₦airaland Forum

lets imagine for a minute.... as we all know that the majority of Nigerian women are moved by money, here we have a man that may have struggle to make ends meet while growing up or even pay his own school fees; survived on indomie and garri for yrs; managed to graduate and found a small job that wasnt paying much; met this babe and it was love at 1st sight; she quickly asked to go to eateries for dating and recharge cards to chat on phone; because he was broke and desperate, but wanted to impress this babe, he probably did some Yahoo Yahoo or petty scams, but the babe was asking for more gifts and handouts so the poor guy sold his soul to the devil and join some robbery gang to whine and dine her; during dating he paid for her school fees, recharge cards, brazilian hair, new iphone, bleaching cream, her rent, fake boobs, the lot; then he proposed, and then came the BRIDE PRICE list that went into the MILLIONS of Naira, which he hardly managed to pay, and last but not least, she wanted a big wedding so he had to borrow heavily at the bank, and subsequently lived close to poverty... and then, they had a child and struggled for years, only to discover that wifey was cheating and probably their child aint his..... i am sorry to say that, as much as killing her would be wrong, i would certainly "understand" such man losing his mind, and his actions.

Mamatee07:
Consequences right, when everyone starts giving out consequences how many Nigerian men will be left alive Including the hypocrite husband who impregnated another woman while married

yes thats the sad reality, her death is the consequences of her doing something that was WRONG (maybe not in your eyes, but certainly in his), thus making this mad man react the way he saw befitting. the sad part in all this is that, cheating is not even relevant, as she could have just raised her hand/voice at him, and this mad man would have reacted the same way.

schumastic:
it's a man's world that's why, though is bad but that is just the painful truth

as much as you are entitled to your opinion, only a very simple person would agree to your explanation.. but hey, i believe that its because people still reason the way you do that women would try to prove you wrong, and gladly cheat.

schumastic:
sorry but that of the men is understandable

pls care to tell us why/where/what/how it is so? or why it would be understandable for men but not for women?!

fem29:
Ridiculous! Consequences of doing something wrong is death!disgusting train of thought

the consequences of doing something wrong could be ANYTHING... and expecting it to be whatever YOU deem acceptable is a joke. any person reacts differently and people should simply ACT RIGHT, instead of expecting their partners to be cool about cheating (which is wrong, btw). she knew the kind of mad man she was married to, she should have known better than to cheat on a mad man.

Mindfulness:
People do wrong things all the time, yet I see no reason why we should resort to any sort of jungle justice or even start justifying such for that matter - on the contrary - we must always seek to understand and resolve such conflicts in a graceful way or else we will end up slaughtering each other.

If I find out that my partner is cheating, I can resort to violence, which will give me a fleeting feeling of relief but create more trouble or I can take this experience and use it to my advantage.

The faster people learn to own their emotions the better. Anything else is bondage.

yes, you are probably right, but sadly jungle justice is a REAL part of Nigeria that is here to stay.... and people will keep on taking the law into their own hands. is it right? probably not, but thats Nigeria for you where many things aint RIGHT. who are we trying to kid here? go out and see how thieves are killed with a tyres over their heads; how thieving women are humiliated and almost raped; how wives gladly and openly beat up and disgrace the mistress of their husbands etc
THIS IS NIGERIA, stop pretending you dont know how things work, just because it happened to a woman!

bukatyne:
Nobody has the right to revenge via death.
There are consequences of cheating & death (through the spouse) is not one of them.

sadly, everyone has the right to do what they please while facing being wronged, and if that act is against the law then they should be punished for their act. is killing your cheating wife right? hell no, just like cheating on a partner equally isnt. the minute a person does something wrong, it creates a situation where ANYTHING can happen, depending on whoever is at the receiving end... some just walk away and divorce, some get revenge, and others kill. if this is the 1st time you heard about a cheated person killing their partner then "welcome to the real world"... happens very often.

i really dont understand where the shame is.... buying pad, condom etc

how could we ever know that the gal toasted has her period?

deturla:
I like the fact that you highlighted the 'all' in the cost! Have you thought about the fact that as humans that we are, No matter the 'all' in the cost! The sexual activity sometimes tend to deflate our very sense of objectivity!
That's why I'm saying that, if it were a purely platonic relationship, it will be easier for the 'all' to be enforcible!

