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That looks amazing
I’m jealous lol.

cococandy:
Spicy goat for my darling. Served with medemede.

What would you remove from this plate?

Are you alright? My hubby is doing well for himself, I’ve never lacked for anything. He is an amazing cook, he cooks a lot of the times. He also cleans because it’s both of us sharing the house, his mother raised him very well and I’m so grateful. With or without me, he doesn’t have to be jumping from one eatery or another shamelessly just to survive/eat because he has the basic skills of survival, not waiting for one woman to do it all in the name of being a ‘man’. It’s all about give and take. So please what the ffuck are you talking about? Do better please.

Iogobenz:
I simply said no man that is doing well and fulfilling his obligations do chores.
He can help out when he wishes to,not share chores!
Only poor men clean the house,care for the child and cook in the name of helping wifey.
You can take this to the bank.

I always say if you are cheating on your husband, please oh just take it to the grave or hide it very very well. There’s no amount of ranting or equality that can modify the nature of men. There’s nothing like if ‘I can forgive him why can’t he do the same’? The quicker you accept the realities of life, the easier life will be for you. They simply cannot handle a cheating gf/wife. They just can’t, no matter how much they try. That’s how many women have peace in their homes, they cheat and they cover it well. The only time you should confess is if children are involved.

Never shame a woman (joke or not) about her age, beauty or body. I don’t know why that is so hard to understand? She will hold those words in her heart forever and do the unimaginable.

You remind me so much of myself because we both worry too much lol Your stomach will go down don’t worry, don’t put too much pressure on yourself love, your body takes time to heal

Ruthiegal:
Thanks mama . I’m recovering quite nicely. We going home today yaay. But my stomach still big oo. What can I do to help it. They said I shouldn’t do anything for the next 6 weeks though

I’m so happy for you. God bless you and your son.

Ruthiegal:
Thank you momma and to everyone who mentioned me. I got tired of replying each messages . Thank you so much. This thread really helped me with all my rants. I’m so happy finally. Everyone around me is happy. I remember I started my journey on this thread saying I might abort the baby. Infact I had bought the pills from a friend . Was just scared to take it. And I was looking for a hospital too. But I’m so happy I kept the baby. Fact , I wouldn’t have forgiven myself ever. He’s so perfect. I’m so overwhelmed with love. His daddy is so in love with him too. I don’t even know where to start from . But thank you all. The journey was really stressful o and my baby disfigured my perfect body but I can say it was worth it . My prayer is to continue to feel this way about him and he shall grow in the ways of the Lord and bring happiness to me and everyone that comes his way..... also cs isn’t as bad as projected to be. They made me to start walking the next morning. The cs started by past 8pm I think. It was really difficult at first . But once you push yourself. You’ll get better . I’m still trying to bend down and all. But in all I’m healing well and I’m glad . So this is me signing out officially from this thread and graduating to the childbirth thread . I love you all . You all don’t know how you help with your support.theres always someone to reach out to you and connect with you.... Best E family ever...

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I have already added 10kg at just 21 weeks. Doctor said I need to watch my diet as my blood pressure is getting high and I’m at risk of pre eclampsia. It’s hard because these cravings are too much for me and all I want to do is eat I don’t want to get myself too worried, I just have to make the suitable amendments. Just praying i don't add more than 20kg in this pregnancy.

But apart from that everything is good. Baby boy is bigger than average.

Mzleemah:
Congratulations to all the Mama's that have offload.
Team March 2020 how are we all doing, Roll call coming up soon. We are Marching in to the favour room with swag giving birth to our blessed Lo's in Grand style.

Will you stop it please. Just because you’re man it doesn’t mean you’re exempt from advice, especially from your wife. You do not know it all, and sometimes people from the outside can see clearer than those dealing with the situation. Ego is the biggest downfall of men, humble yourself to corrections from anyone.

Like I said, wife and children come first and every other thing follows. A mother and extended family should be able to understand this, there’s no argument about this. It’s not about loving anybody equally, it about prioritising your list of responsibilities wisely as a husband and father. Only exceptions for emergencies. If you cannot understand this, then please stay single, marriage is not for everyone.

isnovic:
You just proved my point.

You would know better right?

Why do you think as a woman you have considered it far better than the men, who to keep and who to jettison as friends.

Or what makes you a better judge of person than he is?

Men don't need the women to tell what type of friends to keep and what friends to let go, at least that much you can accord him, if he is a full grown man, doing averagely well before you met him and fell in love with him.

It simply means, he was doing something right and who he kept as friends was part of it.

