Everybody..not just biafra

Emmanuelofph:
I recently ended a 4 years relationship that could have led to marriage because of this same reason. I straight asked her to cut off communications with this particular guy, she agreed to, but she never did. Even though there is no evidence of her cheating yet, but like a poster said above, there is something called emotional cheating and she still talking with the guy was a slap on my ego, it was a disrespect I couldn't take. Even though her own motives might be pure, I don't really know the other guy's motives, I had to walk away. Because;
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

If I had known ..would have done the same

Prisco4luv:
By your statement it shows you are fed up with her.. something is already fishing in your marriage

Well I am actually tired to telling her to cut communications. I just needed my peace.

Westerhoffe:



Divorce is not an option yet until you have evidence she's been cheating with him.
Talk to the man in that chat and tell him to steer clear but don't make threats.
Your wife will confirm she didn't send the messages.

So, the man, if wise will obey.

Mehn. I no fit do this one. I really do not think the flman is faulty here.

delzbaba:
If I were you I would steal that phone and buy a new one, so she would loose contact with that person,, sometimes a man has to be innovative to curb this things

Lol, buying a new phone. Do I have to go through such stress.

immortalcrown:
So, why the noise here?
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Well, it hurts because among all her male friends that's the only man I asked her to stop communicating with.

She lied severally about him.

Westerhoffe:
Oga, that man might be the man your wife can discuss everything with but she did not listen that was her real husband.

Sorry, that was just a joke.



Call them to order.

Well I have told her several times..I am not against divorce. If she's not happy with me..ill really appreciate we go our separate ways.

I have been married for two years now.
However there's this man I told my wife to stop communicating with, a former colleague, friend or so.
Not like i caught them cheating. I only did not like the way they communicated before we got married, as I stumbled on their chat while she was single.
But she assured me, he was just a friend, and swore there was nothing more.


However, we are almost in the second year of marriage, cutting communication seem really difficult.

Presently, my wife archived their chat on WhatsApp after we quarreled seriously on the same issue.

Anytime the conversations comes up she denies not communicating anymore with him, not knowing I have her logged in on my laptop.

Sometimes she agrees and promise to stop.

From thier conversations, nothing seem bad.
However, I am just worried why my wife can't let him go.

pocohantas:


Funny but true. There is a reason you rarely see married men reacting to topics like this. Reality hits differently.

I swear bros.

Favfables1:

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Really??
Like you're gonna blame men for these??
Chief...
With all due respect...
You're wrong...
Very wrong ...

If a girl commits an abortion, she has only herself to blame no body else!!
Cause she wouldn't have been in that situation if she didn't have sex, or if she insisted on using a condom or taking anti-pregnancy drugs...

They didn't force her to have sex, she agreed to have sex, so now that there are consequences, she should face it with her full chest and not blame anybody!!!

So right now, if I tell you to put your hand inside fire, you'll put it inside and now blame me??

Bros, when it comes to confusing a woman..men are perfect.

Favfables1:
I'd rather stay unmarried, than marry a female who is not a virgin....
Nahhhhhhh...
That's not a possibility I'm willing to consider...
As long as she wasn't raped and she's not a virgin, then she's off the chats already...

And for those of you saying, "it's not about her past, it's about character", is sleeping around a trait of good character? Can't a person be a virgin and still have a good character?

But u know, people go into dream relationship thinking this might work and get really disappointed.
They keep finding true love in the process keep meeting wrong guys.
Sometimes , men torture this girls.
If not , how can u profess love to a girl..sleep with her without a condom..get her pregnant and ask her to go do arbotion.
We really need to talk to men.

baby124:

You don’t have money, that is why you have too much time on your hands to be gossiping and thinking childish thoughts. If you are busy, this will not be the top of your thoughts.

U seem unintelligent.

baby124:

Go and make money. You are preoccupying your mind with things that don’t concern you.

You think it's all about money?

Can our mind ever stop wondering?

Peace of mind comes before money.

baby124:

Don’t mind these childish small children here. Focus on your good relationship. Those guys she’s been with don’t care and have moved on with their lives. Why should you? Sex wey eventually go tire you or you lose erectile function sef.

Not really easy..forgetting that. But I am trying.

How do we measure body counts?
Like how do we determine if its high, low or normal.
It's really difficult finding a virgin now..even when u see, she becomes really entitled.

She's with her own issues.

