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the real people you shouldnt forget are:
1) people who helped you in your difficult times
2) people who left you during your difficult times
3) people who put you in difficult times

@OP
pls show us an example of the type of panties you are talking about here?

the lady is possibly looking for a way out. she doesnt believe in you any longer or maybe is desperate for marriage.

deltalife:
Didn't really date or do I say I went direct from the first day and made her know I wanted marriage and I was so serious.

may i ask:" why you did that?" i dont understand why you couldnt wait to discover who she was, and what she was about, before making such a move? now you are sorry for yourself because she is solely focussing on what you offered and brought to the table (in order to entice her). marriage is the only thing that she had in mind from the get go, and you fully well knew it.... so what you wrote made no damn sense!

@Steeze
you did what you could at the time with the tools that you had, in order to try to make this situation "seem" right. you shouldnt blame yourself too much on that, and instead focus on whats important here: getting back in your child's life THE RIGHT WAY. dont let anyone anymore dictate what you should (or not) do with what you desire/require for your life.

babyosisi:
Honey it doesn't work that way
I know someone that refused to put the man on the birth certificate after he abandoned her and the courts couldn't do a thing about it

a simple DNA test would solve that....it will take time and money but the issue would be solved eventually.... and guess what? the only loser in such act would be the CHILD. if a mother is foolish enough and wants to make life harder for a father to meet his child (out of spite) then so be it but the father shouldnt lose hope or dance to their tune for that reason.

@OP
this child is your SON whether you contributed to anything in his life or not. you have the RIGHT to demand to see him, although i am not too sure if some deluded in laws would stop you from having such a contact. if you are not a threat to the child's life and wellbeing then there shouldnt be any issue. remember, do NOT accept any blackmail that they may ask of you, in order for you to see your son. if you are broke (and there is nothing wrong with that) then you cant provide for the child, and thats what you have to say. tell them that you will provide for him as soon (and as much) as you possibly can, when you get on your feet. DO NOT GO BACK TO THAT JOB, no matter how they want to package it.

to be a proper father for this child, you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and believe in whom you see in the mirror. you tried your best to make this insane situation work, and you fail. let this be a great lesson for you.

as for your ex, you should be nice to her, but certainly forget about having a r/ship with her until you BOTH grow up, but you should be nice to her .... as for the MIL, the next time she remotely talk to you in a demeaning way, give her the best tongue lashing of her life by telling her your
mind.

zinachidi:
exactly my point, they just sticking to the fact that tattooes are not for responsible people. Damn

lol, then you have to accept that everything you will tell them wont change anything, as they have nothing to bring to the table, than their own views and beliefs (without any facts to back that up)

zinachidi:
thanks bro, though i wish u were to point this out. They say tattoo is a mark of slavery, and began all these their end time talk, me tire.

well your friends have to stick to the subject at hand........ if they want to argue HOW tattooing started then it is another subject. but so far as tattoo is concerned, everyone has the right to decide if it is nice to look at or not. but the history of tattoos and tribal markings dates back to WAY before slavery days.

the tattoos you see on people today is a copy of what our ancestors and others used to do back in the early days to represent your clan/culture etc

here is a simple question you should ask your friend:"why do you think that a marking on someone's skin defines who they are as a person? are you telling us all that if the best possible person in the world decides to get a tattoo then she is automatically bad from that day forth?"

and the match will be "free" to watch on TV (or via internet).

@OP
pls remind your friend that many african tribes use tattoo on their bodies and this has nothing to do with irresponsibilities. oh and by the way, some of the oldest tattoos known to mankind were discovered on the body of an AFRICAN.

actually the picture is of a child who was beaten or pounced on by another child at nursery while the teacher/carer was not looking.
funny how everyone automatically will lash out on the teacher. shouldnt you FIRST ask your child what happened (and then the teacher)?!

phabulous88:
Something must be wrong with you to think that I'm asking pointless questions. So even if he has all the money in the world, he should keep doling her tonnes pounds? See your reasoning.

Which is more important: to understand his mum's lifestyle, which will inform how much he sends to her; or to keep doling the money cos' he's got it? Think bro, think!

who cares about his mum's lifestyle?! do you seriously think that children should suffer, and possibly have their own children suffering simply because some parents "desire" a lifestyle, and demand that you should be the sole provider for that lifestyle? the OP should send what he can, nothing more nothing less, and therefore, your 1st question should have been to confirm how financially comfortable the OP is...... to send more.

wasnt one of them married anyway?! how could they still live together....

@OP
you've been watching too much family feud... the answer is right there


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-UyazgsH1o

Aroboi:
She is very funny nd she mkes me happy.

thats it?! is that all?! she makes you happy?!
btw she could have written she was a lesbo in order to stop guys from contacting her etc talk to her 1st

@OP
pls can you care to tell us what you love about this damsel that you barely know?

i can already see all the infected people not going to get tested just to not get this tattoo..... imho this wont stop anything, on the contrary, more would not go to get tested for fear of being "branded" like that, and therefore infect others unknowingly.

PureWays:
To men, love is a choice...

Love deals with the mind, so it is a choice.

But to the female folks, Love is what I call "Mind Rape", they don't choose who they love, most of the time, the guy that plays his cards well wins their heart. Ladies ignore their brains and let emotions becloud their reasoning, so to ladies it can be considered as an invasion...

kai, bro give these women some credits..... yes their emotions can take over their whole being but thats only when they have taken the CHOICE to let a man into their lives. just because they love differently doesnt mean they fall in love differently. you cant fall in love with a stranger, you have to first let him into your life/heart etc and thats the choice each and everyone of us make.

