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Our Gardener was a bit lucky. He escaped with a fractured leg.

johnie:
Sadly, I witnessed this accident too.

I saw the SUV zoom off as the victims lay on the floor.

Was not able to bring myself to comment on it before now.

Sorry if I am bringing back the memories but I just had to let that out to get some sort of closure.

Not in all circumstances.

Our personal experience was different. You just have to be convincing and ensure all bills were paid at the time of childbirth.

Babatwi:
Gbam! No more,no less. You have all heard it from the horses mouth. Finito,shikena,lobatan. All you ' i was not pregnant when i applied for the visa' or ' i dint know i was pregnant when i applied for the visa' una don hear ?

Please Fortune Teller, do not engage in adultery. The consequences are too grave. I am sure you and hubby can work things out. Some men are scared to have sex when their wives are pregnant. Its just a psycological thing.

FortuneTeller:
I don't like intimacy gadgets. I like real flesh. I need a human being. He always says "Catholics don't do that". Firstly, I'm not a Catholic and I told him things I liked before we married. I hate to engage in adultery but the way things are going, I just don't know any more. He's a great person as I said before. I couldn't ask for a nicer husband. But this sexual issue is too much for me. So I wonder if the creator of this thread is facing the same issue and his wife is tired of him.

I am interested please. I need 20kg delivered to me. Thanks.

Great piece of advice.

tobianthony:
When it comes to marriage first things first you need to know yourself and you need to be painfully realistic with yourself .

Finances - very very key ... Ask your partner to write down at least five financial principles they believe in and practice . Nobody has enough money to do what they want all the time it's all about managing resources .

Spirituality - if you guys are not on the same level spiritually you need to resolve this .

Sexuality - everybody more than often cheats one way or the other ...do not let this bug you to the point of insanity just take it for what it is and respect boundaries . Make sure your partner is on the same level with you when it comes to sex . If you are a level 9 on the freak meter do not marry a level 5 or below . If you do be prepared to come down to her level or cheat .

Family - the average Nigerian woman expects you to take care of her family from time to time in one way or the other ...draw the line according to your capacity .

Life goals - Be clear about where you are going in life and see if they support you . if your partner is not an entrepreneur or more like a salary inclined person be careful and expose her to your world if it's the other way do the same . be open with your finances . Trust me the day you die you die you do not want her to start running around like a headless chicken looking for money .

Children - don't let anyone steamroll you into having children if you can't afford to ...we men need to stop this attitude of making babies we can't​ afford to feed . Make sure you are clear on how many kids you want and do not ...I repeat do not exceed that number . Three is the maximum .

Conflict resolution - make sure your partner is emotionally experienced and intelligent to say I'm sorry and move on . You must learn to forgive and forget . Your wife go do you many things that will make you want to run her over with your car and vice versa just forgive and do your best .

My dude it's an adventure many have entered and some failed while some people succeeded . Nobody has a perfect marriage .

If you think you are ready take your partner to justice Idowu's court at igbosherie Lagos high court and sit down and watch divorce proceedings and just note the mistakes that people make .

Even if you do all this still might not go according to plan .

Marriage is a Ponzi scheme and the best thing in life at the same time ...those who take advantage of the system will enjoy it .

All the best .

30 Press ups and 100 SQUATS

I am not in Abuja.

You can talk to your pastor in church. They are usually experienced in these. You can also buy some books about marriage. Good luck.

Tell them.

ibawon:
Una dey craze. we for Ibeju Lekki no get light for over 3 months. I spend 1k on petrol each​ day.
May thunder Finnish your Bosses.
We will go to your office and you guys will be giving apologetic stories.
5 days my ass

Nice one OP.

Lets have her number for us to help you tell her how much you appreciate her.

You shouldnt have stayed up to a month. You should have stayed like a week or two. Allow your visa expire and then apply with your son.

All the best

beekie:
Morning gurus in the house. Believe we all had a restful weekend.

I have a situation here and i would appreciate your candid advice from those who have some knowledge or those who has/had someone in the same situation;

I applied for a visitors visa early last year as a single mom of one but i did not apply for my 4year old at that point as i felt leaving him out of the application will show that i had a good reason to come back home (sort of like an home tie). I was granted a 2yr multiple entry and travelled for the period i stated i was going to be away for which was a month.

