₦airaland Forum

dannyrhymes600:
she just couldn't take what she serves me everyday

Mariangeles:
It made you feel good right? That's giving for selfish sense of importance!

Mariangeles:
You can't ask your fellow human for help even when you're "dying", but you can " conveniently" give out your last dime; what do you call that if not pride?
There's a term for people who love to "save" others, but hate to be "saved", I just don't know it yet.
They expect you to eat their food, but can't eat yours.
They love to be the saviour of others because it makes them feel good about themselves. What do you call that?
If you can't ask me for help, don't help me!

HakimZiyech:
I wish I nvr met her. Wish I nvr told her I love her.

I'll call her later in the day and tell the whole truth.

chatinent:
Hello fam,

At one point or the other, we have been broke. Do share what it was like and how you overcame it. Share the challenge too.


Mine: To cut it short, mine was a day I'll never forget. A bank rubbbished me by blocking my account and giving me procedures plus I was in a new location.


That very day made me realize that food is the only necessity in life. Hungered for three whole days! Was literally shaking like a drunken master. All my legs felt numb. I began remembering the good old days I ate good food.



I nearly licked toothpaste.


I broke a vow to never beg that day.


#Hungerbad.

BlueAir:
so intelligent woman dey nairaland?

MrFlavvor:
So yesterday I saw a thread where the OP asked if guys actually get raped in Nigeria and I saw a lot of foolish and ignorant comments about guys wanting to be raped. It made me realize that few people actually take such matters seriouslly in our society today. So I decided to share my story of how in my early years I was victimized by two different ladies older than me at the time.

It started when I was six years old and my parents had just gotten a new house help who came from the city of Calabar. At first when it started it was just a little too much attention paid to my private areas when she was giving me baths. At that age I didn't know what she was doing was wrong but it gradually progressed to her getting naked with me when it was time to have my bath and getting into the tub with me. My parents were both active in the civil service then and were always off to work sometimes as early as six leaving my welfare to her to take care of. One day when my parents were out of town on business and it was just me,my little sister and her she called me into her room, undressed me and asked me to lie down on her bed. She then proceeded to violate me in the vilest of manners in a way that left me feeling dirty even though I couldn't understand why. She then threatened me not to tell my parents and said that this was going to be our new "play" from then on. It continued for a month or so until one day my mom was weaving my kid sisters hair in the dining room and I was playing on the floor. My mom then called her to run an errand for her. While my mom was talking to her, I slipped under her skirt and started fiddling with her privates as she had taught me to do during our "plays". The funny thing was she just stood still allowing me do so in the presence of my horrified mum who threw a comb at my head and proceeded to call for my father. I don't know how the situation was exactly handled but I know that the next day she left our house and I never saw her again.

Fast forward to 5years later. This newly-wed couple moves into our area. The day they moved in I assisted them in helping unload their belongings and ever since that day they became family friends. Now the husband worked on an oil rig in Delta state while we live in Bayelsa so he was only ever home for two weeks out of four in a month. He was a very friendly guy and a kid at heart who loved cartoons and always invited me over to watch a few. One particular month he left and his wife was over at our house and I told my parents I wanted to watch cartoons at their place which mom allowed. I was there till evening but when it was time to go home I started crying about how I didn't want to go home and Aunty said that since it was the holiday period I could sleep over at their place and she'd send me back home in the morning so my mom agreed. I had a field day watching cartoons uninterrupted and eating and by nine I went into her bed room to sleep. I was woken up in the middle of the night by the feeling of something on my body which I discovered to be her hands. She told me I should be quiet and everything was alright but I noticed that she was naked save for a white underwear. She then took my hands and placed them on her breasts and somewhere further south. She used me through the night until she was sated and cuddled me to sleep. The next day she sent me home to my parents who till this day are ignorant of the whole affair. It happened more often through the next year until they moved out of our area. Till this day she and her husband still visit us from time to time with the set of twins they recently had.

These two incidences have shaped my life in ways you can't even begin to think. I became more sexually active over the years as I grew up and I got to enjoy sex but till this day those experiences haunt me. I also found out as I grew up that I have this perverted lust for women at least twenty years older than me and it has led to dalliances with peoples wives and even some of my friends moms who came on to me. I have tried as much as I can to stop but it keeps getting worse. I'm about to attempt therapy for it to see if it helps.

My purpose of sharing this is to let people know that such things do happen and it is important to create awareness about it because it does irrepressible damage to the minds of young children. II don't know if maybe I had spoken up earlier my life would have been different and everytime I see that lady who repeatedly molested me I can't even be able to explain how I feel. My advice to parents out there is to be extremely vigilant over your kids male or female and don't just put trust in people you barely know. I will stop here but feel free to share your experiences below................