Joeself1:
thanks bro...not that they don't romance or caress ,they do it a lot but when it comes to the koko ....nah soo the girl go start to dey give some super story oooo

she want to use her toto as leverage for marriage (toto that he has already sampled, lol)...... you friend should run as fast as he possibly can.

here is what they wrote on her website:
Hello Lagos, Nigeria! We are disappointed to report that we will not be performing at tonight’s concert. From our end, we did everything we were supposed to do, including waiting at the airport for many hours, ready to fly out and share the evening with you. Unfortunately, after much effort, the promoter was not able to get all of our travel arrangements taken care of. This prevented us from being able to fly into Nigeria in time to make the concert. We were all very excited to come, and very disappointed that we couldn’t make this one. HOWEVER, we are working to reschedule our appearance ASAP. From what we’ve been told, the promoter intends to honor all tickets sold. Our best to and for Lagos. Love and Blessings!
Ms. Lauryn Hill and the MLH band and Production Team


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F_0f3_PZtkM

directly from the horse's mouth........ http://www.mslaurynhill.com/

@OP
i think its a choice.... you can have some strong feeling/emotions for someone whether you like it or not, but to love them is much stronger/deeper than that, and you will need to want to discover that person in order to get to know them, and subsequently fall in love with them. that initial emotion is nothing more than an attraction/infatuation, and if you do nothing about it then it will remain just that.

that "love at first sight" thingy is lust because the only thing you know about this person is just physical.

@OP
1) no man should ask or beg for sex, it should come naturally after some heavy smooching, caressing etc.
2) if she is turned off by sex right now, then she will be turned off by sex after marriage too UNLESS she is doing this to blackmail this man to marry her. here is the question he should ask her:"what is marriage gonna change about it all?"
3) this man should simply tell this lady how much sex is important to HIM and their relationship. if she continues to stick to her BS, and that man cannot continue in such manner, then dropping her is the only way out......... and marriage should be avoided at all cost!

PunkyOh:
Date someone in your class next time, if you expect to go Dutch with a woman. Leave poor & broke women to their counterparts.

lol, did anything i wrote offended you?! dont worry, there is no shame in being broke...... sadly, you are wrong about one thing: this has nothing to do with class. a rich man can approach a poor girl (and vice versa) and offer her just dikc, and rightfully, thats only what she should expect from this man (if thats only what he is offering). now, some clueless women out there would have men believe that the minute pussssy is involved, then there should ALWAYS be more than just dikc, and thats where all you and these women are wrong. no matter how rich a man is, pusssy would remain pussssy AND a hoe will remain a hoe. only a damn fool would try to turn a hoe into a housewife (or even a GF).

so, we come back to exactly what i wrote before: if a woman brings only pusssy to the table, then she should expect NOTHING more than dikc........ and class has nothing to do with it.

as for going dutch, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that, if a woman has financial issues then she MUST resolve them before remotely thinking of dating. expecting a free meal every time some men want to mount you is called "being a hoe" (and you should therefore read what i wrote above about hoes)

this lady is beautiful whether with money or not, its just sad that her mind is fukced up and she had to settle for her grandpa. the man is so short, i feel a bit sorry for her.

oh well, to each their own!

the fact that you believe that God is the only person that has the answer is an insult to the gazillions of people that dont believe in God.
the answer is within any person's heart to discover what is the meaning of life.

same should go for the poor and broke SA women, they deserve no dikc if they cannot bring anything more than pussssy to the table.

justmag:
This is exactly what I am trying to get people to understand. People apperently get offended if they hear this from the opposite sex, i dont understand why anyone be insulted by this except u expect to b d right one for everyone. ...

well said!!! look how so many are ready to insult and/or punish the gal, as if speaking your mind is now against "their" law of life.

eduj:
if he was put away for life wud heaven break lose?

what has that got to do with anything....the law is THE LAW, as simple as that. this will deter other foolish people for trying to go into this business IN INDONESIA.

if drug peddlers er put to death tell me y corrupt govt officials shouldnt be put to death?

each and every country has the right to decide what crime should be punishable by death, or not. who are YOU to decide for them. these are THEIR laws. you can either accept these laws and dont do these crimes OR go somewhere else to do these crimes OR stand by the laws of their lands and face the punishment if you decide to break these laws. your choice!

i have read ur post en can deduce u probably fornicate na because u no d iraq where isis go stone u to death make u the post trash abi.

fornication is NOT against the laws here where i live therefore i dont care less what the laws in Iraq may be. now, if i was in Iraq fornicating then i would accept that i would be breaking the law, and therefore could be punished for my actions. expecting to break the laws of a country and not wanting to accept your fate, simply because it may be legal somewhere else, is simply stoopid.

@OP
what else there is to answer but "ok"? it is indeed possible that you are not this gal's type, so you accept defeat, just say thank you and move to the next gal. whats the big deal? or do people expect a positive answer to every single gal they ask out??!

some people here are clearly not understanding the issue here...... it doesnt matter if we have done something wrong in the past and got away with it, the LAW stays the same. so if you go to China, abide by the China laws or face the punishment, same with any other country you go to.

Now, if your actions are legal in one country but illegal in another then STICK TO THE LAWS OF THE COUNTRY WHERE YOU FIND YOURSELF (or face their punishment). et voila!

kingthreat:
Judge not so ye may not be judged. That's all i have got to say to you.

stop this religious nonsense....... if that was the case then we should not have laws, court or even judges in this world, and instead we should use bible to rule this world. BWAAAAAAH HIGHLY LAUGHABLE!