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she is right, look before u yab!

tRoOE:
[size=13pt]Lame or not, was my answer directed to you
Well i did not see the link[/size]

tRoOE:
Why don't you ask your girlfriend/lovers to lock their thighs around your neck, because thAT is the only one to prove if what you claimed is true

dont ooooo, if u want to see 2009, dont try it, my hand no dey oooo

@ poster

i just did. i had to stop myself from falling in love, it hard work but it was work that had to be done

Sisi Jinx:
Guess you missed the I don't care shrug I put in there. . . darn smiley, can never get the message across the way you want it to.

Women!    i got ur msg but u missed mine 

Sisi Jinx:
Hmmm. . .  is this what they call an impasse? https://media.funsmileys.com/smileys/confused010.gif

njazra:
craziest in my secondary school days was writing a love letter to my English teacher and putting the name of my friend,he was beaten to pulp at the assembly,

I dated our Female senior Prefect while i was in SS1 and was the enemy of my friends, they hate me because i was the most brilliant and the most handsome,

I [i]draw [/i]our Yoruba Teacher bald head on the board and wrote underneath, CAN'T PLAIT HIS HAIR, and the whole class was beaten,

wow, ur class must really suck if u are the most brilliant and most handsome. u know what they say, in the land of the blind a one eyed man is the king. by the way, which village school did u go to? i wanna bet that ur english teacher flogged ur friend not for the love letter but for the horrible spelling and grammar

Sisi Jinx:
@ na2day?
Was going to ask you to provide video evidence of the many lovely things you say you do but I thought. . . Nah, I couldn't be bothered. https://fc90.deviantart.com/fs4/i/2004/231/0/f/Deglitched_shrug_emoticon.gif

ur video gets mine. i might just have to do a reality show just for u.  

Sisi Jinx:
Lmao! Oh dear! We have a little misunderstanding here. . . You seem to be under the impression that it matters whether you believe me or not. Okay, please understand this. . . . you don't have to believe me. I know what I know and I saw what I saw.

By the way, I notice your posts is peppered with I[/b]s. . . [b]I [/b]did this, [b]I did that, I did not do this, I [/b]have never done that. While I find it admirable that you seem to be one of the few well brought up guys, the operative word here is still [b]I and the last time I checked, YOU don't speak for every guy, except of course all of you guys act from the same [b]How to Behave [/b]Handbook.

same here, I know what i have seen too. and in case u missed it, i talked about the nigerian guys and friends around me that do the same, and yes our hand book is our parents.

Sisi Jinx:
Rotflmao!!! I can honestly say it gives me hope to see that some guys are appalled by the behavior described(even if it might be lipservice) but as God is my witness, it is the truth. The best excuse I can come up for their behavior is that they believe cleaning up, tidying up. . . anythingthat'sgot to do with dirt is a woman's job. I promise you, these guys did not move a muscle until it seemed like the women were about to get hurt, one of them even stopped to get another can of drink from the cooler we were logging to the car.

I volunteer with teens. . . a sorta after school programs and majority of the children in this program are Africans and of all the Africans parents, the Nigerians. . . specifically the fathers are the major headache givers.  There are kids who have been in the programs for 4 years and I can honestly say I don't know what their fathers look like. . . because they are not involved. Why? you ask. . . well, it simple - Rearing children is a woman's job. These women are over worked, tired and haggard looking yet they make there for events, for pick up and drop off. As long as the father goes to work and doles out money when it is needed, his job his done.

Some men live by the following "cultural" codes

Men are providers of money and that's it.
Men do not go into the kitchen
Men do not touch a vacuum cleaner
Men do not touch a diswasher or washing machine
Men do not take of the children.
Men aren't accountable to anyone but everyone is accountable to men.
Men get whatever they want, when they want and if they don't. . . they have justifiable reason to go seek it outside.

Now my thing is, there are only 24hrs in a day. . . when will the woman get a chance to give the guy what he wants, when he wants it, if she has to do all the things he mustn't do or his manhood will be dealt a lethel blow? I'm sorry to say this but aren't we setting women up to fail? 

i am not trying to over flog the issue but once again i dont believe u. the men u describe here had mothers right? if their mothers or fathers didnt teach them any better what did u expect? and didn't these ladies notice the guy's behavior when they were dating? i for one was trained by my mother, i cook my food(i dont like being in the kitchen but i still cook alot, for myself and my female friends) i clean the house once in a black moon but i still clean the house. i have never asked a female friend to clean my place b4. when i was a kid, i played both soccer and basketball and my mother never showed up once to cheer me or anything and i still turned out alright bcuz deep down in me i know she loves me. so once again it depends on the up bringing of these men u talk abt, if their parents didn't do a good work on them(remember, their mother, aunt, sisters, that didnt coach them is part of the problem too), then their wives will have to teach them how to be a parent and this ought to have started when they are dating. so once again, i don't know where u live but here in dallas all of the nigerian dudes i have met or those that are my friends are very much involved in their kids' lives or siblings lives. i need video evidence of ur statements

i thank God for his mercies over u oooo

FifiO:
@OLAADEGBU,
Hey you, will look those up for sure.
Let His light shine on,

@ Ya'all
Armed robbers were in my building block on the 19th but thank God He heard me when I called and they did could not enter my apartment (only mine was spared) and I live alone!
When I prayed I saw a wall of fire- I just was praying till they left.

