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Celebrities / Re: Sandra Okagbue Shares Photo With Her Daughter by Matty33(m): 1:10pm On May 08, 2016
Wow, lovely pics. D baby is Flavour's copy.
Politics / Re: Wike Celebrates His Supreme Court Victory (Photos) by Matty33(m): 6:43am On Jan 28, 2016
viviangist:
After Governor Wike's Victory at the supreme Court Abuja , Wike, family, friends and supporters celebrates his victory in a lovely way , on his arrival at his compound , see photos from the party organized by his wife below. This man is loved by his people, so let him be. To God be the glory!

Report from http://www.viviangist.com/governor-wike-family-friends-and-supporters-celebrates-his-victory-photos

Cc; lalasticlala , mynd44 , Obinoscopy


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Politics / Re: Zaria Massacre: President Buhari’s Unsettling, Disquieting Silence by Matty33(m): 12:16pm On Dec 21, 2015
elmisti:



Well said, u just reasoned like a very experienced animal. From dis Zoo,......I dnt know wen the army turn cultist wey civilians go dey fear.....dnt get me wrng Ooooo, but the last, I mean very last cause of death of any civilian shld be her own military...The group ddnt act well. Too, but bikonu killing women nd. Children is nt nd will never b right!...Now you wonder why USA will never sell arms to your army
U've just reasoned like a chimpanzee that has freedom of speech, if u like u can join them. How I wish u could see beyond ur nose to have mentioned America and arms denial to Nigeria!
Politics / Re: El-Zakzaky Will Be Prosecuted For His Crimes – El-Rufai by Matty33(m): 9:44pm On Dec 20, 2015
lolaxavier:

The Kaduna State Governor, Mallam Nasiru El-Rufai, yesterday disclosed that the leader of the Islamic Movement of Nigeria, Sheikh Ibraheem El-Zakzaky, would be prosecuted for crimes he may have committed.

This is coming on the heels of a clash between followers of El-Zakzaky and the military in Zaria.

A recent clash had occurred between the convoy of the Chief of Army Staff, Lt. General Tukur Yusuf Buratai, and followers of the Islamic Movement of Nigeria who were said to have condoned off the highway during their annual procession.

The barricade and subsequent raid on the residence of El-Zakzaky reportedly led to the death of some of the latter’s followers, including his son.

Following the incident, the military immediately issued a press statement alleging that members of the sect wanted to assassinate Buratai.

Few days after El-Zakzaky’s residence was raided by the army, Governor El-Rufai announced the setting up of a judicial commission of inquiry to look into the clash between the Shiite members and the military. But the movement has expressed lack of confidence in the judicial commission of enquiry proposed by the governor to probe the clash.

El-Rufai, while addressing journalists on Saturday in Kaduna after Northern Governors, under the aegis of Northern States Governors’ Forum, NSGF, rose from their meeting convened to look into the clash between the military and Shiite members in Zaria, said, “The leader of the movement is in custody, he will be prosecuted for any crimes that he may have committed. But that is the decision for the federal authorities. There are state and federal crimes.”

“There is a government and a constitution and we are resolved to follow the constitution and due process,” he stated.

http://dailypost.ng/2015/12/20/el-zakzaky-will-be-prosecuted-for-his-crimes-el-rufai/
This is good, their action was the height of insult to the Army in particular and the nation in general. It will also send strong signals to any other person or group of persons to think twice before joking with the Army. Well done your Excellency.
Politics / Re: Zaria Massacre: President Buhari’s Unsettling, Disquieting Silence by Matty33(m): 9:16pm On Dec 20, 2015
krispycash:

