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tensazangetsu20:
I was about to start work today and I heard a fight and some arguments, turned out it was my neighbor and his wife going at it for the umpteenth time again but today's own was so bloody. I even thought of calling the police. He beat the woman. Hit her head on the wall, threw her clothes out and even threw their baby out that he was tired of them.

The guy has no job, didn't go to school. Didn't even finish secondary school. Also has no skills. He just sits at home from morning till night. He lives with his mom and shes the one that feeds him and all and the new wife just moved in after she got pregnant and gave birth. Honestly, this isn't the first time I have experience or seen stuff like this around me. Is it that the women are blind or what? I mean my neighbor is quite an attractive man. He's fair with tattoos and dreadlocks. Has that handsome bad boy kind of look. But is looks just enough to marry a man that has nothing going on at all in his life.

Why do women make such bad decisions. I am really really curious.

Don't mind them yeye ladies. You go explain tire. My friemds help, advise and encourage her that when you are less busy since there's no one at home use that time to leaen andy handwork... Before you know it, she got pregnant for one looser like that. No handwork, plan to better himself, nothing.
I don't know what they see in those men. No handowrk, no houseof his own, nothing... Juat roams around aimlessly all day, all week and all year. I don't know if they don't think at all. They just spread their legs wide open to any idiot that is available.

Mtcheew.... What rubbish? Any man or woman thst cheat oj their respective partners doea not have discipline, respect or love his or hwr partner.


Lame excuse

airprince:
And I’m willing to invest 10m naira into the project

My advice, please japa. You are young and find out about Canada pr. That money is enough if you get your pr

Valoromega:
Anytime I have issues with my wife, maybe it's about another girl she always says what if she does her own too how would (mind you I have never been with another woman since we got married. I might just flirt around with some other girls once in a while via chat)
She has this mentality that she's beautiful and young and she usually gets a lot of attention and I think it's getting to her head. Because most times she usually talks about doing her own too and I think she has the tendency to cheat If I do something to her like cheating.

I told her that would be the end our marriage

Mtcheew why will. You flirt with other girls and you say it in passing without remorse. What you don't want your wife to do to you don't do. It to her. Respect yourself and your marriage

Marry when you are ready. Don't be deceived. If you take your folic acid, prenatal meds and doctor's appointment seriously and pray to God who give children. You won't have a deformed baby.

Please where is the trailer made Ikorodu bois. Extraction 2

OlawaleBammie:
Madam, that ur supposed good man will one day Bleep up, and if u re not prepare for it u will mess things up. That is the msg they are passing to u

You already concluded that this good man will mess up one day. What if he doesn't? Chai i know you might have experienced pain in the past, i did too but it doesn't stop me from loving a good man. Just forgive yourself and the men in your past and move on. Else you will miss the chance to experience what it means to have a good, faithful and honest man that loves you completely.

LordAdam16:
The man you described in bold is a rarity.

Men generally have one or two vices. Rarely are they the spawn of Hades embodying every vice out there.

The trouble for you ladies is that the same conditions that make you relish your early adulthood create the same mechanics that make your middle and late adulthood a nightmare. When you leave your husband with his vices, you're not going to meet angels out there.

You can't teach an old dog new tricks. All the wonderful guys have been snapped up. A man with bad character will use his money to blind new women, not change for you. The dating pool for untethered men in their 30s and higher is not funny. You will have to settle for what vices you can tolerate. After a few years of dissatisfaction, you'll start weighing your choices. Did you really trade up or did you take a different poison? By the time you're asking this pertinent question, it's too late.

The things you value when you're 32 are different from what you value when you're 53 and your kids have flown out of the coop.

Something as simple as career advice from a man who's lived with a kid and intimately knows the kids strengths and flaws is invaluable.

My advice for women in bad marriages is divorce should be the last option, unless you're being assaulted. Get a side dude. Coworker, ex, boss, church member, customer, in law; doesn't matter. Keep it under wraps of course. Don't be stupid. Married or not is not your business, because if you leave, you're still going to get on all fours for another woman's man. You can't escape it.

You pretty much have to be as beautiful as Emanuelle Chriqui, Monica Bellucci, or Meta Golding to think that men who have their heads screwed on right will be falling over themselves to hand you commitments when even your teenage daughter is having a crush. Jungle rough!

But you know what, maybe your case will be different. If you believe so, you can disregard everything I typed.

-Lord

Really? Oga speak for yourself, don't generalise. Women stay in bad marriages because the men made them dependent. Madam if you work and yiu are independent, no man will treat you like shit when your father's house is not far way.

So because i want to keep the title "married woman" i should stay, sleep with other men and stay married, and you think this is what i plan for my life and my kids?

