lynpetra:

Sweery,na giant snail.Chai!!!
Ugo,imagine as I go wash am ,boil am with enough onions,maggi,salt kon fry am make e dey crunchy.blend enough pepper and onions fry am,add the cooked snails,turn am well.All this na firewood ooo with local mortar."Oh,I for don marry o,Ogogoro na u cause am" will be my theme song as I wash am down with chilled beer. .Ndi ocha n'nzuzu!

lafuria1:

Simple, the Russian guy talks, Cheng location is found ( Cheng works for the Russian, they have to meet). Cheng is arrested, override device is retrieved, US shows evidence to china, china is glad and president heller resigns. What else will be left unresolved ?

jennykadry:

Which action can take place anywhere sir, can you please elaborate

True that though, a guy that smells good is top notch

I think he means ikworkrikwo (in Babymama's voice)

Nashville: Talking of fashion, I was reading on a thread that some guys wear their boxers shorts for up to two weeks without changing them. In fact I heard some guys wear their boxers for a month. As I was reading the thread, some guys were even defending it, saying boxers are not important. Abeg, no guy should wear boxers for more than two days without changing them. Doesn't it even smell? Some even say their boxers are torn and they still wear them like that.

Small time, you guys will be complaining that your woman does not give you Mouth Action. How will she give you Mouth Action when you haven't changed your boxers in three weeks. If your woman wore the same pant for three weeks, would you be able to go down on her? And them some guys complain that 9ja babes only buy boxers for their guys on birthdays and val's day. My simple answer is that she buys you boxers because that is what you need the most. In fact your babes should buy you boxers for vals, xmas and birthdays forever.

@First bolded *Faints*

@Second bolded *Dies*

Nashville:

You are most welcome.

Barman, abeg make her feel welcome. One glass of Virgin Pina Colada for her!

In addition, abeg madam Cool temper restaurant, abeg bring one croaker fish for me and this pretty lady, also put one for Oga Nash Table , no forget to add slightly ripe plantain oo . Bar man, another round, on me.

TV01:

Men must take responsibility for their relationships. And act as having a "duty of care" when engaging women.

To keep it platonic simply do not send out wrong signals, give hints or be caught up in situations that suggest otherwise. If the girl is getting the wrong impression or "trying to make it happen", you need to disengage, limit contact or simply speak plainly - but kindly.

Note;
1. Some women read any nice gesture as a sign of intent. Be careful.

2. Some women will see what they want and try and make it happen by sheer force of will. It may not be because of anything you do or don't do. Beware.

Platonically, treat them like sisters, don't be flirtatious. Be polite and helpful without overdoing the bobo nice or falling mugu. If you wish to step it up, you suggest something. Start cooly, drink meal etc. Light-hearted chat and probe without being nosey. If they are always around., scope them as much as possible without being intrusive. It's worth finding out a person before stepping-up if possible. Saves time and effort. Before suggesting anything, if they are in the same office, linger a little at their desks, chat a bit more. To them, not about them.

Don't think "serious" until you have a decent bio. Otherwise it's simply speculative, or at best "getting to know".

I speak as a serious man to serious men. I was celibate for over a decade. Met loads of women, but never called any girlfriend. Met my wife, got to know her, woo'ed her, courted her, married her.


TV

Ronnie65: Nice one guys.
Really interesting. Please how does a babe attract a guy who doesn't seem to show much interest in her? without appearing desperate or been turned into beer palor topic?

These days loads of guys can't read body language and eye contacts. help a sister out.

BTW, we both are in contact but he comes on to me srrongly once a while and just shuts off after a while. he probably needs to be plugged to a stabilizer. Lol

I don't want to put all my cards on the table for him for obvious reasons but can't watch him slip off either.

While waiting for the experts (Nash, TV et al). I will suggest the following.
Trying engaging him in small talks, even try getting personal. things like his favourite sports, colours, foods, drinks, etc. From here, assuming his best colour is blue (like me), you might try wearing clothes/assessories that have blue colourations or shades/touches

Call him up and ask him how his day went, stuffs like that. Try also knwoing if he is a serious relationship which might be why he isnt interested in any other chic.