The girl am with now, has few exs..its annoying..but aside that she has every other thing I want in a woman. Its really hard.

Fact is, I've been with a circumcised girl and she achieve orgasm from anything.
I think the best way to achieve orgasm, is for the girl to know what makes her get to that point. Some girls are so lazy, they just want you killing urself, shouting faster and harder.
I believe and I've seen a circumcised girl achieve orgasm...and it was fast.
Sometimes, I do ask her, what if you were not circumcised?
She love sex so much and really do enjoy it.
Except, she was not completely circumcised.

Kriss216:
Congratulations to her.


I believe they'll attend to the woman's mental health now.

One of the advantages of sex. Sometimes, the only thing hindering your deliverance, blessing and healing is lack of sex.

Don't be stingy.. You mighty be blocking your redemption.

Wonderful

BigBashiru:


I often wonder what they are rejoicing about on their wedding day lol

Like, I actually asked my girl same question...what should I dance for on our wedding day.

Money u no get...

What if ur ex they here just they pity me..or laugh me.

I say no to dancing on wedding days....na walk I go just walk.

It's surprising how people forget the importance of sleep.

philip0906:

The Nigerian police with tens of thousands of staff covering 36 states and the FCT, are going to be owed salaries just a few weeks to the festive period. But here you are, trying to downplay it as “not a big deal”, and “just 2 agencies”.

You and those who support this senseless regime have been proven to be air heads but you keep taking it up a notch higher. Ediots!

If you've worked with the government..u will understand what he is trying to say.
Thing is, most of the head of ministries employ forgetting that in the beginning of the year, they allocate budgets for salaries.
When u over spend the budgets allocated to you..it becomes an issue.

But the good thing is, the government always have a way of paying that. ...but it usually comes late.

Weathered:
nothing wrong in hanging out? With the opposite sex? When you're in a relationship?

Demonic generation without boundaries!

Funny...not married but still in a relationship. Get the point.
Its just a relationship, so he have the right to hangout.

IbrahimSkiba:




You go like love o

Well, I do.
Brings peace when with the right person.

Lol..stay focused. Nothing wrong with hanging out. But just make sure the UBA MD taking you out know u are absolutely not single.

You don't need to tell her that, u can simple just use ur girl picture as ur DP. However, that's if you want Nothing from her.
The earlier you make her understand no room for one more, the better.

The day, u start cheating on ur girl, ur love life will become really complicated. that issue u said u and ur girl hardly have, you will have them till it choke u.

So Mr , stay focused. There are a lot of girls out there, but I think its sweet to be with one that have your back since day one.

Personally, Nothing special about another woman when I have mine.

Dated a lot, just a little difference, and that's the difference you enjoying with your girl. So just stay with who guarantee you peace.


Come to think of this, how will you feel if its your girl narrating this story?
Or in this situation

Don't do to others what will make you sad if done to you!!!!

Remember, na money the UBA girl see. She agree to pay for the date because she have a lot to benefit.

Focus my friend.

I think this thread should be left for people with sure experience.

gentleman82:
Good one as long as super eagles won't cut my ticket again
Repent now of your sinful evil ways to avoid spending your eternity in hell fire after you die. Jesus Christ love and warns you to repent and convert now to Christianity to avoid hell fire. Only Jesus Christ can save you by his death on the cross and his blood which washes away your sins, any other ways ( Islam, paganism, Hinduism, atheism, etc) can not save you. Be wise while you still have the chance accept Jesus Christ now and save your soul from hell. Be wiser than Satan and follow the one true God. This is the eternal truth from the spiritual realm.

And you bet?

superCleanworks:


Yes na me get all the word wey u dey use for this earth. 5000 per word or keep kwayet

I am so sorry sir. Please don't be offended.

superCleanworks:


The way you guys have abused and rubbished this word. Na wah

No vex. Na u get the word. Sorry for abusing ur word.

It's beautiful. I actually see no disorder. I only see a calm soul feeling insecure.

Mine seem complicated. Somewhere in my head I want her gone. But anytime she decides to go, I really can't let her go. L

Moreign001:
I sincerely appreciate all of your comments, and words of encouragement, the criticism too helps a lot
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Let me reassure you guys that I'm fine, relaxed and mild. I feel bad for myself a bit because I lost a wonderful woman, but I'm sincerely gleeful for her. I won't cut her off communications, I will stand by her, support whenever. One thing I understood about love is this. If you genuinely love someone, their happiness should be your first preeminence. Allow them to do what ever makes them happy, and still love them regardless.

