₦airaland Forum

eduj:
no one is defending evil just saying that the punishment is unfair .
yes he was a drug dealer but if the demand wasnt their am sure he wouldn't have gone their.they should also kill those using drugs.
besides this is just govt hypocrisy . indonesia is one of the most corrupt countries on Gods green earth as of 2011 the lost over $200 million yet the dont execute corrupt politicians who are causing more harm to their country.

well i guess we should now defend people who are kidnapping and killing children in Nigeria for rituals, since there is a demand for it, right?
btw: is corruption a crime punishable by death in Indonesia?

kingthreat:
Lets face it. i am not exonerating crime. But drug trafficking is a crime that many people have fallen to due to frustration. You cannot compare it to armed robbery.The latter involves direct murder while drug trafficking is promoting an addiction that MAY to death Of the user.

both are crime that ends up with DEATH......whether you do the killing yourself or sell the poison that will kill others, it is the same thing.

Many people who indulge are unaware of its dangers.

come on bro, dont make these people look innocent, any person with a brain knows that if someone asks you to carry a package to a foreign country, in return for a lot of money, then it is probably drugs (or worse). stop trying to paint these criminals as innocent people, and rather look at them for who/what they truly are: greedy impatient foolish people who thought they could cut corner and get riches fast, instead of doing it like the gazillions out there.

Okwudili made a mistake based on the choices he had and took a easy path based on greed. 50% of people make such choices too. Having to pay with his life is unfortunate. This was in 1998, when he was in his early 20s with a lot of youthful exuberance.

so now being young should excuse your stoopid actions? i know gazillions of young people out there who choose the right (slower) path. it is an insult to all the people who are doing it the hardway to making it look like these criminals didnt have a choice. we ALL have a choice, but some people are not willing to do whats right. why should they pay for their actions? they MUST, however hard the punishment may be.

Trying to claim self-righteousness over this is very unfair. We all make mistakes at some points in life. No one is infallible.

yes we all do make mistakes, and we should ALL accept the consequences of our mistakes. death is the direct consequence of their actions, why do you even try to defend them?! i will never feel a bit sorry for criminals who are knowingly and selfishly killing millions in order to enrich themselves. just because we are all sinners doesnt mean we have to defend these people. whats next?!

as far as i am concern, may they all rot in hell.

kingthreat:
This story makes me think about life. Some are lucky and some pay the price with their lives at their first mistakes.
Many drug mules have had successful trips and never been caught even once, while Okwudili on his first trip got sentenced to death.

what you wrote is the reason why so many people are foolishly doing crime.....NONSENSE! all what you wrote above is wrong, and we should view it as what it is, instead of believing that because a few did succeed, it should be ok. maybe we should also look at armed roobers who kill innocent people to rob them and view it positively as well?!

Reminds me of the story of a guy that had HIV on his first only sex, while you hear of other guys with reckless sex lives and multiple partners without a single STD. This life ehn.

well then maybe that dumbass who had unprotected sex should have done what is RIGHT, instead of doing the wrong things expecting a positive outcome, just because a few were LUCKY in the past.

6 days work per week?! bwaaaaah, and when do you intend to enjoy life if you work that much?! you should have written:6hrs work per day

Denko2721987:
i must commend ur efforts for elaborating. I was just assuming a neutral position on the issue so i can have a broader view on the opinions of men and women on this subject. I fully concure with ur assessments but i felt it seems like men were taking advantage of the position of women in relationships becos they assume woman are culturally subjected not to seek such virtues that men always crave for in women. In other words, MOST men (not all) feel they have the impunity of having as many women as they wish and still expect the same majority of women they've had canal knowledge with in the past to still be chaste.. A case of eating ur cake and having it back..

you are making it sound like men take advantage of women, while women are here NOT doing the same, lol! we ALL are using one another to feel better about ourselves. most women out there are using what they have between their legs to control and even sometimes defraud men on a daily, and its viewed as "ok".

its called life, and at the end it balances out, although what we both do aint the same. i fully understand that you would like EQUALITY between men and women, and you have all the rights to feel that way, but please, do remind the majority of women that this means they will have to pay for their own meals when we do go out, get their own recharge card, buy their own hair/phones/ride when we dating, and finally pay equally for the wellbeing of the family when we get married (mortgage, car, food, kids, bills etc).

nobody needs any research to understand that people in poorer country will fend for themselves and create an income, compared with people in richer countries who will simply look for a job to survive.

Tomibyte:
Most guys are funny sha, what is he going to do when she later finds out.

most guys dont care because they would have probably chop and clean mouth by then. what other reason (but to impress some very gullible golddigging woman) could there be?