If all of the above fail, please show me the same green light and I will connect straight up


_{But mehn, some guys dey fall hands o}

TV01:

Get a girl first mate

But seriously, be as cash rich as you can be in preparation and ahead of time. Even if you haven't gotten the girl! Listen carefully; plan your budget with a medium term view - i.e. there is life and there will be expenses after the day - and stick to it. Anyone that thinks you should charter helicopter, release a million white doves, or anything you both haven't planned for, should only be accomodated on the basis they are willing to fund it.

In all likelihood, you would have dreamed of winning the girl, the girl would have dreamt of the big day. She probably already knows what she wants. Negotiate what's best for you both and support her all the way. Keep a close eye on spending and all arangements. PM it!



If you are a Christian, church is great. But beware, you probably have to be more discerning there than in a brothel .

For the naturally reclusive, a solid network of family and friends is a big asset. No matter how small yours is work to extend it.

Let me give you two insights from my time searching;

1. Boldness
I was -am even - a little like you. Boldness was one of the things I had to learn. And I mean to the extent of approaching people wherever you meet them. It's not easy and requires patience and practice. But it will make you feel manly and build confidence - even if you get blown out. No marriage proposals at first sight 0 ! A simple "hello, how are you" or "good morning", will suffice. Start by learning to engage people you know more - colleagues etc. - then move on to "neutrals", girls that you are not necessarily interested in - this reduces pressure and sweaty armpit/clammy hand/cotton mouth type situations

2. Smart use of contacts
Following on from my "family & friends" & "boldness points above. I meant and got to know literally hundreds of girls - always knowing I was looking for a wife. My wife. Initially, once they proved "out of scope" for whatever reason, I cut all contact. But as I grew in understanding. I thought hmmm...these ladies could be a great resource. So unless they fell into the "bad eggs" category, I started to retain contact/friendships, making it plainly platonic. A few of these girls became my greatest champions. I met my wife through one of them.


TV

Wow, when I asked about the wedding plans initially, I was only kidding in response to Bussy. However, the tips you gave are absolutely spot on. I surely will keep them handy when the time comes. (even though I dont know when). Thanks a mil

Now to the second point, in a case whereby most of the people (females) around you are either your mate or older then you (either due to the fact that you graduated from school on time or you started working on time), how can one make very healthy platonic Guy-Chic relationship (maybe with a view to making it something serious )?. More often than not these ladies want something serious which one might not just be willing to give at the moment

pickabeau1: PH has fine gals...
Warri babes,,, down to earth,,,

You should see gems in abraka.....


but for the total package.. beauty and homeliness, our sisters from AkwaIbom and Crossriver edge it... no pretense,..

The closest to them ive seen so far are the SA chics...cool to hang out and cook superbly though i hear ZIM babes are awesome too

A friend just married a cameroonian,,, they seem cool too

xmas in douala,,..

Case closed!!!!!!!

*Starts drafting letter to be sent to Akwa Ibom/Uyo on assignment/transfer

Nashville:

Guy, the truth is that you just need to try. You say you love staying indoors. It is difficult to improve your social life by staying indoors. You need to go out more. Attend office event, friend's birthdays, weddings, etc. From there, you will meet more people and they will invite you to more functins. You start gradually and begin to feel more comfortable.

Most guys conversation center on Sports, Politics and Business. If you are comfortable discussing those three, you should be fine. If you do not already support a team, I will recommend Chelsea FC. They have the best coach in the world and are positioned to win lots of trophy.

Arsenal never wins anything and Liverpool will talk about 25 years ago. Man Utd will never win again and Man City is in transition. So my guy, I recommend Chelsea FC if you are not one of us already.

@First bolded, Yes, I am very ok discussing the bolded, in fact, I do very well in those

@ Second bolded, I beg to disagree, I am, still and will forever be a Manchester United Fan. We are only passing through a phase, and we surely will come out stronger.

