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emmanuelbrown26:
My man, u dey see am so? Look at all their comments above and see how foolish they are.
Non even asked some question but they hv being shouting as if marriage is life time achievement.

is an achievement o..
Men always think they are wise..

Men are actually the weak vessel.


Having children is good at least when u grow very old u will have someone to care for u..

I am just imagining my dad who l know to jump the stairs few years ago is no longer active,
How he will be cooking and no body to check on him and all the relative will be minding their business.
Will he now go and bring houseboy or nanny that will strangle him or poison him?

Benefits de marriage and having children no matter what.
If u don't see it now ua strong.
When u eventually realize it might be late

Munzy14:
Mmiri e ji akpu nwa(Sperm) ka I kpo ga frustration...smh.

funny..

Arsenate:
Kinds of dudes I would like to have drinks with (regularly). Living the good life.

Odiegwu..
He go needam later

SerikiFulani:
We need to stop this attitude of forcing people to do certain things like getting married, giving birth.

I'm 42 years old and I'm not thinking of marriage or giving birth cos it doesn't benefit me...

I have friends who are in their late 40's and who are unmarried and unbothered about it...These are multi millionaires I'm talking about.

Smh

Be fruitful and multiply..
Abeg go and do it bc u will need it later..
Everything is not money

It isn't good to be alone at certain age

Emma2Seconds:
Visiting ones son or brother is now a crime after marriage Abii?? 99.9 percent of you ladies are very deadly and wicked .

Our last born who has been coming to my house every holiday,l pay for every expenses to come and cool off bc he stays in domitory way back in 2010.

He will beat his nephew like say they are his mate l told him this boys are ur children and my brother said l support them and was talking back at me.

I couldn't believe it,when l called my mum that l am putting him in d first bus the next morning
she told me" my daughter please forgive him"that the boarding is making him behave anyhow.

That is my brother o
If it is another they will not believe me and they will say l don't like my in- laws

Na our last wee l no take play be that o.


Some women can be mean l agree but u see some in-laws are from another planet.

My husband created boundaries
He will always tell me " don't start what u can't finish".
This in- laws issues depends on the family.

bigpicture001:
Y don't I believe u.. I 100% know it's not cuz of extra mouth to feed .. it just dat feeling of having your right to privacy and ur early dissatisfaction with thier presence....

See nobody wants to b a pest to another..but trust me sh is family,when u stat to see. Her as one,sh can even become ur best friend and gist mate...I also inconvenience my inlaw at their early stage of marriage...

In our own.. my younger sis lives with them and I also came and joined in a two bedroom flat.. where the guy is a struggling lawyer..... Famiy house is even worse off sef..I felt discomfort being there myself,but at the time..I don't havve a. Choice...but the inlaw for once. Never even frowned...

I incurred a big expense on them sef living there as I had a bike accident and broke my femur and he got a loan of 400k to pay for my surgery...

I will always remember and. Love them cuz of the extra live they showed me...this happened about 10years ago

Guess what just last week my inlaw had his own accident and broke his tibia... I sent in 200k in support of the surgery.. that is. What family is about... We look out for ourselves, nuclear or extended

when you are there for a good reason the wife will love you even if ur presence inconvenience them she will understand.
but u see those in- laws who are there as entitlement.
Who feels this is my brother's house and l can do anything.they disrespect u at Will especially if d husband didn't create boundaries.

Emma2Seconds:
Guys Why Do Most Women Find It Very Difficult In Accommodating People From Their Husband Side Than Their Their Own Side

if u and someone no get along y would you be staying with them?

Some in-laws can frustrate the wife especially if they don't love her.

Y don't everyone stay on their own..

Devilagentcap:
just fairy tales, are you sure about this bro

leave them..

Lordofalmajiri:
Glo is the best bro, their 1Gb is 1Gb I can't say the same for empty hen and hair-tell

chai..
U no-go kill me here wit laff.

CreepyBlackpool:
My face.

I pray they don't inherit my face

funny you
Wetin happen for the face?

Sleekfingers:
And how is it your business, with how I live my sexual life? It is my choice. Even if I am caught, and she couldn't continue with our marriage. She is free to move out .....

let her know what you are doing naw..
No be to de make mouth online.

Y did u get married when you know she might not be enough for you.

When ua eventually caught and she moves out what do u intend to do?

Marry another and continuing the cycle?

Or go for second and third wife?



I am giving you assignment today
Tell ur wife what ua up to and see how she will react.

you have no idea how it feels to be cheated on.or the extent of pain cheating gives a woman psychologically and emotionally?
Cheating is a choice and evil

Repent now bc hmm

No woman wants to share her man..
Please tame urself and be a real man .


Marriage is a covenant which binds you to your spouse and demands loyalty.

Stop opening ur body for other women that can't go one inch with you to play with..


Respect ur wife..


