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Then please make sure you marry within your age range. Precisely over 30, don’t start talking about fertility or old age blah blah. It’s very hard to find a young 20 something year old who has their shit together, esp in Nigeria. The problem with people is unrealistic expectations, this is why most of you will be on your death bed alone. You will meet that working class lady but she will not be physically appealing, or she will be too bossy and independent. Wait until you are 60, that is when you will find the one.

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

So so true. I think the perfect age for marriage for guys is 28-36. Anything above that is pushing it, and you start becoming too picky and cautious.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

He must’ve this... he must be that. Don’t be one of those women please. You are 25 now use your time wisely and stop being delusional . There’s a difference between standards and being unnecessarily picky which is the problem with a lot of women. It’s not until they get to 30 plus and they start wondering where Mr right is. Wake up and face reality, that’s all I will say.

This one is trying hard to run away from responsibilities and burden. Life is not that simple, I’m so sorry.

God be with you All is well, much love and blessings to you. You will rejoice in the end.

ANewMumIJNAmen:
Good morning mamas. Finally summoning up courage to do this.
We lost our precious little one few days ago. Premature rupture of membrane at 21wks. My heart is so broken that I can feel it in my chest. But God is my strength.
Thank you for all your support. Signing out from team April 2020. Many blessings.

Beer no. Wine, Baileys, absolutely yes. It’s not only men that know how to drink alcohol.

Me that I love my makeup too much, let’s see how I will be after I give birth I don’t think I will let go of my shakara lol.

angeltolly:

Amen ohhhh

nnekaike:
this type of luck should embrace me biko

Lol it’s just by luck I guess.

Awesomemama:
Not true at all
Dec cappo is a living proof
I experienced ms for my son

Congrats

I can relate too, the boy has not given me any health problem. No morning sickness at all, no nausea, no back pain, no pelvic pain. God is good lol I’m praying it continues this way. Let me not get too confident .

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
Where is our team April captain


Just came back from antenatal cum scan and my baby gender was just revealed can't believe I am carrying a beautiful baby boy....no wonder I no dey even get one single stress

The guy doesn’t want to die prematurely. He doesn’t want to die of severe health isssues. He wants to be in a better condition health wise for his children, as I’m sure he’s already starting to see the health effects at the young age of 40. Yes we all must die, w the short life we have, who wants to be in and out of the hospital, paranoid, unhealthy from a young age and dealing with the consequences of smoking and drinking. Let the man change ahbeg.

The only advice I can give is to withdraw slowly. Reduce your amount weekly, then daily, then from there you will stop completely. You need discipline and patience. You might relapse but you need to be determined to quit. It’s the thing of the mind, nothing and nobody can be responsible for your life. Doctors, family, and others can only do so much to help you, but the determination in your mind to quit the habit will be method for your success. Goodluck and start today.

kestolove95:
U smoke u die, u don't smoke u die, so y not enjoy ur life while it last

Even if wife stays at home, she must have some kinda income. Business, doing hair, selling things. Please no depending on husband to do every little thing for you, it’s very embarrassing.

You must have that child by force by fire and you are the father and you will take responsibility. Stupid man-child.

If it was this easy Everybody in the u.k will be living la vid da loca. Face reality and wake up. That’s all I have to say for now.

MrBrownJay1:
i am serious! too many people are blaming whatever irrelevant nonsense when talking about this issue, while the problem is very simple....its YOU.
the reality is that... if you cant live in London then you shouldnt. London is an expensive city, if you cant make it in London then move to a cheaper city, et voila.... staying in London while fully well knowing that you cant make it, is called insanity (and you know what the definition of insanity is, right?)

yes there is a clear unemployment problem all over Europe (not only the UK) but you cant blame all the above expenses as a reason to take unnecessary loans. you will have these expenses all over the UK, so if you only earn 300 a week, then find a place where you can survive on your weekly 300 without having to kill yourself.... and if your monthly expenses are more than your monthly salary, then you MUST either A) find a better job B) find a way to lower your monthly expenses or C) move to a cheaper city (less rent/transport/food etc).

the majority of people who are crawling under debts is because they are living above their means... its simple mathematics. if you earn 300 then you must live off 300, not 500 (aka 300 + 200 loan)!