Blackfire:
All u slappers and abusive commentators, i said this expo is for 'innocent girls looking for true love' to avoid guys who upgrade there low self esteem with borrow pose. Check my post again slowly

a woman looking for "true love" wouldnt focus on such petty BS. a smart man would just tell her:" i lied because i wanted you to be comfortable when we go out, and was ashamed because the ride wasnt mine" et voila, case closed.

is that not her mother? where is the big deal?

my understanding is that you cant any longer and have to do it via transfers (PS3)

its funny how so many people expected to see some big muscular guy lol! as for me, i'd rather have a skinny guy with an ak47 than some big guy that can be floored with a punch. anyone would think twice before approaching that guy in the pic (or his client).

mrsmith11:
Thanks
I don't think I can afford to increase it because I don't know if I can maintain it.I also have children(a daughter n a 8months old baby)
I have sisters who send her money from time to time as well
The reason for this post is what happen on good friday(easter friday)

My mum called at about 8am here which I think will be 7am in nigeria at that time.......she started by saying that I don't even care for her,she is suffering ,she doesn't even have money for hospital then wot got my attention is that she started crying on the fone that I have abandon her, that suffered to raise me and now I don't care for her and so other things she said I can't remember

I have been thinking about it. I just have a mix feeling about the whole thing

if you cannot afford it then thats what you have to tell her, sadly what she is saying is very inconsiderate. yes this is your mother but you certainly have to sit her down someday and let her understand that she is ungrateful as life aint a bed of rose (or children are not a bank). it is NOT your fault if your parents end up broke and your mother should stop blackmail you and let you live your own life. i know its not easy but sometimes you have to let go.

call your siblings, make up a plan as to how much each and everyone can afford to send every month to help your mother, and stick to it.

@OP
you shouldnt have stopped there:
- Goodluck Ebele Azikiwe Jonathan: his name has 28 letters so i guess he should have been re-elected lol

Denko2721987:
I have woken up to so many trends in my life that simply just came out of the blue. Be it social, religious, cultural and what have we, with some positive, some funny, some bizarre and some just utterly outrageous and ridiculous.

One of such current trends i am observing is the common habit among men of nowadays asking women whom they are currently in a relationship with or trying to date - 'How many men they have dated or slept with in the past'.

So depending on your perspective of this question, my first question is - What moral justification do men whom are mostly promiscuous in nature and whom have most probably lost count of the number of cherries they have popped in their lifetime have to ask such a question in the first place? Or e they commandment say na only men deserve good things for this life?

My second question is - If we were to just ignore the intensity of such virulent question and bring ourselves to the same mental level of the man asking such a question, then how many men should we consider appropriate or acceptable for a woman to have dated in her past before she is deemed righteous enough for marriage?

My third question is? How relevant or irrelevant is such a question in the first place?

[EACH QUESTION CARRIES 50 MARKS]

bro, dating is not a do or die affair therefore men (and women) have the right to decide what is important to them in a partner. who are we to decide what "should" be important for others? so long as each and everyone is happy with the characteristics of their partner then so be it. my perspective on the question about a woman's past is that such question makes a lot of sense because the answer will give you a clear picture about the type of person you are dealing with. someone who never dated nor had previous bf would be easy to handle because she would have NO experience with men (some people seek for these clueless women), while a lady who has had a "lot" of men passing through her legs life would be a pro in the dating game (and therefore harder to fool or take advantage of)

on with your questions,
#1: first of all, i suggest you stop putting all men in the same bag by assuming that all have had countless partners in their lives. Second, whether a man has had a few partners in his life or not has nothing to do with finding someone right in his life. if a man decides that he doesnt want to meet women that have had a lot of ex partners then that is his right (whether he has 0 or 100 exes).

the fact that you believe that a person that has had a few exes is in no position to seek someone who has never dated, is your first mistake in this issue. if all the women i dated had too many exes, and all these r/ships crashed, then why should i NOT seek to solve the problem by looking for someone who has never dated?!

#2: everyone is different or have different goals in life/marriage, therefore there is no proper answer to that question. some people would say that 1 ex is too many while others would say that from 15 and up is too much.... and they would both be right (to themselves). again, each and everyone has the right AND obligation to decide what is best FOR THEM. who are we to decide what is best for Paul or Tunde etc? let Paul or Tunde decide the type of women they are willing to accept in their lives, and let them live with the consequences of their choices. that is your second mistake here.

#3: VERY relevant to whoever is asking the question. why would they ask the question if it wasnt relevant to them?

^^^^^ its sad that Nigeria dont use it as often as they should.

this lady is the type that dont know/understand love and affection, and therefore can only believe people care for them when they do some insane shiit like beat the crap out of them. its only when they are dead (due to that same beating) that they realise that it was NOT love.

also many women (and men) out there are into sadomasochistic and bondage lifestyle, and they REQUIRE to be physically and emotionally hurt in order to be satisfied. these type of people are found all over the world, not just in 9ja.

to each their own!

amsoslim:
It use to be so cute and romantic when you cover your girls eyes from behind but nowadays if you just try it,you will clean her eyebrow,her eyeshadow,her eyeliner and even comot eyelashes join.

dont forget "foundation" as well on their faces will be removed....and you will need a trip to the bathroom to clean your hand of all this mess.