It is a statement of fact, that the summation of little expenses far outways a single lump sump expenses in most cases.
Good friends often than not pool funds for night out, or pick up bills to lessen the burden on each other except they have friends amongst them that is doing too well and naturally pick up the bills.

If you deny him of his friends, you will suffocate him and so with you if he does not allow you to keep friends.

A man's wife and children comes first, yes and so do the man's family too.

Infact, in a man hearts each of this persons have their place and men can compartmentize unlike women.

The fact he is crazy about his mother, does not mean he is not as madly in love with you as he was insanely struck by you when he first met you.

This is the the design of men whilst a woman finds it difficult to love 2 men same way. It is either all or nothing. This is women's make up too and it is no weakness. God designed it to be so.

The men are more rational being than most of you women think.

Short short people

Beautiful couple . Happy marriage to them

I feel your pain love. It’s not just easy to get up and leave or take a break. Nigerian economy makes it so difficult for women to survive on their own with kids. Your husband needs to start helping you one way or the other. It’s very unfair on you honestly. If you have communicated with him about this issue and he is not willing to change, then please just focus on your kids and your well being. You will surely have the last laugh your hard work will not be in vain.

UnknownQueen:
Did u just say only stubborn, not just stubborn they will also term u as proud and paint the picture of only them footing the house bills to their family, the last time we had an arguement in front of his younger sister, I made her sister realize, he is not the only one responsible for all the assets in the home, he just went inside and started tagging me pride amongst other things...

My dear working, running the house chores with the responsibility of taking care of 2 children ain't easy, sometimes I just want to take a break from the house and ease of the pressure I feel everyday but I can't leave my children

Well as a married man, it comes with sacrifices. One thing about a lot of Nigerian men is that they want to live single whilst being married, and friends can be the major cause of this. Once you are married, as a man you need like minded friends like yourself otherwise you’ll be tempted to do things you’re not supposed to do. It’s vice versa. If you’re not ready for that sacrifice then stay single.

How much money does it take to go out on a date? To take your wife out? But you will be willing to spend that money on a boys night out. Again, marriage is about sacrifice and effort. It takes two to make a marriage work.

As a married man your family (wife and children) expenses comes first before anything else. If you are not aware of this, then stay single. Personally I think a lot of men need marriage counselling before entering the marital institution, because it comes with a lot of sacrifices, responsibilities, endurance and patience that many men are not willing to work on. It is not hard to have a happy home, it is not hard to please your wife. They’re basic fundamental tools that a husband must have. It’s not for the faint hearted, leadership role will always be challenging.

isnovic:
Like what the Bleep!!!

Once married, they now want to tell you what to do. As per say you all of a sudden became a dimwit.
Once married, she want to control your friends and tell every God given reasons why one of your friends is not good for you.
Once married, the men becomes bad at finance and management. The family will be better off if she handles the finance.
Once married, if you decide to cut back on some of the courtship time expenses. You are a party poopper, a no fun, suffocating and "strangely changed".

Once married, if you decide to help as much as you do to your immediate family and others; you are being gullible, you should concentrate on raising your family but if you fail to extend same fellowship to her parents of siblings, you are "aka-aradite" stingy or outrightly wicked.


Guy just do you, care as much as you can. You can not please women.

That yellow Eba looks beautiful.

mariga:
The Bole I had earlier was just an appetiser

Now time for proper lunch!

Egusi x Okro soup x yellow Eba

The hymen is not the only way to know. You will know if you’re having intercourse with a virgin.

olu77:
That is quite true but some hymen are fragile too and could have been broken through activities other than sex. That there is no outlet of blood does inot mply she's not a virgin making things more complicated.

Someone who claims to be a virgin and is not in the end, does not have a good character. A trustworthy and honest partner are very important traits to have so he has every right to be concerned if his partner is telling the truth or not about her virginity. You would be surprised about how many women lie about this.

olu77:
Good attitude is more desirable than virginity. I understand though that she claimed she is a virgin. Manage your expectations to avoid disappointment. You will know if she is because it will be your worst sex ever. I said that because it's always a herculean task to break virginity

Oh okay looks like you added more. Looks nice

odeguaomon:
just tomatoes, fresh pepper, onion and saint leaf.

What did you put in your indomie

odeguaomon:
Dinner

Potatoes and egg

God forgive me lol

The child already has eyes of a demon lol

He’s cute though.

Blessinzy:
omo bad influence!

this child is already looking like a Mafia

Hardship children lack of freedom and too much responsibilities

You better marry that girl who has medical issues, if you haven’t already. If you leave her today and she marries another man and has children, you will hate yourself forever. You think it’s easy to find wife in this country? Do not make a permanent decision over temporary things. Children that will still grow up and leave your house, your wife will be by your side forever. Infertility is 90% temporary, that woman is going to have your children if you marry her. You have been warned !

cooljuman:
this gbedu enter body

How can you give what you don’t have?
His own children are deprived from his so called ‘money’
Everything is not what it seems trust me. Everything about wizkid is just packaging. Davido comes from real money and generational wealth.

