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GerogeI:
Dear Purple

Yes

lighternote:
What the hell are you saying
Can't you see her creative prowess
Most exceptional creative talents ain't good with inter-human relationships. Get that into your thick skull.
Abeg, this is just an inconsequential curve in the growth phase of OP. Let her move on, jare.

Maybe the guy was too blunt but the essence of what he said was correct. Even non-white collar workers should be able to perform basic administrative tasks in this computer age.

Her issue seemed to be more of a psychological one. She felt inadequate in the role so she didnt have confidence in herself plus the school issue wasnt helping. When its time for her to showcase her artwork in huge exhibitions with so many people, choose an agent and negotiate with art dealers, she will still face the same issue if she doesnt boost her self-esteem.

If she's not good at something she can still improve in the future. Being a creative is not an excuse for failure or lack of improvement.

Stop coddling her, she is not a baby.

bdchange:
People tends to misused kindness to something else sometimes. Ladies suffer it mostly when they appear friendly or too nice to a guy. Before you know it the guy start misinterpreting it to she likes me, she don fall in love, bla bla bla. Well if she is polite enough she can turn him down politely and tell him how he might lose his tips if he continues.

Thank you. theres even a security man I keep seeing but I had to be doing strong-face, even though its not really my nature, to avoid stories like this

Kingsteve:

Not like that.
It's just that I've come across some comments on here from some females who think there's more to life than marriage.

Lol you are really suffering for that your comment haha

MedicH come and expand on the girl who only gave you singlet...I'm waiting ooo

lefulefu:
was there no noisy church situated near the side of the football field?

Lol I no know ooo..wetin concern me lol as long as its not holding when I'm trying to gather myself

PqsMike:
U see.....from your write up...it's obvious u have a very fragile heart, you're simple natured..... You're naive and people often take advantage of you...

What you need is a mentor... A bigger figure... someone that's ready to hold ur hand and drag u up...u need a big brother .....u need a hug

Hmm...big brother...abi you wan supply the hug...

Crazyblue:
Wanting to be treated badly is a fetish but wanting to seriously harm same gender already sounds like a psychological problem

Wanting to hurt another person is sadism which is another fetish.

But his own is coming from a place of trauma rather than just personal preference. So that's what makes it a psychological problem

lefulefu:
hahahahahaha typical naija setting .relaxation centers is equated with building one shed with ppl drinking beer and smoking and shouting with a loud blaring loud music in the background .how person no go suffer high blood pressure in naija wit dat kine setting.over here they have sheds and gardens u can relax alone or with ur boo .

Na so, everything loud music from giant speakers, smoking, drinking, laughing for no reason, dubious activities in the dark somewhere. Is that supposed to be relaxing? Abeg. What's the difference between those places and motor park or Lagos traffic?

When I was serving I kept asking people where I could just sit and relax...they kept directing me to one hotel or the other...one time I asked somebody where I should go...he said "go to your house na", can you imagine

At the end I found one football field at the back of a secondary school. I just sat there and thought of my life lol

lefulefu:
Do we have gardens or natural spots in nigeria? everywhere has been done with cement and tiles nau.the only pleasure spots we have in nigeria are the fastfood joints and as for naija ladies hassling guys for sharwama ,chicken and suya u cant blame them since hunger is real in naija.maybe if food in naija was much cheaper and affordable then chicken and sharwama for no dey freak them .

Thank you! When you just want to sit in a park and contemplate small people think its strange.

Not every time sitting in a beer garden with one useless music blaring my eardrums out

Younghacka:
How Is That Possible @The Bolded

Double honours

Don't worry, the chemistry with a view to switching to nursing is very okay.

Just make sure she concentrates so that she won't get stuck in the chemistry

passion007:
Basically you're afraid pointing out the perceived grievance would expose your shallow understanding, hence this prevarication.

What you said there was right but you totally overlooked the bad manners on the doctors part, kind of biased of you

Is it the guys fault somebody scratched his car

ensamy:
He locks down the hospital any time he wants to travel to Brazil. Very selfish man, so no other person can manage the clinic in his absence. That is why he died a lonely Doctor.

Manage it into the ground abi?

Even the person who was supposed to be looking after the empty building just showed up now after 2 months!

Marotzke:
How will a clinic run without a doctor?
A private clinic is perhaps the smallest and easiest medical practice to operate.
Mostly the patients are out patients.
He requires basically two auxiliary nurses and a receptionist.
Doesn't have to admit patients except for emergencies and discharges them hours later.
So if he has to travel, the facility will be shut.
The story makes perfect sense unless you are confusing a hospital with a clinic.

It's the Nigerian tendency to call even face-me-I-slap-you operations "hospital". When I read that it was two conjoined apartments I knew it was one of those misnomers but people always write the wrong thing.

Sijo01:
Too many 'maybes'.
This is a difficult puzzle to solve.

True. That's what happens with all these murder stories sha. Always incomplete and weird-sounding

Yonce:
You can't compare how engineers, architects, police etc interact with and handle human life to the doctor's own role.
Doctors' interactions are more intimate, more scrutinised, definitely more judged. Their actions will always be under a microscope even if the government writes and enforces good policies.

Yeah, you are right about that.

And more respected too, hence the higher expectation on them. Heavy is the head that wears the crown...

But at the same time they can't be expected to work miracles in a faulty system. The patient:doctor ratio in this country is terrible and their workload is too much.