This is a democratic government and therefore such actions should never be met with brute force... The people have rights too... The Army should have found a way to resolve the matter no matter how long it takes... making an enemy out of the people is sad... These are the same people you claim to protect... As for the president being quiet, he's got nothing to say... Without the people there would be no army... It takes a country to have an army so when u don't have people to rule you won't have any army to protect the people... buhari seems to be stuck in his dictatorian ways and so does not feel the hurt of the people... This shouldn't be partisan this is not about APC OR PDP this is about human life... 300 people gunned down for protesting... and the president has kept quiet... wow... We r in trying times... Buhari got the votes of the people... now he has no respect for the same people who put him there... Nigerians never learn.
My bros, the force the Army used was proportional to the threat. If only u know how many soldiers the Army have lost to boko haram u will understand why they had to react that way. It was humiliating for that group to harass the Army chief and prevent him from using the road that belongs to the Fed Govt. I know the Shiites wouldn't try it again. For the President's silence, I don't have anything to say, I know he will make a pronouncement soon.

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Politics / Re: Zaria Massacre: President Buhari’s Unsettling, Disquieting Silence by Matty33(m): 6:19pm On Dec 20, 2015
chesterlee:
One week after the deadly carnage in Zaria, Kaduna State, involving the Nigerian Army and members of the Shi’ite Community, President Muhammadu Buhari remains silent. For a President whose preferred method of public communication has been widely described as “body language”, the message telegraphed by his silence is less than eloquent, unsettling and disquieting.
The exact sequence of events leading to the encounter between the Shi’ites and the Army will, hopefully, be unraveled by the judicial commission of inquiry to be established by the government of Kaduna State. Some things are already quite clear however.
Many people were killed in the encounter. Some have described it as a “massacre”. The victims included young children and women. The leader of the Shi’ites, Sheikh El-Zakzaky, has not been seen since then. The army initially said it took him into “protective custody”. At best, this is not a lawful procedure under Nigerian law. Subsequently, the army claimed it handed him over to civil authorities for prosecution for as yet undisclosed crimes. The army is not a prosecutorial authority for civilians. So on what basis are they deciding that he should be prosecuted?
Rather unfortunately, and quite oddly, in a presumed secular state, the Shiite movement, like many islamic and christian religious organisations, appears to have its own long-term history of breaking the law, and of impunity, that had not been called to order by previous administrations, especially by holding processions or taking over and blocking major roads with utmost disregard for other road users.
Yet the reaction of many, including Nigeria’s bilateral and multi-lateral partners has coalesced around the view that the conduct of the military in response was both brutal and disproportionate. From within Nigeria, many people and institutions, including the Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs (NSCIA), as well as the Christian Association of Nigeria have called for an independent investigation.
Even more, Hakeem Baba-Ahmed, a former Permanent Secretary for the Interior and Joint Intelligence in Nigeria’s federal government, himself from Zaria, has regretted the fact that the “military does not appreciate the fact that it handed over to the Shi’ites a victory it will exploit to the detriment of national security”.
Amidst this rising crescendo of condemnation and concern, and whilst considering the fact that President Buhari must be awaiting a report of what transpired leading to the massacre, his studied silence appears quite disturbing. He ordinarily ought not to foreclose the need for showing concern by talking to Nigerians about the ill-fated incident.
And, in line with democratic governance, it behoves the President to constantly engage with the public on matters of national interest. Yet, since the incident, the only response from the Presidency has come from a text message reportedly sent by an official spokesperson of the President, Femi Adesina, to a newspaper in which he described what happened as a “military affair”, whatever that means.
The president’s silence is disconcerting for many reasons. First, the Zaria Massacre is the latest in a long and gruesome list of military operations since 1961 that have ended in civilian bloodbath. It occurred in the same weekend that the President went to Kaduna State, first, for a music festival and, then, to accept an honorary doctorate degree from the Kaduna State University, a curiously dubious conferment from a university that does not itself run any doctorate programme. That the lethal sequence that followed is associated with the presence of the President in the state should surely be of concern to him.
Second, President Buhari is not just anybody. He is a two-time Commander-In-Chief, a retired army General and one of the most respected and decorated officers in the history of the Nigerian Army. As a General, what happened in Zaria must be of interest to him. As Commander-In-Chief, he has command responsibility for what the military did. This is not a mere military affair. It is his affair. By keeping quiet, he reinforces the impression that he explicitly instructed the military operation in Zaria or implicitly condoned its manner and outcomes. If this is not the case, then he should say so.
Third, there is disturbing evidence in his silence that far from learning from the mistakes of his predecessor, President Buhari appears willing to repeat the errors that turned Nigerians against the administration of President Goodluck Jonathan. It bears recalling that President Buhari rode to the Presidency on the crest of public revolt against the way his predecessor showed scant regard for the lives and sufferings of Nigerians in the hands of Boko Haram extremists. To this attitude, President Buhari promised change. He did not promise being mute. Rather than offer change on this occasion, he has chosen to go mute.
Fourth, President Buhari’s answer to allegations of Shi’ite lawlessness cannot be an outlaw army. His silence could encourage open-ended military operations against unarmed civilians. The state can contain citizen lawlessness, but state lawlessness invites anarchy.
Above all, as the only officer under our constitution elected – no less – by Nigerians from every state and the Federal Capital Territory, President Buhari swore to protect Nigeria’s constitution and the values that underpin it, including the obligation to run a humane government, respect human life and guarantee due process. When citizens are killed in encounters with the armed forces, the responsibility of government is engaged. The people who died are Nigerians. A humane government must show that it cares. By remaining silent, the President appears inhumane and encourages the impression that he neither cares about human life nor about his oath of office.
It is already late but there is still time for the President to correct the course of happenings. The President who promised change cannot keep quiet when soldiers under his command leave scores, perhaps indeed, hundreds of killed civilian citizens in their wake. He needs to speak to Nigerians and the world urgently and reassure everyone about his commitment to the values of constitutional government.
The whereabouts of the leader of the Shi’ite community, Ibrahim El-Zakzaky, must be disclosed. He should be released from custody forthwith or charged before a court for crimes known to the law. Contrary to their claim, the Nigerian constitution has no place for the military to hold a citizen in “protective custody.” Any persons, civilian or military, implicated in the incident in Zaria, should be held to account resolutely.
While PREMIUM TIMES acknowledges the right of, as indeed salutes, the Kaduna State government on its initiative to set up a judicial commission of inquiry into the incident which occurred within its state borders, as announced by Governor Nasir El-Rufai, still we need to be aware that the scale of the problem is national, and the army, as one of the parties involved, is a national institution.
Hence President Buhari, as Commander-In-Chief of the Armed Forces needs to get proactive in the national engagement with what transpired and in achieving justice for those unjustly violated and murdered. If he fails to do this urgently and resolutely, his promise of change could begin to ring hollow.