NaijaOlosho:
Davido is doing great.

Even he stops singing, he has empowered many and he will still be making cool cash.

Unlike Stingy Wizkid

Wizkid stingy no be small

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Lol it’s always the same stories on nairaland hitting front page. You will never see wedding anniversaries or good news about marriage on that front page. Just a silly agenda to scare people away from marriAge and it’s sad.

So true I was even guilty of this when I was 19/20. Wasn’t until recently that I just stopped caring about makeup, and started focusing on things that matter.

If I tell my hubby this na it will seem as if I’m being wicked oh, or I’m just being a snob. Somehow somehow I just have to make sure that there’s not too many visitors coming in and out the house in the early stages. Hiann

kokaiye:
na to kuku lock baby wit my lil sis 2 watch over inside room, attend 2 visitors ni ooo.... If dem ask of baby, wil ans dt baby is sleeping... Only my parents n my FIL n MIL will allow b to touch d baby..

Very good. The overstaying your welcome and kissing/holding the baby too much is the problem I think I’m going to have. My hubby has soo many relatives and friends. I’m just dreading it, I’m Not looking forward to it at all at all. Lool

angeltolly:
Belleful mamas, How una dey ooo.... It is well. Thank God for the numerous BAs October mamas just dey dish out. Giving us hot hot

@pweetiebabe Awayu Hope you good.

Got this from a group and thought to share

BELOW ARE IMPORTANT ETHICS TO ADHERE TO WHEN YOU'RE GOING TO VISIT A NEW BORN BABY AND THE MOTHER:

1. Please Wash your hands

2. If you're sick, stay at home; they'll understand

3. Don't kiss the baby

4. Please take a gift for the mother also, most people forget about the mother

5. Don't wear strong perfumes

6. It is not a visit to remind the mother how she suffered looking for her child.

7. Don't tell the mother she has added much weight or she looks too dark.

8. Don't give the baby cash gift directly.

9. Don't overstay your welcome when visiting a baby; parents are tired

10. If possible, don't carry the baby; you can greet the baby from afar for safety reasons.

11. Don't ask if it's normal delivery or CS

12. Don't forget to check on the father too; he's the errand boy appreciate him and celebrate him too.

.. BE GUIDED MY PEOPLE...

When you talk about single motherhood, you’re describing a broad spectrum, meaning those who are single mothers by choice and not. I just hope you won’t end up in that position 10–15 years down the line.

pocohantas:
Madam, stick to the context of this post. This isn't a lady whose husband left her. Yes, it is/was HER CHOICE. No, I never said it is a joke.

If you are so sympathetic to her plight, rather than doing voltron online- send her a DM and wire money to her account. Regards



Something about knowing their root.

Do you think single motherhood is always by choice? I pray you won’t get married and your husband leaves you and the kids to fend for yourself, then you will know who is trying single motherhood or not. It’s really not a joke

pocohantas:
If you are not a Linda Ikeji, don't you ever try single motherhood in Nigeria. You are on your own ooo. Naija man no send you, he is confident in the fact that the kid must come find him when he/she grows.

Please it takes two to make a marriage work. Women do not have five hands. If you know as a husband, you see your wife stressed out and she’s not giving attention to you as much, please do the needful and help her out. A stress-free woman is a happy woman.

StPete:
One thing most women don’t know is that the moment your attention totally shifts to the kids and place them on high priority, you’re gradually losing your husband. The neglect we feel even though society does not expect us to lament is much more than mere words can describe. Always consider your husband first as you both are living your lives while the kids will grow up and live theirs with their own family.

Well it’s up to you to decide if you want to sit down and communicate with him so he can help you around the house. You are not a machine you cannot cook and clean, take care of the kids all by yourself without help. If he is not willing to compromise and work on his marriage then it’s up to you if want to deteriorate slowly and kill yourself for the sake of the ‘mrs’ title. It takes two to make a marriage work not one.

Honestly. Adoption is one of the easiest way to carry your own child. My aunt was having infertility issues for 10 years, it wasn’t until they adopted that she was just able to carry her own child. So so many stories like that. Husband is just a nasty man.

AwkaetitiBabe:
But I really don't see any issues in surrogacy. It's simply renting a womb to carry my baby.

@Op Cook and feed motherless children. Simply do with with your heart. Such actions open doors and I'm sure you will testify.