what you wrote above is the same excuse cheaters use, and sadly i believe that no matter how the r/ship is, your head should keep it within the boundaries set by yourself. so, however you may feel about this person, they are (and must remain) a bootay call/FWB. even if you had a gf/wife and now became single. if you cant even keep a bootay call/FWB as just that, then i am sorry to say that life is just too hard for you, and you are a very weak man.

women cheat for the EXACT same reasons as to why men cheat

bukatyne:
Are you honestly implying that it is 'OK' to kill a cheating wife/spouse?

again, i am simply saying that cheating (which is WRONG) makes many men OR women kill their partner as revenge (which is also WRONG).... therefore anyone cheating should be aware that death could be the outcome, at the hand of their deranged partner.

nobody should expect their partner to be "ok" when they learn about any wrong act, and instead they should accept whatever that deranged person would do as CONSEQUENCES of that wrong action.

@fancyupage
shouldnt you have just said:" WOMEN, instead of cheating i suggest you divorce, as your husband could kill you for it.... since they dont react to cheating as we women do"

as much as his act is wrong, she has a part to take, if indeed she cheated. you cant expect any RIGHT outcome from doing something that is wrong.

nonsense from women finding BS excuse to stay in miserable unions.... even if she didnt have ANY single friend family to go to, living in the streets begging would have been better.

nothing to do with either love nor ffoolishness, and all to do with being a good PARENT.

it all depends on the guidelines and rules that you guys put up for yourselves.... and sticking by them at ALL cost. there is no shame in telling them NO, every time they want to deviate from the rules.

i believe that such r/ship can last forever, so long as both still get that sexual connection, especially if you dont meet as often.

we need to show them the RIGHT pictures

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samr098:
This has always been my fantasy. I've never had a thee some before and my dream may be coming true today. Two girls are visiting today (best friends) and I think I stand a good chance. Wish me luck. Anything I should know?
P.S Please don't ask for the girls identity. I don't kiss and tell and you won't find my pic on my dp. I like my privacy

give each gal the same amount of attention in the bedroom, dont focus your energy on the sexiest/sweetest one.... they both must feel special at all time, and have a good time.

disgusting plastic looking boobs and nose

the important issue here is that Nigeria is INDEED fantastically corrupt, and whoever delivered that message is irrelevant (even if he was MORE corrupt than all Nigerians combined)

so instead of everyone focussing on the messenger, FOCUS ON SOLVING THE RAISED ISSUE!

layla129:
I think you guys are scared of commitment... that's why?

what has any of this got to do with commitment?! to the majority, marriage was NEVER an option, so why should it suddenly now be an issue?
they both commit to raise//care/provide for that child together, while being unmarried, thats the only commitment required here. why should they even get married if they never wanted/planned to do so?! marrying such person isnt commitment, thats PUNISHMENT!!!

marvel323:
i never said its illegal to hav an offshore account and i cant also rmber saying ts wrong for anyone to speak against corruption,bt its unfortunate dis statement was credited to the person of david cameron.asides d offshore saga,he is a suposd world leader.
His father operated an offshore acct in a low tax jurisdiction(tax haven),which he(david cameron) also benefited from and mind u,mr cameron has bn against tax-reduction scheme in his own country,wat sort of double standard s dat.n as far as corruptn s concern,t glarin 2 d blind and audible 2 d deaf dat nig.of 2day s beta dan dat of yesterday..les i forget i think u should b more clear-headed next tym b4 u jump on my mention.

if you know that it aint illegal to have an offshore account then benefitting from one is irrelevant here, unless it is stolen undeclared funds, and therefore, you shouldnt have mentioned it (unless you believe he did something wrong).

Cameron must follow his PARTY's views and he cant decide (on his own) to change laws as he wishes. he is only the leader of a political party who decide, as a group, what he should or shouldnt do regarding laws etc. so dont mix and misunderstand what's good for THE COUNTRY, with how people with money LEGALLY avoid paying taxes.

just because Nigeria today is better, doesnt change the fact that its leader are fantastically corrupt.... and maybe if they werent corrupt, Nigerians today wouldnt suffer the way they do and the country would instead be GREAT.

if you dont see/blame corruption as the SOLE reason why Nigerians are suffering today then, you are OYO

NLjona:
abeg can someone explain to me why we the cute and handsome guys always get admired by ugly girls ... i mean it's frustrating!!!.. instead the girls you like will be scared to date you. who else is experiencing this? please share your story.