Fast forward to this year, i applied in march this year (paper route) for my son towards the summer break but got a refusal last week. I actually thought it will be like US where once a parent had their visa its almost 100% chance the children get theirs also. I know Canada can be tough! Reasons for refusal )travel history/purpose of visit and tie in Canada and Nigeria.

Would appreciate if someone advice what to do going forward.

tHANKS. Obviously, that is what has led to her good character. Her love for Christ.

ikechizoba:
you forgot to add this:
Both of them love Christ,especially adesua,after watching "knocking on the heaven's door", l fall in love with her(agape o),l read about her online and found out that she loves God so much,she doesn't hide it,she shows it at every opportunity,same with banky.and for that,their union is standing on a solid Rock

Yes i know and i believe you as well.

However, the most important factor in marrigae is "YOU". Your character helps a lot.

ifex370:
I didn't bother to read all you typed cos I know for sure only Jesus can keep a marriage long n happy...

And I'm not trying to sound spiritual about it.. But its fact

I, Like hundreds of thousands of Nigerians, was very excited and happy to learn of the impeding wedding of Olubankole Wellington and Adesua Etomi.
However, many Nigerians have said ; celebrities again with their failed marriages. I will however give you many reasons why their marriage will last,

1. Both of them are cool headed people

2. Banky W is a decent man; despite his wealth and fame you won’t see him on Instagram displaying shoes, cars etc

3. Adesua is a descent lady; despite her beauty you won’t see her “slaying” all over Instagram

4. They are of same class: It is good to locate your class and meet love there. A lot of girls and sometimes boys, want to use marriage as an escape route out of poverty; my dear it doesn’t work that way.

5. Banky W kept this secret for so long and so his friends too. Same goes for Adesua. It means they have reliable friends, not friends that would betray you at the slightest opportunity.

6. When there was a fire incidence in Banky’s house, he was alone with just his dog. Some celebrities will have indian hemp smoking boys all over the place with oloshos running around the house all because there is some free money being spent all over the place. When it is time to marry, it will be difficult to chase those hangers on.
7. A lot of Nigerians prayed for them, even when we did not even know they had plans to get married. When you see them together at the wedding party, you could see that this would be a couple that would click.

Wishing them a happy married life in advance.

Petrocam Sangotedo is sure.

I just read your other post that says you were pregnant in 2016.

I am confused.

megastu:
You should be happy that this is happening before the marriage.

My dear Marriage is not easy, if you go into it with these issues hanging, you will have yourself to blame.

It is difficult, but you have to move on my dear.

You should be happy that this is happening before the marriage.

My dear Marriage is not easy, if you go into it with these issues hanging, you will have yourself to blame.

It is difficult, but you have to move on my dear.

mztyqal:
Got to his house by 6.10am this morning. I knocked so hard, called his name, called his phone. He didn't answer. I called his friends, none of them picked up. He was inside cos his car was parked outside. I suffered yesterday and I suffered today as well just looking for him. how do you get angry with someone you haven't seen? At least hear me out.
I got tired of making a fool of myself and left. His ex was certainly at home with him. I'm not asking him not to move on, I'm just surprised that he can be like this. He was the sweetest man in my eyes.
When his family called and was insulting me, asking him why he wants to leave her for me, I cried so much that day and he came to my mum to beg her to beg me. How would he have felt if I and my mum shut him out of our house. My mum that was his best friend suddenly turned to who calls and texts him without response.
Guess this is the closure I need.
I wish him well.
Thanks everyone.

Not this type of court. We are talking about a civil suit.

Anyone can bring an allegation against anyone. It is the state that prosecutes criminal case, in this instance it is the police who will be in Court not apostle suleiman.

Eketem:
Google is your friend. Case is already in court:



Stephanie Otobo, the 23 year-old lady who claimed that Apostle Johnson Suleman had a romantic affair with her, was docked on Monday in Lagos.

She was docked at a Tinubu Chief Magistrates’ Court, and accused of conspiracy, blackmail, threat to life and an intent to steal.

She was charged along with a 43 year-old, man identified as Wisdom Godstime.



The prosecutor, M. A Animashaun, informed the court that the defendants and others at large committed the alleged offence on February 14, 2017, at about 10:30am, at Police College, Ikeja Lagos.

NAN.ng.
http://punchng.com/stephanie-otobo-charged-with-blackmail/

Oga, na die u see so. Better inform him that if anything happens to you that you have copies of the video with trusted confidants.

No comma after the first 99. C'MMON

I need to reach you

how much?

webincomeplus:
Stating your price here won't hurt. Not everyone is ready to call, but seeing the price might just sway some towards buying the car.