I so love your indepth analysis of the categories of Men cheats........very intriguing, omo that your HR manager friend, mehn, would have given King Solomon a good run for his wealth But Like Ujojoan said, somehow, you implied that Its in Men's nature to cheat, what we just need is a little push/shove/justification. I am not married yet, but I dont think its right, some guys out there exist that still have self discipline

bussyluv08: pls oh am also looking for dat type of guy.want my own king too.i pray and hope he comes dis year

Oh well, start saying Amen, your prayer has been answered. Here I am !!

@Nash, TV, et al, please start giving your guy bits on wedding plans Bussyluv08 weds Nosyke

bodashee: We (or lemme say they), cuz am on ghost mode on the girls thread, did that because the RedBenson man should have jst deciphered that his own version of "truth" wasn't going down well wiv the ladies. First person disagrees, 2nd person disagrees, 3rd person disagrees, @ that stage a manly man shld let it go. D@ doesn't necesarily means he agrees with them. Its jst being wise enuf to know when to stop. As a person, I believe truth varies from person to person on such issues, so I don't have a problem with his comment. He shld av jst let it go instead of going back and forth with the women on their thread. Anybody wanna bet with me........they won't let it go until he gives it up.
Anyways, that said, I think I like the issue of respect that was brought up. This is just my opinion tho but methinks in times when love ceases to be persuasive, respect does. I'm not married yet sha o, but I left my ex because he was too into me. A man has to know when to strike the balance. I'm very stubborn ( I know my faults and I admit them because I believe that's a necessary step towards working on them), and I could be bossy because I'd just keep having my way if I'm allowed. The one thing, that made me leave my bf was because he did not know how to handle me as a person because he felt he would lose me if he's firm. And I noticed in the relationship, I was always having my way, no give and take, there was nothing tho strive for all I had to do was snap a finger and it was done, even when I was clearly wrong, he'd be begging like his life depended on my being cool with him. It felt like a master slave relationship. After him, I was alone for a year. My present bf, tho very very gentle, caring and very much in love with me, but ther's one clear difference, if he talks, I listen. Its not like he's bossy or anything, just that he carries himself in a manner that leaves some space for respect. That means that he'll be able to balance my person because there'll be someone to keep my excesses in check, and help become a better person. I know that its not right to keep having my way all the time, such power can turn a person into a stranger. If my bf shows displeasure over something I did, I always wanna make it up to him. In the process of doing so I believe I'm working on myself and becoming a better person. And really that's the point. I don't understand it when ladies start looking for people that will be their lapdogs and be washing their panties and be washing their teeth for them. Once in a while.......if the man chooses, fine, but I think a mans place is on top and not beside or below. Simple

slimyem: Why are the ladies clamoring for sex gists from these boys? Won't it be boring?
...like y'all cannot predict what they'll mostly say if it takes that course. how honed they are
,how the beds rock,walls shake
and wildlife howl at the moon every time it gets there...even when its not half the truth.

Girl toh badt

tpia@:



I'm yet to see any such men on the thread yet, maybe I didn't read all the posts.

TV01:

Shouldn't really be a problem. She should respect you for your manliness and maturity. If you possess it. Not your age. End of. If she doesn't the problem is with her. Don't commit until she comes to understanding, but bear with her small if it's the only downside and everything else is good.


TV

Ewuro707:

Thank you JESUS!!

Ewuro707:

Thank you JESUS!!

bukatyne:

I am chill my brother

Where I quoted you is not the first post I made on this thread

Tell your brother TV to chill and not see things all the time

bukatyne:

The issue is that everything is seen as man woman here especially when a 'feminist' aka frustrated old spinster is involved!

A guy was happy with Nashville's posts and offered him about 10 bottles of alcohol, 2 plates of peppersoup etc. and I asked him how he considered that to be enjoyment.

Oga Tv on my case as usual said I should 'let men be men'

I am against alcohol as a Christian; what is my own with men or women in this case?

If alcohol makes someone manly, make them carry go.