This is the reason we have so many irresponsible men out there cos their mothers choose to stay married and they end up growing up doing the same thing to their wives. It becomes an endless circle.

Please don't stay and accept shit because of the children as the same children will curse yiu tomorrow for not leaving. The change starts with you.

Remember YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE ANY MAN OR WOMAN.

isabi2lof:
There's no good man out there , all of them are just the same , you just have to pay a deaf ears to somethings in your marriage, if not you won't have peace.

For how long will you continue to condone his rubbish. My dear one day you will just explode. If he f up, treat it immediately and if its something that will affect your life, madam bounce so you don't end up dieing of high bp or cardiac arrest because of man


There are good men and women!!!!

Some women divorcing their haubands are valid. When you marry a cheating partner that not only brags about his escapades in your face, disrespect you, doesn't support you in j anyway and never provides for the family, always giving excuses and he's never around to bond with his own kids and ontop of all this nonsense beats you physically and drains you emotionally.

The right thing to do is leave him for the sake of your, kids, your mental health, life and build yourself up again. Since the mature he goat has refused to GROW UP!!!

If you hqve a smooth pregnancy, Thank God as not all women will experience it. For me i thank God for strength and keeping strong everu single day. It is not easy. It is better when you have a responsible man by your side seeing you through everything. If you marry an irresponsible man, madam you go see shege!!!!

Single ladies please marry right ooo money is not everything, money will not hold you and pat you tenderly when you start having waist pain and that annoying muscle pull..... My dear make your love get brain, eyes, ears and nose to sniff off tye bad guys

iammo:
You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect

From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

What stupid reasons? If your spouse stops and doesn't support you from growing in your career, abeg na witchcraft. Walk away as his aim is to kill your self esteem. What rubbish. Na men wey dey cheat believes their spouse too dey cheat.

Women should work for their money, if the man treats you like shit ans you have condone alot of his excesses, my dear bounce. Martiage is meant to be enjoyed not endured QED

Must all your plans be on social media eh. The heart of man is wivked, Bible talk am alreadh, keep your plans under wraps till you get to your destination. Infact people around you will spread the news. Your enemies waiting to strike will hear of God's goodness in your life and it will be too late for them to do anything.

Listen oooooo stop posting everything about your life on social media.

God bless his soul. Only God knows what truly happend

SLOVFO:
Too bad. Somethings are meant to be kept close to the chest. Even if you are having a struggle with self-control why come out on air to justify the bullshit?

As in eh. What bull crap is 2baba saying? You think ladies are not wired to cheat too? This is ridiculous!!!!! You don't have discipline and self control and you blame it oj oh we are wired that way, what arrant nonsense!!!!! Na Annie dey swallow this rubbish, when she's had more than enough, she will bounce and leave his cheating ass

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

So. If it turns out that yiur fiance has fibroid, what will you do? End the relationship and look for somebodyelse abi. Any i don't blame your dad vos what many women have done to. Themselves mouth no fit talk am.

It's God that gives children. Simple. Tell her abiut don't start hiding things feom. Your wife to be. Don't start what you cannot finish

Pochettino:
I don't blame the man.
We women need to produce more men not weak females.

Did you hear yourslef befoee typing this crap? Coming from a fellow woman, i am really disappointed. Smh

The lies eh.... Na wa oooo todaybis Sunday oooo.

As a twin myself, i didnt do any of these crazy stuff most of you guys described. Slweping with the same man eeeeeew, never!!!!!

Omo i don't share my man with anyone. You can tell them. Apart if you want to

I don't careless. Just ignore and do you. Simple. If you want to know the truth, be confident and say it to my face not like a coward.

Oga please ignore and do you.

If you genuinely want to help, please do and don't ask for money. Be yiur brother's keeper.

Please stay away from sugary stuff like sodas and junk food. Eat healthy and stop masturbation. If your wife loves you, she will understand and help you. You are not alone if you have an understanding partner. Go see a specialist together and work on it. If she loves you truly she will never chewt on you.

You can take addoyzoa, it helps to boost sperm.

AustineCJ:
Do well to go and clear yourself from the school, collect all your certificates and necessary documents. I saw similar thing in my set and some people couldn’t go for nysc immediately because someone was sharing their matric number.

I har the same problem but it was in my second year luckily we did the same course. The lady had to change all her documents from year 1 as the matric number belongs to me

talk2hb1:
Let’s Marry Then

Ooh sorry boo boo am married. Am with the man that completes me. Keep searching dont give up, there are many lafies that think like me eh.

Adgraced:
A man can easily leave his kids and not look back, but not a mother!!

