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Donald3d:


I am about to go very raw, kindly permit me, I haven't gone this raw here before, but you need help, so here it is.
I hope this doesn't change people's perspectives about me sha , we Nigerians like been mute about sex. Its an important ingredient in marriage, no matter how spiritual you are.

The best way to solve any problem is identifying the source or root of the problem and eliminate it .

From what you have said, she enjoys pre-intimacy , I would have loved to ask what type of pre-initmacy to help find a solution, but I also understand she is your wife and you can't be too explicit because this is a public forum.

Anyway, as I said earlier, let's tackle the source of the problem, which is FEAR, she is afraid, very afraid, so we need to eliminate the fear.

She is also pressured because you are "reporting" her to people, keep this between both of you Sir, please stop involving other people, fear and pressure is a very dangerous combination.

Please don't give her any sedatives, you really don't need it.

The issue with her fear is closely related to why lubricant aren't even working, the internal muscles of her privates would contract making it tighter because she is afraid, her natural lubrication won't also be discharged because her fear is making her mind "switch" it off, coupled with the fact that you are also scared of inflicting injuries on her privates.

There are two possible ways to eliminate her fear

1.Trying to convince her not to be afraid (easier said than done)
2. Introducing something that would involuntarily eliminate her fear.

I assume you have tried number 1, let's go to number two.
There are a few things that are greater than fear, but we would be sticking to the subject matter.
In this context and with the peculiarity of the situation, there is only one thing I believe can exceed that fear ...... Pleasure , Excessive Pleasure, when a human experiences excessive pleasure, the body releases pain killers and anti-stress chemicals.

So what should you do ?
You need a non-invasive pleasure mechanism, proven and tested , the most painless sexual activity. Guaranteed to give utmost pleasure .
You guessed it , O r a l Sex.

Its isn't just about putting your mouth there , you need to do it right (forgive me as I am about to go a bit raw).

You know your wife more than anyone, you know what turns her on, her pleasure spots. Use your mouth very well on those spots.
You need to understand that there is a mission here. O r g a s m
But there are some "hot spots" common among most women

1. The nipples
2.The clitoris

I would focus on number 2 ..
1.Make sure the bed is well made, clean sheets, turn on the AC , if you don't have one, turn on the fan and leave it running to cool the room. Make sure no one else except the both of you is in your home, she needs to be comfortable.

2.Ensure you both have a warm bath and wash each others privates before you commence.You wash hers, she washes yours.Try and start up a conversation about some funny experiences you've both had, how you met each other and fell in love , how much you love her, all while washing each others privates. You are psychologically manipulating/distracting her with this.When you are done, dry each others body and carry her to the bed.Careful, so you don't slip and fall oo, you can leave that part out, but women love it !. You can back her like a baby or carry her in your arms, whichever you are ok with. Make sure she is unclad, but put on a boxers short, this eliminates her fears of seeing an erect instrument.

3.Its important you place a pillow under her waist to elevate her lower region, it allows for easy access with your mouth and with your instrument, when its time for insertion. It also ensures you don't feel neck pain and can breathe well during the process.

4.Use your mouth on the clitoris till she "explodes", don't stop no matter how long it takes, but you have to be careful not to be too hard on it as you would get the opposite of the desired effect, you would give her pain instead of pleasure. You need to be gentle and firm(I know this sounds contradictory, I would explain), use your lips as they are soft tissue, that won't cause much bruising, suck on it, in and out, grab the whole of it (the clitoris--- I have attached an image for easy identification, its that slightly protruding part of her privates that looks like a mini peeeenis) with your lips and gently slide it out of your mouth, without it leaving your mouth completely, make sure your lips holds unto it(this is what stimulate it and gives pleasure), but not too tightly, you can use your tongue as support to put the clitoris in place, if the clitoris is slipping out of your mouth. Keep repeating this back and forth.

5.Now, its important to hold her, so you can feel the "rhythm" of her body, hold her sides, or her laps, start out slowly, but not to slowly, gradually increase your "sucking pace" as you notice the rhythm of her body starts to change . This method ensures you don't bruise her and you also don't get tired easily.It also ensures a natural flow and gradual increase in pleasure.It would get to a point you might have to go really fast, this clouds her brain with pleasure, do this only when the rhythm of her body tells you to do so, when she starts to slightly wriggle or when she asks you to increase your pace.