HakimZiyech:
She's not an homewrecker. She is my first love. Circumstances made us not to marry.

Please don't condem/insult her personality; you don't know her.

HakimZiyech:
If only you knew what went wrong...if only...

chikago1:
Thanks for your kind words. I am winning my fight against suicidal thoughts one step at a time.

YoungGeniuz:
It helps me alot

dannyrhymes600:
reminds me of my babe back then, babe farts as if her life depends on it, I told her I wasn't comfortable with if but she doesn't give a shit. one day I went to sabbo to greet an old friend of mine, dude gave me fura de nu nu ( the hausa people will understand), suya and yogurt, later in the evening we ate moi moi and drank kunun geda, I told him "Dan kese mata na de tusa yau" ( I'll kill my girlfriend with mess today ). I got home after 7pm, she came to greet me not long after I arrived,my stomach started rumbling, I said to myself this girl will die today, I dropped the first bullet, she started complaining that rat have died in my room, I smiled and said yes it's true, few minutes after the first bullet, I dropped another one, she said it's like rotten eggs are in my room oh, all this while she was on her phone chatting, when I dropped the third one she couldn't control herself again and asked what was happening, I told her I am the one farting since, things escalated quickly and she started threatening me with break up, me wey I no nice, during the argument I moved close to her as if I wanted to hug her, I dropped another bomb shell, she pushed me out of the way, went home and refused to talk to me for a week.


south south region
(drops mic)

TheCork:


Sir, wot do u do if u fart by mistake in front of fine babe;

A. Delete her nomba & forget about her?

B. Pretend it wasn't u & accuse a next man?

C. Frown yor face like a boss so she dont question yor autority?

D. Juss walk away & tell her u quit!!!

Please advice!

Jodha:
If i don't fart on his face...wetin i gain?

donbachi:
dem no dey fart....na weapons of mass destruction na em dem dey release.....some mess dey stick for curtains for 5 days.

somehow:
Please guys should nominate 5 names here that need this help the most.

I don't have much and I know it's small but will send each of them 3k today.

Abeg make una nominate who una feel say need am the most with genuine story.

I Sabi wetin hunger look like in person

If I see am for street, I go recognize am.

chikago1:
I've been broke for the past one year, such that I even contemplated suicide thankfully, I never went through with it ( who knows, I might become the next Dangote in the future, so killing myself won't make sense) . Funny thing is that I could use my work to extort as much as I can but I thank God and my parents for instilling discipline and patience in me. I know there's light ahead.

YoungGeniuz:
To think I'm still in school when ASUU is yet to call off strike coupled with my state of brokeness chaii. What doesn't kill me will make me stronger. Garri will remain a blessing to me. Thank God for the game of chess. It has really kept me going through this period just to while away time and hope for a better tomorrow. Being broke I feel will make me never take little things for granted. There's light at the end of the tunnel. God dey. Airtel thank you for free opera mini..

Effulgent:
the day I drank garri inside a cup laced with an antiseptic soap.

I never knew such was inside the cup, but I don already pour garri and na my last cup of garri be that... oboy I just drink am like that ni o

the kind wayo wey my throat do me that day hen

Humblesam:
Menh I can't forget that fateful day I had only 50 naira in my entire life and was going to Festac town from Ijesha for an appointment.
I used 30 naira for t/fare hoping I'll be back with good news but the result is a story for another day.
I trekked in the hot sun of Lagos from Festac town down to Ijesha with my mind already spending the last 20 naira on garri,groundnut and probably sugar when I get home after the long trekking but something strange happened.
When I got to Ijesha bus stop,getting ready for the final trekking to my street which is like five kilometers from the bus stop, I saw this blind man with his daughter begging, and when I looked at d man, he looked straight to my eye and was begging for something from me.
Initially when I saw that blind man, I felt very grateful that I was a lucky guy,I felt pity and decided to move on with my 20 naira, I would av given him something but it was the last one on me.
Do you know that I ve to trek back from my street after successfully getting to my house to the bus stop just to give that same 20 naira to that blind man? Because my conscience would not let me rest from that moment I set my eye on the blind man...it was telling me, "you can do better by giving that 20naira to the blind man", I thought it was a joke until I submitted.
After that I saw myself crying unconsciously, trekking back home weak,hungry and without hope, but that's not the end of my story.

The following, someone I d never believed will help me, came to my house and took me to his place of work.... Same day, I was interviewed, same day I got my appointment letter,next day...
I started working in that company and the rest is history.

BadRadio:
I am considering PrinceAli619, but I am open to suggestions

The reason I came up with PrinceAli619 is because of my handsomeness... I look terribly fine. Though I dont have that much gold and blingz like the real Prince Ali !


