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If I get 1million I fit see small change

The main problem is government's indolence in all this.

IPOB or not, a crime is a crime, what efforts is the government making to tackle insecurity in Nigeria as a whole?

But by attributing all crimes to IPOB and handing off, government and of the people have giving up on fighting crime.

Going forward, individuals may claim membership of IPOB and openly commit Perry crimes and get away with it because obviously, IPOB -linked crimes can not be investigated with the view to arresting individual perpetrators and serving them justice.

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

No guy will say no to "Sex but no marriage"

My experience when I ran for councillor in 2020 opened my eyes to a lot.

You have to do your consultations and get promises from people, but truth is that you never know who is truly with you until the deed is done.

People hardly tell aspirants to their face that they won't vote you, the will urge you on, make references to how good your father was to them and how this is their opportunity to pay him back with their support for you, only to become the chief campaigner for your opponents, albeit secretly.

Some of them will promise you 50 votes from their households even with the knowledge that there is only 2 valid voters card in their control and may not show up on the election day.

Nigeria needs peace and stability, we need someone who can steer us into the path of development and not this continuous deceleration while others are moving forward.

Nigeria #chooseright

Barrister026:
Hello all,

This is difficult situation for me, my mom's house has been left uncompleted since 2014 just the foundation and probably 2couch were placed ontop since then it's been there because she had to send my siblings and I to higher institution. Now am of age, doing quite well for myself. I think am finally ready to build a house, was thinking about getting a land 100 by 50 and raise 5 bedroom flats... but on the other hand that my mom's building had been left uncompleted since it's a family land, relatives are starting to say somethings and sometimes I could see the shame on my mom's face when she goes to her family compound. Almost every months they always call her to come clear it that it has become harbor for snakes and pests. So I thought why don't I just complete it for her first.


The issue here Is immediately I told my fiancee she said it's a good idea but kicked against it. That I should build mine first, before completing my mom's. That it can wait.

I also confided in a friend of mine, he said almost same thing, that my thing is different from our own. Saying am not the only one my mom gave birth to, if I complete it now I should be ready to share it with my siblings no matter what when the time comes.

I'm confused and need advice on the step to take. I would really want to complete that house for my mom I Know it would mean a lot to her..I'm really confused.

One way or the other somebody has to develop it, if I the first son don't do it now that am financially stable. Then my younger bro will do it, trust me it won't make sense that way that's just my fear.

Seun
Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Ishilove

Just like you've sought other opinion and still stayed in dilemma, what difference will our opinion make?

Anyways, I say you do your Mama's first.

You know why? If you do yours first, this fiancée that's saying you put it off for now would have become wife and ask if it was necessary, if Mama is homeless, if her kids would not feed because you want to build Mama's house.

Since you already know how elated mama would be, do it for her, you just might be elongating her life

JONSYN7154:
Bros, e never reach to insult me na.

We be friends o.

No be insult na, I'm saying you shouldn't go there

JONSYN7154:
Did I hear you say Igbo people are still building House? I thought they say Nigeria is a zoo country why are they still building houses in zoo?

Don't be silly!

Why all the insults on Tonto? Where in the report was it said that she has a hand in it?

Na wa o

jackals:
I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.
Awa
Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

You're not ok!

You're interested in someone that has shown interest in you and you are still playing kid at your age. I thought they said wisdom comes with age?

I hope her never gets to call you again and moves on to someone more serious and hopefully, you grow some sense before a new person comes around.

Kingnelson9:
Muslims and Christians can't be one
No matter how you try to paint it.
The best and only option is to divide Nigeria so that people can live anywhere without fear.

When you divide Nigeria on this count, what happens to the Christian north? Deborah I believe was a northerner, only Christian. They are likely to suffer even a greater persecution.

Imlo, NYSC is too short a time to be jumping from one place to the other in the name of 'career progression' unless of course there are possibilities of retention after service.

Just like you didn't see much in your current PPA until you got in, you just may leap off the second you get grounded and find something not so desirable.

Goodluck

Prolly, the girl must have given him headache over getting an iPhone, niggi decided to let her have it while he keeps his peace

tnerro1:
This style should be discouraged by political parties so as to separate the serious ones from the time wasters

Not when it brings them more money.

NOETHNICITY:
Forgive me if this topic is on the wrong section

I will go straight to the point.

It's 3yrs running now and I have never been able to keep tab of any money that gets into my wallet. Even though I sometimes wonder how quickly I exhaust my money, I am never able to track or keep any form of record. It's so bad now to the extent that if 10k last more than 1day without it being exhausted I feel a certain inner joy and satisfaction for being able to manage.
This is notwithstanding the fact that I also regularly make use of POS whenever I buy anything from anywhere POS is available as a means of transaction. Things like fuel and shopping for groceries in big malls like shoprite it's usually most certainly POS I use.

I'm beginning to wonder if it's a curse or some foolish habit that requires redemption or reorientation.

The fearful thing is I don't know whether or not someone pilfers from me as I don't trust anyone aside my kids which are still young. So what I do sometimes (not regularly, only when I remember) whenever I want to go take my bath I make effort to conceal my wallet.

Am I the onlyone who is like this??

Please and please no bashing, only sincere contribution

Naija no balance. I remember withdrawing 10k daily for a week and I kept wondering if I hid the money somewhere. But breaking down the list of expenses, I realize 1k doesn't sound as much these days.