Source: www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/195446-editorial-zaria-massacre-president-buharis-unsettling-disquieting-silence.html
This is a democracy and you are entitled to your opinion. My submission is that what the Shiites did was insulting to our nation, it is one of the indicators of a failing state. If the Army had not done what they did, something more disastrous would have been done to them by another group say a day or two after. Nigs should know that the Army is the only institution that has prevented this nation from collapse and anyone or group of persons that think they can toy with the Army should think twice. The Chief of Army Staff can't be treated like this, totally unacceptable.
Politics / Re: Man Lies On The Ground For Akpabio At The Airport (Photos) by Matty33(m): 6:01pm On Dec 20, 2015
Adaure4ever:
Am sorry but this is stupidity.. why are some people worshipping diz politicians?
My bros leave Martha for Mathias, this man did so much for his state, just visit Uyo n see for urself. Lying on the floor could be a way of showing appreciation.
Politics / Re: Northern Royal Fathers Meet With Igbo Royal Fathers In Owerri by Matty33(m): 6:04pm On Dec 03, 2015
Abagworo:


http://imostategovernment..co.ke/2015/12/biafra-agitation-nctrn-meets-with.html?m=1
Divided we fall n united we stand, I so much believe in the unity of this country. Its time we critically take a look at what has been the bane of our problems in order to resolve them and forge ahead; no region should see herself as being more superior than others. There should be fairness in the allocation of appointments at the federal level and every geopolical region should be carried along in the scheme of affairs in the country. With these, agitations will stop and our great country will even surpass USA because we have what it takes to get there. Long live the FRN.
Family / Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Matty33(m): 8:58pm On Dec 02, 2015
doubleportion:


When your parent ask you 'what do you know about love?' You will never know that it is a million dollars question untill realitty down on you. Don't get me wrong I know what love is.
U've gotten ur opinion just like I've got mine.
Family / Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Matty33(m): 6:27pm On Dec 02, 2015
olowoba:
I need advise from the married folks here.
There is this lady that i have been dating for over 3 years. She's pretty, her character is almost flawless, neat, domesticated, hardworking, respects and loves me a lot. In short, she will most likely be a good wife. However, I like her but do not love her from the depth of my heart. I have tried hard to love her because shes is a good gal but it just isn't there. However, I am still considering her because she has the best character i have seen amongst all the women I have met. My greatest fear is if i will be able to endure a loveless but relatively peaceful marriage.

On the other hand, I am beginning to fall in love woth someone else that i hardly know. She appears friendly, maybe not as pretty as current girlfriend but her smile can melt my heart. I am very fond of her and I just tend to like eveything about her. I have only known her for a short time and I am almost ready to go ahead with marriage. She's nice but not as loving as my gf. My fear is - what if she turns out to be a lazy, nagging and hateful wife. Will i be able to endure a bad wife that I love so much?

So which is more important to a successful marriage? Love or character?
Which should be the foremost in choosing a wife? To marry a good and loving gal, or to marry a girl I love that may turn out to exhibit some very bad characters?

Only for the married folks please....they have the experience.
My bros I'll advice u to go for love; when love is in place every other short coming is overlooked. Love in marriage is the in-thing, u'll keep smiling every other day n live longer. Don't be deceived please.
Family / Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Matty33(m): 6:27pm On Dec 02, 2015
olowoba:
I need advise from the married folks here.
There is this lady that i have been dating for over 3 years. She's pretty, her character is almost flawless, neat, domesticated, hardworking, respects and loves me a lot. In short, she will most likely be a good wife. However, I like her but do not love her from the depth of my heart. I have tried hard to love her because shes is a good gal but it just isn't there. However, I am still considering her because she has the best character i have seen amongst all the women I have met. My greatest fear is if i will be able to endure a loveless but relatively peaceful marriage.

On the other hand, I am beginning to fall in love woth someone else that i hardly know. She appears friendly, maybe not as pretty as current girlfriend but her smile can melt my heart. I am very fond of her and I just tend to like eveything about her. I have only known her for a short time and I am almost ready to go ahead with marriage. She's nice but not as loving as my gf. My fear is - what if she turns out to be a lazy, nagging and hateful wife. Will i be able to endure a bad wife that I love so much?

So which is more important to a successful marriage? Love or character?
Which should be the foremost in choosing a wife? To marry a good and loving gal, or to marry a girl I love that may turn out to exhibit some very bad characters?

Only for the married folks please....they have the experience.
My bros I'll u to go for love; when love is in place every other short coming is overlooked. Love in marriage is the in-thing, u'll keep smiling every other day n live longer. Don't be deceived please.
Politics / Re: Ben Murray-Bruce: Nigeria Should Share Work Money Not Oil Money by Matty33(m): 3:40pm On Dec 01, 2015
Bugatie:


So your point is....?
Don't mind him, na illiteracy cause am.
Politics / Re: Sule Lamido: APC Now Evil Like PDP Was Accused Of In The Past by Matty33(m): 3:18pm On Nov 30, 2015
ibe9ja:
Both PDP and APC are useless. They should be wiped away from the surface of the earth so that we can have a better Nigeria.
Remember that it is people that form these parties. All we need is attitudinal change and value re-orientation. Let us all be comited to the Nigerian project!
Politics / Re: Sule Lamido: APC Now Evil Like PDP Was Accused Of In The Past by Matty33(m): 3:14pm On Nov 30, 2015
Lattop:
You said well but if I may ask...

