So because of that no one shld marry her abi? You wey don go heaven come back.

The guy himself shld know that marriage is something that one has to pray very well about.

I know a lady who was a brothel worker. Today married with 5 children, multi millionaire. U can't even stand her. She uses her life to encourage others. Her husband's success is tied to her.

So don't discredit someone because the immature guy brought her to u. Cos if he was matured enough for marriage, he wouldn't bring the topic here.

MrBrownJay1:


yes people can change, but that doesnt mean that their past deeds should automatically be dismissed... this woman was degrading her self to an extreme level "for money"... meaning she was being bleeped by multiple men, just because of her sick desire for money.

i would even respect a woman who says that she likes orgies and Group Intimacy etc than one who simply does it for money gain. what else can this woman do for money? what will she do when she desires a new Iphone 12 that you cant offer her? what will she do when rent is due and you dont have the money??!?!?!



irrelevant to the issue at hand... just because you may have done some bad things in the past, doesnt mean you should accept any nonsense from the possible mother of your future children and/or possible future wife

Dont say that. Everyone has a past life even u.

MrBrownJay1:
that girl was a hoe and sold herself to yahoo boys for money/comfort... is that the kind of woman you want as the future mother of your children and/or future wife? she has no moral and was willing to be shared for money.

Bro, it is sad that some people don't appreciate the fact that one goes all out to rendering support. Some take it for weakness.
But why would you try browsing through a woman's phone? Its uncultured. You get an early heart attack for no reason.. a family friend of ours just killed himself cos his wife locks her phone.. as we speak, he is 6ft, and his wife has moved on.

Secondly, why would you beat a woman...that is weakness on your path... you only proposed to her. That is not even an excuse even if she's your wife. Dont marry out of pity..

Remember, your thought as you said here are just assumptions. You can't live a life like that. If you feel otherwise in the rship, call her to order, define your rship and call it off if the centre cannot hold.

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

Badabada:
Misplaced priorities.

We have more pressing issues that needs to be addressed urgently. Most of this our politicians self...

True. 1 year is even a long time.. we dont need NYSC. The aim of it is defeated

I see nothing wrong in adopting the child legally. My advice is that u also seek the father's consent. The fact that he hasn't been in the child's life doesn't change the fact that he is still the father. If he agrees to granting u the consent, fine. Else, just still raise the child as still your child. I lost my mum at age 3. No one know that my step mum isn't my biological. She doesn't treat me nor my sister different from her other kids. Even when we lost our dad, she still hasn't changed. We call her daily, the r/ship is still strong.
U never know which child will take care of u at ur old age bro......
I have seen situations that biological children still don't take care of their parents, rather the adopted / step children take care of these people at old age.

So in as much as everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I do believe that one has to critically analyze a situation before responding.

Thank God for the grace to move beyond where you are. My advise is that you continue teaching, do more research about the block industry. My uncles have been in the block business for a while. Though lucrative, there are still some ups and down.

With 500k, 1. do you the molding machine? 2. If not, have you checked out the cost of the machine? 3. If you are not considering the molding machine for now, then you are considering manpower to start with. 4. Do you have a location already? have you figured out your rent expenses if renting? Do more research.

Keep your teaching job, it will help to balance your overhead/miscellaneous cost/anticipated cost. I started a business without much research into it. I had competitions, and I had to shut it down. That is why I encourage you to do more research. My current is better because I learnt the hard way; you don't have to learn that same way, but learn from other's experiences.

Just my thought.

As a guy I understand the feeling. But Approach matters in everything you do. In a girl's mind, once you approach, she thinks u want to get between her legs. Its now left for you to prove her wrong. How do u approach a girl? Respect is reciprocal, if you approach a girl respectfully, she will grant you audience. But dont forget that some girls lack manners. All in all, just be a gentleman and approach a girl respectfully. Time will still tell.

Very Sad. What does she need at that age

Nice move.

nsidear:
My dear I understand ur trouble. What u have to do is this, get him a skin to skin condom, that way u both don't feel he's even using that. But before he uses that, also get him a desensitizing spray, let him spray on his penis 10 minute before sex, just on the tip of his penis, then slide in the condom, the rest is history. Don't let him spray the desensitized without using condom, else u will be desensitized and 1. U will have a long sex but no feelings and enjoyment cos u are desensitized.

But after using the spray with condom and long lasting sex, he can take it off with soap and water, wash his penis and continue sex without condom so he can reach his ejaculation.

Let us know when u try. If u need additional info, post and will respond.

My dear I understand ur trouble. What u have to do is this, get him a skin to skin condom, that way u both don't feel he's even using that. But before he uses that, also get him a desensitizing spray, let him spray on his penis 10 minute before sex, just on the tip of his penis, then slide in the condom, the rest is history. Don't let him spray the desensitized without using condom, else u will be desensitized and 1. U will have a long sex but no feelings and enjoyment cos u are desensitized.

But after using the spray with condom and long lasting sex, he can take it off with soap and water, wash his penis and continue sex without condom so he can reach his ejaculation.

I met this lady 3yrs ago,in a bus why going to work.she look so innocent and beatiful on getting to know she told me a lot of personal things about her and her familly..makin me to bliv she was unexposed,as she continue wit the relationship I discover that she only like to _ me when she feel she is in need of money and once I give it to her she will turn her back and live.she called me about a week ago asking Me to change here curve2 to Touch which I did,just yesterday she told me she is tired of using Touch that I should get her Bold5..I tried to talk som sense into her but she wouldn't listen she told Me I should not call/ping her if I haven't buy the Bold..pls what should I do ? Should I get her d Boldtouch or what ? The most painful aspect of it is that ever since we've bin datin we never Were Intimate..can I jst let her go like that?

