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truthsayer009:
Benefits of a ring chases men away, at least the decent ones. There is a myth that if you are pressured enough you'll probably might consider it when chips are down. Please wear your ring.

So what about those guys who approach me with a shining golden band and tell me "baby don't mind this thing I'm wearing, it's just fashion"

Anybody who wants to be bad will be bad!

Hangulsaram:
I said reason, we already know that she does n’t want to. Now the question is why does she not want to.

Okay, what is the reason for wanting to?

truthsayer009:
LMAO, someone is definitely getting knacks & this isn't me getting paranoid.

Wedding ring doesn't preclude knacks, that's a simplistic view

My family is just not interested in such stuff, even me I think I would find it difficult to wear it. It looks impractical

realoscar84:
Why do you think Kogi State Governor Yahaya Bello choose the 2nd wife over the 1st as his first lady, even though the 1st is more qualified and better educated as a legal practitioner? As new man into poliyics then, during the campaign prior to the primary election that made him a runner up, local man experienced cash crunch, pleaded the 1st wife to loan him some mills, but she declined thinking it's wasn't worth it as per no faith or hope in the project but the 2nd backed him to a hilt with everything she has. I guess local man didn't forget the kind gesture. Stingy woman is like a cancer, rich or poor family. Avoid them at all cost.

Ha! is this true??

cooooooks:
What you said is racist and untrue. I don't know the kind of ghetto ass "white people" you're meeting with.

Some of them have a "wet dog" smell that is well documented

If it's cultural thing that means they don't bathe every day then how can it be racist

1Sharon:
It's a troll, pay it no mind. It's account was created only 12 days ago

I know, but he said that he is well-known around here

So now I'm asking him who he is and he's writing Hadley chase everywhere. Lol what a freak

bonnyhope:
This man belong to a society that forbids him from having sex during a certain period

Hahahaha

wirinet:
No scientific evidence that sex before a sporting events affects performance, except of course it was done exhaustively too close to the sporting event.
If a light jogging and exercise does not negatively affect performance before a sporting event, why will sex a night before affect performance.

It probably has an effect on them psychologically. Sport has a psychological element

they are trying to maintain focus on the upcoming event and sex can be distracting.

CanadaOrBust:
I’m talking of mainly entrepreneurs. I’m around a lot of them and the most successful are usually the most highly sexed

There is also the fact that woman flock towards powerful figures.

It's a two-way thing

When a sport team comes into town women will literally go and camp outside the hotel, waiting to snag one of the players.

Those men have more access to free and interesting sexual encounters than the average Joe

Hangulsaram:
Can you please tell us valid reasons why a married Woman should not put on her ring?

Because she doesn't want to! Almost nobody in my family wears a ring.

It's not for everybody

Fuckthamods:
You guys should stop telling that this shit! That's what he wants to be hearing to prove he isn't jobless. He is feeling fly now meanwhile his hypocritical self has been on Nairaland all along with a different moniker.

We have Stockholm syndrome. Even me I missed him small and I don't know why

EasternPrince:
Actually, I just follow you once and let all your comments on this website come to me. I thought you said you were powerful? Am I beating you physically?

You were warned twice but you did not listen, are you complaining now? Or you want me to go see a psychiatrist to learn a new skill than the ones I'm currently using on you?

Here is my introduction....

Normal people go to shows to watch the boobs and ass of the women there but a psychologist go to watch the audience! Hell, babe, don't fvck with guys like that next time.

Hahaha chai

What in the bloody hell are you talking about

This is serious o. This is what we call in neuropsychology, "word salad". Rantings of a psychosis patient

It's good that you're writing all this here so that your family will have material to give the consultant psychiatrist who they will beg to take up your case. Your file will be filled to the brim

From now I'll be calling you by your new name, "Case Study 1d" because that's what you'll be known as by the time all the medical schools have distributed textbooks to their students

olu77:
We once lost a first lady to this same quest for perfect body. Perfection is an attractive illusion.

Just what I was thinking.

However, Mrs obasanjo was considerably older than bobrisky is and if I remember correctly was rejected for surgery on health grounds before trying another place

She did bring it upon herself to an extent

EasternPrince:
Ahh babe, stop being a fatherfucker, you can't be in the past.

