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Thank God she was not harmed.

Thank God she was not harmed.

What a pity! She married & had kids for a man, & did not realise he is not well educated until now. Now she has the opportunity to help the poor man get good education, she does not want to assist him. Also she can not stay around him for too long. Was the marriage to the man contacted under duress? @poster, please appeal to your dear friend to at least think of her kids & file necessary Papers so her husband & kids can join her. Like chaircover rightly said, he can receive training &run his own business, & with time it will blosom & she will be proud of him. It baffles me that a mother can comfortably stay away from her kids for so long & is not in the least perturbed. What is the world turning to?

With all the Courtship before Marriage, there are still so many Failed Marriages, & Cases of Divorce. Is there TRUE LOVE OR COUPLES SIMPLY HAVE TO MAKE THEIR MARRIAGE WORK?

GEJ for President.

Since she still communicates with her ex, & the fact that they are both in Lagos, & you at Abuja, in your own interest forget the lady & move on. You should realise that this can never work out.

Since she still communicates with her ex, & the fact that they are both in Lagos, & you at Abuja, in your own interest forget the lady & move on. You should realise that this can never work out.

Working class Men and indeed women as well, should spend time with their kids. There is need for the family to spend reasonable time together daily, where possible. The kids need close monitoring always. The man who neglects his wife & kids is creating problem for himself. That constant drifting apart from his family may cost him his marriage.

A pregnant woman experiences morning sickness, & a lot of discomfort & pains & that makes her very very uncomfortable & aggressive. It is not intentional. So husbands please bear with your wives when they are in that state. This is the time they need your help, & even more of your assistance after delivery.

Any woman doing that will only ridicule herself, in this part of the world. Let the man be the one to propose to the woman. That way she gets more respect from the man.

Any woman doing that will only ridicule herself, in this part of the world. Let the man be the one to propose to the woman. That way she gets more respect from the man.

I thank you all once again for your brilliant contributions. So far we have an overwhelming number of people in favour of courtship, & almost all in favour of short period of courtship. We have learnt here that couples have to be open to each other to know more about themselves before getting married, as it is a longlife affair. We hope to learn more as we receive more contributions.

God be praised for the safe delivery & perfect health of mother & baby. His miracles abound.

God be praised for the safe delivery & perfect health of mother & baby. His miracles abound.

There is western influence on African marriage, & I believe that has its merits & demerits. We all know that in the past, before the advent of western culture, we had very rare cases of divorce. Our parents believed that it was wrong to divorce, so rather than divorce they would do anything to remain in their matrimonial home. The christians did not want to offend God, the pagans did not want to offend their gods. They were brought up with the belief that no matter what, a married woman should stay married until the end; it would be disgraceful not to. Some men would marry so many women, & rather than fending for his wives & kids, he goes out in the mornings to meet with friends to smoke & drink kainkain (push me I push you, God no go vex). After thoroughly soaking themselves in alcohol, they go home, & make a nuisance of themselves. The wives would, with their meagre earning from farming & sales from the market cook for the man, taking turns, & train their kids, where possible; no contribution from the man. Under-aged girls where given away in marriage to their great grandfathers. Now with civilization, most people embrased a lot of changes & some not too good changes as well. The sensible ones should do what is right to remain happily married till the end. Like the poster rightly said, the woman, & I wish to add, the man as well, should correct themselves when necessary, at least for the sake of the kids, to ensure that they make their marriage work. With concerted efforts by both parties, how can they fail!

@Poster if I get you clearly you are saying that couples should space out having kids reasonably so it does not disturb them. I agree with you. But again some couples like making it quick so they can get it over with & relax, & then concentrate on raising them. Even so I say 2 years in between is alright.

Very careless statement. How can Sarah Jubril's one vote haunt Nigerian Women? The election in question was the PDP Primaries, not the General Election. Not even those in her Campaign Team who attended voted for her. What a shame lol.

The Church receives love gifts only from members. So by agitating that Pastors should pay tax we are saying that Government should start taxing gifts. Once Government sets such a precedent then it must be applied to every other person.

We welcome our brothers & sisters home. Thank God for protection for them at Egypt, & for journey mercies back home.

@Poster, there is no place that is secured. But if you believe in God where ever you go, you are secured. If you wish to stay in Benin City when you come, please come. Pray for God's protection for you & your kids, knowing that He will surely grant you all His protection throughout your stay. Know that God is the only protection you can ever have. Even if a whole army guards you, you can not have the type of security you can get from God. God protect you & your family always & help you know Him better.

@Poster, yes please forget your fiancee before he sends you to your grave prematuredly. You have a baby coming. Thank God you can care for baby when you deliver. The earlier you pack up that relationship the better because nothing good can ever come from it.

Thanks to God for Uche's recovery. He is a good player. All the best Uche.

Thanks to God for Uche's recovery. He is a good player. All the best Uche.

How can a monarch order the closure of a Church for 3 months? He has no right to do so. Besides he has only created problem for himself by daring God.

How can a monarch order the closure of a Church for 3 months? He has no right to do so. Besides he has only created problem for himself by daring God.

I thank you all for your brilliant contributions. Response received so far, are not in favour of courtship. Lets wait for more.

@ Poster, this lady you dated for 5 years dumped you. Why not let bye gone be bye gone? Now from your story, you & your ex have been communicating, & secretly too. It is now a daily affair & seems to have awakened old faeelings both ways. Now you say you do not want this move to brake up her marriage. It will surely brake up her marriage if you continue to communicate with her, because sooner or later, her husband will get to know. In your own interest back off now. There was no need for any reunion since the lady dumped you after dating you for 5 whole years. And you think such a lady can ever be loyal to you should you take her back. I think not. Afterall there are many fishes in the ocean. Forget the past & move on, in your own interest. @Topic, I do not support that ex's should talk to each other, because one thing will always lead to another, & before you know it, there is a problem, just like the one the poster is experiencing.

In my opinion, a mother boasting about her child's qualities & achievements is inviting trouble for herself. By so doing she is exposing that child to danger. She becomes the target of evil persons who do not like seeing others progress. Please mothers always watch what you say about your child, & even your home, so it does not go into wrong hands.

Poster, chaircover has said it all. Thank you for realising your mistake. Now correct it & save your marriage, at least for the sake of your kids you profess to love. With fervent prayers you will be victorious.

Poster, chaircover has said it all. Thank you for realising your mistake. Now correct it & save your marriage, at least for the sake of your kids you profess to love. With fervent prayers you will be victorious.

@ ZIM DRILL, in your opinion what is reasonable length of time for courtship/dating?

@ ZIM DRILL. I mean is it important for couples to date for sometime before marriage so they can know themselves better?