How much are u paid
Payment for doing what?
Phones / Re: British Man Creates His Facebook Profile Pic With Nigerian Flag: What He Wrote by Matty33(m): 2:48pm On Nov 24, 2015
Towncrier247:
"For Nigeria who just had another terrorist attack. Facebook won't create one, so I did this myself." Richard Thrift writes on his Facebook page. "Just making a point. Every western cause is given special treatment by Facebook and then a terrorist attack in Africa does not get its attention." he added.

www.newseveryhour.com/2015/11/british-man-creates-his-fb-profile-pic.html
Touching. Oh Nigeria my beloved country, where art thou.
Politics / Re: Goodluck Jonathan Sizes Himself With Some Nigerian-americans (photo) by Matty33(m): 4:06pm On Nov 15, 2015
9niceguy:

In fact, I use to love him until the day my appointment(job) was terminated simply because he blocked the road more than an hour.
Hahahahahahahahahahaha, is that all he did? Sorry ehnn, if u've not gotten another one already and you are still searching, in the name of the God I serve u'll secure one between now and Jan 16. All u owe me is to believe and hand over everything to God. Have clean hands and cheat no one within this period and u'll see what happens. Happy Sunday once again.
Politics / Re: Goodluck Jonathan Sizes Himself With Some Nigerian-americans (photo) by Matty33(m): 9:27am On Nov 15, 2015
9niceguy:
I wish I could lay my hand on that short man.....d tin wey he Do me wen he dey power. Dia is God sha
Bros wetin him do na? A beg forgive am for my sake, him no get problem. Na dey people wey work with am make am look like say him bad, a beg ehhnnn. Happy Sunday.
Properties / Re: Is It Possible To Build A 3 Bedroom Flat With N2million? by Matty33(m): 6:32pm On Nov 13, 2015
yinkaoke:
PLS HELP

I discussed this with my oga who intends to build his house in 6 months and he siad he will build with just N2m without the cost of the land but that the rooms will not be of a standard one and the 3 rooms too. i.e portable flats.

Please is it possible and can anyone give us the break down of how this is possible. his land is at Agbara

many thnaks
This can only be possible in the village where sand n wood are cheap.

