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During my schooling days, we'd queue up on the ATM on campus to withdraw N500. Then there wasn't any POS and N500 can get you a decent meal for at least 3 days if properly managed well cos a plate of food without meat on campus used to be between N100 and N150

So when things go south I'll just go and withdraw the last N500 in my account. And I do it without any iota of shame cos almost every student queuing behind me is warming up to withdraw the same amount. As long as it's your money there's nothing to be ashamed of.

BadRadio:
I see no reason why an educated person will patronise a hooker... it doesn't make sense.

Not only illiterates, jobless guys, and guys who lack self control...these categories of guys are their top customers.

Shoodboi:
Several people have talked about Surulere having water on this thread, but they all complain about the water being dirty and irregular. Other than that, I don't think public water works anywhere.

It's usually dirty when it just starts running. It wasn't stable, maybe like a week or so, then it would stop, so whenever it starts running it would be very dirty for hours or even days, word on the street was that they're washing the pipe.

But once it becomes clean, it's going to remain clean till it stops running again.

tayo60:
As a lady, I have read countless stories here on nairaland of how men used and dumped girls not because they are not pretty, but because of some traits these ladies exhibited which turned you men off. So I have been wondering, what do you men really want? For a long lasting relationship, even a successful marriage,what can a woman do to win or capture your heart as a man? What advice will you give the female gender on relationship matters? Ur opinions will be highly appreciated. Let's learn from you!

These below are the few things I've been able to come up with about what men want.... happy reading.

1. Contentment. Girls should stop longing for what they know they can't afford and be happy with what they have. If you request for 50k and what he can afford to send is 15k thank him from the depth of your heart. If your man can afford an Android phone for you don't nag him to get you an iPhone, be contended with whatever he can afford to give to you and let him know you highly appreciate it.

2. Promiscuity. One thing most girls don't know is that once you're the type of girl that chats/flirts with multiple guys, receive multiple calls from them, hangout with them...even though there's nothing sexual going on between you and them, no guy would take you serious. He would hang around you to get his own share of your coochie after which he'll disappear into thin air once he's had you to his fill. Your time and attention should be given to whoever you've made up your mind to date and not shared amongst random men.

3. Be independent. Don't depend on him for everything. If you cannot cater for your basic needs like hair, sanitary napkin, subscription...etc, as a girl, no guy would take you serious, cos to him you're a liability. Truth is If he doesn't see you as someone he can lean on for a financial emergency, he wouldn't take you so serious regardless of how loyal you are to him. You must strive to be independent.

4. Surprise him with gifts and spend your money on him. Don't key into that feminist proverb that says my money is my money and your money is our money. Buhari's administration has rendered that proverb completely useless and today most girls are sleeping in prayer houses for husbands because they activated it in their relationship. One secret you should know is that guys value gifts they receive from their girls and show it off to their friends. If you can sustain the habit of surprising him with gifts from time to time and spend your money on him, he would love and value you.

5. Don't ever break the trust he has for you. Whatever you tell him about yourself, make sure he doesn't find a contradicting version later. If he does, it would be difficult for him to trust you. Don't ever cheat on him, whatever issue you have with him, settle it, if it's beyond settling, end things officially with him before going into another relationship. Don't try to eat your cake and have it, it doesn't end well.

6. Know his family and friends. If your guy is skeptical about introducing you to members of his family and friends, it clearly means he doesn't see a future with you. One thing you should know about the guy you're dating is that most critical decisions about you guys would be taken by his close friends. Meaning if they don't see you as a wife material or a very dominant and rude person, they'll nag their friend until he eventually dumps you. So whenever you're around them act nice and friendly but not flirty.

7. Don't be a glutton. Unfortunately today, most girls are guilty of this. You must learn to turn down gestures, preserve your self respect. If you're the type that drags malt with him in his fridge and is always hungry, he and his friends would turn you into a laughing stock behind your back. Sometimes when you go on dates with him, just request for a bottle of water, don't begin to order for food like your life depends on it. Such attitude would cheapen you before him.

8. Advice him. Yes he should be able to depend on you for counsel, don't be a boring person, try to know what he's dream plans are and chip in a thing or two. Guys (myself inclusive) are attracted to girls who display a high level of intelligence, once you do this his love for you would grow.

Kung Fu Hussle. That's the name.

I watched it years ago during the era of DVD, those days when you'll buy a DVD plate containing up to 20 different movies.

Today Netflix and YouTube has taken over, i doubt if people still buy CD plates again.

Shoodboi:
Lagos ke? Everyone uses borehole here. Lagos water corporation died in the 90's, if not earlier. I remember we had a tap that never worked in our house in the late 90's/very early 2000's. The few times it did, water trickled out slowly. I later discovered it was "omi ijoba" (government water) but that didn't matter because it packed up soon after and never gave us water anymore.