You leave them for your own sanity and come back for them by going to court to get custody of your kids. The legal system works. Use it

talk2hb1:
Moral Of The Story:
1). We men can have side chic under the auspices of helping them out.
2). We Shouldn’t Marry her (our side chic) but keep her for contingency sex satisfaction.
3). Women should accept the fact that side chic has come to stay.
3). Any Woman that left her husband because he is cheating with side chic will end up being side chic
4).


Female Gender don suffer

Not all women. Some women who are not financially capable tend to do stupid stuff to meet their needs. To ms its total crap. Work for your money and call out the bullshits of your boyfriend or husband. Don't depend on him financially cos when you do, you won't want to hurt his feelings so that he stops giving money from time time.

Abeg women are different as all fingers are not equal

If you know you are not discipline and can never be faithful, contented with your wife, please dont get married. Stay single and f... Ck around as you like.

Do you know some married women are infected with HIv which is no fault of theirs cos their husbands refused to stay faithful thereby infecting them with this disease. Yes hiv is not a life sentence blah blah.... You think those that are infected don't want to be clean again eh?

If you know your partner cheats, oga or madam give himor her condom or ask him or her to go for test before you open ya legs again.

Yes if you cannot stay with your cheating partner, do yourself a favour and leave foe your sanity. Do you know some women become depressed and that depression leads to something else.

Marriage is not a do or die affair. If you cannot cope please leave for the sake of your kids. Don't give me shitty excuses that i stayed and endured because of my kids. This is the reason we have so many useless men and women as they grew up seeing this cheating rubbish as normal. Do you know you tend to do more harm to kids when you stay in an absuive marriage. They grow up and do the same thing to their partners. Since my mother or father endured you should do the same.

Wisdom is profitable to direct!!!!

kpakpakpa:
Yes.

Not even one, i visit like 4 of them since the problem started

I am not advertising for anyone but he helped my daughter and my colleagues daughter that her tonsillitis closed her airway and the other doctor said it should be surgically removed. When she saw this ENT Specialist he gave her some drugs and she's fine now and the swelling reduced.

Hes a professor of medicine. A illupeju ENT. Just google and book appointment. Yes you will spend money at least you will know your fate.

manchyme:
My wife told me she has irregular periods, until I started calculating it with her. She won't even know, I'll tell her your period will start any moment and before you it the next day it has started. Most people don't know simple arithmetic and so cannot calculate their period. They'll now tell you they have irregular periods. You don't expect it to come say day it came the previous month and over time (5months) it can fall from 28th to 18th, hope you know why?

There is period delay. Some women see their period 5days, some 10days and sometimes 8days. It will come 24th and will delay ajother 5 to 7days. How do you intend to know your fertile days with this. Even gynecologist told me madam there's nothing like fertile days if you want to get pregnant. Meet your hubby monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday. There's no way you will not get pregnant.

Billings method is not for every woman.

Some women see their period once in two months. They ovulate oooo. E no mean say na free time to knack recklessly. Omo if you try am na belle one time

manchyme:
That period you're talking about I'll advice you put your mouth in topics you have experience in, as in personal experience. Do you have personal experience on that? For me, knowing your period works perfectly.

Not when you have irregular period oooo. E go surprise you

1Sharon:
It's the woman's body, but does the child belong to only the woman, will the woman alone raise the child?

Conception is a joint effort and couples need to both come to a compromise

I agree its a joint effort if the couple makes the decision together. Not in our African society where most men are clouded by Am the man mentality anything i say goes. Some women are married to these men so what should they do? Stop sleeping with their husbands an cause problems for themselves. Omo wisdom is profitable to direct oooo. Make them use their head. Na one life God give everybody if your candle off, e don off oooo nothing fit on am again.

1Sharon:
You want the woman to tie her tubes when you can simply use a condom?

Why are you Nigerian men dense like this? The ego is out of this world!

As the man no gree wear condom nko. What do you do? It's your body and your decision shey if he impregnates you again , you will go and abort abi. Why not save yourself this emotional truama.

If the man refuse to wear condom, then buy female condom abi. Wear your own condom. Case close

sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done

They are both to blame. When you know you are done, you either go vasectomy or tie your tubes. This procedure doesn't affect your sexual satisfaction..

Like I said earlier, the woman should take all precautions not to fall pregnant again. Na her body oooo.

Moniya4Real:
Bro calm down! Withdrawal method no Dey fail an expert.

Over fail dey worry this method.

1Sharon:
Africans really don't know how to use contraception!

It didn't fail. YOU failed to use it correctly.


Unexposed ignorant Nigeria men, they say they don't want to use condoms on their wives . They will say condoms are only for oloshos or Gfs.

But wearing it cost you guys nothing.

Female contraceptions affects a woman's hormones, mood and weight.

If the family planning method is affecting yiur health, then tie your tubes.