Anyway, I see you're enjoying our game on other threads We'll keep at it for 7 more days, if you don't mind. You are very interesting sha

I think your introduction is still in order, you wrote that epistle on Sunday but I have no idea who this expired Lagos convict who has been following me nose-to-ass from thread to thread is supposed to be

Who or what are you Enquiring minds would like to know.

Maybe we can help you get to a good psychiatric facility...such is the generous spirit of nairalanders, especially around Christmas time

He was playing smart with somebody else's property and ended up dying in it

If I say bushmeat don catch hunter it will sound like I am wicked.

So the owner of the vehicle he wanted to mess up should console the family or what

Nigerians.

And that's how you see people use their car exhaust fumes to commit suicide in oyibo movies. This one generator wey full everywhere no kill am, na oyibo something kill am smh

I hope his family will be all right

wirinet:
He might be an exception to the rule or maybe he is doing it codedly. One thing I know, is that most highly driven business men have extremely high libido.
I remember someone like Abacha. He had a guest house in Alexander Road, ikoyi, where his aid brings in 3 different girls, almost every night. The girls are put in 3 different rooms. Abacha comes in at around 12 midnight and goes through all the girls before 6 am. By 8 am he is back at his desk in his office at Dodan Barracks. That was when he was chief of army staff under IBB. And in all these he still loved his wife very much.

Power is an aphrodisiac. Powerful people often have a very high libido

Politicians get runs arranged for them by their aides to satisfy their appetite.

Except some extremely disciplined or religious people who try to overcome it

lefulefu:
guys who marry women they dont find sexually attractive are really trying sha .maybe this could explain why many married men still keep side chicks.

Lol lefu man, they are not trying anything. Why do you go for a woman you don't like Are you not punishing yourself?

Hope you're not trying to tell me your future plan is to be a man with many side-chicks?

Jiokejohn:
Dear Midnighter,
Please take it easy. You are taking it personal. Though I understand your point and equally agree with your submission. But tread softly.

Well, I'm not sure what you mean by this message

Tread softly how? I was just responding to what that guy wrote, which I vehemently disagree with.

Yeah, I take it personally when people try to justify neglecting women for spurious reasons. You can't see the amount of hypocrisy and double-standard in this thread

The man is seriously not going to touch his wife for 2 years and they're going to every length try to excuse it. If it were the other way around, do you think that would be the case??

somebody wrote a whole dissertation Thesis just to tell us that he went to high school in Texas

I guess it must have been Texas reformed boys international school, Agege campus or Texas in his dream world.

Even me, I'm in Texas with him right now hahaha

okpanachil:
I have been following your comment, not just on this thread but...at this point I am forced to ask are you are really feminine you seem cut off a different clothe.

Lol, yes I'm female and cut from female cloth

EasternPrince:
This Yoruba woman stop disgracing yourself with what you don;t know about.


@miraclebaby: What eastern state you from? Where is this contact Osu and become osu thing practiced so strictly and has it continued to now?

She clearly said "in those days". I guess I was right when I guessed that you weren't really literate.

healthserve:
Midnighter

Respect55



See what I've been saying all along. She's trying to look for a respectable way out when she doesn't deserve it a single bit


OP don't make the slightest mistake of giving her the dignity of a closure. You'll be stopping low and stripping your ego further by consenting to her request

Leave her to process it through other avenues. Same goes to you. Explain to your sisters what transpired the same way you explained it here


If your ex respected your sisters or your family, she would have explained your inadequacies to your family/sisters to call you to order and not cheat


There's no justification for cheating. That's complete disregard for your lover and all other parties combined.


BTW I've e been wandering where franchasng has been all along

For the umpteenth time, we are not talking about what she deserves. I don't understand why you keep going back to that.

So since his ex didn't respect his family, he too should disrespect them

Why are you using her behaviour as the yardstick when she's the person who did wrong?

Why not follow your own morality and not hers since you know she is no good.

miraclebaby:
@ TheSkyIsBlue if you still believe in osu caste, then you're already an osu. In those days once one who is osu comes in contact with you, you become one as well. Now to think your sister has been with the guy for 7 good years, she's already an advanced osu so also you all that dine and live with her as well as others that have already been in contact with you all. Meaning all your family members and friends are already osu if you believe in the nonsense. Are you sure you're depressed or you're just confused?