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paschal1995:
asked myself dx exact question..d f'ed up thing is d courage dey have to keep eye contact wen u mistakenly see dem looking..quite embarrassing...y can't cute girls have dt courage.. :'

bros, so you expect the fiiiiine and sexy babes to throw themselves at you, like them ugly ones? why should they, they get attention by the boatload from fine guys everywhere and they can pick and choose which one they want. the ugly ones dont have that luxury so they have to take chances.

marvel323:
his father was named in d panama saga which he agreed he hs bn benefitin from,yet he has d guts to tel us who we ar as a nation..Who we were yesterday canot define who we ar 2day.n d truth is:ts wen u dont know who u ar dat odas tel u who u ar not...

educate yourself on the panama paper or offshore accounts to understand that just because you have money in any of these tax heaven , doesnt mean you are doing anything illegal. the stoopid people are the ones who still have their money stashed in their local bank, while being taxed every year on that same money. go see your accountant, and tell him to explain to you why it is WISER for everyone to have an offshore account.... and its very much legal.

furthermore, "even" if he was the biggest thief on earth, should that discredit him to say the OBVIOUS?! he would actually be even MORE crazy if he'd said that Nigeria wasnt corrupt..

Haryohdeji:
Nice quote but I don't totally agree with ur last point saying"Nobody can predict the future"... You have to shed more Light on that....because it have some certain things we can predict about the future

what i simply meant by that is we (men AND women) cannot predict whether we are going to die young or not, because anyone (men AND women) could be the healthiest/luckiest/richest and still get hit by a car and die as we step outside tomorrow.

Ezegozie:
Seriously, you really have a questionable character.
A view at your profile will leave one speechless because it's full of contradiction and one wonders What your state Of reasoning is like.
Nairalanders be wary of this guy

even a blind person can see that he/she is a lying scamming fraudster.... creating contradicting stories whenever his/her minds is in need of attention. he/she quickly deleted that deluded post but sadly for this criminal, i had already quoted her nonsense post.
such lowlife arent worthy of a reply

ronald4lif:
Nah. I'd rather be forever single or consider adoption than consciously leap on the baby mama drama.
Like many divorced women, most baby mamas are vicious, resentful and will use these kids to manipulate and leech a man's finances. And the moment you're deviant and refuse to be played they will improvise means to use your kids in frustrating the man's life. Can't deal biko.

bro, its all about the kind of r/ship you have with these women, and how you guys have to be mature and better/stronger to raise these kids together (rather than against one another). i could never marry any of my babymamas because marriage was NEVER the aim.

ronald4lif:
The number of people who are embracing these baby mama and daddy package is on the increase. Some women, just like men, prefer to have a baby without a fatherly/husband figure in their lives. That's also responsible for the boom in the IVF industry. Baby mama is here to stay.

the important question is, taking religion aside, WHY EVEN GET MARRIED?! why would someone intelligent knowingly get into such bondage? a marriage contract aint beneficial to us men.

BioTeck:
No, not that fast...i'll see to it that i have incontrovertible evidence before that. this evening, i just installed a stealth spy app on her phone...i'll listen to every of her phone calls and read every message that comes in.

beware of what you wish for, you may unearth stuff that you may not be able to handle....

BioTeck:
My next birthday indeed...are you a brother to Ali Baba or Basketmouth? Your comedy is what I call 'comedy factorial'
I have asked her severally why she changed, why she now walks away when her phone rings...i have asked here so many questions but she takes to instant self defense...this is why i decided to find out.

that was to show you that it could be anything.... so you mean you have never gotten a reply to the above in bold? if that is indeed the case then why do you still wanna be married to this woman who turned into a stranger. quicky divorce due to irreconcilable differences, et voila!

kodded:
have you ever seen a high tension wire with rubber before ?

i am looking at one right now, and can even touch it....

ronald4lif:
More men needs kids than they need a wife. And if one can have kids without any nuptial commitment to their (kids) mum their life problems have been solved by half. For the most part, their freedom remains unscathed.

There are many married people who are still together just for the kids sake and not coz they are contended with the union. Also, there are some people whose primordial reason for ever wanting to get married is coz they want kids. These set of people should better adopt the baby mama and daddy option and rightly so.

Anyone who wants kids without marriage should be free to do so provided the other partner gives their consent.

ALLELUJAH my brotha!!! many forget that there are many babymamas in the bible, and it was all good.... ask king Solomon