₦airaland Forum

I remember when shoprite entered Lagos some people are jubilating that they will kick Igbo people out of business in Lagos. How far.....

Everything is Hijacked by Fulanis in Nigeria, even Sports Administration. That is why a Nigerian cannot be CAF president. They have nothing to offer inside or outside Nigeria.

Fake comparison, Lagos BRT that is always congested with many people queuing under the sun.

No time schedule for the buses, the buses come anytime they like.

jondon11:
So I met my girl about a year ago during the start of the lockdown. We bonded real quick...she's easy-going, sorta smart, mad sexy and funny. Two months after we started dating, she moved in with me and began shuttling between my place and her sister's.

I work from home and my place is structured such that there's not much to do to maintain it. Although I work from home, I go out now and again for business and during my time out I run most of the errands...my girl ensures that it's only when I'm going out that she gets whatever she needs, from the market or errands around the area mainly cause she's often in a pant and bra watching a movie or just being lazy. She's a good cook but a lot of times I found chow coming late or not at all, and there was always raw food to prepare...sometimes her excuse for not cooking could be she couldn't get one ingredient or the other either because she didn't have cash on her or some other reason...there's mobile money just outside our gate and if she doesn't have the money she can call me to make a transfer but the main issue was laziness. I swept and mopped like 80% of the time, ran errands like 100%, cooked like 20% or the time (starved like 20% or sorted myself out someway), she did dishes 80% of the time and I brought like 100% of the money we lived on.

She is doing her MSc and our relationship started during the lockdown so she wasn't going to school. She was job searching (more like job waiting) so this gave her a lot of idle time which she spent watching Zee World or being on social media. I soon found a way to engage her in the job I do from home, and with the money she had saved in the bank (over 400K), she started work with me. I purchased a laptop for her for this purpose and so she could develop herself in other areas via online courses but she didn't do much work...working like two hours daily, very late at night...I sometimes complained but tried encouraging her as much as possible, especially when she made some success.

I'm sure you'd ask why I stayed in the relationship despite all of this? I was pussy whipped, had no other options given the nature of my work, saw some potential in her ( I know, a stupid thing to say) and thought I was in love (I'm 29 and shouldn't have been that stupid).

Fast forward to December last year, we discovered she was pregnant, a month pregnant. Told her we should keep the child and get married...she suggested we could abort since we weren't quite ready but I said what was a couple more months gonna make a difference?

Since then till now, we've been quarrelling non-stop, one issue after another of which it's mainly me raising the issues. Maybe it's the tension that comes from knowing I might be starting a family with so many unresolved issues. I've raised my concerns and told her she'd need to be more responsible in the relationship if things will work and even though she tells me she knows, I know deep down she doesn't mean it or might not be up to the task of being a married adult. From some of our talk she expects I'd take care of all the financial responsibilities and have suggested a couple of times we get help for chores (we've moved to a bigger space now) but I told her in clear terms that that's not how I imagined my life...having help for chores and the likes, besides, it's just a two-bedroom flat.

I've purchased some of the things we'd be needing for our wedding and we're supposed to do an introduction this coming week but I'm having cold feet and just want to call it off.

I'm bringing this here to know how I can manage this situation...I can be lazy but I'm a really ambitious person so this pushes me but my girl is not just lazy, but unambitious. How do I manage the situation...there's a child involved now and will need to consider the child but at the same time, I can't take on this much stress nor have my ambitions cut short because my partner is lazy.

What can I do??

Two of you should discuss

Emekaonline:
You are a liar. SW did not get the presidency on a platter of gold. Were you born just yesterday? Go and ask and they will tell you that Ekwueme also contested with OBJ at the primary level. If the presidency was zoned to the SW then, why did Ekwueme contest with OBJ in the PDP?

Liar, Obasanjo was brought out of prison to compensate Yorubas. Ekwueme and other people that contested is just a mere formality.

Before the primaries the north and south reach consensus that is Obasanjo that everyone will vote for, that is why they went to prison to fetch him.

Yoruba got the presidency at a platter of Gold.

Fuckyoumod:
oga, Buhari is not from the south.

Deal with it, hold your Brother GEJ responsible.

If Gej tell Northerners to hold Yaradua responsible there won’t be Kaduna-Kano railway and also if Yorubas where told to hold Obasanjo responsible there won’t be Lagos-Ibadan railway.

Stop making stupid senseless comments here.

Hmm

Fuckyoumod:
where was Goodluck?
Which one did he do for you? East west road?

Greedy lots, did they ask where was Obasanjo in building Lagos-Ibadan railway or ask where was Yaradua in Finishing Kano-Kaduna railway.

aremuforlife:
100km to 120km is just little differences, although, it may look like the government is favouring one region to another. The different between the money for the standard and narrow gauge is very wide. We all have been carrying out about the debt and the way the government has been borrowing money from china.

Why not do narrow gauge to Niger or kaduna-Kano to save money.

When it come to SE/SS no money, Kano-Kaduna, Kano-Maradi Niger Republic, Lagos-Ibadan no paucity of funds.