Water was never an issue for us growing up because we had wells and pumping machines to pump water from the wells. I've lived in Lagos all my life except during uni and NYSC.

In Surulere where I used to stay then, water from the government was working till Ambode's tenure. It was when he started trying to make it prepaid like light, that was when everyone abandoned it and started digging boreholes.

Lagos used to have an effective water cooperation, and they were very active until Ambode's tenure when he tried to convert it to prepaid water. A lot of people lost interest and dug boreholes. That was how Lagos State water cooperation died a natural death.

For the east...in Ebonyi state 2017 to be prescise, Dave Umahi tried something like this, the only problem was that it didn't last. I still remember this cos I was in Abakaliki that period and almost every road you pass you'd see bursted pipes and the water leaking into the gutter. After some months everything stopped running.

Aside Ebonyi state I don't think any Eastern state has attempted such again.

Stop dating broke and entitled girl's una no go hear. If you had invested that money on yourself at least you'd be reaping the proceeding by now.

Now you're here complaining how she told you she's tired of being broke...news flash bro, she never loved you, and you never bothered to confirm if she did, she was attracted to your money and other benefits. Now the cash inflow has stopped, she's ready to pullout cos to her there's nothing

Next time be wise and stop flashing money on girls, just be yourself around them. If they geninuly love you, they'll stay if they don't they'll move, but you'd be sure that you're not playing the role of a father anymore.

You don't want kids but you had unprotected sex with her, released inside her and now you're blaming her for getting pregnant. Oga you're both responsible for her pregnancy so stop shifting the blame to her...and to even think of divorcing her because of this issue shows that you're still very immature in reasoning regardless of how old you are in age.

Next time practice withdrawal method or better still use a condom, at least you'll be sure that she wouldn't take in. For now, congratulations on your wife's pregnancy and start making preparations cos you're going to become a father very soon.

Desusi:
How does someone who has just bleeped smell? How do you identify them.?

If the lady you had sex with uses perfume, deodorant... etc, if you have sex with her and don't take a bath, her perfume would begin to smell on you. This is how most wives catch their cheating husband, cos the smell of female perfume would be all over him.

The thing is you would smell like her, so any smart person that comes close to you would know that you've just been with a woman.

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Two things that reveal the true nature of a man.

1. Money.

2. Power.

If a man possess both and remains humble, he's a rare gem.

When she prolonged her hard to get game, I eventually lost interest....

We met at Okeyson park jibowu enroute Abakaliki. To be honest, she's really good looking, we were both based in Lagos and traveling to the same location for an event after which we'll return back to our base.

The journey was nice, we slept severally, gisted, made jokes...etc, until we got to our destination, we exchanged numbers and left.

Then the problem begun, she doesn't reply my WhatsApp messages, when she does it would be things like lol, wao, K, emoji..etc.

I just deleted her number and moved on, last year December she sent me merry Christmas and I replied "K" and deleted the chat. I didn't hear from her again until Easter this year when she messaged me to tell me that he birthday is the following week I replied "wao, ok"

We haven't chatted since then...I'm hoping to reply with lol if she wishes me merry Christmas later in the year. Truth is I've already lost interest in her.

Write this your username along with today's date on a sheet of paper, place it on that child, snap and post the pic here I'll send you a token for the child.

Gohs:
Please let's all vote for Peter Obi next year to avoid the disaster that is heading towards Nigeria right now.

We can still save this country if we vote in the right party — Labour party!

For the sake of Christians in Nigeria, God will keep this count safe.

kponkedenge:
Nigeria is on a collision course for destruction.

Hopefully Peter Obi would prevent that from happening.

abidem4real:
Hmmmm! Some people don't even know why they want what they want. People perish for lack of knowledge.
What has marital problem got to do with delivering good governance in Nigeria? Are all those who have grounded Nigeria since Independence divorcees? Let's all wake up and stop baseless critism because every marriage goes through turbulent times.

Marital problem has everything to do with it.

As deputy governor she would be representing the governor on a lot of female matters. How exactly is she going to advise mothers on how to sustain their marriage when clearly she couldn't keep hers?

Medianna:
Thank God you said an average.

If you deliberately choose to Ignore the obvious fact that average in this context simply means majority I'd take it that you're trolling me.

Someone that can't manage her home wants to manage Lagos State?

I'm Obidently yusful but I'm standing with sawon olu for governor and Peter Obi for president.

Being the president of the most populous black country in the world is a side hustle for Buhari. His main work is to Sleep, Wake up, Eat, look for one Country to Travel to, Borrow money from China, check the news, Ashua Nigerians, blame some people, express shock over matters and move.

