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This is a thoroughly hilarious thread

I am not looking for a fight o, just saying I am yet to hear about someone on admission in an Oyinbo hospital and there is zero-diagnosis. Before the coma, there would have been a diagnosis of something, he must have been in a specific medical state before slipping into a coma. If the hospital was Naija, I could understand.

As for the topic, I'd say it's a really, really, spectacularly tall tale. How very convenient that these "traditions" do not punish men, only women.

Katier00:
we need to wake up and see that all these things are man made laws, you think it is working because fear. The mind is the most powerful tool in the world. Out of fear that belief will start working against you. What happen to the cheating husband? Nothing because we believe it is the mans' world and they are untouchable

This says it all!

Because more women are desperate enough to try to tie a man down with pregnancy. Fewer men are succumbing to that trick
Because women are no longer pro active with contraception, gullible in the belief that it is "our pregnancy" when the guy does not have an agreement with you. It's your body, your future, your life that are more impacted than his . Why do skin to skin when he has not put a ring on it?

nekib89:
Op you're not alone on this

Sorry, cannot access email

Very nice topic! More of this!

Like the days of many wives and kids to help till the land, the days of your kids being your retirement plan (the biggest reason for having kids you can't afford) are long gone. Now, parents and kids are laden with poverty and lack. Wise people have deduced it makes more sense to have a number you can afford to raise in a comfortable lifestyle rather than dwell on quantity without quality. Anyone can birth 7 children, heck, even rabbits do it! The challenge is the quality of life for yourself and such kids and the ability to maintain your dignity rather than harrassing or begging others for handouts to raise your kids!

Women! Stay in charge of your reproductive organs, we can control the number of children. Just because you are married does not mean you should not do all that is within your power to control the occurence of pregnancy. How can you be parting your thighs without a plan when you know affordability is a yoke around your neck? If you cannot take full charge of contraception in whatever form, condom, pill, implants, etc then you should not be having sex!

nekib89:
Op you're not alone on this

Sorry, can't access email

Lastly, ladies, the best compliment you can give a man is with your body and consideration. Unexpected gestures, being an imaginative lover, staying in shape because you want to please a man, are the best expressions of genuine desire, admiration and respect. Nothing conveys real appreciation for a man better than the unsolicited desire you reserve for Alpha bleeps. You want him to know you admire and respect him? Initiate sex with him, often and with intensity.

I'm glad you simplified with this. That article sounded like it was written by someone with too much time on their hands.

That said, I largely agree with the bolded though there are many more ways to express respect and appreciation, in addition to sex. One of the views I hold about marriage is to preserve your sex life and maintain the freshness of it especially when there are no other sex partners. There's something about wife-initiated sext that adds extra spice to it for men.

I don't like the concept of fat sex so that's one more reason why I try to stay in shape (first reason is for my own vanity ). I also recognize that if my husband wanted an overweight wife, he would not have married a non-overweight. Even with childbirth and raising kids, I still believe I owe it to myself and him to do everything I can to preserve how I looked. We all change but a descent into flab is one of thechanges we can and should exert control over. That goes both ways, I would hate to wakeup to a fat husband because I did not choose to marry a fat man.

I know my husband is pleased and proud that I care about staying in shape, afterall, it is easier and more pleasing to the eyes to dress up a deer than an elephant. He regularly thanks me for keeping fit even though we have never discussed it being about him. He stays with me sometimes while I exercise (great turn on for guys).

I enjoy our sex life and I respect him because he is kind to me, places a lot of value on my opinion/views, and he acts and talks like he truly likes me (let's not even say love) a lot. A man that treats me well is worthy of all the respect and admiration I can give. Sometimes, it's really just the simple things, nothing to do with the "alpha male" ideology.


I think the whole concept of "alpha male" is over-hyped and unnecessary, the kind of thing reddit readers hang onto to make themselves feel superior or to explain feelings of insecurity. I think of alpha males as peacocks and would not date such talk less of marry them. Any man trying to prove he is an alpha male is if no use to someone like me, they come with their own baggage of domineering behavior. My father's daughters were raised like men so an alpha male type could never work for me.

To maintain his desirability?

I have no other sex partners and I enjoy the act so my needs are simple:

Stay in shape, considerate lover, good hygiene, listening ear, respect and kindness towards me, caring, be a great husband and father. Last but not least, a desire to grow in the Christian walk.

@ bukatyne

Thank you very much, such kind words, so seasoned with upliftment, may you always have cause to be of good cheer. I am flattered and I am happy my ramblings make sense to someone.

I looked at all her points and I would say they make absolute sense if a woman is married to a man without a moral compass or one who is religious without imbibing the life of the teachings. The thread is actually based on worldly wisdom

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I have retired from detailed responses on threads like this, that is why I did a one liner. I didn't know where to start from, it would mean epistle upon epistle First, why would anyone marry a man without a moral compass? Why would you do that to yourself? What happened to self love? The genesis of the marriage is already flawed in that scenario and susceptible to all manner of wahala which I agree could make a wife adopt these "defence tactics" That makes me question what people call "marriage," what it means to them, another heavy topic entirely.

Let me stop here, take care

So sad. May the Almighty comfort his loved ones.

Happy Easter Bukatyne. I haven't been around these parts in a while, hope you are keeping well

@ Topic
I agree with #4, the first line only

ejika4:
u still hvnt answered me sir

You did not do anything wrong. Let's forget it

P.S. I am not a male

ejika4:
God help me. pls what did I do o.

Really sorry, I can't access my email. That's the reason why I didn't email you.

@ ejika4

When next you come online, please provide name and bank a/c number. I have a token for you and will try to get it to you as soon as I am able. I will check everyday and let you know when I get the info so that you can delete.

ejika4:
was craving for okro soup with roasted titus fish....At first I was scared of posting coz I dont have all these packaging they use on nairaland of whivh I knw say some peeps go borro to show off! ohk broke ass bsbe like me..this d breakdown of what I used....
okro_#50
iru= #50
fish= #200
1 cube of maggi
salt
red oil
pepper
pomo.
no yabbing pls n feel free to join me.#proudlyibile

This is good presentation - you see how you kept the swallow to one side and the soup to one side? You see how each part of the meal is in it's place on the plate? Presentation is not about the cost or whether it is a continental/local dish - it is about the appearance.

Some would prefer swallow and soup in different bowls/plates and that is okay too but this is good enough.

In the end, no one's name was mentioned
Folks need to quit being so thin-skinned
It is 2018, you ignore what you don't like - in real life and on the internet
I am all for presentation because I can't do badly presented food - nothing wrong with that
A lot of people could not care less about presentation - nothing wrong with that either if the consumers of the food have no objection

It is like laying your bed nicely in the morning and coming back to a nice looking bed. Or you can decide to leave it messy and you don't mind coming back to rumpled beddings.