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baralatie:
what if by your ascertion she does not mind

It becomes a win win for both. But no one shoud complain that I used and dumped her. An open relationship is open nomatter whatever guise it assumes. It is more like an open relationship.

Simplyleo:
Ebonyi state gov seems the best in the SE.

I suggest all the 5 states be combined and be placed in his care.

Some states in South east won't start rebuilding what they have already gotten since 8 to 10 years ago or more in order to trend on the Internet. Next time if you want to comment reasonably you do so after a good research. A state owned teaching hospital and mall is massaging your ego. O boy this is 2020 wake up.

I can even pay just to escape this obvious NCDC (Nigeria Centre for Disease Contamination)

If I were your bf I won't have problem with you. I will only have problem when you start questioning me or complaining about my own ex's pics or my communication with her.

NockMedia:
I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

State your reason for this submission.

Ninobraw:
I am a guy of 29 years old and she's 24 years old. She is a nurse and she is working and earning good salary. We have been dating for the past 3 years, ever since she came into my life things have been moving forward. Between the space of three years I was able to buy a land and build two flat (almost completed) and also buy a nice car. All this was possible because she was in my life. She assisted me with the money she accumulated before she met me, (2 million naira) gave it to me to add it to the money I was using to build the house, she has really been the best thing that has happened to me. We both have never cheated on each other, I'm very happy having her in my life. During the period of covid 19 my business was shut down totally she was the one that sustained me Althrough and never complained.

She later resigned from her nursing work and started her own chemist shop, I supported her with 300k she rejected it and asked me to add it to the money for house project. She is making some good money from her store any way.

Now we plan to do our marriage by December and I budgeted more than 1 million naira.
the problem is that she insisted that it is too much that I should not spend more than 500k that's been a problem to us but later settle it. because she won't just listen to me she wants me to spend less than that the reason why I wanted to spend more than 1 million Naira was because she deserves it.

So because of that we adjusted the marriage to three months time since it's just 500k I am spending now my question is can I spend 500k for a moderate marriage? And I wanted to do something tangible for her because she deserve more than everything I have, please what other things can I do for her that will be equivalent to everything she has done for me.

Since we have been dating she has never asked me for big money and also when ever I give her she always tells me that she gat money that no need to give her, in fact she love me so much that she don't even accept money from me unless gift. Now I want to do something tangible for her because since I have been dating her she doesn't allow me spent on her that much, and she doesn't complain.

When you were 27 she was 24 and now you are 29 she is still 24, does she not grow at all? You why know why I asked? https://www.nairaland.com/5970179

Please be moderate, marriage isn't dating. It comes with responsibility. Your Bae is my kind of Bae. They can sacrifice their lives for you but you owe them a single duty to luv them truly. Make sure you don't fail that.

Carrywent:
While others are crying and ladies condemning men with premature ejaculation, me my own case is different

Delayed ejaculation is my biggest problem of the moment. Because when i engage in sexual intercourse, i don't ejaculate. No matter how long , we just get tired . Sometimes 30 minutes later. After several attempts to ejaculate to no avail , i will just let her be .

The last time i ejaculated last month we had sex like twice , the first section I didn't ejaculate , the last one hardly and forcefully before i finally ejaculated.

Apart from that i have also engage on several intercourse in which I didn't ejaculate. Please what could be the possible solution to this .
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And the main problem i am having is that no body wants to help me on the solution to this issue . Even when i post it on nairaland , no comments , people read and go . Does it mean that my problem dont have solution or only me is experiencing this type of problem in the hole wide world

Did she ejaculated like multiple times? If she did not then you are wasting the gift.

Allsingles:
Am a Single Lady of 38, I want a companion, a man of 43yrs upwards that is very playful, matured,neat, romantic, disciplined, financially stable and fears God. A Christian and preferably Yoruba based in Abuja He might be a single dad or divorced it not married man plssssss.
Am very playful,neat, intelligent, disciplined, God fearing and business orientated, Am blessed with a sweet shape and a size 12.
I will be at the comment section.

At 38 you are listing heaven and earth. Be it done to you as you have wished. Can't waste more time here cos I actually thought that experience is the best teacher but hail no

Ochason:
I wanted to post my story for advise and opinions on this matter.

