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SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Denvacandy:
We got married in 2018 and things where going smooth, i was working with a company in port harcourt and i can bodly say i was very okay, taking flight is not an issue.

When she wanted to give birth to our first child, it was through CS and i paid every damn bills amounting to 500k or so.

We moved down to ogun state and i was taking flight monthly to see her from port harcourt.

Fast forward to 2020, the comapny fold up and i lost my job, i came down to ogun fully with my wife and everything went down, feeding was hard and my savings is drying up.

You know how woman do and how to satisfy them so my savings eventually dried up and the reality was down.

She applied for a teaching job at govt school and she got employed and i was always at home.

Do she was supportive but its didnt took long when she changed and started treating me badly.

I was so sad the day she utter all terirble words to me, on how have not been a good husband and how i have not been dropping money for food and co.

how i have not been taking care of her, i almost moved to tears and i refused to eat her food for some period, i was being supported by a street friend.

How can someone you have sacrificed so much for all of a sudden change and bring out thier true color.

adenigga:
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sinkhole:
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soundOsonic:
I met a lady last year, we talked well and vibed well. Later on I would go to her shop to discuss and I would have this eye contact with her and I thought I felt something like a spark though. Even the Lady with her suspected we had a thing together but I just recently knew her. We both talked as if we know each otherfor like forever.

She asked me for my number, I gave her. I never asked her for her number simply because I wanted to make sure that the signal we are getting from each other was purely romantic and not platonic and I wanted to take things slow.

I felt that her asking for my number was that she needed to spend more time with me if I am not available physically. So we started chatting. The chats was going smoothly and to my surprise we do chat all through the day we literally chats all hours of the day.
Then I did what all single Hot guy will do, out but apart from the Hot which I am not most times; I asked her out. I was not after sex perse I just wanted enough closure bridging through the platonic platform to a more romantic setting.

But she replied with this exact same words "I am not ready for a relationship, I want to complete my schooling and be focus with my education."

Well despite her reply killed my envisioned sun setting romantic bliss; I understood as she was a good girl, a virgin and someone very focus with academics. I know this because she tells me everything about her things happening each day, minutes and seconds.

I was contented with the platonic relationship, I thought I would wait maybe 2 or 3 years as that's what she was indirectly telling me.
A month later from the time I asked her out and was turned down, that time was December: Christmas period. I took my sister out to a nice eatery and I asked her if she could come along as a friend. She obliged but told me she would be going some place after that I said ok.

So after she left to her place of wherever. My sister told me she is worried, I asked her why, she said she went to her guy's place. I was shocked this is a lady that is not ready for relationship. This guy in question is a Yahoo guy by the appearance and all. The guy later broke her heart as that's the first time she is dating I think at 21. Another guy in the area too was like dating her as well after that guy, at the point of dating he got another girl pregnant and broke her heart (same Yahoo guy).

I thought why did she ever chose not to date me. If at all you were not physically attracted to me why didn't you just tell me instead of all these mumbo jumbo. I am actually an average looking guy. Maybe a 6 or even a 7 based on world standard.

My question is why do girls always refuse to date me, I am not a good guy neither am I a bad guy. The one I am asking out says I am not in her level, that she is in a very low level for me to look at her or ask her out. She believes I am after sex.

The next one said I am too low for her. Though she was older.
The one I confessed my feelings for her heart isn't even with me but another but she started catching feelings but sometimes she gets to her senses and she convince herself she belongs with another.

The girl who I don't even know that keeps greeting me Everytime but I keep ignoring her, I later went for her after a year she turned me down.
I just tire o.

Edit: Not every woman I meet, I ask out. I have a particular type of lady I ask out that depicts my taste. Any Lady beyond or below I show zero interest.

People saying I should move on, I have already. I was never pained o. And those calling me a simp I no even understand, where did you read any simpish move from me? Or do you at all know what SIMP is?
My problem isn't sex o. If I wanted sex I would get it easily from those low class street girls without spending a dime. I am after my kind of girls but they are saying NO.

AmericanDad:
No condoms.. we did raw

AmericanDad:
Hey guys, I just found out my colleague at work iv been sleeping with is pregnant. We were'nt dating tho we were just having fun together. We both came into the organization the same time and we earn very well like well above 500k per month. I'm 33 and she's 28. Shes having double mind about it and thinking of abortion but I told her No. Her reason is what will our colleagues say and how her family will react to her being pregnant out of wedlock. I for like ask did u always use condom .

The issue is she's from calabar and I'm from anambra. I'm the only son of my parents. Iv not told my folks yet but they definately would prefer me to marry an igbo girl. Also guys, we have started talking marriage plans but now that she's pregnant can the church wed us? or should I just do Traditional and court then after the baby is born I do white wedding Time is ticking oo.

AmericanDad:
Hey guys, I just found out my colleague at work iv been sleeping with is pregnant. We were'nt dating tho we were just having fun together. We both came into the organization the same time and we earn very well like well above 500k per month. I'm 33 and she's 28. Shes having double mind about it and thinking of abortion but I told her No. Her reason is what will our colleagues say and how her family will react to her being pregnant out of wedlock. I for like ask did u always use condom .

