₦airaland Forum

Enemiesmasquera:
You're so naive

Jennyclay:
I hope he finds his true love.

Personally, I can’t date a physically challenged man not to talk of marrying him

God forbid!!

RealEmilokan:
To the UK. I'm grateful to God everyday when I ready about Nigeria here.

Amarachibaby:
1.Got a well paying job as an undergraduate 2.Striving to be independent lady 3.bought my very first phone.4leaving my introvert life i.e being more social.5.Being able to support my family for the first time.6.being more tolerant than ever befor. is not easy but in all glory be to God greater height i pray

Rachie83:
It's the operation "do it yourself". I will not encourage the use of agent. Gather any info you need here in nairaland.com on USA visa thread and do it yourself although US visa is tough to get now. I wish you all the best.

Rachie83:
Hello everyone, it's nice to come across this thread. I remember around 2916/17 I used to read on thread like this while I was in Nigeria hoping to find myself in the US someday but exactly end of 2017 I got in with my hubby. Anyway to those who still contemplating of coming to US do not give up your dream although US is very hard to get in now but some people are still coming in. US is a land of opportunities with less cost of living compare to Canada and UK although it depends on the State you are. If you are a new immigrant midwest states are the best for you(Ohio, Indiana, Kentucky, Michigan, Iowa, part of Illinois,
Missouri etc) interm of settling in on time because the cost of living is cheaper and a lot of job opportunities for new Comer although the cold is much during the winter. I would not advise new comers with no legal status to stay in Atlanta, Texas, California, Florida etc Atlanta Georgia is out of the pictures because the state pays lower and some bills are higher eg Auto insurance is ×3 of that of Indiana. Texas is not expensive but no immigrants job(if you understand what I mean) California is generally expensive. We landed in Indiana which really helped us to get settled on time but we chose to explore and we moved to Atlanta but that was a mistake and we are planning to relocate back to Indiana.

I am here to give one or two input when it comes to issues here in the US.

Jeff0983:
Visa alert

Main applicant
Applied on 9th October
Bio on 18th of October
NSF requesting documents used for Narics on the 24 of October
Replied the NSF with the documents on 25th October
Visa approved on the 28th October
Collection mail 30th and pick it up same day cos we’re in Abuja at that time
BRP mail 1st of November

Dependent male which is me
Visa application on 9th October
Bio on 18th of October
NSF requesting over sea police clearance certificate but I was unable to get the police clearance from Dubai police okposki
So I replied the NSF on Tuesday last week 14th November
Visa approved on 17th of November just 3 days after replying the NSF
Collection mail yesterday 21st November
BRP just drop this morning 22 November
Well tomorrow is my birthday 23rd
What a birthday present

Omo the waiting was so frustrating

nomolos92:
My ex came back when she realized her prospective next is a clown 🤡

Cuteandkind:
Okay, a lot have really changed now. Getting offers are tougher and the immigration process is stricter.

I made over 200 applications on Trac, and no singular interview invite.

I used my life savings to come to UK on a visit visa to write my OSCE. Just few applications here, I have gotten 2 offers.

So I am considering holding on to them, jealously

nairalee:
Seriously this is what most single ladies should be doing. Once u are getting to 25 u guys should form a network and keep posting each other and introducing each other to male potential suitors. U never can tell how far such could go.

But some foolish girls of nowadays you're 28 and still asking "who gave you my number".

Jeff0983:
Guys please is Pictures , chats history, marriage certificate ( but not up to 3 months old) bank statements showing money sent to each enough for UK dependent visa?
Though we would be adding NIN because our NIN has the same Naija address but we have only been in Nigeria together for just 10 months, we also want to add SHEIN invoice 🧾 showing our address in Dubai from 2021 , will this be acceptable because we don’t have bills paid with both our names or tenancy agreement with both name, I have mailed the housed I lived in in Dubai to add my wife’s name to the contract but the said it against their policy and I don’t want to forge anything,

Our pictures together is from 2020 to 2023
Chat history is from 2020 to 2023
Bank statements showing money sent to each other is from 2021 to 2023
SHEIN invoices is from 2021
NIN is just 10 months.
We want to submit our visa by Monday

brain54:
That’s a beautiful tree…


If na Africa them for done chop am down… use am for firewood 🪵 since 1793.

We no really get value for such things!