Oil rich SS is not wise at all, money from the region is been use to build other places but can’t get any good things from their oil.

Focusmind:
It is not about been a commercial city. It is still about the mentality of the people. An average Onitsha/ Anambra man is very price sensitive, especially the traders. They will rather use GUO at 15k than Arik air at 45k to fly from Lagos to Onitsha and return.

Anybody living in Onitsha will gladly fly to Asaba than using that Umuleri Airport with potential armed robbery menace on the airport road.

The siting of that airport in that area is a big minus. I come to Onitsha regularly and usually land in Asaba before moving to Onitsha. Why would I want to use an airport situated miles from Onitsha?

Considering the way people in that area behaves, I fear the security situation along that airport road. Airport road is usually targeted by robbers to rob people going or coming from the airports.

I am not hating o but if you ask me, the money should have been used to fix all the bad roads in Onitsha and Nnewi and give the cities a facelift in terms of beauty and livibility.

Onitsha is still far from what a modern city should be and Nnewi is even worse, with dusty roads and decrepit drainage systems.

The site is good for Airport. Security can be provided along the airport road. Airport is not supposed to be so close to a city center.

For using Asaba or Anambra airport depend on traffic. The one with more traffic will attract more passengers. Everyone flying to Anambra is not heading to Onitsha. Many are heading to villages, the airport will provide employment, taxi hubs,hotels, shopping centers etc.

Using mouth to cut a tree as usual

double0seven:
What's wrong with some igbo people on this nairaland?


What's the obsession withy the Southwest? I don't understand. This obsession is really sickening

Anybody that taunt Yoruba is Igbo. Nonsense

Bremen, Germany (per month).
1:House rent € 258 ( single person room )
2: Food shopping €200
3: Electricity €60
4: Water included in the house rent
5: Internet =€10 (unlimited WiFi Vodafone Kabel Box)
6: Gas for cooking= €55
7: Phone Call= €10
8: TV and Radio Tax= €17.5
9: Transportation= 60€
9:Remittances =200€
Total=€870.5

Average salary in Bremen, Germany= 1200€ after tax.

Converted to Naira 870.5*550=N478,775

Thank God for her life

The price of habouring criminals and going after Eastern Security Network.

Nice list, not expensive

The same way some Yorubas will tell us that Tinubu is richer than Lagos before he became governor of Lagos state.

DennisEche:
, The book is been fulfilled, prophet muhd said so in the Quran. Muslim men that die waging jihad against the enemies of Islam will be rewarded by Allah in heaven (jannah) as martyrs (shuhada) and receive seventy-two virgins to enjoy in blissful ecstasy..

Hmmmmm.......

Nonsense, ESN is after terrorist Fulani herdsmen not Asari

Fulani

oluwazt:
Shame on Yorubaa, not Igbo. Igbo since day one have been ready to deal with Fulani once and for all, but Yorubaas kept blocking the way. Same Yorubaas till today, are still attacking Nnamdi Kanu fighting these Fulani, same Fulani ravaging yorubaaland. Yorubaa is the capital problem of the so-called South!

Fear of Igbos have make them to give up their land to Fulanis.

BanevsJoker:
I thought inbreeding leads to deformity. She looks okay. So all those Wrong Turn movies were lying to us.

With time if the girl get pregnant from the same family member again, it will lead to deformities and weakening of immune system. That is when the inbreeding is continuous.

Congrats Prophet TB Joshua

mathmatica:
Yes and No.

Yes, in the sense that "Iron sharpeneth Iron" and "Do not forget the gathering of brethren"...... You are doing your spiritual life, no good, by excepting yourself from fellowshipping with true believer (that's if you indeed attend a bible believing church. Not the one that has a Daddy G.O and his entourage of goons).

No, in the sense that, the Sovereign Creator, after creating the physical world, including your first parent(Adam and Eve), decided to Rest and Sanctified a special day (Called the Seventh day), for worship. Why "God" will choose to rest on that special day, is beyond my tiny mind but He did and today, we call that day "Saturday"... Not "Sunday".

Please, if you're not a student of the Bible and world history, don't exhibit your ignorance through blind argument on the validity of Sunday worship.

First study the account of creation (Genesis 1 and 2. Exodus 20 vs and ask google, who changed the Christian day of worship from Saturday to Sunday.....and where does mortal man get the audacious authority to undo what God had appointed.

The Bible says that whatever believers bind on Earth shall be bind in heaven.

EgusiSoup:
Happy Sunday guys,

People now go to church for selfies and videos to post on social media.

Pastors now have make-up artists more like it’s a show.

For the past 4 years I don’t think I’ve gone to church. Not like I’ve lost my religion cos I still totally believe and trust in God. But I’m still asking, am I committing sin?

It is morally bad to entirely disconnect with the church. Come to think of it if everyone is not going to church, the church will collapse.Is good to hear the word of God once in while and churches need maintenance, new churches have to be built. Churches like Catholic Church that have the world biggest humanitarian aid (Caritas) have to keep reaching out to people in need.

So even if one is not going to church you have to keep contact with the church and support good work been carried out by the church.