If married couple would see the future and how their act of infidelity tear family and friendship they will keep their sexual organ under lock.

The spark never remain in love or marriage,it is left for you to spice it..

God bless you..

Sleekfingers:
Of course.......me self get couple of side chicks.....but my wife has never suspected......

Is like telling a man to be eating rice everyday.....pesin go tire na......

one day you will be caught
And that will be the beginning of the end of love and peace in ur home..

Cheating is evil and shouldn't be encouraged!

Tmb78:
Speak for yourself Manwhore!
I have never stepped outside and I never will.
And I have been married for years
I have all I need in my Awelewa

God bless you and your family..

Cutehector:
no dey mumu yourself na. I put a winks emoji there to show i was exaggerating about the 30hours. Obviously there are 24hrs in a day.

people wee understand understand..
No stress urself nwanne..

TheStakeHolder:
From all indications he's the next president.

Unfortunately but that's the truth.

Mark this date.

l agree
I hope he changes things..

To me he will be better than Atiku

burritto:
Cheating is not caused by beauty or anything like it. It’s just a desire to explore. Your husband just wanted to explore, but he wasn’t smart enough. There’s no man on earth who is a saint. Even if you had married another man who was throwing himself at you in the past, I’m very sure he would have still cheated on you. Understand this and have peace of mind.

Men will always cheat. Any man who says he has not cheated now, will cheat later in future. It is inherent.

if u must cheat do it with respect and dignity..
I wish l could tell u d thing he did,u sef go open mouth till l finish.

When l was telling one woman what he was doing she was just shedding tears.

Edyice:
Ndidi2


Men dey Street dey wait , incase you want to pay him in return..



Many dude are standing by waiting for such an opportunity to come by .

Is not in me and l can't learn it now..

AFONJAPIG:
thank you the advice, all u said are true... qll she does irritates me, I tackle her in any slightest mistake , I suspect her even when she's telling the truth... what pains me most , she waited until I laid brideprice before he cheated with nobody, nobody that can't withstand my shadow, I can't trust her again,

Tell her people what she did and collect ur money back..
If she wants to kill herself let her go ahead..
I repeat free her now.
Free her today..

That thing is strong once broken can never remain the same.

burritto:
Honey, it’s fine if you can’t forgive. You can stay away from him for sometime to see if you can let go, if you can’t however, then I don’t see why you two still need to get married.

I’ll advice you forgive your husband cos women and men are not built same way.

The reason men don’t forgive cheating spouse is far more deeper than what anyone can say here.

There is cheating that is evil.
I don't deserve the model of that cheating considering how we met and how he met me.
I am the kind of woman every men wanted he got me and threw all that away bc of a useless ugly side chick that doesn't add one single value in his life rather she is removing.
1 year plus the pain of d foolish betrayal is there..
Pain of betrayal,lies, disrespect knows no gender..

AFONJAPIG:
Woman I paid her brideprice cheated on me with ex, nearly 8 months its still like a fresh wound... how I wished she never did .. to make the matter most, I'm by far richer , handsome, caring etc than this boy that brushed my ego...she has been crying begging for the past 8 months, she said if I walk she will commit suicide, that it was a mistake, though I'm out of the country when it happened

please l beg you don't you take her back bc u will never forgive her genuinely.

My loving husband for over a decade was having a heartbreaking affair with different women but was caught Sept 6th 2020 since that day everything about us changed.
He has begged me to the extent l de fear myself.
I didn't know l am hard.
I let go 3 days l resent him 4 days.

Is it a good thing? No
Though he has stopped but d damage can't be repaired nomata how l try.

Do not marry her bc everything she does will irriate u.
And you always be suspicious of her.

Make she cry now nonsense..
When she Dee do am where did she put you?
She remove her shoe,bra,pant,shirt and jump on the bed.
Cheating is not a mistake it is a decision.

Women supposed to be strong willed so that they give ur kids strong morals.not the ones that will see nothing wrong in sleeping around and when caught go say na mistake..

abbey621:
To understand the root of the issue, one must understand the role of a man in a relationship. What is expected of him? Provider, security, innovator, an epitome of consistency. What is the woman's role? Divine, supporter, helper, queen, morally superior, the glue that holds everything together, the home maker.

Simply put it this way, men have long held women on this imaginary ladder, we are so consumed by our mothers and grandmothers way of life back then that we believe women of nowadays still aspire for such faithfulness or greatness. When the woman eventually cheats, this perception that we built is shattered and we finally see the woman for what she represents. We finally see her as morally weak aka the same as most men. Unfortunately this is not what most men want, we don't shower you with gifts, let you press our mumu button just so that you can disappoint us .