6. Do this till she "explodes", and wriggles in pleasure, most likely at this point you are also erect, its important you take advantage of this moment, because at this point, you have killed three birds with one stone. She is too climaxed to notice her fear, her body has released enough chemicals to considerably reduce pain and she is properly lubricated for relatively easy insertion.Don't waste time !!!. Slowly (not too slowly), insert, before she comes back to reality . Make sure the pillow is still under her it ensures her lower region is elevated, so you can see clearly for insertion , I assume from the beginning she is already lying flat on her back, spread her legs out gently, this also relaxes/expands the cavity of her privates.If you still find it a bit difficult to penetrate, manually use both hands to spread the outer privates open for easy access, glide in back and forth as you both copulate to produce a wonderful seed that would bear fruit in 9 months.

7. You might need to do this more than once to be successful at it .
8.The fact that you did all this doesn't mean she might not feel pain, it just reduces the pain, it also might totally eliminate it.
9.Once you start have it in mind that you must see it through till the end.
10.If she is in excessive pain, stop and repeat the same day or another day till you get it done.


NOTE: Please stop reporting her to people, apart from the fear she is feeling, reporting her or telling other people about it, is putting her under additional pressure and stress, its adding to her Psychological lock-down. Please don't be upset with her. Buy her gifts, make her feel loved, make her understand you aren't judging her or upset with her. I am sure this steps would work for you

NB: I am married by the way, in case anyone was wondering.

Obaman12:
Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're outta of the game & you're of no relevance to her again. There's nothing you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own
All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at the moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to a win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubanja

Seandisputed:
Lol you people will not kill me.
Masturbation is a sin but having premarital sex with the girlfriend is not? Some people are just confused in this life.

freeman131:
But the act is a sin and it's already an addiction and mind you we're from a Christian family,my parents would really be disappointed if they get to find out.

athaboi:
Northern Nigeria?? One of their biggest achievement in life is women...all they think and dream of is women. If you see how they rush salary loan when I was in banking and they end up marrying the 4th wife with it. All they think is women, that's why you will authomatically become their enemy once you talk against marrying more than one wife. Inshort they will see you as weak if you are a man with one wife, very lazy set of people. They can seat on a mat to gist till evening not minding that there's no food in the house and they bleeps like �..gosh

larryplaytv:
A colourful masquerade has been arrested by the police for defying the government’s directive on mass gatherings.

The masquerade after being arrested, couldn’t hold back tears after realizing the problem he has entered.

Ogun state had effected stay-at-home measures as part of measures to stop the spread of coronavirus.

The masquerade was apprehended after it confronted the policemen and threatened to deal with them if they dispersed his followers.

The arrest was contained in a statement on Monday by Policeman spokesman, Abimbola Oyeyemi.

The said masquerade was nabbed at Ijeja area of Abeokuta following a complaint from residents.

Oyeyemi noted that:-

fergie001:
https://twitter.com/ICPC_PE/status/1241127268694601729?s=19[/quote]Shithole country, you declared him wanted in October but he has been in public places since then, he was on " politics today"program this month on channels TV.

mascot87:
It's possible bro. That's why the heart of man is wicked. Someone can be laughing with you and still stab you to death

kahal29:
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT (PSA)
Contrary to the claims of the enemies of Ndi Imo, it is necessary to set the records straight.
Crisis broke out when some youths started agitating against the security operatives whom they claim were conniving with the oil companies to kill their people and in the process one Mr Uzochukwu Chukuwukere who is the vice chairman of Egbema Youth wing threw a stone at them which landed on the Governor's vehicle.
He has since been arrested and handed over to security operatives.
Attached are the photos of the suspect.

JasonScoolari:

bobowaja:
She is a cheat. Probably cheating with her so called Ex or someone with the Ex qualities.

I can only blame that SIMP of a man for forcing his way into her life and also putting up with her bullsh!ts.

Men like me will take a very long walk and never look back.

cococandy:
3 years of no sex? Who are you both having sex with?

What does your husband think about the separation?

What does he think about the marriage in general? I can’t imagine he’s happy with 3 years of no sex with you

Girlwhocares:
Please help me, I'm loosing my sanity everyday!
I'm scared to open up to friends and families because of what they will think or how disappointed or bad I will make them feel, also I'm afraid people will be judgemental about my actions.

I'm not physically and emotional connected with my husband which is affecting our marriage and my well-being, we live as co-tenant, we hardly have any conversation, we do things differently, we share different rooms, no sex for the past 3 years! Even during courtship and the fist two years of marriage I can account for days we were intimate.

Things are fallen out of place everyday, we have a child together who will be 4yrs and the thought of having another child has not crossed my mind.

I get irritated at everything, I hardly show appreciation towards him even if it means he has done his best, which later i will find myself guilty and try to make up but the spark and connection isn't just there.