The issue is she's from calabar and I'm from anambra. I'm the only son of my parents. Iv not told my folks yet but they definately would prefer me to marry an igbo girl. Also guys, we have started talking marriage plans but now that she's pregnant can the church wed us? or should I just do Traditional and court then after the baby is born I do white wedding Time is ticking oo.

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow Nairalanders, there is this lady I really love.She has a skin care spa and I do go there in the evening when coming back from work.
Her house is not very far from mine so I know her well.I have also asked her out, but she turned me down saying she has a boyfriend, which I later found out is false.I decided to distance myself from her but it seems not working.
She always call me to come keep her company her at the spa at weekends so,if I have no where to go,I do join her there.The more we see, the more I keep falling for her.

So yesterday,I told her how I feel about her,then she told me her parents won't be happy dating someone younger and moreover,I can't marry her.

There is no way I can stop seeing her because,we can see each other coincidentally

Please what should I do?

Impregnable101:
So i decided to take to the kitchen today to treat my wife to a delicious meal, but was stunned by the way things have skyrocked in the market . Assorted-1,000 & beef 1,200

Make i kuku leave kitchen mata for madam till bubu carry him wahala comot office

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

HeadNigga:
Blame the government for inflation not corporations. So if the cost of raw materials/production skyrockets you expect a company not to review it's price upwards?

Your argument will only be valid if we know for sure that there isn't general inflation and a company just changes the price of it's product...but as it is in Nigeria, we all know there is general inflation as a result of the forex rate coz we are import dependent.

Aufbauh:
Nigerians and their obsession for non indigenous professionals though.
I don't even know how they come to this skewed conclusion that every white man should be better than his black counterpart.

verybadmouth:
Quack italians. Everything in Nigeria is just fake. I tire

AmazingELixir:


My woman told me how one man nearly pierced her skirt out of lust...one of those crazy rush hours in Lagos when workers were struggling to catch rides to convey them to work..after waiting for close to 30mins no vehicle and the traffic jam was crazy that day...and the crowd was steadily building up, a bike just came from nowhere and she was lucky enough to hop in ...ordinarily she rides alone but due to the crowd she just allowed a responsible looking man that had already jumped in to ride alongside...Omo how can after about 3 mins on commencement of the journey she started feeling a hard thrust from behind, she had to adjust forward toward the rider to create some space inbetween, within a short while the guy has consumed the space and this time the thrust was with vigour and any bump on the road the man seizes the opportunity to thrust forward,..at some point the rider oblivious of what was happening was almost on his fuel tank because of my baby's constant adjustment...got to a point she couldn't take it anymore she beckoned on the rider to stop the bike ..the rider was confused because they were still far away from their destination...she raised her voice before the rider decided to stop the bike....Oya nau, Oga wey dey back seat come down make madam drop nau...for where mr man refuse to come down oo..the rider was like " Oga come down nau make she drop" for where the man refused asking they continue the journey my poor baby girl and the okada rider had to shout at him before the man sluggishly alighted...Omo she said what greeted their sight scared not only her but the okada rider...the man's Instruments was as turgid and erect as julius Berger pillar with semen soiling his trousers.

Madam screamed and ran away to join another bike and the rider was in utter shock...she said the rider engaged the randy man on verbal attacks..people started gathering and she zoomed off with her new bike man with a vow never to board a bike with anyone else not even her fellow woman.

The undeniable truth is that some men lack control when it comes to women, some by mere sighting of a female they get erection, while some have taken it to extreme of rape and abuse even to minors...some when even standing on a cue behind the opposite sex gives them erection. Such men are victims of their own lust with total lack of self control. It's TRUE men are moved by sight but some are so wired that what they see triggers wide imagination which cuts off self control and sets in intense sexual urges.

femi4:
Next time , block your line even before blocking your account no

2. It's high time everyone activated simlock on their sim

bodybuilder:
One reason you're still broke as young person is because you think you can make it overnight. That has very low likelihood of working out. Stop waiting for dream jobs and instant millions. Only a few people will have the luck to make it overnight.

Face reality, start stacking up your bread from scratch. Making small money is better than not making money at all. Get busy. No matter how small it is. You can build from there. Money is hardly made overnight.

You gotta start from those small pennies and stop comparing your life to others. You need start learning how to make money small small. With the experience you can make more money. Making money is a sport, practice makes perfect. It will be easier for you to make 1million naira, if you know how to make 100 thousand naira. Experience is the best teacher. The time way use dey use dey wait for 1 million your mate dey make 10,000 dey add up dey go.

Nothing can override experience. Doing something over and over and over again.

KingOfAmebo:
The question is, Since taxes are ment to cater for the development of a country as obtainable in developed nations, Why would our so called businessmen, politcians and clergymen chose to pay taxes "secretly" to economies of other countries while leaving the country they claim to love impoverished?

https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/head
lines/487959-pandora-papers-global-investigation-exposes-secrets-of-some-of-nigerias-rich-and-powerful.html

fergie001:
BREAKING: The jury found R. Kelly guilty of racketeering in a sex trafficking case involving a scheme to recruit and sexually abuse women, girls and boys.