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Family / Re: Wife Bathes Husband With Hot Water For Sleeping With Her Mother (Graphic Pics) by Matty33(m): 8:27pm On Oct 29, 2015
madridguy:
THIS IS TOO SEVERE.
Severe how? The man is a disgrace to manhood, he is foolish n stupid. He even deserve something worst than this.
Romance / Re: Man Hospitalised After Sex With Friend’s Wife In Ebonyi by Matty33(m): 6:01am On Oct 20, 2015
TOMTOM15:
Touching Story. About three phones have gone missing in our room in the past five months. When we reported to the School's security, they only told us that it was a roommate that is responsible. Everyone of us in the room was waiting for the day we will catch the culprit.
Last Tuesday, when we were all asleep; I think it was about 2 am, Ben woke up suddenly and his phone was gone. His phone was the most expensive of us all. When Ben woke up and couldn't find his phone, he sprang up from the bed and quickly opened his cupboard. He rummaged the contents, even removed his clothes but could still not find the phone.
I was in the room when it happened; sitting and reading before I dozed off with my heading resting on my books. So when Ben couldn't find his phone, he gently shook my shoulders until I woke up. 'It has happened again', he told me.
I didn't even need to ask what happened as I could see the panic and loss written in his eyes.
This is the second time his phone had been stolen. So I took my phone and dialed Ben's number; just to be sure it had not been misplaced. 'Error in Connection' was what I saw on the screen of my phone. I dialed it again and it started ringing not just on my phone, but the actual ring tone of Ben's Samsung phone was faintly audible.
We were both surprised when we heard the tone. I beckoned on Ben to keep quiet as he was visibly ready to 'finish' the person who took his phone. I continued dialing as we moved silently, following the direction of the ring tone. There were four bunks in the room, each with two bed spaces. Ben and I use the same bunk just beside the door and the sound was coming from the last bunk at the extreme left corner.
We tiptoed, Ben and I, like Jack Baeur until we traced the sound to the top bed space on the last bunk. 'So it is John who had been stealing phones in this room'. Ben whispered to me.
We shook his leg and woke him up only to find out it was not John sleeping on the mattress. Neither of us had ever seen the guy before. To make matters worse, the ringing was coming
from the bag he was using as pillow.
When he woke up, he looked at us strangely as if he didn't know why we were there.
We opened the bag and found not just Ben's
Samsung, but three other phones. 'So, you are the one who's been stealing our phones!'; Ben shouted at him.
Before he could find an excuse, Ben slapped him on his left cheek and walked out looking for anything to break one or two of the guy's bones. I don't know; but there was something about the guy. So I asked him, 'Oga, what are you doing here?' 'What are you doing with Ben's phone'. He was just looking at me without saying anything, so I slapped his right cheek with my left hand.
'ANSWER ME!', I screamed at him; waking up the roommates who were around. John had obviously gone to night class to read and I assumed the other three roommates who were absent had also gone to read.
The two guys remaining in the room with me and Ben came and gave their own round of slaps. The accused was now staggering when Ben came back with a long wood hard enough to kill the guy. As he raised it up, the three of us, the roommates, held his hands so he wouldn't murder the accused. Ben dropped the wood and swept his right leg against the thief's legs and he fell down. Ben had told me before that he had attended the Soldiers' recruitment training but failed the medical test. I believed him right then.
I looked at the guy crumple on the floor and before Ben killed him, I decided to interview him, at least to know who he is. He was now sitting on the ground where he landed from Ben's force. 'Who are you?' I asked him again; this time gently. He was crying but it was only the tears that were coming out. It was then I realized he had not even uttered a word since it all started. Not even when he fell to the ground. 'Why are you in our room'? I asked again. 'Can you even talk?' He shook his head then. I was now confused. Why was he shaking his head?
So, I asked again, 'Can't you talk?' He shook his head again. 'Wait, is it that this guy is dumb?', I asked the guys.
The guy then nodded his head and pointed to his mouth and then shook his head left to right. It hit me then. The guy is dumb but not deaf. That was the first time I am seeing a case like that.
My anger changed to pity immediately. 'Are you dumb?', I ashamedly asked the guy to confirm. Again, he nodded his head.
'Can you read and write?' He nodded again. 'Get me a pen and note!' I said to my roommates over my shoulder. I collected the pen and wrote on the note, 'Who are you? Explain yourself.' I was almost in tears as I read his fine handwriting, 'My name is James, I am John's elder brother. I am a student of Delta State University. I was traveling to Delta but our bus stopped for the night at Benin. So I decided to sleep with my brother till tomorrow morning. He brought me here around 12 am and went out to night class to read. He gave me the bag to keep for him. So I decided to use it as pillow so that it won't be stolen'.
I held the note with the guys at my back as all of us read it. I became so weak I almost fell.� 'The guy is innocent.' I needlessly announced.
When we realized this, even I was ashamed of myself.
Ben just stood there with the wood he almost used to hit him, looking as if he was the one who had been beaten. I am not sure, but I think I saw tears in his eyes as he realized he had just punished an innocent man.
So we knelt down; Ben and I, we knelt down and clasped our hands so he will know we were really sorry. With tears in our eyes, we told him, 'We are sorry. Sorry for accusing you wrongly and beating you for it'. The dumb guy just smiled with bleeding lips from the blow I gave him. He smiled and looked into our eyes. And I could see pity in his eyes. He smiled and shook his head and then wrote in the same paper. 'It is Alright. I took the pain willingly. Please don't beat my brother anymore. I knew why you were beating me. John had always been a thief, right from home. But please don't report or beat him again'.
Tears dropped from my eyes as I read his sacrifice. He deliberately allowed us beat him just so that John will be free. I lend my hand and raised him up as I used my cloth to wipe the tears from his face and blood from his lips. It was then my own tears flowed from the corners of my eyes.
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this is what Jesus did for us on the cross of calvary. kept quiet and even died so that we can be saved. He never protested his innocence but bore it all for us. He gave his life for you. What have you given for him?
Return the life to Him, He's in Love with u.....
Send to others by sharing....
it's high time we won more souls for Christ..
Hmmm, short of words for this heart touching story. I didn't know when tears started flowing out of my eyes, I thank you Lord for being there for me, help me to love you more and more, IJN Amen.
Family / Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Matty33(m): 5:32am On Oct 20, 2015
Hi55:
Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story...