Please stop being ridiculous. How much does the average person earn in the u.k? What do you mean good job, when graduates are even struggling and settling for administration jobs? How much does it cost to rent out a room one per month? What about transportation and food costs? What about bills, council tax, road tax and all these mandatory expenses that people must pay? This has nothing to do with living above your means, the fact is that it is almost nearly impossible to not live in debt in the U.K. Especially the capital which is London. It is effing expensive, so yes taking out a mortgage is an achievement on its own. £1 debt and you will be denied. It’s that simple. To even save up for a deposit for a mortgage is another thing. Quit downplaying people’s success.

MrBrownJay1:
this is by no means an achievement... any gainfully employed person living within their means in the UK can get a mortgage...the achievement would be to finish paying that said mortgage and having at the end, a house whose value is more than what you paid for.



if you live within your means and have a good job, then its very easy... but sadly in this days of social media BS, everyone wants to pretend to be who they are not, and getting a credit (to buy unnecessary BS) solves that. everyone wants to drive the latest car yet can only afford a 2010 model, so they get a car loan. everyone wants a fancy home will all brand new furniture etc yet can only afford a bed and sheets, so they get a loan. bank account is empty but they want to go on holiday, so they charge it on the credit card.



if you have bills and debts up to your neck, then the problem/issue is not CREDIT, the problem is YOU living above your means. you have to sit down and evaluate if taking a loan is good (or not) for you. a loan/credit is NOT free, at the end you are paying more than what you borrowed, so the reality is that you are paying MORE money for something that you couldnt afford from the get go.

now, let me say it again: if you have a good job that covers all your life's necessities (rent/food/bills/kids/clothing/fun etc) then a mortgage is the easiest thing to get in the UK... some will lend you money with a 6 months steady employer. now, if you live above your means and take credit for every nonsense under the moon then probably a mortgage is not for you.

Breast milk contaminated with semen. Loool. She is seriously suffering.

She has to endure. Marriage is all about compromise. I mean, what else does she want to do? That man is stuck in his ways, nobody or nothing is going to change that. She should sexually satisfy herself until she is done with breastfeeding Lool

So like I said, if all these things are hindrances which many people face, why are you discrediting this mans achievement within two years? Do you know how difficult it is to have a good credit in the u.k? With all the bills and debt that will come your way no matter how hard you try. One missed payment and your credit is affected. Give credit where it’s due please .

MrBrownJay1:
it makes plenty of sense to me....
1st you have to find the proper house that will fit your budget, and sadly the UK housing market isnt helping.
2nd most people rent in the UK because they dont have a good employment history or credit, to afford the house they want to buy. expecting to get a mortgage while you have credit up to your neck to repay (car, home appliances, gadgets, credit cards etc) isnt helping the matter....
but most importantly, 3rd, to many people, its easier/cheaper/less hassle to rent than buy a property in the UK.

Okay and so? Do you feel intimidated or inferior, because the fact that ‘anyone’ can become a landlord, yet most people in the U.K. are renting doesn’t make sense to me.

MrBrownJay1:
anyone with a good JOB can become a landlord in the UK within 3yrs... its called MORTGAGE, and has absolutely nothing to do with god.

edit: and if this guy is indeed a doctor in the UK, he could get a mortgage within 2yrs or less. some banks/lenders only require as little as 6 months employment with the same company to accept your application.

I married at 23 and my husband is well into his 30s. I think it’s the best. Men before 30 are mostly not ready for responsibility

lefulefu:
any lady who says she cant marry a man under 33 is probably a lady 28 and above.u cant expect in naija a lady to be marrying her age mate nau.she would prefer a man who is slightly older or few yrs older than her.

If he wants more than ten friends then what is the issue? Some people have joy befriending loads of people and having contacts on their phone. We live in a world now where social isolation is seen as the norm, people prefer to spend hours on the phone rather than interacting with people in the real world. Some people are naturally introverts yes, but some people want to mingle with as many people as possible and they’re a whole lot of advantages to that. Let him be.