Praise God for ever more!!!

Merry Chrismas Guys!!

Blessings!

LOL

kokoye:


What the . . .  just happened to my topic? did anyone change it to to "desperate housewives" or the "loveboat"?

I dissapear for the wkd and my thread has been turned to Yaba market on xmas eve.

warn urselves o.

Sisi Jinx:
@Osisi
I can’t stop laughing at your stories.

A few months ago, I took my nephew to a birthday party held at a park. The party went very well, apart from the whole . . . daddies standing on the other side of the park, totally disconnect from the group, drinking their Hyyynikins part, of course. Anyway, when the party ended and it came time to clean up,  the few of us guests who had offered to help did so, carrying on like happy little beavers, picking stuff off the grass, emptying large gorodoms and basias of ice (took two of us to carry one), taking packs drinks, empty and half empty coolers to the cars, dismantling the rented chairs and putting them back on the rack like the rental company instructed. . . . We, WOMEN all of us. . .  and the men? Gisting away like old biddies in a nursing home. Yes, not one even the smallest muscle in their body moved to our direction

After I caught my finger for the fifth time folding the chairs, I thought. . .  Nah! Nah! that it, I not about to lose a nail over a party that had nothing to do with me and mine. If the husband’s puny brain cannot tell him. . . "Hey man, put the discussion on hold and go help your wife fold the 150 chairs used for your child's party" and she does not have the guts to say “Honey, do you mind helping me with these”. . .  then it is their problem, not mine. So I washed my hands. . . literally and figuratively speaking, went to fetch my nephew, ready to say my adios to them and what did I see. . . the celebrant’s mother, her sister and a friend struggling to dismantle to the freaking tent!

I'll give you a mental picture

On this corner we have the celebrant's daddy, his uncle and about three or four of daddy’s friend, standing, talking and drinking, the average weight and height for all six men is probably 230lb and 6ft. On the other corner are three women, average weight and height 180lb and 5.6, attempting to take a 27’ by 42’ tent (I asked. . . for when I tell people).  I could not believe it. I understand not playing with the kids, I understand not logging bags of ice back and forth but this. . . nah!  I was so angry, I thought what should I do? I came up with two options, stump my feet on the floor like a brat or scream . . . so I screamed and when I got their attention, I said It was because I thought the tent was about to fall on the women. The men looked at the women and the women looked at me because they knew the tent wasn’t about to do jack!

So did these men put their drinks down to go help the women immediately? No, the husband had to ask if she needed help and what did she say “If you don’t mind” Having gotten the confirmation that they won't be doing a task the women can do, all of them with their potbellies, waddle over to the tent and started dismantling it.

This is not an isolated event, you see them everywhere. . .

At the malls, hands in pocket, nary a care in the world, while their wives struggle with four shopping bags while also trying to keep the out of control children in line

At the airport, sitting in the driver’s side as their wives struggle to get her luggage out of the trunk. . . after having to remind him to open it and heaven help her if she does not get it out on time, she will be eating car dust.

At church. . . walking nonchalantly in front of the carseat and diaper bag carrying woman.

At the grocery store, sitting in the car watching their wives load bags and bags of grocery in the trunk.

Once asked a guy if he’d bath his children, his answer “You mean if their mom is sick?” and It wasn’t a joke.

How anyone can deny that this happens. . . is beyond me. I think I prefer 4Play’s blatant and unapologetic sexism (because you know where you stand and what to expect with him) to turning a blind eye and acting like it’s all our heads. I mean what’s this supposed to be. . . . folie a plusieurs? If you aren’t like this, it doesn’t mean other men aren’t. If you haven’t witnessed it, it by no means mean it does not exist. My grandma used say when 1 person says 10 people are bad, then that 1 person needs to check himself and if 10 people say 1 person is bad, then that person really has issues. Many women, black, multicolored fair, tall, short and average, from North to south, east to west are saying the same and it’s not like we have a secret monthly meeting where we meet and conspire to bring up false charges against men, we aren’t so bored we think the only way to get some excitement is to say these things about men.

Seriously, we needn’t look further than the threads on Nairaland to see the mentality some men carry for women. Why is it that when a woman is firm about her stance on an issue, she is called frustrated, bitter, a spinster, who has no man and will never marry? Why?!! Last night, on the auto section (and now someone is thinking. . . what was she doing there in the first place? Lmoa) I called a guy out for something and he asked me if I’m on my period, this was after he told me he can’t be bothered to explain it to me since I will never understand it . . . Rotflmao! I mean It’s so freaking sad that you are too shocked to get upset and all you can do is laugh. . . which, by the way, is exactly what I did when I read 4Play’s posts. 

girl that is a ridiculous story, first of the kind i have heard. all parties i have been to, i and the guys there had to the the fixing and dismantling, carring of chairs and tables, so ur men are whacked up girl.