Yes we spoke lengthy tonight, and I understood exactly how she feels, I understood deeply how our parents and guidance keeps pressuring their children, pupils and siblings against their wish, not just in marriage, but even in careers and others. And also how parents are forcing children into marriage in other to help in assisting the family burden. How is this right?

Life is love, so I have decided that I'm never going to cut her off, or act as if she never exist, she deserves better. But I will never get involved with her again. I'm mentally strong, and I built it on love. Right now i'm so concerned about her happiness, not her leaving me. I just want her to be happy and fine, that's all. We should never criticize people when they make decisions, maybe we would have made worst decisions in that same position.

Yes, I had intention of marrying her, she knew. She is not a cheat, she's a very good girl and I respect her. The main reason why I brought up this post was because lots of girls are after marriage, some are forced into it without having nothing to offer. I personally asked what's her plans after school, and she said she will open a shop (Food items) until after her Masters programs. I was ready and willing to support her.

I told her to hold on until we're done with our Nysc which should be next year by God's grace.

And those asking why I didn't marry or engage her... Even if I had billions in my account, I still wouldn't have married until I'm done with my Nysc. You don't rush it, we were students for 4years and that's our love duration, we needed at least some time outside school to see how ideal we were.

And to some persons saying she doesn't have time... I pleaded for just one more year, for our Nysc..
Don't encourage people to rush into marriage because of age, she just met this guy, they don't know and haven't tolerate themselves. This is one of the major reasons why marriage keep failing because it can lead to trust issues, violence and others. I understood her very well, she's a very jealous individual, and I can tell you that the new guy doesn't know this, now how about if he doesn't want a woman who is loaded with jealousy? But it's fine, many read to criticize, not to understand and learn.

My advice to every girl out there, try and add value to yourself, this won't just make your husband respect you, it will also stop your parents and guidance from going against your preferred wish.

Pls, cut all communications from her. She's with someone else. Most importantly she love the person.
Fact is, no girl at that age will just date because she want to get married. They've had something going probably for a long time. She's not that old.

She want to be with you because she feel guilty and probably see you hurt as you've tried for her.

Trust me, with time, when She's fine. She will not pick ur calls anymore. Then it will seem like u are disturbing her.

Move on, leave her alone, let her be.
Don't get stocked.

It hurts. U have to find peace.
There are somany wonderful ladies out there.

Go find urs and be greatful.

That girl never loved u. If u a good observer the signs has always been there.

If she did, no pressure will make her leave u.

I faced something similar early this year.

Seriously, I am really grateful it happened.

What I did was cut off, after waiting for a month or two for her to change her mind.

Now, I am getting married soon to a woman so lovely.

Like, the vibes she gives, I have, never seen that before.

Yoighaman:


The fact that she's got grown-up kids and still in the marriage does not necessarily mean she is happy (she might be though), but most times, from secret confessions of many ladies I know, they wished they waited for that Ex, time eventually irons out everything; but when you see them in public, they put up appearances as if all is well.

May we all have a happy ending.

Fact is, this is absolutely the reason why we are to stay away from sex before marriage.
Believe me, even if she had married her Ex , she will still imagine how life would have been perfect with her present husband.
Because every marriage has it moments.
And if that moments comes, we all start wondering.

Personally, I use to have this notion that "ladies can't actually forget the guy that dis-flowerd them" . Well, in some sense, it's right.
However, I think its okay not to forget. But from many scenarios I have encountered, I think women don't always fall in love with the guy that took their virginity.

I actually think they go further to find what real love is, and mostly not even with the guy that took their virginity.
I stand to be corrected anyways.
I feel true love comes with age and not actually related to who dis-virgined a girl.

And when a woman is truly in love, she will in a way worry less about who took her virginity.
Infact, she will regret giving it out to the person that did took her virginity.

Somany times, we see a woman get married at a very young age lets say 20 to 21, then at 30 she start getting really depressed asking herself if she made the right choice.
While, a non virgin gets married, let's say, 25 - 30 and find real joy in her marriage.

Also, people that married virgins, also get divorced.

My conclusion However is, if you really want true and genuine love, find a virgin who already know her left from her right, not someone that's just maturing. Or still, find someone that really want to be loved.

Someone that's just maturing with time might no longer care if you actually her first, but would never stop wondering if she made the right choice.