Osu in this century���

Interesting. I forgot about that aspect. They're not even supposed to touch each others food or water

Salutem:
Especially, if she's known by the family...... it's quite difficult really

Exactly, she's practically in the family already.

Did you see where he said his elder sister was the one clothing her? Mehn!

He'd better go and bring it to a respectable conclusion instead of cutting off his nose to spite his face.

He has already dumped the woman so it can't remove anything from him

Ogegod87:
If i were the OP, i will tell my fiance straight up.

Me too.

WackyJ1:
If he has a bad habit, then he will carry it into the next relationship and the next and the next until he meets a lady who is articulate enough to point it out to him and advice him to change , as well as giving him fair warning that if he refuses to change she will leave him.

See what I did there?

I gave three solid alternatives to cheating.

Is the girl perfect? No.
Is the solution to every flaw in your partner cheating?
No.

So let us not act like "an imaginary" bad habit is the reason why she cheated and the reason why he should stoop low to dignify her by talking to her.

That's what she would want.
Once she smells that he came asking for a reason, she is going to pile everything on his head and make herself look like the victim.
She is capable of that.

He caught her cheating plain and simple and you yourself have already admitted in previous posts that the girl is manipulative.

He handled the matter brilliantly.
Let it end there.

Who said the solution to all flaws is cheating What matters is that was her own solution, which was the cause of the break-up. So she should tell him what drove her to it.

Are you trying to say that you'd rather go on to hurt another person than be informed of a character flaw and work on it?

See, you people are getting caught up in having your sweet revenge on the girl which is not the main thing here. The point is for the guy to tie up his loose ends.

Nobody ends a committed relationship like that except if they're not serious. When you want a divorce don't you have to sit down and with the person and sort it out even though you may hate their guts??

If he meets her and she starts talking rubbish or trying to shift the blame to him, no problem! We know she can do something like that. He's already done with her so he's not going to fall for it, is he?

The woman has packed out of his life already but left her combs and cooking utensils. Let him go and return them to her and get rid of her for good.

This one you people are saying is out of emotion and not logic.

healthserve:
I respect you. Alot

Have you noticed you're the only proactive female or one of the few speaking on this issue.

Speaks volumes of your ethical standards


See I understand your view and you're right. But that's dignifying her. In the face of her actions, she can keep her explanations or tell them to God. She's undersving or respectful treatment. He will heal with time. Not necessarily by some bickering thrown back and forth

Thanks a lot, I respect you and your view too.

Well, he has already decided that he is no longer interested. So I don't think it will do any harm to have one last bicker

I think you are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Even though it dignifies her, it still helps him.

He still doesn't even know why she cheated on him. What if he has some bad habit that he doesn't know about and he takes it into the next relationship?

The least that he could get out of a conversation with her would be cause of the cheating.

babyfaceafrica:
When his sister asks him what happened and he can't give a concrete explanation, don't you think his family will be looking at him one kind?



na him family won marry for am?..if they like they should look at him anyhow,na Dem Sabi!..he is the one that will live with the woman for the rest of his life!!..Anyone who ask,he will just say they have a problem and are no more,simple stuffs!

If you have ever witnessed a messy divorce, you will know how stupid and irresponsible it makes the man look to his family and friends when he suddenly dumps the woman, without any explanation except that he's "not marrying her again" and goes and picks up with a new one.

You should be able to explain your grouse clearly except if you're so hurt that you can't stand to talk about it.

At least he is the man, people are always wiling to believe that the woman is at fault so no problem there.

Except if he's ready for them to be nagging him about "whatever happened to our wife". Because that's what happens in African families, whether we like their interference or not

healthserve:
I agree that's the routine when decency and respect for every parties I. E family is involved and the cheating is a disrespect to the OP's entire family. Which Is why I recommend they don't do closure. She's lesser than a deserving party. He needs to find alternate outlet.

Why do you keep talking about what she deserves What about him?

Why would you deprive yourself of what you need just to spite another person? He's not doing it for her, he's doing it for himself.

We have all praised OP on his dignified manner and self-respect, this is the last frontier he needs to conquer.

Cheating is a disrespect to the whole family, agreed. And it's also a disrespect to your family to dispose of their future daughter-in-law, who they have bonded with and gotten used to, without giving them a cogent reason.

He was not the only one marrying her, they all were. He will just make himself look bad if he starts hesitating when they ask him what actually happened.