₦airaland Forum

Darkseid:
When you hear the word CHANGE, start running to the opposite direction without looking at your back.

I tell ya..

CsRockefeller:
Wow!! Did I just read this? Can't believe any lady can reason this smart, you just highlighted 70% of what my advice to my younger self will be.

From your post you strike me as a deep thinker, a philosopher and an ambitious person. Kudos.

I am all of that and more. . My brain makes me more complicated than complication itself.

LivingFree:
It's really sad an illiterate literate can get a job just because her mum has the connection while someone who is more suited for the job misses out. I don't care about your story, who tell you to listen to your sister? Who told you to sell out your happiness for the Mrs title? He probably knows what you did and the fact that this relationship is a sham so why should he waste his energy? People need to fight for their love and happiness so we can stop hearing these lame stories

I dey vex oo

Sis, calm down, make she finish the story.

Adulthood is a trap. Don't be in a hurry to grow. Relax and enjoy your youth because a time will come you will wish those days back.

Don't ever procrastinate. And don't over think every action. Take a step immediately an idea comes. Better to try and fail.

Visions without actions remain mere dreams, so move and believe in your ability and God will reward your effort.

I've seen my fair share of timid men but this one tops the lead. Even if you had my blackest secret in your hands, that would be a boundary you should not cross. Yeye brother.

I sincerely refuse to type wetin dey my mind now..

pocohantas:
Sadly, what she said is the truth, though I can't confirm the percentage. She didn't say they are not happy, she said they don't love their husbands. I won't even argue if she says lots of Nigerian wives are not happy

Some women marry the most capable man that can be a good father at least (being a good husband is another story, being both doesn't come easy). Men just hook up with the one that's willing to submit and care for the home.

In the long run, the woman finds happiness in her kids.
The man finds it in every other external factor.

True

Salut to them. Very lovely kids

But I can't imagine myself posing this way with a big tummy.

I don't want to have that kind of guts.

*Me dancing **

Police don buy market because of transmission of brain fluid.

In his profession, the muscles are just too much.

I no dey even send muscular guys sef.

That is discrimination.

Seriously,

Makes me remember Sister Eunice. Couldn't sing to save her life. She stayed over at our place one weekend and prematurely ended the morning devotion with her bad singing. Laughter no gree us pray again.

A small Redeemed branch close to my home keeps me shaking my head in wonder. It's like a gathering of the worst singers in the world. Looks like everyone competes to prove how terrible their voices are. . All of them sing different keys at different pitches with different lyrics. Sounds like a group of drunken seamen.
God forgive me biko.

eodavids:
MY VIEW IS:

THE CURRENT APC-LED FEDERAL GOVERNMENT HAD EXPECTED A MASS ACTION FROM NIGERIAN YOUTHS SUCH AS PROTESTS AND THE LIKES THAT CAN CONVEY THEIR GRIEVANCES TO THE POWERS THAT BE.

ON THE CONTRARY, THE YOUTHS AREN'T ABLE TO DO NOTHING. IF PEOPLE LIKE OUR MUSICAL ICON, TUFACE IDIBIA IS ANYTHING TO MENTION HERE AS A NIGERIAN YOUTH: THEN;

NIGERIAN YOUTHS ARE NOT ONLY LAZY BUT DOCILE, INCOURAGIOUS AND SELL OUTS TOO.

[PEOPLE LIKE SEYI LAW, CHALIE BOY 'OPUTA' AND OTHER FEW LION-HEARTED NIGERIAN YOUTHS ARE THE EXCEPTION ANYWAY ]

Is Charlie Boy a Youth?

Originally, my question was about nothing other than the name but many of you here gave me food for thought so let me look now.

Who's paying his visa fees? I will be because in the last few years we have paid to:

Bury his grandma
Bury his uncle
Bury his sister
Put his niece through college
Bury his father (3 months ago)
Bury his stepmothers mother (1 month ago)
and he sends most of his salary back home after our bills are paid.

Does he travel to Nigeria often?

No, in 8 years he's gone twice. Never to a funeral.

His website is active. I can fill a cart with high cost items and pay for them BUT he says the business isn't up and running?