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This your story looks like a make up, there is no atom of truth in it. You need to be more constructive when making up stories, your grade is -1/100

My dear this is not a new thing. It started from the bible days, look at Abraham, he was in a similar situation. Just Hang in there and love the girl, maybe God will see the love u have for the girl and answer ur prayers. I feel ur pain, but such is life. Being mean to either of them will not solve the problem, but whole heartedly be nice and friendly, offering even a helping hand. God will visit u. I will include u in my prayer list.

My aunt has the same problem after 16 yrs of marriage, she has now been throwned out of the house. This is even sad cos she single handedly brought the husband to America.

I dont think marriage should be based on this, If the lv is there, then go ahead. But be prayerful. Every family needs a turning point in life. Maybe God wants to use u to do that. Be prayerful.

its so unfortunate when issues of such comes up. Our family had a terrible experience during that time. Heavy guys banging on our door in the middle of the night, caring less about who was inside or what can happen when the step in. We ran out of the house Lol for safety, the ransacked the house and found nothing. This sounds easy but was so terrific.

Advertising car keys is simply ignorance.Who are u posing for, i have cars but i care little or less about such flambouyancy.

There is one thing we should understand here pls. God is not like man. If u have an urgent need like this of ur brother, u can take care of it,but write it somewhere the amount u needed to pay as tithe, on ur next pay, u can redeem it,Personally, I take my tithe out first before my other needs, but once my bills are all due and rather than be paying late payments on my bills, i can always substitute my tithe for it, write it down and then pay it off on my next pay. It hurts nothing. That does not attract Gods punishment in anyway long as u are faithful in redeeming it.

Who is this idiotic person called Bootyonme? Is he Christian, Muslim or pagan. Can you imagine what he is saying. I pray the wrath of God not come upon you. Blasphemy is what people don't know its moral implication. What has the ladies face or look to do with profession, as a Christian, calling on the name of Jesus is very important. Even the bible says that at the mention of that name, every knee shall bow. why don't people address issues and not shadows. Most people need to grow up.

it really makes me think why people should just sit back to analyse some other person's marriage, life and future. Most of the people criticizing the girl have no relationship with her nor family, most of them are still struggling with their own family issues yet they tend to give advise, please get off log of wood from you eyes before getting a piece from Mercy Johnson's eyes.
that is her life and future so leave her alone.
after the wedding are u going to go live with them?

First consider what the ring represents. !!!!!! ENGAGEMENT !!!!!! so if you are no longer standing by what you wear, psychologically its not good to wear same. so returning the ring is the right thing to do.

that was a day in my life history. had my pastors praying for me, text messages from my parent encouraging me to be steadfast, i was equally on fasting, lol. it wasn't funny, o. Got there and was asked to draws a circuit and explain its operation, having been a grad of E/E engine. i asked the i rather drew wiring diagram having observed the lady and realised she did not know much about the field(E/E). Over explain it to her and she just said u are the best. men, i was over joyed. lasted for 10min. so that was it.

This is so funny, so do we understand Val to be a period of a  love gift shower for a guy girl relationship? val is just symbolical on like Xmas's, personally we (bros and sis) arrange and take our parents to a nice restaurant or cook at home and eat together with jokes to fill the air, give them gift, but let them know that we still love them as each day goes by and not only on val. we celebrate with them so they don't feel left out, also for the fun of the season. don't be forced to go into debt cos u want to make Ur girl or guy happy, both parties should understand their financial needs and not over stress themselves. pls lets re-address our minds.

I know this is a hard situation for u right now, but all i want to say is this, there is nothing God cannot do, first if u are not a believer, seek the face of God and re-establish your relationship with God, then if u still truly love this your husband, present this pertiton before God, he is the righteous judge, he will perfect and direct your matrimonial home accordingly, remember his words that if u present your ways before God, he will direct your path. am on prayers today, will remember u and your family in my prayers. pls limit the advise u get from other friends and family members of what action to take, depend sorely on God.

may the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give u peace, amen.

Nsidear

thats true Ify, gift and assistance are 2 diff things. i would offer assistance cos right now i have assisted 2 of my ex, we still talk, the other is married and based on the transperancy involved, the husband is now my best friend, that even opened up a way in which i introduced him to business college and he is doing extremely fine now. we both know our boundries and respect and trust is our watch word. i was only responding to the fact of an ex just sending a gift to a married ex, that is uncalled for cos u could destroy her marriage, happiness and future,
thx

i don't think that is right, men are jealous natured, think of it your girlfriend receiving a gift from her ex boyfriend. this will definitely stir up grieve

If the Nigerian government would work on reviving industries which will in turn create jobs to most millions of graduate that flood the labor market yearly, will this cut down on Nigerians killing themselves to go abroad?

this is so sad, R. I. P Uche

this is so funny that human beings still criticise in spite of everything you do in life. Why not commend on what she just did so others can be motivated, we just sit and talk. pls lets keep down this attitude and learn to appreciate others, that is a golden rule, so that u too would be appreciated when u do something.

baby girl that is so babaric, pls the first thing to do is to forgive yourself because self unforgiveness brings about resentment, then i would advise you leave your sisters house in order to save her marriage and your family as a whole. be well guided, Nsidear

Sorry dear, such is life. But pls pray to God and he will surely open a way out for you so that you dont make some life mistake. Remember you will face your marriage all by yourself. So do not allow anybodys pressure to make you take actions you would regret. I pray Gods speed , Nsidear