My wife and I have been married for 8 years and we really have not had any issues until now. The whole situation started about 5 months ago. I think it was early January. We just launched our second business branch and my wife threw a party for us.I am into real estate and other strings of businesses. Last year was a good year for us. Our business grew and we expanded by opening one more branch office here in Port Harcourt (not real location). My wife,who is our Business development strategist came up with an office opening party so we can invite dignitaries and celebrities to come and even invest more in our businesses. My wife decided to engage her friend that is a top event planner to handle the event. The event was successful no doubt,everything was just glamorous. Then,there was another part of the event that moved to the club that night. We were all having fun. And then,my wife’s friend who planned the earlier event showed up looking really well dressed..more like very s*xy outfit. Of course,lot of people were dressed to kill at the party. In a lit party like this,one should expect some serious drinking and some inappropriate behaviors. It was clear,my wife’s friend was getting a little more than tipsy. She was doing a little too much and my wife was concerned. I tried to call my Driver to come take her home but the foolish guy was drinking somewhere and didnt pick my call. My wife agreed that I escort her friend to go sleep in our SUV until the Driver shows up. I guided her friend to our car and tried to get her inside to sleep but things took a different turn. She was drunk and started to pull me to kiss her. she was rubbing on me and telling me she wants me. I knew it was the alcohol talking but she kept on and on. Begging me to kiss her so she can sleep. No one was looking and I gave her a small kiss just to let her feel she got what she wanted. Of course she wanted more but I didn’t oblige her. I put on the AC for her and pulled the seat back for her to rest. As I walked away,I finally got through the Driver and he came to take her home. I thought that was the last I would hear of what just happened but I was wrong. Two days later,this lady starts to chat me and saying she wants to see me. I thought it was a joke. She said things like she knows I want her too cos I kissed her at the club 2 days ago. She kept confessing her love for me and how she cannot control herself. To be honest,this is not the first time women would throw themselves at me but this is the first time,a friend of my wife would do such a thing. I asked her what if my wife finds out and she replied me with a bomb: she said..she does not care because my wife is also not a saint. What?!!!!..what did she mean by that? I asked her to explain and she said she cannot tell me because she swore never to tell anyone but that my wife has definitely been with someone else but me.At this time,I was getting really worked up. I told her she was bluffing and she said I was being naive. I told her I would ask my wife…she said she would deny but that does not mean its not true. She would deny because she swore to keep my wife’s secret.
So,in order to play her game,I told her I would sleep with her if she told me who my wife was cheating with. She agreed. She sent me lots dirty messages and told me to meet her at a hotel that night. And then,I asked her: how do I know you are not trying to set me up and walking into a trap? My wife’s friend then gave details. She said my wife and I were having issues just a few months before our wedding,I said yes!…she said because of the issues…my wife was doubting my loyalty and she went back to her ex and slept with him. And that they were seeing each other even after we got married until like 4 months after marriage.
I knew this woman is desperate but this information she just released scattered my brain. I drove straight to see my wife and straight up told her what her friend just told me. My wife began to act shocked and pretend that her friend was lying so I told her, I have recorded conversations (which I really didn’t have)and if she pushed me to release these conversations, it would be over between us.
At that point,my wife broke down and started crying. She then confessed to having gone back to her ex when we were having issues weeks before our wedding. But she swore on her children’s’ lives that it did not continue after we got married.
However,her ex went to tell her friend that they were seeing each other which was a lie. That her ex wanted her back by all means and was telling lies that I was not treating her well and that she misses her ex and wants to come back but she is stuck in the marriage.
All these revelation was too much for me to bear. I told my wife to leave our home but she refused so I took a my things and went to the company guest house where I have been. I have been so angry and betrayed that I do not know what to do.
I never planned to be a divorcee. I love my wife. She is very instrumental to the success of my business …but how do we work through this when she has betrayed me like this? And she is insisting the affair ended when we got married….the affair before marriage is hurtful because we were still engaged even at that time but if it continued after…I cannot live like this.

How then,do I believe she may be telling the truth? Trust has been thrown out of the window. Our families have been trying to reconcile us but as a man,I have never been so hurt and emotional in all my life. I trusted my wife with all my life.

I finally agreed for us to see our Pastor last week to counsel us but it ended up in a disaster. I recognize I was still angry and I was shouting and my wife was crying uncontrollably saying I do not believe her but I believe a woman who is trying to ruin our marriage.

Well,if her friend is trying to ruin our marriage…she caused it..she allowed it. We both left distraught and later that night,the friend showed up in my guest house. She told me that she came to beg for me to forgive her friend. But you should have seen what she wore. The most see through outfit and as soon as I allowed her to sit down,she came hard on me.
Pushing her away was my first thought. But I felt so angry that I also wanted to revenge my wife and I started responding to her. I was ready to make love to this woman but I stopped and told her to leave. Since then,she has been determined to make me sleep with her.