He came to the UK from The Gambia where he had been living til he came here with his first wife.

Children - he has 2 girls with someone else, not a wife, not a Nigerian or British woman. This lady and her children disappeared before I met him. The police were looking for her when he was having immigration problems but that seems to have stopped. One of his female friends once asked him how that lady was enjoying living in Nigeria - he denied that she was there and insisted that she just took the two very young children and returned to her own country.

His phone - both are always in his pocket. Both are always on silent. He takes many calls in the bathroom. I discovered a third phone and asked him about it. He didn't deny having it and even tried to make me think I'd forgotten he had it by saying my younger daughters always call him on that number - they don't, I checked. Asked him to show me his phones a few days ago and he refused (assured me there was nothing fishy going on)

Now, we have always talked about any such issues. We don't fight over them. And he usually has a plausible explanation no matter what the issue and mostly it's a' cultural or traditional' explanation which I can't dispute because as many here have proved to me, if you ask his fellow countrymen anything, they mostly take up the defensive for him and accuse the wife of being bad.

Why did I wait 8 years to start questioning him?

Only recently has he seemed to be not who I thought he was.

Lady, you are being scammed by a specialist. You are helping him by funding his other life in Nigeria. Guy is a patient dog who wants to use you for papers.

The above is evidence enough.

It is a common thing in Nigeria for some family members to have different surnames. In my family, three of us have different surnames, same with hubby. It depends on which ancestor one prefers and sometimes it's only about how right sounding the name is.

The red flag here is him opening a business without informing you. Dig a little deeper (surreptitiously) to be sure he's not using you.

As for the burial announcement of his father, I guess he is using the general family name just to identify. Sometimes, it's just because of the fear of 'village people'.

Why are some folks wired to commit crime? Unfortunately for them , na SARS catch them. With ordinary police dem for get free with cash.

Their shyt... e. When they were doing lovey lovey and promising heaven on earth, was I there?

Grown ups now using social media to air their stupidity.

I can never marry a man like my father. Lai Lai. .

If I were a man, I wouldn't marry a woman like my mother because she is just too good.

She looks good, her middle is not bulging and she's got complimentary bweast. Also, her legs are just right for the size of her thighs.

Rubbish!

It is reasoning like this that makes our young women think that their highest achievement in life is getting married and having babies.

I've risen to the post of General Manager twice in companies I've worked with all under one year of being there.

While pregnant, I worked harder than most and any day I was out for antenatal, the company was in chaos. A woman was created to multi-task, it's just that some husbands want their wive's attention zeroed in on the family. They just don't like the inattention and competition.

Few are out there with supportive men and are making it.

Stupid is as stupid does.

Would she wear cut offs in an office to do presentations? The academic world is even stricter when it comes to dress code during presentations.

Some rebellions only show how shallow minded and idiotic some folks are.

Biko, how did she get to be a consultant?

I won't follow the link, like complete the story here.

PASTOR!!! retire once again to the Lord's vineyard.

They are both strong women to endure this.

She should consider the Micheal Jackson way, bleach and blend. Luckily there are safer alternatives nowadays.

Deliver our children from evil.....

iamJ:
look at the man and look at the girl


if they have beautiful children, i can bet with my ticket to heaven that the children were adopted

Exactly my thoughts!

Eagba:
note your completion will improve, your skin will smooth out, but your blood will thin, avoid unnecessary injury.

OK. Thanks. Already started.

Eagba:
no particular time but in the morning its actually the best time and blending it, its best. At times you've to sieve the the blended ginger of chaff, for too much chaff can block the digestive system. In terms of quantity just average 2 root a day

Thank you. I'm gonna start right away.

achillesfoot:
Foods can actually help you get fresher skin depending on what you eat. I think you have to correct your mind( That is where the real problem is) Lastly on the skin try Aloe Vera. Aloe and skin are like 5 and 6.

Will do, thanks.

Eagba:
let me share my secret recipe; ginger and water astonishing volume of them. Its hard for me to share this

Is this for real? Definitely gonna try that. Any specific time or I just take it like regular water? Ginger grated or infused? Daily limit?

Biko answer, thanks.

No food can make me look younger. I've always looked way older than my age.