In conclusion, even if a man can forgive such attrocity, he would not hold such a woman dearly again and by the way, even tho women forgive they never ever forget! They stay because they still see the upside in the relationship, trust me if you give most women financial freedom, they would never ever forgive a cheat. Women are more vindictive than most people know, na something make crayfish bend!

ua right.
I thought l had forgiven him for cheating on me since l married him.
But no.
Is hard l mean very hard knowing girl s has been sleeping with him at least 3 x in a week.
He is not special again nothing trip me about him again.
Before l caught him l never believed l will ever stop loving him but foolish cheating chatterd everything..
Cheating is evil not matter what..

koyyess:
Males especially negroes can't take what they dish out. But they stupidly expect females to swallow their betrayals without consequences.

Not all women forgive easily. They just wait for you to train their kids and then pray for you to die. Some of the kids may not even be yours.

my dear is not easy to forgive a husband that has been cheating foolishly for over a decade thinking he will never be caught.

I am honestly waiting for my children to mature.
I have tried all therapy but still resent him.for him to be sleeping with different girl without protection and blowing to me all kinds of lies to be with them.

Is that a man one should kill herself for?
I can never love him genuinely the way l use to.
Never..
He betrayed me very very badly for 12 solid years thinking he is a pro.
Now forming repentant.

naijapikin2:
Ita not just hard for a guy for forgive... its impossible. Its like a broken glass. No marrer how you try to fix it.. it will never be the same

is not only men .
I resent him since l catcham
Is not easy to forgive..
Things has not been the same..

I told him "there is nothing he will do in this life to please me"
Cheating is evil it should not be encouraged

NeckingNgulping:
Before you forgive a cheating woman, just remember there was a time it slipped out and she quickly put it back in..

the same as men too..
Cheating is evil..
No matter what!

burritto:
Men are natural hunters, they hunt for women and that’s why when the woman cheats it hurts a lot cos his ego has been bruised.

He hunts and bring them home as his spoils and it’s never funny when another man taste from it. Personally I’ll never forgive a cheating spouse

my husband cheated on me.

I thought l had forgiven him but l have not really.
I resent him, but trying to let go of the hurt but is hard.
I flare up on any little argument which didn't happen when l haven't found out.

Honestly,l don't truly love him again the way l use to .
Struggling to put everything behind but is hard.

So is not only men that feel hurt when cheated on.
Cheating is evil..

Kollins11:
Look at you... The man was even merciful.

If I were to be the man and she try this rubbish with me, I will not only eat at my sidechick place.. I will even bring her to our matrimonial bed and fvck her aggressively in her presence.

are u saying that if ur wife came back from work around 8 pm in d night u will insist she will go to market and buy u catfish for pepper soup?

When l read how some of you react to this stories l wonder
what is love when u like subjecting someone'sis to nonsense just bc ua married to her.

If my husband feels he want to eat anything special he go don tell me in d morning.


Make una de de reasonable o

Kollins11:
This is not the matter of how old are you. I'm a full grown man.

Women neva do you strong thing na why you dey defend her. But don't worry the breakfast MUST reach everybody one way or the other.

are u guys serious for this kind comment wee l de read for here?

ojuu4u:
And u think by doing that you are a "role model" not only to ur wife but ur children, even people around you?

Don't you think you are the way now because how ur father treated ur mother wen u re growing up?

Did u want ur kids to be wayward in future?

l wonder o..
Are those people posting rubbish here kidding us?

Kobojunkie:
What I don't understand is what the woman is still hanging around the man for? Why not divorce the unrepentant cheat so she can keep her sanity instead? Or does she plan to, I don't know, exist in competition with the man's sidechicks or what?

A ma m oo..

Ultimatesammie:
This is stupid, they both went to work and she cooked for him yet he rejected the initial food to ask for pepper soup, why didn't he ask before she cooked the 1st one, she's also a human being is she supposed ti break herself because she has a husband and she even said she'll do it the following day, some of you so called alpha males just sound like entitled brats, you dont treat anyone like that.
If the lady wasn't doing anything at all ill understand but the fact that she still did even after working yet youre still blaming her nah yall have issues.

Hmm..
A sigh of relief
God bless you
May your daughter never meet a senseless useless adulterer..

Tokskob2008:
When you claim or want to claim useless always remember there's a replacement for you somewhere around the corner. Most ladies think because they are now married nothing else can happen and everything henceforth will have to be on their terms alone.

The man no even try cos if I was the one I wouldn't go out to meet the lady but rather tell her to come and prepare it for me in my house. Shebi she is tired and doesn't have good words to go with it abi? When she sees she as a competition her head will reset or she goes back to her father's house to gets the deserved rest she craves for.

Akuko n' egwu Mike Ejeagha..

Maryam1234:
Yes ma'am,Potasco is good and weavils don't attack it as easily as they do to other beans variety.I know from experience, I always Farm Potasco but,that doesn't mean I don't preserve it though;

how much and trans to lagos and where will l pick up?