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Re appraise your relationship.

Reading your post, i think there is one thing lacking; sex, quality sex. The moment she hid the remote in her pant, she wanted a good bleep, but you didnt see it.

Sending back to Nigeria is not the proble. BTW try and throw that game console away and concentrate on your wife that is if you guys still want each other.

nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!

bimbotek:
Hello house,
Thanks for the good job you guys are doing here.
About a week ago, I got a mail from Sheffield that my application is not straightforward. Today, I got a mail that a decision has been made regarding my visa application and.it shud be ready for collection in 3-5 days.
Now my question is, what does it mean when they say an application is not straightforward? I read sometimes ago here when a lady had a lengthy ban after she got a mail that her application was not straight forward.

It could mean that it was difficult making a decision based on the documents provided. If they needed more documents they would have informed you though or if an interview was required. All the best. When did you make the application and what was duration of visa requested?

emeldamicheals:
Hello everyone. I just collected my visa and docs from TLS abuja. I got my 6 months visa. I would hv loved to apply for 2 years but the money is mch ooo.
Pls, can i email uk embassy concerning my refund for the 1st application i cancelled due to mistake in the application.
My timeline:
Applied on Monday 15th Aug
Appointment/Biometrics in Abuja Tues 16th Aug
Tls sent me email that UK visas and immigration has received my package on Wed 17th Aug
TLS sent me message on Mon 22nd dat my application has been accessed and my decision and docs will sent to the VAC.
TLS sent me a message on Tues 23rd that my PP and docs are ready for collection. That was fast oooo.
NB: I did not receive any message from UKVI. Also, no VAF ref in the emails sent from TLS just my name and ref GWF****** neither did anyone get any phone call.
Collected my visa on Tues 23rd sharp sharp with my 6 months visa.
Issue date is Fri 19th and suprisingly it was issued in sheffield. It was written on the package DMC: Abuja, Lagos- Sheffield. My last visa was issued in Abuja. I wonder why dis one was issued in sheffield.
U can make correction on a cover note or add extra information if need be cos it worked for me.
Maybe it was issued in sheffield because i will be travelling with my lil american baby.
Documents submitted:
Application form with a cover note attached to it
2 savings statement of acc from 2 diff banks. One has a turn over of 15M and bal of 1.sth million and is a year plus statemenent
The other has a turn over of 3M with bal of 1.sth and is a 6 months statement. I wrote that i will spend 1 million for the trip. I also wrote my figures in naira not pounds in my application form.
NB: My corperate biz acc was not submitted. Just savings which is where i will spend from.
Monies were paid into the acc days b4 and even prior to printing from businesses i did. So i think it is only an issue when such monies hasn't been entering ur acc and when they are not geniune. Business has to continue even on the verge of application.
Tax clearance with turn over of 1.7M and tax paid is 55k
CAC docs of my biz name which was incorperated feb last yr
Vat Reg Cert
Marriage Cert
2 nigerian and 1 american birth certs of kids
Wedding pic and lovely family pic
Consent letter from DH
Letter of intro/sponsorship from me with my letter headed.
Planned itinerary
Hotel Reservation
Also, funny enough i did not state how much i make on the application. I wrote VARIES which is the truth. I also explained in the space give that my income is not fixed and it varies since i do biz and can differ month by month but i stated in the cover note an average of atleast 300k monthly.
I am a married woman with kids and i have a good travel history UK(once), USA(twice) with a newly renewed US visa again on the PP, Dubai (twice), India and Ukraine. Other countries like schengen are more than 10 yrs.
I THINK SINCERITY AND GENUINE DOCUMENTS IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS AND WILL ALWAYS BE...
I got all docs except few pages of the statements and my american baby's photocopy of data page and birth cert. I wonder why but its all good.
Now my sleepless nites, anxiety and days of adrenaline pumping is over cos of feeling to know the outcome.
IN ALL I GIVE GOD ALL THE PRAISE
I hope this helps someone....

Did you pay for expedited service? How long does it take between when a decision is made and passport ready for collection?

missexiest:
Hi guys,had my sunshine over a month ago at henrico drs hospital,richmond virginia although I stay in maryland n most hospitals in maryland were too expensive so I searched online n found a dr n hospital with a reasonable price after calling more than 30 numbers.My host had to drive 2:30 hrs to richmond each time I have appointment with my obgyn,i n my baby were well taking care of n vd is 2150 while cs is 2790 or there about.I had my baby thru cs n I got a bill of 25000 n I was asked to apply for medicaid but I refused I was later sent a bill of 3550$ for me,my baby n epidural which is very reasonable for self pay.Cant thank God enough for his mercies n favours concerning this trip,my baby n i.Hes been so good to me.Tank u baba God.I can see some people tried to dm me but I dont know how to go about it,Pls let me knw if I can paste my ob/gyns name n number here.