He faces up to 20 years in prison under the racketeering charge.



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Here's the truth to all these, unless you all can seat and reason logically and not emotionally,you or rather We may never overcome this societal problem Rape or at least have a reduction in rape cases. Unless you lots go beyond ranting, typing long Epistles on social media or engaging in baseless arguments on Nl (which ends after few days and everyone goes back to their normal lives) We may never head anywhere.

When I saw Vera thread ,I was close to tears.It hurts and no one deserves that. But has that ever changed the fact that such is likely to happen again? It will, and like "We" always do, There will be uproar, we will rant, create threads,type theoritically correct Epistles, celebrities will REACT,Pastors will pray, Offenders would be punished and then we will go back to our normal lives until another case of million cases finds it's way on the internet again then we will have a repetition of the whole process.Please who are we decieving? . Until we understand the roots and address the issue, We may never get anywhere. And since most perpetrators are MEN. Isn't it wise to try to get into the minds of these people then profer solutions rather than issue unrealistic commands Online? Or getting to understand why they do what they do than create gender wars and man hating threads and opinions? I wonder where it has all got us all these years.


The world is bad enough, bad people are everywhere both Men and Women. Getting all emotional and spewing words that only last a moment won't get us ANYWHERE!

HRHQueenPhil:
Hmmmmmmmm....she won't boldy come out to say it's a lie without proofs
Don't understand people with this entitlement mentality, becos u helped her get appointment to your boss or chairman, dat means she shld fvck u or keep calling everyday to give appreciation
It's a privilege from God to be in a position to help someone , so do the deed and move on not turn d person to ur emergency wallet

Buliwyf:
We already know that TB Joshua was faking miracles with paid actors that fake illness or demonic possession and he failed many prophecies. He only appeared to be getting prophecies right because out of the many predictions he made, his team only releases videos of the very few ones that happened after the fact. Some times many years later or sometimes even though it's not exactly correct they pretend it is.
I doubt there is any more stuff that they can reveal about the man that people that have sense don't know already.

The only redeeming quality TB Joshua had was in his philanthropy. Nothing more.

RiyadhGoddess:
Till date, I don't believe in the word 'Female Pastors', I will rather call them Church Mummies!
This news isn't surprising. This is what happens when the 'Daddy GO' dies. The woman immediately changes cabinet and that is usually the down fall of such churches. Check the history of churches whose founder (husbands) died and their wives took over, check what's left of them. It's usually not always the same ever. Another Bethel loading...

This is why I do say this with my full chest that 98% of these Female Pastors are ONLY Pastors because their husbands or the man they are crushing on are Pastors. They are Pastors because of the need to support their husbands ministry. Some of them even became born again, active in the church so as to win the Pastor into marriage which earned them an automatic 'Pastor Mrs'. When their husband dies, you will see the true color of Mummy GO / Pastor Wife. Mummy loves me, mummy supports my ministry, die first we go confirm am.

Many workers and pastors who have toiled and labor in the church will be thrown into 'Oh God' and 'it is well' and mummy's excuse will be, he or she never liked & respected me when my husband was alive, they are stealing church money bla bla bla.

Woman no dey born again finish ooo Fear Woman!

Righteousness2:
The Handwriting on the wall is so clear.

It is not a Mistake that the USA is not seen among the actors in the Bible Endtimes Prophecies.

President Biden was brought in to clear the path for the Brutal Fall and Destruction of America and to create a vacuum for an attack on Israel. Watch out closely for these Events. I see the GOG Magog Collation of Russia, iran, Turkey, Pakistan and others already dining In Afghanistan.

Watch out for Isreal!
Israel is about to Become the Focal point of World events. GOD Almighty is making Jerusalem a Trembling stone to the Nations.

The RAPTURE is sooooo Imminent! Do your soul some good by Surrendering Genuiely to JESUS Christ. That is the ONLY Means to be Saved.

FutureIsFemale:
So yesterday I was gisting with my friend then the issue of rape came in.

I asked my friend, why do men rape? My friend told me "Sarah, there are so many reasons men rape. The major reason is idleness. Once a man is idleness his mind is open to accommodate many thoughts plus thought of rape. Mostly the poor rape."

I took a deep breath and replied. "The rich and hardworking men also rape. What could be their reason(s)?"

"Sarah abeg leave me joor. You and rape."

My conclusion is, men regardless their class, race or financial status, they all rape.

A Man City footballer is currently facing trial for rape.

Top rich men rape.
The poor men rape.

Best bet is to keep a girl child away from the male folks.
X

HolinessForever:
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/15977734/isis-responsibility-afghanistan-kabul-airport-attacks/amp/

siofra:
Help Solve This Engagement Wahala

My answer is

A. Reasonable

When I see your own answers I'll give my reasons for choosing A

A man proposes to his woman with a receipt of her $70k student loan debt being paid in full in place of a ring. She thanks him, but says she still requires a ring before getting married. What is she?

A. Reasonable B. Ungrateful C. Smart D. Dumb

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