Most times, I have a non-challant attitude towards him and everything he does to make me happy.

I feel lonely, bored and incomplete even when I'm 90% sure my husband loves me and always ready to make me happy.

I feel awkward communicating my feelings and thoughts to him because I know I might flare up with anger even when he hasn't done or said anything to warrant it.

Please I have come to this faceless forum to pour out my mind, my heart is heavy, I need someone to talk to, I'm afraid my personal intention of walking out this marriage even when my husband hasn't done anything to deserve this might backfire and has its negative effect on our child.

I honestly don't need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through a lot. All i need is mature married wo(men) opinions

Thank you for your time.

shogsman:
Someone just drop his own advise and you're here saying crap about him,if you don't buy into his idea simply move on and have some respect.

Brodapounds:
Nice but what type of business?

But sincerely, part of the reason why i want to leave is safety of my life and my sanity.

I want my future kids to come into the world in a sane environment with top class Education.

I feel with me in the USA, i will be opening doors and opportunity for my siblings which are in school right now.

One of my sisters is studying as a nurse, i want her to work in USA as a professional Nurse and i feel with me establishing myself there, if will be possible.

I don't think about myself only, as the eldest child and son, i want the best life for my siblings, so my parents will be proud of me, i want my parents to visit me freely In USA and i feel this 20 million naira is GOD answering my prayers.

Hope you understand?

nigeriainfo:
Hello, Let me advise you and I want to tell you nothing but the truth. I am here now in the United States presently and I am really advising you to stay back In Nigeria and invest that money in Nigeria. I am telling you this because I know what is actually going on here. Please stay back in Nigeria. Thank you and please heed my advice for your own good

Brodapounds:
Nice but what type of business?

But sincerely, part of the reason why i want to leave is safety of my life and my sanity.

I want my future kids to come into the world in a sane environment with top class Education.

I feel with me in the USA, i will be opening doors and opportunity for my siblings which are in school right now.

One of my sisters is studying as a nurse, i want her to work in USA as a professional Nurse and i feel with me establishing myself there, if will be possible.

I don't think about myself only, as the eldest child and son, i want the best life for my siblings, so my parents will be proud of me, i want my parents to visit me freely In USA and i feel this 20 million naira is GOD answering my prayers.

Hope you understand?

akpoguma1989:
I used my hand that I used to remove the condom to clean the boil

AuroraB:
...I agree. But, have they left? And, if they are still here, what's got them engaged

AuroraB:
Don't worry naa
Shebi them be nuisances
What have you and your government made them

AngryIgboMan:
These keke people were a total and complete Nuisance. They constituted a whole lot of mess in Lagos.

Does Okada ride in Tokyo, Japan, Beijing, Berlin or New York?

Even, is Okada in Onitsha? Why would Okada be allowed in Ikeja the seat of government?

For those saying crime rate will increase, thats unless Lagos state government is clueless and stuppid. Sanwo Olu is smart though as far as I know and a very hardworking governor. You can deny this if you want... But the heavy volume of work going on Lagos roads speaks for itself.

Obiano the drunkard (My state Governor Onye Onwu Nkwu) banned Okada in Anambra. Did heavens fall? Rochas even went to the extent of banning keke in the entire state. Did crime rate increase? Was okada not banned in Nnewi even with the rate of billionaire Okada importers from that axis? Did anybody die?

What most of you don't know is that Nigeriens, Chadians, Sudanese, Malians and Somalians took over South West without anybody knowing! It was gradual, crude and definite.... But they were almost succeeding before I believe Sanwo Olu stepped in. At a time, I was asking myself if there is no regulatory body managing these people in Lagos anymore.

They virtually took over Lagos with there stuppid, crazy and mannerless style of driving. They felt like Lords of the city and if you try to caution them, they will bow there heads in foolishness to thank you. But in there hearts, they were calling you Mumu after scratching your car.

What is Keke doing in Victoria Island the financial and industrial hub of Lagos? Who even brought this useless and worthless contraption called Keke to Nigeria? India that manufactures these nonsense made moves to regulate them.

Google Indian roads and see how organized keke driving is. But in Lagos, its madness! They will keep on creating multiple lanes that cause traffic, scratching peoples car with no mercy, hitting pedestrians with reckless abandon while using there Okada and useless keke to rob at night!

I ask again, is Lagos no longer a city? Why is there no Okada in Tokyo, Japan, Beijing, Berlin, Stuttgart, Dubai, Osaka, Chicago or New York?