gabrywyl:
chei! see this yeye boy sef.

iight, Lovealways is it

LoveAlways:
LoveAlways is fine.

thank u my brother

martho:
simple answer--the man doesnot love her enough to marry her, controling a man is like killing his pride

iight, next time i will keep count and hand u the score

gabrywyl:
Really? I did see it but hardly compare to guys sha. . .

tRoOE:
hehehe thank u oh
singing ***Now I aint sayin she a gold digger (When I'm Need)
But she aint messin wit no broke niggaz***[/color][/font][/size]

i don't know who u were listening to in that song but i was listening Jamie Fox who told it as it is, no painting, SHE IS A GOLD DIGGER; after 18yrs she leaves u and u found out ur 18yr old child aint even yours  so my eyes on u girl  power to PRENUPT! 

LoveAlways:
@Na2day

Bitter heart?  Why is a woman perceived as being bitter when she speaks her mind?  My Id is LoveAlways; I am well loved, never bitter.   I do not like being refered to as "sweet heart."  With due respect, I don't know you like that.  *Getting off of my soap box*

and how am i to referred to u my lady?

join the rest of the world? where at?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Yes i understand that. But still as a person, his character shouldn't be changing because of someone. Someone who doesn't give him what he wants. Nwayz. . .i get your point

rofl. . .join the rest of the world [/color]

u don't have to condemn but pointing out the source of the problem helps than just complaining about the result is my point. by the way, tell ur sister that i am in love with her already

iice:
[color=#9900ff]So by condemning the woman, we are more objective

In the end, they are both dense.
No matter what, he should have told her to get a life - her own life because he's out of it.
She should have done something before it got to this level, either by trying to fix things or letting it go.
If she knew he was cheating, what da heck is she still doing there? Like my sis likes to say, 'you suppose know when to get lost especially when you aren't wanted'
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bravo, thats just one nice write up

kokoye:
Too smart: I once had a friend who was convinced she couldn't keep a boyfriend because she was too smart for the male population. She was positive her staggering intellect was turning them off. Uh, no. What drove the men away (and most of her female friends, as well) was the fact that she was mean. We're talking stupendously cruel. Her definition of smart translated into cutting people down until they felt like the smallest person on earth. Not exactly a turn-on, no matter how cleverly it's worded.

Too nice: Generally, I hear this one more from men, but women are guilty of it, too. Here, the problem is semantics. "Nice" is a desirable quality. Whereas "doormat," "pantywaist," and "milquetoast" are not. Far too many people mistake the latter for the former, and there's a world of difference when it comes to dating. So, no, you're not getting dumped because you're too nice; you're getting the heave-ho because you're spineless.

Too good in bed: You've practiced Tantra, and you've never met a sexual position you wouldn't try at least once. Yet men will get with you one time, and then you never hear from them again. You're not getting dumped because of how well you do it, but because of how hard you try when you do it. Sex should be fun and relaxing -- not an audition for the porn Olympics.

Too intimidating: An amalgam of the "too smart"/"too beautiful" non-dilemma, these women think they keep getting blown off because they're too accomplished, too employed, too gorgeous, too intellectual, too too. The only kind of man who is put off by a kind, smart, beautiful woman with a great career and a fantastic smile is the kind of dolt you don't want to be bothered with dating in the first place. However, these jerks are few and far between. Don't blame your broken heart on his inability to handle your extreme fabulosity. The fact of the matter is that nobody but a psycho is going to dump you be because you're too perfect.

http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/12/18/reasons.Uwont.get.dumped/index.html

nah, i said the guy has alot of blame too but i was waiting to see if the females on this board will be more objective and see what led to the guy's behavior to judge, so far only one girl did.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]No one is overlooking the faults of the woman. You are just drawing more light to her faults and casting his into the shadows.[/color]

none taken. Most NL girls call guys ugly, just to let u know

gabrywyl:
I said sorry no offense Ooo. . .

And besides, I seldom see girls calling other peeps ugly. Its just the guys calling peeps ugly most of the time.

@ LoveAlways

correction noted, now bitter heart, this dude pays the bills but she just used that as an excuse not to be around, and he told her that right in front of the camera, bills paying was well covered and she didnt need to do what she was doing.  the fiance also knew the deal and i guess thats why she acted the oppose of what he gets at home and he fell in love with her. my point is this, the girl friend knew all along but decided to live in self denial hoping that the guy will change his mind in the future without addressing the issues he rose with him. she therefore is very guilty as charged _{no long thing}

@ LoveAlways

honestly sweet heart, i will love to have a one on one talk with u. i am not justifying the guy, but the fact that most of u females grossly over-looked the many faults of his girlfriend is astounding. i totally understand now when my girl says, "when u are wrong, apologize, when i am wrong, u still need to apologize" 

that is one of my favorite scriptures

OLAADEGBU:
All the Lonely People
December 17, 2008

"I looked on my right hand, and beheld, but there was no man that would know me: refuge failed me; no man cared for my soul." (Psalm 142:4)

it may sound sad but it helps me to remember the true source of strength and excitement, GOD!