I felt I needed space but the more space I need,the more s*xual temptations are coming my way. And yes,I would be justified if I give in right? After all…my wife did it first? Maybe if I did…I would feel better and maybe be able to forgive her after we are even.

I miss my wife but how do I trust her….I feel tempted to sleep with someone else. Its not that hard for men…I do not know how much more I can resist the temptation. How can I be sure that my wife is telling the truth? How do I know the affair ended after our marriage?

Will I be able to trust her again? Is there any hope for our marriage?

I don't know why most ladies of today like putting people at a cross road. She would have sort for a way to settle your probs but because she has not actually let her ex go, she quickly went to him. I cant even advise you on this matter because I am as angry as you are.

SIR0:
There's a girl in my neighborhood who I can refer to as my home sister. We're so close. We share feelings, advice & keep nothing from one another, our love life inclusive. She has had quite a number of relationships and got disappointed in all. I've had one relationship too. There was a time I told her about my feelings towards her & she said she would have loved to accept my proposal but she couldn't handle double-dating. Well, I felt okay having let her know my feelings. I understood her decision & I don't think I was ready to be kept as a spare tyre, too. We moved on with our friendship. We talked both clean and dirty stuff. She would even tell me anytime she felt Hot & needed to see her boyfriend for sex.
In short, we are now having mixed feelings for one another. It could no longer be hidden on her face, too. As a lady, she's expecting me to make the first advance. Making the move is not my problem but the thoughts of some dirty talks we've had together. The most worrying part was a time she got drunk with her friend at a birthday party & she mistakenly called one of her Ex-bfs (who she loved most) over & he took advantage of the moment to have his way with her again. Though she claimed she was not sure if something really happened between them but she noticed she had no pant on when she woke up in the morning,,,blablabla. To me, the guy is not that reliable as he is into drinking & smoking. She appears too innocent to be dating such a guy & I gave my advice. She might not really disclose all that transpired at the birthday party. I kept thinking the guy could have recorded the act, knowing well that she's stark drunk. What if our relationship leads to marriage & the guy begins threatening her with sex-tape or he leaks any sex tape involving her, how would I go about it? Aside her other sex life, this is most worrisome of all. My thinking/guess may be wrong, yet I do not want to be caught unaware, to avoid stories that touch later. This is a dilemma for me. I truly love her but my happiness matters a lot.
Don't hesitate to advise a brother.
Kindly overlook any grammatical blunders.
Thanks

You are a small boy. No more comments.

Some guys are just stupid. You clearly told her you could only lend her the money as you were also down financially. She is now trying to fulfill her own part of the bargain and you are here with lame write up. Just take a look at your topic "I lend my girlfriend 75k and now she wants to pay back' now what exactly are you surprised at? It is no news when a debtor pays back her debt. It shows she has integrity. You might be loosing a life partner thanks to your pride.

PIMPAR:
You said it all. Nothing to add

Of course he endorsed him to promote his party. It is a business for both and they will all benefit. No one is technically helping the other as they were in mutual symbiosis.
But come to think or it, Tinubu endorsing Ngige for what reason. Is it to give momentum tothe latter's campaign? In a state like anambra where politics is home made. Ekenekwam unu. Tinubu ko endorsement ni.

emillysmigael:
If you have forgiven her... let go of the past. If you have not truly forgiven her; kindly let her go in peace and not in pieces. Thanks

Hw is isn't holding her. She came when she wanted to.and can.go.whenever she wants. It is a game for.both. The girl can.meet someone tomorrow and move on same with the guy. Whoever moves on first should not be blamed.

DXNNigeria:
Really, am really furious right now and I see it as her intruding into my personal space. My babe just took my phone and uploaded her pictures with different captions like my love, my babe, my heart etc.
I saw them on my status and deleted them and she is angry.
Really, I see it as her intruding into my personal life. Really am very furious at her and she doesn't see anything bad in what she did instead she is giving me attitude.
Really? Am I wrong?

No. You are not wrong, just that you are an idiot.

skimena:
Last month made it 4 years since my neighbor travelled to Italy via the Mediterranean Sea. Thank God for him, he arrived safely irrespective of the hurdles on the way.

He left behind a beautiful young woman not up to 29 years of age and with a little daughter of 6 years old.

Prio to this time I wasn't close to the wife but as time goes by this woman started greeting me frequently, exchanging cd plates with me even joining me to watch movies sometimes. I started noticing she's hot with her sexy hairy body. One night she opened up to me that she needs the touch of a man if we could be doing it secretly because her husband still promise to come for her hence what she needs is someone to be touching her once in a while and it must be a secret.