Voting APC in 2023 would mark the end of this country, cos what we're experiencing now would be a child's play of what we'd experience then. Cos our economy would be overwhelmed by the constant borrowing and looting, there would be scarcity of funds, government workers would be collecting salaries 3 or 4 times in a year...it will be bad.

That's great, we need him to remain in the race so he can divide Tinubu and Atiku's votes in the NW.

Ttalk:
Make SE fly SE /SE the goal is to win election. Please stop the noise

My post is aimed at the obvious genocide against Christians by ensuring that the most powerful positions in the country are filled up with Muslims.

Shetima is a known Boko Haram sympathizer, how safe do you think we Southerners and northern Christians can be under such person?

No matter how Euro drops it would still be far higher than naira, our currency's continous drop since 2015 is legendary and should become the 8th wonder of the world.

What most Southerners who are supporting APC's Muslim Muslim ticket because it favours them today should know that if it files, Arewa will flag off a Northern, Northern ticket in 2027. The south (most especially SE and SS) would be permanently sidelined from presidency in Nigeria.

Fighting against this abomination is something we must do at all cost. The division we see today between we Southerners was put by our leaders to ensure we don't focus on our true enemy.

Your enemy is not the man experiencing the same hardship as you. He's the one making sure you don't come out of it...of all the candidates contesting for presidency who amongst them has spent his time ensuring that you come out of your suffering?

2023 is going to be a very decisive year, and I would want Nigerians to shun religious and tribal sentiments and vote massively for Peter Obi. If he fails to deliver, you can vote him out after 4 years but it would be disastrous if we judge him without giving him a trial.

RedTarantula:
I see many married women around me whose husbands are abroad for years. How do these men and women cope with the pressure to have sex for years? How do they do it?

It's not easy, I myself I'm totally against this most especially if the couples are still young.

If I'm relocating abroad my wife must join me latest 6 months after my departure...body no be fire wood abeg.

Avoid self medication and run some tests whatever the results are would guide you on the next step to take.

Penguin2:
During Christmas and Easter, the president or Vice President, depending on who is in power, usually attends Christian services at National Christian Centre to represent the Federal Government in such Holy celebrations.

Now, if Tinubu wins, who will do that for Tinubu’s govt?

Or the National Christian Centre will lie fallow for 8 years?

Think about it as Christian.

Don't stress yourself too much over this cos tinubu wouldn't win, God would protect the church by giving us someone who wouldn't see killing of Christians as doing allah's will. Peter Obi would become the next president of Nigeria it has been stamped on heaven.

Medianna:
How comes its only loose and broke women that are attracted to you.
If I were you, I will go for prayers and fasting before marriage

Lol...have you forgotten that Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world?

Also the average salary of a Nigerian graduate is less than 150k, when you add inflation and other factors, you'll see that you're earning peanuts. Start up businesses are going through hell, unemployment is at it peak.

CBN openly stated last year that less than 10% of the average Nigerian has up to 500k in their account... what does that tell you? That means that despite all the packaging and smiling face, most people are suffering.

Finally it's not a secret that the average Nigerian girl is greedy and lacks contentment. So despite the efforts her husband is making to sustain the home, she will always want more, and if her ex can provide it, she'll be willing to open her legs and suck his cóck to get it. So yes your gender needs deliverance not me.

When you leave Nigeria you'll understand that most of the problems you feel needs prayers and fasting are solved by governments who know their jobs.

Owologbo:
Do you mean if a lady or an ex asked you for a favour, she's open for sex?
So one cannot help the opposite sex without asking for sex or one must offer sex to receive favour/help from the opposite sex?

Lol...you clearly don't have any married ex you chat with.

Most of them are the ones who initiate sex talk due to loneliness. I had an experience with one like that, the only reason why I used to reply her nasty chats back then was because we were far from each other, she's in Abj while I'm in lagos.

She literally tells me about her sexual life with her husband, that most times he can't go more than 2 rounds...etc. This kinds of discussion automatically prepares the ground for sex, her requesting for favours from you is just to see you, she has already made up her mind to sleep with you so once you make an attempt she wouldn't resist...it's that bad.

Any decent girl who respects her home and her husband wouldn't ask any kind of favour from an ex she had countless sex with. I mean she has inlaws, family and friends, even the church...so why go to your ex for favours?

Why not cut off and focus on your marriage if truly you've moved on? Truth is most girls want to eat their cake and have it.

Thank God for her life, next time she should know that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

As a lagosian, I'll vote Gbajabiamila for reps, sanwo olu for governor and Peter Obi for president.