Thanks guys.

ugochukwun:
Maybe you’re a witch and you don’t even know it
Or you don’t have an elder brother who would tame you by beating Christ into your head

Or no guy has really flogged your destiny with a good gbola

Or being rude is your destiny

People like you nah e dey kill their boyfriends over stupid issues

Only my love fit help you
You need someone who will comot your teeth every morning
By the time no teeth remain, u go don dey alright

Victoria407:
I have two bad behaviours:
The first one: whenever I wake up in the morning especially when I wake up in a bad mood I just pick someone around the house to fight with... I fight with that person and by the end of the day I always regret it..I remember my cousin that stays with us..I woke up as usual and i remembered something bad she did to me a year ago and I got into a fight with her..the next thing I didn't cook her food with the rest since I an in charge of cooking
the girl just kept her cool...by evening my anger was gone and I started talking to her again..
It can be either my mum,sister, dad or brother..
Once I wake up frowning ...don't just near me...
I wonder if this is a mood swing or devil at work...

Second behavior::
I don't behave ladylike, not like I behave like a boy o ..i manage a poultry with my mum and whenever am working and my mum sent me on errand I don't even get to change, I just zoom off With that dirty working cloth unlike my younger sister who clean up even if she is going the next house..
I remembered my mum sent me fuel one day and I went without bra then I saw a guy staring at my chest,I gave him a bad stare that day..again I remembered going out with my friends and I ordered amala instead , I didn't pity the food at all, I was biting into the hard meat like I was at home...it was when I got up to wash my hands I discovered some people there giving me disgusting looks even , I didn't care anyways but my friends said I was shameless... Whenever I go to parties I tend to eat a lot without caring...my mom would have to caution me... My mom and dad are serious Christians and take no nonsense since am the first born and 21 years ...I had a bf once and when my parents found out ,my dad took belt and my mum turning stick and dealt with me...the next day I took out the anger on the guy and gave him a resounding slap..he broke up with me afterwards...my mom took me to all the pastors cuz of this bf issue .....all this made me view myself as a weirdo and its bothering me...
Someone pls advice...
Thanks

HakimZiyech:
unless you get her number.

HakimZiyech:
I wanna break up with my girl but I don't know how to tell her.

Note: We currently stay in different state and she's expecting me to come to her house this christmas.

Anoth:
Shut up and tell us how many guys you don toast, na only online una dey get confidence

Pancakeey:
Why can’t you compete for your girls attention?
Yes she’s your babe but you should understand even the ugliest of girls have men flocking around them.

If you can’t do so much to show your girl that you value her then you shouldn’t be seen dating.
And I can’t believe you stopped low to date a girl you felt wasn’t cute so guys wouldn’t ask her out??
Like seriously??
Think of your children.

If you’re ugly and your wife is ugly too. Hmmm your children will have you to blame.

Just put extra effort in keeping your babe. You won’t die
Show her you want her everyday.
Girls believe in what they hear. If you can’t tell her what she want to hear. Another guy will do that.

enshi:
I will make this quick .. I am a guy in my late twenties.
I have been seeking for real love. But this happens each time I find one.

I meet pretty ladies and well cultured ladies but its surprising that once I ask them out and we start dating in a short while like say two months men will start flocking around them in a very serious manner with varrying levels of competition. I get tired most times cos I don't like to compete for love. My not being able to compete sends an un serious signal to the girls and they leave with these competitors.

This has been happening for years but the most resent is a girl I met two months ago. I have been observing her and I could say for sure that she was without any bf.

I approached her and we started dating . since then there hasnt been any day she goes out and comes back without having men, when I say men I mean 5 6 or 7 of them toasting her.

Note: this resent babe is not even cute .. I had to cut my standards just to make sure this thing stopped but no way.

I cant razzle for ladies and i can't keep loosing them cos I don't want to compete... Neither should i marry them immediately I meet them..

What can I do

chinenye497:
First impression they say matters a lot. I visited a guy some years back, and when I entered his kitchen, the dirty plates that greeted me has been there for over two weeks.

My God! How disgusting. As if that was not enough, when I entered the bed room, I got the worst shock. The bathroom and toilet happens to be inside the room, men it’s really not something to talk about.

Men always deceive themselves that they are scarce and so women will always be there. True, women will always be there, but the question is will the one you truly like agree to stay with you after seeing how dirty, scattered and disorganised you are?

Click on the link below to continue reading

https://www.youthwinconnect.com/2019/08/19/see-five-kind-of-guys-women-run-away-from/

Vecto:
Have you ever openly expressed your feelings to a guy before?

Anoth:
shut up, how many boys you Don toast?

Martinez39s:
How it is done.