This is some goodnews for intending travelers. I will however advice that enough research be done on these hospitals.

She is so drunk that she spelt "Yakubu" as "Yakabu"

Truly young then.

May his Soul RIP.

FTC.

There is a single room BQ available for rent at Osborne Foreshore.

It has a shared facilities with other rooms but it is 24/7 serviced. You do not pay for any other thing asides your rent.

Rent is N600,000.00 Per Annum. Call 08037178687 if interested.

Is this car still available?

Nice to hear this.

I do a lot of road trips around europe as well. Good sight of the country side.

Brightgem:
I sincerely can't comorehend why people hold a pastor in high esteem, with the Scandal this man was involved in, how do COZA people feel? How can I follow a preacher who should be more pious than me but ends up with such dirty story and still leads? Look at him, he is just a funky pastor. Nothing wrong with having some wealth, u can use ur wealth to serve God too, but like this... I have zero respect for anything COZA they seem like jokers.

Because most people are already brainwashed, not different from ISIS or Al quaeda, boko haram or Al shabab. The only difference is that they are not told to carry arms and fight for the lord but give sorry sow all you have to the pastor.

bebe2:
After the recent UK exit from the EU something struck . The feeling of loneliness, isolation, being unwanted etc.

I have being in the for 16yrs now and have only had gid experience's. I have integrated well into the UK society while still holding on to naija lifestyle.

But after this OUT vote I have started to question my future and that of my young kids in the uk.

If you offer me everything in the world and ask me where would I want to live I would say AMERICA. I went to check it out last summer (went to LA and atlanta) and loved it , maybe it was the holiday mood and I have lots of family there.

But am really flirting wit the idea of leaving the UK before things get worse, America is my choice but their gun laws scares the hell out of me.

If I don't make the move then I will live my not knowing Wat could have happened if we did move.

But if we do and it doesn't work out then we wud ve wasted our time, money and effort.

So confused

Bro, home is the best forget what they say about Nigeria. I have lived in europe and also visited all continents. Read my blog

https://musbeeblog./

Nice to be here again.

There is a lady i advised here and she has successfully given birth and come back. I lost my phone and most contacts didnt come back. Pls if u are still here, holla at me. Thanks.

Madam, please send that girl back. You want your husband to die young. That girl's father will live very long. He doesnt care about anything in the world. Wheras all the wahala is for u and your husband. Better be advised.

Please if they bring my I phone 6 for unlocking contact me.

I lost my phone on saturday. Thanks.

I need a neatly used, genuine I phone 5s and 4s.

Pls whatsapp me on 07015827619

Still available

Thanks OP,

Check mine

https://musbeeblog./

My son's was worse than this until age 4 and its almost disappeared completely. Do not fret, just give balanced diet.

Please how can we go about changing Sangotedo from 11KVA to 33kva?

LeStylo:
So is 1004 Estate at VI. These places have got dedicated power supply with mini substations fed from 33kV lines. Having access to such rare privileges takes being very close to the top.

Power supply gets better in Nigeria as one progresses upwards on the chain of distribution supply lines. 11kV remains the worst because it also bears the hallmark of the residual inefficiency of distribution management and fault rectification promptness by DISCOs.

There is this PS4 i bought for my kids use, unfortunately dem no really send the game so i am about to sell.

Console, Two controllers and two games, Injustice and another all going for N120,000k or nearest offer. Call me on 08037178687 if interested.

searchng4love:
APC season film expect the full screening on May 29th.
were told that all schools in chibok were closed for security reason but the ss3 students were asked to return for SSCE exams,now they are showing us a JSS1 student that resumed school barely 3 weeks just because may 29 is approaching.

I am as confused as well.

yModus please add me on whatsapp if you have a business group 08037178687. Thanks.

Are the trucks brand new?

send price list to temibello@yahoo.co.uk

Bros how much be the inverter batteries for back there?

They should come and open all those inner gates in Lekki like chevy view estate so that Lekki expressway can be free of traffic during rush hour.

Nna please explain "excited".

You are just a normal, lagos living, working parent though.

greatgod2012:
It depends!

Sometimes 6-7 hours.
Sometimes more.
Sometimes lesser.

So many factors responsible.

My children first, I try and wake them up in the middle of the night to wee, after which I may be unable to have my sleep back.

Sometimes, I would have so much to do that I wouldn't have choice than to sleep late and wake up early.

Sometimes, I chat into midnight without knowing and since I'd be going to work the following morning, I wouldn't have choice than to wake up after about 4 hours.

Sometimes, me and hubby just get over excited and we forget about sleeping early resulting to shorter hours of sleep.

Still available?