This also discouraged me from calling.

i also asked about him from some officers of the NPF and i was told the man even used his own personal money to train himself in modern surveillance tecnology.

Well deserved promotion. Meet our future IGP.

naptu2:
Meet Crime-Buster Abba Kyari: Nigeria's Real Life Jack Bauer(photos)
March 10th, 2016.




https://www.nairaland.com/2980936/meet-crime-buster-abba-kyari-nigerias

SAME THING THAT WAS SAID ABOUT TRUMP

HungerBAD:
And he has gone mad.

Again.

Illustration/Description of an Untravelled/Unenlightened bushman below.

Ezenwo Nyesom Wike: Born in Obio-Akpor, Rivers State, 13 December 1967.

Grew up:Obio-Akpor, Rivers State.

Primary School:Obio-Akpor, Rivers State

Secondary School:Obio-Akpor, Rivers State

University:Rivers State University of Science and Technology(still in his native Ikwerre land)Port-Harcourt.

First time he left Obio-Akpor/Rivers State in his late 20's: Law School and NYSC.

Local Government Chairman(Twice):Obio-Akpor Local Government Area Rivers State(one time second richest LGA in Nigeria after Ikeja)

Second time he left Obio-Akpor in his 40's: Minister of State for Education on 14 July 2011.

Ran back to Obio-Akpor/Rivers State on April 2015 to become a Governor.

Governor Wike should change his surname to Obio-Akpor.

Summary:

Governor Ezenwo Nyesom Wike is a man who suffers from inferiority complex, and always feel threatened when he comes across well read, well travelled and well enlightened people in his State, like the APC Governors and APC members that showed up for the APC Rally.

And that is why he showed his lack of class, and inferiority complex by talking and cursing on National Television like the local Obio-Akpor Champion that he is.

Why cant these land agents just be credible for once.

penfold:
CAVEAT EMPTOR
FRAUDULENT MISREPRESENTATION BY VIP GARDENS, BRILLIANT CONCEPTS
INTERNATIONAL VENTURES, ABC GARDENS AND PERTINENCE LIMITED


It has been brought to our attention that persons trading under the following names:
‘VIP Gardens’, ‘Brilliant Concepts International Ventures’, ‘ABC Gardens’, and
‘Pertinence Limited’, have been advertising the sale of residential plots in Lakowe Lakes
Golf & Country Estate. As part of their marketing materials, they have produced flyers,
banners, and pamphlets with pictures of property located within Lakowe Lakes Golf &
Country Estate. We denounce the activities of these fraudulent elements and state
categorically that none of these entities have any property within Lakowe Lakes Golf &
Country Estate and that these publications are being made without our authorization.
Accordingly, the general public is enjoined to note the following:

1. Lakowe Lakes Golf & Country Estate is owned and developed by Mixta Real Estate
Plc.

2. Mixta Real Estate Plc. is not affiliated with ‘VIP Gardens’, ‘Brilliant Concepts
International Ventures’, ‘ABC Gardens’, or ‘Pertinence Limited’ nor has it given any
of these entities the mandate to market residential plots or property within
Lakowe Lakes Golf & Country Estate.

3. Any information or communication by VIP Gardens’, ‘Brilliant Concepts
International Ventures’, ‘ABC Gardens’, and/or ‘Pertinence Limited suggesting that
it owns properties within Lakowe Lakes Golf & Country Estate or that it has the
mandate of Mixta Real Estate Plc. to market residential plots and other property
within Mixta Real Estate Plc. is incorrect, misleading and fraudulent.

4. We also wish to state that we have not permitted any company, individual or entity
to use pictures of the Lakowe Lakes Golf & Country Estate for marketing purposes,
or for any other purpose.

Mixta Real Estate Plc will not be responsible for any action taken in furtherance of any
information that does not emanate from Mixta Real Estate Plc., particularly information
emanating from 'VIP Gardens’, ‘Brilliant Concepts International Ventures’, ‘ABC
Gardens’, and ‘Pertinence Limited’ in respect of residential plots and other property
within Lakowe Lakes Golf & Country Estate.

Your greatest undoing is dating two men.

You have made a big mistake already because no matter what happens you will keep comparing which will not make you have piece of mind.

anitank:
I don't know why this always happens to me. It's either I'm single with no one saying hi or I have to choose between two people who want me at the same time. It's never in-between.