Sanwo Olu if you are reading this, its not much about making these laws. Its about enacting and enforcing these laws! Enforce the ban and see sanity return to Lagos! But do make available more organized and well tailored Public system of transportation and movement! If Eastern Governors banned Keke and Okada and heavens did not fall, NOTHING DO YOU.

cc

NB

By the way if you are a Lagosian driver reading this be it commercial or private, please always be road disciplined when driving! Stick to your lane for crying out loud and stop maneuvering like a morron. All of us will get there. E.g is Oba Akran enroute Ikeja bridge. If you know you are climbing the bridge, stick to the left. If you are going under bridge, stick to the right! The mouth or entrance of the bridge can only take one car. Stop tail gating! Don't create multiple lanes and then try to merge at the mouth of the bridge. Thats very stuppid and morronic in my opinion. As you go to the mouth of the bridge to drag it with the rightful owners, you end up defeating the purpose for which you created the muliple lanes! More traffic build up and more hold up!

That aside and For those quoting me and saying "Why am I working and investing in Lagos and why not the East"... My answer is very simple.

Lagos gave my life some meaning that our five hopeless Eastern Governors never gave me. Infact, Sanwo Olus government has been so good to Mainland Lagos where I do busines. Why would I hate him? Why bite fingers that is trying to give my life a meaning? Infact, more of Gods blessings and protection on him as I believe he is taking Lagos to its original plan which in my opinion, AMBODE ABANDONED.

NotBeenPaid:

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Good thing you blocked the card already, next is live chat with a customer care agent on AliExpress. Hopefully your issues would be resolved.


Another thing we must also have the back of our minds is that most banks sends you debit alert only after the payments has been completed after 24hours - meaning the seller would have been notified by AliExpress that he/she could go ahead with the shipment.

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lordliri:
Hello all,


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bukatyne:
@bold:

Wetin Musa nor go read for gate?

Follow come strenght?

The artificial strenght is not sustainable so the guy would be weak in future.

So when peeps are nacking, the girls should ask: Is this your follow come strength?

bukatyne:
It is so funny you think a virgin would put up with a poor sex performance.

You better up your game.

So after a lady keeps herself for marriage, you think she deserves poor sex all the rest of her life.

Imagine such selfishness.

crackkhaus:
So after disfiguration by the machete and the lie she told the stallion corper that she was a single mother, she really believes he will still marry her?

Aunty wey mumu...

Stallion corper don japa, sorry for you.

donstan18:
A man who married a virgin don't have any business with such fvckery.


Marry a virgin and watch your marriage go smoothly without stress.

madridguy:
“I have told him that no matter how he tries to make life comfortable for me and the kids, I won’t be happy until he finds a way of satisfying me sexually. I felt bad any time I engage my married friends in discussion and they tell me how strong their husbands are in bed.

This is the issue, many married men this days believe everything is all about leaving their house 5 AM and returned back by 12 AM, traveling from New York, to Taiwan, Japan to Paris, PH to Abuja looking for contract and have totally forgot their wives at home, some will even be saying for the past 2 months now have never open my wife wrapper believing all what their wife wants is money, expensive gift items, royal dinner forgetting body no be firewood and their wife no be robot.

While Mr. Audu Abaa neglected his health, he failed to attend to his 2 seconds issue on bed, wife stepped outside and someone else his giving her seriously.

The koko be say, women like that thing pass money. My brother, maintain your weapon of mass destruction with good exercise, good food, good fruit and water.

Oluwasaeon:
What a weird thing to say

BlackfireX:
How do I get visa to hell fire

MyVILLAGEpeople:
One of the raw manifestations of the move and power of God witnessed at Canaanland, venue of the just concluded Shiloh annual programme of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.ka. Winners Chapel was a mystery bird that dropped dead right inside the Faith Tabernacle before the congregation.

The mystery bird allegedly flied from nowhere but fell down dead inside the Faith Tabernacle when the General-Overseer, Bishop David O. Oyedepo was later led by the Holy Spirit to return to the congregation who were still in high praise and thanksgiving for the successful end of the 2019 Shiloh programme.

According to a worshipper who witnessed the bird dropped dead, Oyedepo who already left the Tabernacle for his office returned when he said he “felt a pull to go back into the Tabernacle.

The Winner said, “just right after the impartation service today, the congregation continued on in thanksgiving praise. The Bishop and his team left for the office but while there he said he felt a pull to go back into the tabernacle.

So he joined, the praise took another turn as they danced and sang praise unto God. But all of a Sudden, a bird fell out of nowhere inside the faith tabernacle and fell down dead. It was brought to the altar and the Bishop declared that everything and anything pursuing you will fall down dead for your sake in Jesus name.


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