I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while.

The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room.

He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics.

I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me.

Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul.
My dear hurting soul, I'm sure your husband didnt spend much to have you as his wife; you may have been the one that lured him into the marriage. On your wedding day (if u are wedded), can you remember the looks on his face? How happy was he? This happened to me too, where a lady used pregnancy to tie me down, but because there was no love, she felt the pain as I never cared or bothered myself even if she is in pains. Things never worked well, she had to quit, I then wedded my love who gives me happiness. If a man is in love, he can 'enter into fire' if that is what is required, just to please his wife. I know a lot of couples are in this situation, a woman can't force a man into marriage and expect things to work well. Life is all about being happy, I'll advice you to sit him down and discuss ur problem and if that doesn't solve the situation you better quit. Else you'll have medical complications that could end your life. Sorry my dear for being made to pass through such psychological pains!
Family / Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Matty33(m): 5:10am On Oct 20, 2015
Artistree:
This story is a replica of a couple I know...Well, their marriage is 4 years old, she is 28 and the guy is 36, they have two kids and are materially ok too. She is neat, independent, pretty, educated and all, but the husband wouldn't touch her for any reason.
I wonder if it's the same couple but the guy I know in real life doesn't have friends on his street that he hangs out with and yes, he never touches his wife until he wants them to have a baby. He says he tries to love his wife but simply can't, even though she is the best thing to have happened to him. They don't quarrel and she is very obedient but they live as siblings and the wife tells him dat quite often.
At some point I was thinking it's because she made the move on him and all that, but seriously the lady doesn't deserve the kind of treatment her husband gives her.
I know both of them personally before they got married but the guy is more of my friend than the lady...wat a coincidence of story!
What this simply means is that the lady forced herself on him. It wouldn't have been like this if it were the other way round.
Family / Re: My Husband Denies Me Sex And Affection...its Killing Me by Matty33(m): 5:06am On Oct 20, 2015
KanwuliaJara:
Hmmmmm

Onoda wan don come o! grin
All these women wey dey look for love and affection from Naija men na waya o!

Una nefa learn to marry to get MARRIAGE SAFITIKATE and BORN ONLY? undecided

Una mamas nor teasssssh una to loff una sefs? undecided

You are "blessed" with 2 kids and you are on NL to cry for blokos? undecided

Liar!!!!!
Ask any woman TRULY BLESSED WITH JUST ONE KID! Her attention done SHIFT tey tey to her darling pikin! E come be TWO KIDS? shocked
Where da PHOCK do YOU find the time? cheesy
SHAMELESS, JOBLESS WOMAN!


Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!!