Ishilove:
A whole 10 friends and you're still complaining?

Disgusting post
Remember one day you will be old and someone’s mother in law. Stupid people.

What a stupid thread. I don’t understand some married couples, every little thing must be broadcasted and become a huge issue.

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
It does ....and also all human reproductive system are not d same, u might have extra strong cervix.

true

Well vagina ultrasounds to my knowledge are very safe and are important for those who need to check their cervix, to treat/avoid complications. I had some slight bleeding few weeks ago and I had two vagina ultrasound to check my cervix and some other things to see if everything was fine, and now I’m having no issues and my cervix is still very long. I’ve never heard about vagina ultrasounds making the cervix soft though but I guess it depends on your doctor.

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
There is something I remembered...

Trans viginal scan is not good to be doing constantly, it makes cervix to b soft. Is only advisable to do it during the early stage, so always go with abdominal scan for the safety of ur baby...

SO what does that have to do with her? And how do you know she was happy with him committing fraud? Take responsibility for your actions because you were born alone and you will die alone. Nobody is going to follow you to do jail time. It’s that simple.

Gassa007:
But when the money was coming, she didn't know it was from the crime? The way you people think on this Nairaland eh

How do you know behind closed doors she wasn’t trying to help him to get out of it? Even if that’s the case, you need to take responsibility for your actions. Don’t blame other people when things don’t go your way. Nothing is justifiable for fraud no matter how much you’re suffering. Do the crime, do the time.

Everrest9:
Young woman, she didn't know that her man was into fraud, stealing people money during dating and courtship abi?.... Naw things went bad; she suddenly realized. When our young ladies are following Yahoo boys upandan lavishing money together, you won't see them leaving but when things turned they will disappear into thin air.

Please don’t sell this man false dreams, the chances of that are very low. He should think about sustaining a new job and moving on to a decent life where he can provide for himself and possibly find a new woman who can carry his burden. Simple as that.

xperiencelove:
You better go and sleep somewhere and think how you could make money to start a new life entirely. You ex-wife has gone and gone forever. There are many ex-convict as senators and politicians entirely and women are flocking around them because of money. Your wife didn't leave because you are ex-convict but because their will be no source of income when you come back. With millions in your account, you can get married to the most beautiful lady in Nigeria tomorrow. Truth is bitter but you must accept it and stop wandering around.

Lonelypacifist6:
Guy I wouldn't Even reply you again after this, Not most of my friend as you put up there, And yes they can buy houses, and do all other things as is their rights in the USA Peace.

Convictions are taken very seriously in the western world. It is forever on your record, and you are very limited to do things. It’s very hard to be employed, it’s very hard to rent and purchase properties. Why? Because you are no longer a trustworthy human according to society. Thats the truth

Worthy of ogini? Will you tell your sister to wait for a man who is in prison for stealing people’s money? What is worthy about that man? He should collect his daughter, after four years? The people that are hustling legally do they two heads? He should accept his cross and move on with his life. Crimes come with consequences. Don’t blame the word, accept your faults and move on.

Everrest9:
Young man, collect your daughter and forget that woman. She ain't worthy to be your wife. Save yourself from unforseen circumstances.

All is well in Jesus name. Your story will change, mark my words!!!! This is the time where your husband is even supposed to hug you close, comfort you as this situation is out of your control. That’s the difference between a husband and somebody who just gave you their last name. Even if frustration comes, it should be temporary. Pray pray pray, you will have the last laugh.

amarachi06:
Thank you, am crying already. Is well with my soul, never believed that l will not have a child by now. All my sisters are married with kids, and am scared of exchanging words with people for fear of being called a barren woman, and eater of my kids, which l am not. Thank you all for your kind words.

Don’t kill me ahbeg

cococandy:
Even when children are involved, why confess?

That should be the cherry on the cake for any man who thinks it’s okay for him to be a layabout but god forbid his woman do same.

I think if such a man has four kids. 3 of them rightfully should be from outside men.

I’m in my house let them come and beat me

How lol?

mysticwarrior:
you are a jazebel.