I met this guy who's just a year older than me (he's 29). He's a nice person with a really good heart but I have a little problem with the fact he's a bit immature. He's always on social media posting very irrelevant stuff, plays mind games with me, not always sure about his decisions and sees nothing wrong with breaking promises. And each time I complain, he thinks I'm overreacting. And even when he apologizes, he goes back to the same thing after a few days. But even with his flaws he has his great sides too. I was really skeptical at first dating someone within my age range because I know the maturity level always differs but I decided to give it a chance and not just assume things, afterall no one is perfect, not even myself. I really do like him but his behaviors gives me concerns. The last time we had a heated argument and I tried breaking up with him, he got really sick and hypertensive and had to take days off work to see a doctor. I had to make up with him. He specifically said he doesn't know if he'd survive if I ever left him.

Now my big sister introduced me to her friend's brother who is way older than I am (he's 40). He's very mature and patient, goes straight to the point, doesn't play any games. He pretty much knows what he wants. We've only spoken a couple of weeks and talked about variety of topics concerning life, family, work, dreams and aspirations etc and trust me nothing beats having a partner you're intellectually in sync with. And although things are not defined yet, you could easily tell where this is going.

The both men have absolutely nothing against me having a son (whose father died few months to our wedding four years ago). The younger guy particularly likes my boy a lot. Never goes a day without asking about him, bought him a game for his birthday and is currently asking what he wants for Christmas. The both men have also introduced me to their parents. I spoke with the younger guy's mum on the phone. The older one took me to his family home and I received a really warm welcome from them. None of us live in the same country but my job takes me around the world and I get to see them whenever I travel to the country they live.

Now this has nothing to do with money or even age but everything to do with me making the right decision and having peace of mind at the end of the day.

Bottom line is I like the younger guy and feel more attached to him and can tell he wants this to work out. He's always talking about having a road trip someday as a family with "our twins" and my son, but it's emotionally draining being with a "man-child" and don't know how long I can wait for him to realize that certain behaviors should be left for teenage boys. If I complain tomorrow, the usual tagline would be "did you not see all those behavior but you stayed thinking he'd change?". At a crossroad now and need a tough-love kinda advice but please don't roast me.

Thanks in advance

We mean his real business...

AfonjaGuy:
he deals in Oil and gas partnership with Saudis and kuwaits. he is a fuckiin rich niga

Hi Zandora,

I just got in here. Just for clarification purposes. do you mean that if Mr. A has a degree in Nigeria and has a masters abroad, it would be better to get WES assess his Masters and that the Degree would give any additional point?

Thanks.

zandora:
It's incorrect. You need to assess only your highest qualification which is your MSc. You cannot get any additional point for assessing both your BSc and MSc if your MSc is assessed as the equivalent of a Canadian MSc. Also, just for future reference it's 'assessing' not 'accessing'.

Abba Kyari must be the most intelligent police officer alive.

That man is just something else.

Once you aim, pull the trigger.

I think you should take the new one; unit head and fear of being tagged not loyal.

femlex:
Thanks Intelligent dude.

The altitude of my bosses and colleagues towards me presently is very positive, and I believe it will be same in the new place. My calculation is has analyzed below
New Place,
Additional N53k monthly, smaller organisation compare to my present, head of my unit, job can last for at least four years, and unknown working environment.

Old place
Bigger Organisation, has more future in terms surviving, work as a support to the head of the unit, friendly colleagues and fear of being tagged not loyal to the organisation by requesting to leave in the first place, the last is my major worry.

I will weigh and add all the advice I get on this platform and other friends to the risk calculation before taking final decision.

Thanks

Re appraise your relationship.

Reading your post, i think there is one thing lacking; sex, quality sex. The moment she hid the remote in her pant, she wanted a good bleep, but you didnt see it.

Sending back to Nigeria is not the proble. BTW try and throw that game console away and concentrate on your wife that is if you guys still want each other.

nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

bimbotek:
Hello house,
Thanks for the good job you guys are doing here.
About a week ago, I got a mail from Sheffield that my application is not straightforward. Today, I got a mail that a decision has been made regarding my visa application and.it shud be ready for collection in 3-5 days.
Now my question is, what does it mean when they say an application is not straightforward? I read sometimes ago here when a lady had a lengthy ban after she got a mail that her application was not straight forward.

It could mean that it was difficult making a decision based on the documents provided. If they needed more documents they would have informed you though or if an interview was required. All the best. When did you make the application and what was duration of visa requested?