Blake755:
Yes it is too hard to believe but bitter kola has the properties that could be a cure to sickle cell i wish the could make more investigation about it
It has kolaviron that could cure and malaria
It could fight inflammation
It fights cold
The most important one is it boost immune system when i found about it i was going crazy
People now says am adding weight who won't add weight when there is no crisis again
All i needed now is just to work on my self on what i eat you know
I now have peace of mind no more unnecessary visit to hospital 🙈🙈

Blake755:
Use bitter kola thank me later
My own was so pathetic until i started making research i use bitter kola since July till now no crisis although i still treat malaria once in a month but it has been a relief to me

tiswell:
Shut up!
How many older generation parents were aware of genotype.
You had to drag his parents in your foolery.
Must you bring your poor parental upringing to the public glare.

lonelydora:
How man go dey cry?

He's not a simp, but I hate such men.

I remember my guy who cried on his wedding day while his wife was singing for him. I left the reception and went outside because I dey vex for am. Till date, I dey stroke am with that cry.

Curiouscity:
I guess you are just encountering the moniker (Kobojunkie) for the 1st time here. My advice is, leave our Kobojunkie to do his/her spin.
Come back tomorrow with this exact story, s/he will give an opposite spin.

Kobojunkie:
That is a silly question to ask.

2. What law says you can't do that though? Who says you should not or can't do just that? So you want instead for women to tie themselves down to deadbeats in marriage?

Kobojunkie:
I don't understand. Is domestic violence the only reason that exists out there for why a woman would want to leave a marriage or something? When you were dating... assuming you did... did you only leave a relationship only in the case of violence?

2. Wow.. so leaving a marriage when there is no money to sustain it means one is chicken? Yikes!

Kobojunkie:
Define love? We all use that word as though it has the same exact meaning across the board when it never has. And why do we use love as a reason to shun commonsense?

Look at Osinachi's case for instance. Did love keep her from being used as a punching bag in marriage?

Did love keep starvation from ravaging OP'S sister and her children in the marriage? The love keep the man from eventually abandoning her and her kids for 8 solid years?

Does love even have a real value if it one-sided?

Midastorch:
I'm a Yoruba man working with a top shot from Nnewi makes me realized that that an Nnewi man never jokes with his immediate family especially if his extended family is involved..yes , they can be egotistical, put their hands in anything as long as it pays their bills but they always put family first...nothing is wrong with an Nnewi man from Anambra

3ice9ce:
I'm sure after your father bought your mother, they put her in nylon bag to take home. Ezi.

Kobojunkie:
No be everybody get your kind stamina. Each person should know when to call it quits too.

There are women out there who have endured worse beatings in marriage and continue to endure it even to today believing it gets worse sometimes b4 I gets better. Osinachi was probably thinking exactly that too, believing she too was built like those women only she found out the hard way that she was nothing like them.

Make we leave individuals to decide for themselves how to handle their own marriage situation abeg! All married women, including OP'S sister don't need to settle for the same lot as you in marriage. Let each decide for self.

sheldonbbt:
As a married man, what do you do when you realize your wife is self centered? Marriage is just a year old.

She is quick to question when I need to send money to my family. I transfer 40% of my monthly salary to her for savings as I am not so good with money, but when it comes to her family, she is very swift.

I intend to stop giving her the savings.

shortIGBOman:
They are the original rutualist and drug pushers

NdubisiCharles:
Am afraid if is he for real or did he have any evil thing on mind, u know all this nnewi, Anambra men

Tjra:


This life ehn, no one knows tomorrow.

2 secs everything don burst.

nairalanda1:
First, tell us the whole story from start to finish, then we can help you.

nairalanduser23:
I am tired of my wife's quarrelsome behaviour which I think she reserves for me. I can be having a honest conversation with her and out of nowhere it will lead to a quarrel with her. It surprises me.

Strange enough, I have observed her communication with neighbours, work colleagues and she knows how to compose herself but when it is me even a funny comment can upset her. Even when I tell her I didn't mean her negative interpretation of a comment, she will still insist on her negative interpretation.

She sometimes talks to me in a way that seems unfriendly to the point that I desire her talking to me the way she talks to outsiders. I have talked to her about it but it is not helping matters. She acts like she is not ware of her tone but there is a stark difference between how she talks to me and other people.

I earn far more than her and take care of the house bills so money is not an issue. I feel like I am the only one proactive about peace in the marriage while she is care-free.

How can I deal with this?

poshestmina:
It all depends on the family background.
I feel most men are scared of the responsibilities that comes with being a first daughter if the family is all relying on the 1st daughters or son's...and in most cases of daughters,the responsibilities become their husband's.


My eldest sister has being happily married for close to 7 years now.
Not like we are very wealthy ,we just don't depend on each other,no entitlement whatsoever not even our parents!!!

Every body is hustling and only ask for helps when it's an emergency.

The only sibling we are still training in school is our last born and it's a joint task...and our parents, anything and anytime you have to send.

No pressure on anyone and any in_laws.

It all boils down to family backgrounds .