I truely like the offer but I'm scared of betraying my neighbor by banging his wife. I'm still thinking about it.

A case when one is handicapped. If you can really woo and win a girl why would you be tempted by a married woman when free oussy is everywhere.

Chinobastardaw:
Anambra problem isn't airport.. Anambra doesn't deserve an airport.. They should take care of their erosion and their morals.. Address the rape of their daughters by their fathers and also educate their women to love their husband

Perhaps you mean yourself. If you rape your daughter anambrarian don't.

Commonsense99:

When we tell them Nigerian army is compromised they call us names, what do you expect when the Fulani government rehabilitates their terrorist boys and give them official Nigerian army uniform? And daft people will still come out to defend this government and their open body language support for terrorism.

I really don't understand why the United States and other western world have not confronted Buhari, Buratai and their Fulani acolytes in this their atrocities, what other evidence are they waiting for? Why place $7 million bounty on Shekaus head when there are cast iron evidences that are implicating the Fulani authorities? I dare say that a closer interview of those disgruntled retired soldiers will give America all the info they need on Nigerian terrorism.

This is the reason why igbos lost hope in project Nigeria, on biafra we stand.

On biafra we stand!!! Nigeria is a lost course.

This is total disregard for presidential order. How can they they impose that on students regardless of federal government directives. This is gross lawlessness.

ThatFairGuy:
Forget the Media, Those are mere propay. PDP always win ELECTION ON INTERNET.
With the clips we've been seeing, YOU ALL WILL BE SURPRISED

That's because PDP are counted in collation Centre while that of APC are counted in inec National chairman's office.
Kiss the truth

He is the only Nigerian musician I truly like. I like him more than Tubaba, fela and psquare combined. Don't stroll me. Na my choice.

OPPPS:
It's early for Wailing

Mu dear it is too early to wail. After 2023 Tinubu's go clear. Then he and una can wail freely.

donbachi:
I feel for nigeria and her future.all these politicians have stripped her of beauty..i could hear her voice from here,she's bleeding in pains.i would have love to help,but i'm helpless.
Sorry,mother nigeria.

This is not a time emotional poems.

fyneguy:
read the story for clarity.

LOL. I know Obaseki will loose. These kind of news is issued out to the public whenever apc is done with their rigging arrangement. Of course they will sell stories like this to make it look like the person lost the support of the masses due involvement all sorts of corrupt practices. We are able to read. We read the content of the gabbrish but unfurtunately we understand beyond what is sold to us through Yoruba media.

Snowale:
When we talk about polygamy, they say we should shut up, that our culture is rubbish. Now they are busy sleeping with prostitutes, house girls and their children. A white man would say, polygamy is wrong but gay marriage is very right, while 100000+ divorces occurs per month in US, most of which are due to infidelity. 90% of extramarital sex comes from the husband.

A man that isn't satisfied with what he gets from his wife should be allowed to marry another lady. Instead if sleeping around - getting STDs and babymamas.

We shall see which culture is the best.

You sound insecure. You speak of something you don't know. Can you tell me any Nigerian culture that does not support polygamy. Some people who marry many wives still go about molesting girl children of 2 and 3 years. It that part of the special polygamy you propose?

OPPPS:
You are right. Edo is not Lagos. Lagos does not elect a Gov with 3 credit.

You mean Lagos, Tinubu's slavery caliphate.

omenka:
The most confused living being on the planet.

One minute you're running all over the place screaming "biafra or death", next minute you're dying for the party of Tax Collectors.

It is a pity.

You are the most confused I have ever seen. One minute apc is the best, buhari is god's sent. The next minute apc is the party os tax collectors. Your mumu don dey do.

Obamaofusa:
He is telling you the truth,bro.

Which truth? That an Igbo person is now a Yoruba person is a truth to you. Okay!!!

Mraphel:
This one I called Yoruba-Igbo


He's not eating three days Akpu but hot Amala and ewedu

He's of afonja people's standard not like d ones living in muds

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Igbos are so blessed that Yoruba can't help adopting them by force. You talk of akpu, whose brain can develop with ajinomoto ladened jollof rice with no ingredients?

Queenserah26:
The sky is your starting point my darling, keep soaring

As if the girls is a nairalander.

Notateflonguy:
You pity for him??....you'd better pity yourself....fucking another man's property!!!! ....even if the girl is foolish must you be foolish with her??

I don't support the action though but at the same time I don't know when engagements become marriage. The lady is stupid and insincere. She is the only one that made the promise and should keep to it.