It is only when you're completely broke like I am right now that 2k can last 2 weeks because you'd become more thrifty in spending.

denobaba:
Argh! Pele ti e. Ba mi na omo mi, ko de inu olomo. Get a Yoruba person to translate for you.

When I get the time

Puskas:
Any attempt from you to discipline the child will not always go down well with her. She will be seeing it as a hatred for the child because the child is not yours

It is left to be seen how you 'discipline' the child. Do you do it with love? Do you discipline your own kids if you have any in equal measures?

BRATISLAVA:
It has nothing to do with being a simp.

Nobody will value you over their child. Expecting them to do so is a sign of immaturity and unreadiness for a relationship.
[b]
How on Earth can anyone equate the attention given to a child to romantic attention? [/b]That's immaturity. And such a person should stay far from relationships.

I wonder

Well, the reason she broke up is very important. Whereas it is difficult to get the true story from both sides, understanding her personality will give you clues. However, we are all humans, having a baby doesn't make them any different or more promiscuous than those who don't.

If she made a mistake and have learnt from it, you just might land yourself a very good bargain.

siofra:
Why do they pretend like they don't like false lashes on ladies?

Ever since I fixed it on Saturday, I've not been able to rest.

I get at least 10 toasters a day.

But online all of them pretend to hate it. Why

I'm sincerely not attracted to artificial lashes and if we are close enough, I mince no word in telling you as much.

lightnlife:
You wish.

Not my first nor second.

Assumption is the lowest form of knowledge.



Honestly, Nigeria has a lot of natural and human edge ahead of most of the developed countries.

The unfortunate reality of systemic failure, infrastructural deficit, insecurity, economic and social frailty are what is responsible for the mass migration. Not for these reasons, many Nigerians would rather stay back home. There's nothing cheering here.

just now now you done turn motivational speaker. Indeed, there's nothing there and Una go go and Una no go gree return

GreatAxeMan:
It won't be easy but it can be done.

I no go need get mechanic friend before I buy this one?

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Are you scared she is growing ahead of you?
It is her dream, don't try to stop her

More reasons we don't need you sir

GreatAxeMan:
Bros, no hard feelings, but you have just made a huge f*CK up. Ford and other American brands are worth less than sh*t.
A decent Toyota Hiace Van of the same year would have cost about 100,000 less and will last longer and cost less to maintain.

you mean u can get this very bus for 1.3?

frozen70:
If both of them raised the money for building and he decided to buy the car

If am the woman, I will collect the car and use it for my children

Then go behind him buy a land and start building secretly

This is one of the reasons women builds house without their husband's consent

He just want to show of with the car, whereas accommodation in is what the family need not car

may or may not be right. A car can be a gateway to more income that would expedite the building

EasternVoice:
U tell Ndi-Igbo to boycott election and not vote, how then will our voices be heard?

Even the so-called REFERENDUM they are talking about, they don't even know the processes for that. It simply means.. (A VOTE on a proposed law or constitutional ammendment).
Without ur PVCs, how would that happen?

U tell people to sit at home, meanwhile we have Ndi-Igbo in the markets (fathers, mothers), business people who if they don't sell daily, they can't feed their families. How will they survive?

Business men & women who come from all over Nigeria to Patronize Ariaria Int'l Market Aba, Onitcha Main market, etc, now stop for their transactions in Asaba. Chai!

The rich men IPOB/ESN are enviously targeting are still our self-made Igbo brothers who toiled very hard for their money. Now they are successful & employers of labour. But u kidnap & chase them away, who then will employ us?

...You sideline and destroy properties of our Igbo Politicians, Senators, Governors,etc, who then will speak for us in Abuja?

.... You attack the police securing the community, who then will protect us against your kidnappings, robbery, murder, crime?
Odinma biko nu

....Ralph Uwazuruike after pioneering MASSOB in the early 2000s, dashing the hopes for Igbo presidency, messing up the census exercise for Ndi-Igbo now openly supports an outsider Yahaya Bellow for President...Chai! How then do we get to the Federal?

...Nnamdi Kanu, whatever Ekpa & his autopiloters are spoilers who are sponsored by enemies of Ndi-igbo who want us to kill ourselves, if we allow this to happen how then do we thrive as a people?
Chineke ekwela!!!

Seriously, I don't know who gave them the wisdom to be that foolish

simplepee:
Fake story. No man will do that.

I would buy a car for my mum if I so desire. She only lacked patience and understanding, otherwise, why not keep calm and observe what he might have in stock for you?

otipoju:
Okay . If the person is working, they are not expensive and im not sure but i think the cost of shipping to him will not be worth the cost and stress. But you may try.

Except una wan package as another thing join oo.

Ive not seen anyone bring foodstuff from Nigeria in a very long time.

ok, maybe I will compare the options available and know what's up

MarketDispatch:
That's why we are here...what are you sending?

Garri especially, plenty of pepper, ogbono, kanda, plenty of crayfish and spices

otipoju:
In this age and time. Everything you want to send can be found in many African grocery stores over there.

Well, the recipient being able to afford them over there yet is the issue sir

Please if you know how I can send foodstuffs to the UK at the most cost friendly rate, please avail me with the information.

I will deeply appreciate, thanks

adecz:
✨ Something light for breakfast ... ✌️✌️✌️

This one fit hold body so?