum that they should do this 1,1. tribal marks for those little girls to prevent their late mother from disturbing them in which my late sister husband decline,he came back the 3rd day September 29 2019 that he has come to claim these little girls that he has already paid for their boarding school that they are going to boarding school,twins that is not up to 2 years, meanwhile their first born is not staying with him a boy of 4 years old he says that he should go and be staying with one of his street uncle.
We accept these little twins started their boarding school in the neighboring state, like two months after then when mum go and visit the twins at the boarding school,they says my mum did not have any right to visit these twins because of the instructions their father gave them,my mum cried like say tomorrow no dey.

Meanwhile the first born that is staying with his street uncle he also order that man not to let any of us to see him.
PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO,I TOLD MY SENIOR BROTHER TO TAKE ACTION THEY COME UP WITH NOTHING,PLEASE I NEED YOUR ADVICE,COS I CAN KILL THIS MAN

There is different between freedom and ingrate. You can be free anywhere but hurting a finger that made you who you are is not what we call freedom. It hurts than fire and many have lost life subject to this same reason.

I so much feel for the Family. Example: Put your self in a simple shoe by inviting your frind from the village to live with you in the city, then latter he or she conived with the Landlord and push you put of your house you rented, deny you access to your home etc there is no way this will not hurt you to be honest. Let alone a wife do that to you.

Killing is not justify to this matter though but when commenting please let us put the interest of the Man and the Woman in heart. Truly this family is finished and for just these bellow reasons.

1) Man brings in his life an enemy that ruined his life, career etc

2) Woman married a man that cut short her life due to huge of hanger etc.

I so much feel for both of them. This is common in western world.

My Opinion Advice to Men That Are Not Married:
Please If you can not be very very very tolerance,

1) Don't take woman from village to abroad. Its either you marry some of the ladies grew up there both of you already know how the system works.

Or Don't even marry at all if you can, because it not mandatory. All this marriage stuff is Overated matter. Just get Baby Mama. Women are the most humble people b4 marriage but after marriage most of them become Terrow or Wolf...

I am speaking the truth and its always bitter.

Take and make use some of my opinion and trash out some that u don't need.

We that are married know that marriage is really overrated. Mostly when you marry a wrong person. Its a Prison on its own where people suffering & smelling... Selfish interest is order of the day.

Don't forget my advice. If you love freedom so so much, design how you want to regulate your marriage b4 you even jump into it.

Finally: In oyinbo film, there marriages looks perfect but in real life most of them live in bondage.

I feel for the man also feel for the Lady.
Peace.

joseph1832:
I believe some Nigerian men abroad likes to keep their wives here in Nigeria, because they're afraid of what they might do, when they discover what it truly mean to be free.

Rest In Peace Lady.

And your stupidity still never let you know that all this carp has no any significant science prove? Before you open that your lazy mouth and be downgrading your father land...

Seun that own nairaland no reach you for age. What habe you done to change the Africa? Alabosi... Lafff.

Hedonisco:
Oyinbo leading the way as usual, while clueless black Africa continues to wallow in the stone age.