IMHO crushing is when your affection/attraction for that person is only physical attraction, loving is when your affection/attraction is physical+emotional.

you "mostly" crush on someone you dont really know, and you "mostly" love someone because of what you know about them.

phabulous88:
How old is she? Does she work? Does she live in the village or in a city? Does she live alone or with relatives? Answer these questions and you'll have enough information to make a right decision.

before asking all these pointless question, you have to ask the poster if he can manage to send more than what he is currently sending. i mean, that is about 150€, while some people dont even save that much every month after paying rent, food and transport.

so the important question to ask this OP is: can you afford to send her more? and if he can then "why should you care how much strangers on NL send their parents?"

is that nipple rings i see?! nice!

@OP
what reaction did you expect from Nigeria or any other countries where the other criminals came from?
they got what the law said they deserved

how can you ra.pe someone to death?! NONSENSE!!!!! she was either ra.ped and then killed, or she had a bad reaction to the drug they put in her drink and her heart stopped.

this is one of the reason why abortion should be legal in Nigeria, too many fukced up people...... 18yr old mother of 2 young children who "knowingly" sold her 3rd child to some stranger. at this point she has 2 options: get her tube tied OR her head fixed.

ConfessionsNgr:
So it happened that my father died about two months ago, leaving three wives and thirteen children which I happen to be the first born. He was a very wealthy man, and we were each expecting meaningful share by the time the will was going to be read. In the will, he said everything he owns should be sold, and then ten percent of the whole money should be shared equally between the sixteen of us, and his four younger siblings. The total value of his assets is approximated 500 million. Yes, FIVE HUNDRED MILLION Naira. Ten percent of that is 50 million, and divided equally between 20 people means 2.5 million each for us. This is ridiculous because just last year, one of my step sisters spent almost 5 million on her birthday alone. The most annoying thing is that when we asked where the remaining 450 million should go, the will said to the church and charity. How can a man be that heartless? And his lawyer is a strict man who won't compromise. We have plans to contest this will or if possible write one that will be favourable. Any ideas on what should be done? What would make a man to be so wicked to his family?
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/68/my-fathers-will
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lol, see how suddenly church is meaningful to them, yet i am sure they are the 1st in church on sundays?! HYPOCRITES!!!!
if that is their late father's wishes then so be it, HE worked for this money, thats his and he can do what he pleases with it. if 2,5Milla (free) is not enough for them then let them go work for this money and see how they manage. nonsense!

if you are too proud and decide to conceal your identity then you have no problem in this world. NOBODY will give out money to possible fraudsters who claim they have been on NL for a while. if you are truly in need (and there is nothing wrong with that) then use you REAL id so people who have seen/read you here in the past can possibly relate to you and help.

dont take NLers for foolish people

BTW: giving you money wont solve your problem (far from it), helping your husband finding a JOB will!

why didnt she killed her sister too?! foolish woman!

when elephant easily balance on one leg, there is nothing special about this photo


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WTumRexWDs

MrsChima:
MRBrownJ

There won't be any blame because we don't trip off petty things...Thank God!

All my husband and I want to know are we going to be subjected to any life and death situations/experiences....if not we are good!

I also am into trust and honesty as wel lol as minding my business to things that does not affect me or knew me.

and thats good for you, but you must agree that if a man wants to "trip" over petty things like past abortions, then he has all the rights to do so.
trust and honesty is not about minding your own business, it is about fully disclosing yourself to your partner, and telling him about past matters that may be a problem to him.

Gambia and Jamaica (and now Kenya) has been known for years as a sex tourism destination for British/Scandinavian women. French women prefer Guadeloupe/Martinique or Senegal, in order to meet young bulls on the beach to service them. sadly many get hooked and decided to bring the young man back home with them or they move there.

thats Chinese goods for you..... poor quality, unreliable and expensive (if you have to buy earphones every months then you might as well buy the original quality ones).

MrsChima:
First of all, I don't have no future husband but a current husband.

Because I am not petty and unrealistic....I don't go asking him nor expect him to tell me everything that he has done in the past that does not affect me. It is none of my business and vice versa.

Thirdly, you will only disclose what you are not a shame of nor care about. LET'S KEEP IT REAL.

noted, but you have only yourself to blame when he finds out about anything you did that he is against and divorce you because you hid that from him. remember, whats good for the goose..............

If my husband sit his ass around and tell me he ate shit and drunk piss as a child ....that's on him! Why do I have to disclose a tit for tat simply because he shared something embarrassing? That is not making no damn sense! I don't have to disclose anything that doesn't affect him period.
Just because someone tell you something personal about their past is not a requirement to disclose something personal about your past that doesn't affect you.

i guess we are different, i believe in trust and honesty, care and understanding....... therefore if someone i was about to marry tell me they are against something i did in the past, it is my DUTY to tell them that i have done it so that we dont waste time lying and pretending to be who we are not. let me guess: you would have advise the lady of the OP to lie to him if he asked her if she ever had an abortion, right?