If conditions were more conducive they would do better

Lol stupid bunch of haggard bitc witches!

Please forget it dear, they will all live to see your artworks on channels TV

You probably should have called your boss in advance to make sure she wasn't going back on the agreement. Maybe she would have told you the truth over the phone

Sijo01:
In other word, he hire staff when he's around and lay them off when he's jetting out.

This story doesn't make sense at all. except he ran the facility alone which is not even possible

It's possible that they were contract staff.

maybe he went to Brazil at the same time every year so it would be easier to make a seasonal arrangement

or maybe somebody killed him and dumped his body inside the hospital, knowing it would be empty.

The guy who he asked to manage the place only came around now after 2 months. What if the doctor was even paying the man

Kingsteve:
My comment wasn't intended to bash women.
This incidence is a reminder for both males and females about the risks of being old and alone.

Some females in particular who think that marriage is a sham and can do without men.
My apologies if it initially sounded one-sided.

Okay, thanks.

Sijo01:
The last paragraph explained the bold. But what about the hospital staff?

It says that the hospital would be closed whenever he was not around

So basically he was inside there doing God knows what on his own.

He probably came back to check some Equipment, fell ill and died or was bitten by something living in the empty building and died.

Except somebody killed him

Kingsteve:
This is the stark reality of being old and alone.
For some of those females that think they can do without husbands...

Take note!



RIP Doc

Are you okay? The story was about a lonely man, you just jump and pass the whole men just to bash women

shege45:
its like we are on same boat. I have been having stomach issues for over 3years. They all treat typhoid. Some people say make i reach LUTH, the doctor there said its in my head and wanted to refer me to the psychlogy department. I just smile, I just tell myself say i no go again till I comot country.

It's actually common for people with undiagnosed pain to be given treatment for mental illness. Even abroad they do make that mistake. You just have to keep insisting on it until you get an answer

lebete3000:
For you to still be asking this question shows you've not learnt anything about Nigerians.

Your question is just like asking why the Devil is wicked. Are you a learner?

The average Nigerian hates the prosperity of another and doesn't believe he can make it without pulling down someone else.

Is that the kinda person you want to reform? Keep wasting your time oh, the only way Nigerians can learn is through suffering, that's why they respect anyone with a rifle than with words of wisdom...

Hmm..noted...

realoscar84:
Yeah, a friend of mine who happens to be one of their staff when GYB was running his transport company Fairplus told me..

Wow. That first wife must be feeling somehow. She has been with him since smh

betterview3:
Didn't do MRI.

I did 2 ultrasounds at separate places including a teaching hospital.

Did endoscopy too.

Could you recommend any yoghurt brand?

Is it different from normal yoghurt? Like Aqua Rapha yoghurt?

Did the doctor use his/her fingers to push your stomach? There's a test they do that tells them where the pain is coming from

It's not that commercial Hollandia yoghurt, it's natural yoghurt with particular bacteria in it.

I think they sell "Activia" brand on Jumia, you can check there

truthsayer009:
You keep quoting me, i am not interested in dating you. Leave me na, ahn ahn.

I am already married please, leave me alone.

so your courtship talk was all wash

And they say we should trust NL guys smh

drnoel:
CT is only good for bones and stones. Anyone that tells u he was able to sufficiently see the nerve in CT must be a magician.
US should only be able to pick up stones in the Gall bladder and not the kidneys. Pls let's form the habit of confirming things before we post.

You can't detect a trapped nerve with a CT scan?

Not that you can see nerves. I didn't say that.

I was actually referring to the bladder and not kidney. Otherwise I would have called them kidney stones. Ultrasound can show bladder stones but CT is better for very tiny ones.

Otherwise I think there are some palpation tests the clinician is supposed to do before it gets to all the scanning. And then treat with some analgesic injections (if it's nerve related)

This is more like excluding other possibilities than looking for something in particular

Or what do you suggest?

Lol, e be like say inec dey learn work from these mods smh

Why exactly has my comment been deleted?

What was wrong with it

And the knuckle-dragging plankton who quoted me still has his comment remaining. Nawao

passion007:
She's well free to ask questions and that's encouraged.

Did u miss the part she said she would SHOUT what conditions she has. At that point, it's not a conversation anymore but one person being just annoying and difficult to deal with. And if you present yourself in that way, little surprise if you are treated with an attitude.

You have a point. But most of the time when you are polite about it they brush you off as if youre inconveniencing them.

In Nigeria, insults are the only language we understand

lebete3000:
They'll never agree with what you said oh, just leave them, let them becone CMD too abeg.

My orayer is for every Naija doc to leave the country to greener pastures, make every health personnel for naija sef dey carry stethoscope abeg.

E go too sweet meen...

Lol. You for leave some remain for your countrymen na

betterview3:
Couldn't ct scans or ultrasounds have shown those things suggested?

CT is supposed to pick up the nerve (and stones). Have you tried MRI?

Ultrasound should pick up the stones. Have you tried seeking a second opinion?

And have you eaten live yoghurt culture to get your gut flora back to normal after all those antibiotics?

Have you checked your prostate?

lebete3000:
Hope you have a helmet worn, cos if them hear this ehn, dem go use your head break coconut [b][/b]

Lol why? The stool sampling and blood films and all that are an aspect of pathology. Most of that stuff is supposed to be done by a computer nowadays anyway

If the hospital has a functioning biomedical science department that would be different