Song of the day! cool



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0te6iD1jCjM
Haba, this words from you are not fair to this agonising woman.
Sports / Re: Oliseh And Enyeama Have Embarrassed Nigeria! - Chukwu by Matty33(m): 4:16pm On Oct 08, 2015
blueto:


http://www.completesportsnigeria.com/chukwu-oliseh-and-enyeama-have-embarrassed-nigeria/
God gave us a lot of resources in Southern Nigeria but abused us with confusion. That is why we are always confused and don't know how to rally around ourselves in times of trouble. We hate ourselves so much n always jealous of each other. A northerner couldn't have done this his fellow northerner what Oliseh did to Enyeama, time will tell sha. May God help us
Phones / Re: Dont Fall Victim, Pics by Matty33(m): 8:34pm On Sep 16, 2015
PapaNnamdi:
It is high time we did something about china products, just yesterday i bought a solar powered power bank, for a huge amount of money because i thought it would save me the stress of carrying phone charger about, so i bought it.

when i got home i discovered something the power bank seems to be photosensitive, as its charging led flashes when under the sun,
but this is just a hoax, it doesnt charge, i left it in the sun for close to 2days now, and it doesnt have any charged voltages for my phone, it just flashes its led when in the sun so the buyer assumes its realy working but its not.
i dont know how they did it, but they did it, its a fake solar power bank,
here is what it looks like, does this happen anywhere else or only in Nigeria?
Bros I'm facing same Problem. However if u charge it with NEPA, it charges phones faster than generator or NEPA.
Pets / Re: Touching Moment A Cat Drags An Injured Cat Off The Road (PHOTOS) by Matty33(m): 8:46pm On Sep 14, 2015
Lautechgossip:
This touching scene was captured live. Animal does have feelings!



Pictured above was a touching moment a cat carried the body a another cat who was knocked down by a car.

If only some human can show love and affections, the loving cat carried the dead cat to the side walk and kept vigil over it.

r231 lalastica

http://www.gistplanet.net/2015/09/touching-moment-of-cat-dragging-corpse-of-injured-cat-off-the-road-photos.html
Touching indeed! If only we could learn from this, the world would have been a better place. May God help us.
Culture / Re: How Adamawa Governor Sat In Atiku's House (Photo) by Matty33(m): 8:57am On Aug 29, 2015
Taylor86:
I don't see anything wrong with this, Atiku is his godfather, so be it.

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Politics / Re: Flexing On Point: Gej On Blazer And Addidas Canvas by Matty33(m): 3:42pm On Aug 18, 2015
EdCure:
There goes the thief-in-chief!
The most confused and reckless occupant of Aso Rock!
The grand patron of all looters, wailers, and hunted witches.
The clueless propounder of the infamous Goat & Yam Theory.
You may not be correct even though you are entitled to your opinion.
Politics / Re: Flexing On Point: Gej On Blazer And Addidas Canvas by Matty33(m): 3:39pm On Aug 18, 2015
Oyind17:
this man sabi smile
To smile is a good thing to do! It elongates ones life, try it and see the difference in your health.
Romance / Re: My Husband Passed Me Around Like A Sex-Toy! A Lady Narrates... by Matty33(m): 3:22pm On Aug 18, 2015
BaddieKay:


http://gist.mp3bullet.com/2015/08/17/my-husband-passed-me-around-like-a-s3x-toy-lady-narrates-how-she-was-used-by-her-husband-his-twin/
Na same size of prick dem get, haba madam how can u claim not to know the difference between them. A beg leave Martha for Mathias jor.
Politics / Re: Abdusalami Peace Committee In A Meeting With Buhari by Matty33(m): 4:52pm On Aug 11, 2015
tuniski:
it should be avenue to call for total probe from 1960 anything short of that is going to fail flat. Let all who have corrupted the System be probed whether there will be Buhari come 2019!
Good talk!
Politics / Re: Abdusalami Peace Committee In A Meeting With Buhari by Matty33(m): 4:47pm On Aug 11, 2015
shaddoww:




http://www.punchng.com/news/abdusalami-peace-committee-in-closed-door-meeting-with-buhari/
They should pls leave this Peace Maker alone; he would ve plunged Nigeria into darkness if he wanted to. He should be respected for the mere fact that he honourably relinguished power to the incumbent president. I doubt if he would ve passed through this ugly treatment if he were from a majority ethnic group. Let's call a spade a spade, enough of all these.

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