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I just wonder when certificate become one of the requirements in dating. If is a weird world.

To be honest with you. She must be very busy. She hardly have time lately and the best you can do is show understanding.

Abi you have once wasted her time online? If yes, then sorry! It is her new year resolution not to allow time wasters waste her time again. If NO, then wait for your time. She is coming soon.

Congrat! You are hereby now relived of a worthless, egocentric and educated ignoramus of a wife. She is not worth your love. Please don't beg her. Just let her find a professor for herself. If you beg, then you are demeaning yourself.

What to do? Forget her and get someone better. Don't be surprise if you see her with another man. The truth is that she is leaving you for another man and not for your qualification. Let her go.

Hmmm! Are you giving her medal for correct typing vic? Anyway, it was typo error and I don't think she have time to edit nairaland.

How u?

@yimiton,
the idea of bringing up a fight, I must admit is not the best. Like Jk noted, after the fight, a smart girl would still look for a way to get her right. Afterall, it is once in a year.

The whole thing depends on the type of relationship they have. If he truly love her, he can safely explain to her and let her tongue do the greetings. She would understand. If however, he doesn't think the girl is worth anything, or that he is smart enough, let him choose the fight option. I would tell you, as someone said, that another year would soon be knocking and maybe he would have to fight every year! Even almondjoy won't take that from him. We all heard her saying she used his credit card to buy the gift. For every action, there is a reaction.

I would go with yimiton if the girl is understanding and have contentment.

However, if she is the type that lack the above and insist on something big, I would strongly advice you take almondjoy advice. You don't have to hit her. Just make it so real and walk out. And, if like almondjoy bobo, you get a credit card of she know the passwrd to your ATM, God help you!

Great input.

Aisha2,
try ensure that you don't leave your laptop in the office if you must activate automatic log in at all. That way, you could be on safe side.

By the way, why would any crab head use other people's id to post message without permission. Whatever, whichever, it is okay.

Don't bother about him/her. It is a blessing in disguise.

Aisha2,
try ensure that you don't leave your laptop in the office if you must activate automatic log in at all. That way, you could be on safe side.

By the way, why would any crab head use other people's id to post message without permission. Whatever, whichever, it is okay.

Don't bother about him/her. It is a blessing in disguise.

Well you guys affraid of distance are creating problems for themselves. Insecurity and lack of trust is the root of their fears.

Almondjoy,

Good Monday!

Well let wait till she reply to ascertain if her username was actually used or a new one. It could be that her password was bugged. At anyrate, no damage yet. Aside from that, I see the hand of someone close.

Ojoro thread? At what gain to the impostor? It is sheer waste of time.

Aisha, I must tell you that someone knew your password. I was surprised to see the post too but I assumed that you were rushed down to work by your boss.

During last week, your YM was on and off on it own. I left message there but no reply which is unusual. I thought you were busy. If you didn't see my messages, then something is wrong. A spyhole to say.

Last year, someone actually replied my mail to your YIM when you are supposed to be out. I knew you were out because you told me. The fellow said you went out and I told the fellow that I am aware of that. Later, your YM was off.

Try change the password today to avoid being used for fraud. Fortunately, it is possible.

Happy new year. Chat you on YM later.

I agrees.

In that case, the relationship is useless, even when they are close.

Distance or not distance, cheaters would always have their ways.

Will you ever collect the money you earn on internet? Will you ever do business on internet?

Aisha,
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Hmmm the topic is extra sensitive. But I would have to read from start.

For now, let me summarise the experience of the people I studied.

A cheating boyfriend can change and can never change. Same for cheating husband. Only you can read his level of perversion.

If he can't change, you would settle for one of these two options after marriage:

1. He would be polygamous. He would bring another lady home later when you are already late in leaving.

2. He would steal time out and cheat on you behind you or even before you but may not be polygamous. To such, don't be surprised if after decades of marriage, you are presented with the product of his extra marrital affairs. This could be kids, or STIs.

On how to handle him. I would give you some options to choose:

1. Pre-marrital precaution:

measure his level of perversion. Since you know him better. On a scale of 5.

Level 5 is the extreme case, irredeemable,
Level 4 is advanced case, redeemable but too stuborn to reform;
Level 3 is redeemable but willing to reform albeit slowly;
Level 2, is mild case needing your attention.
Level 1 is amateur just sowing wild oats.
0 is a mere case of unfounded suspicious.

Now rate your man. If he is at level 3, Yellow card. put marriage on hold and have word with him before he graduated upward. If at level 4, find someone who know him well to give you honest assessment of his stubborness. Check out if he is irredeemable. 5, is straight Red card.
Level 2 is tolerable he could change if you do right the thing.
Level 1 is in every man. Just keep watch over him.
Level Zero is your problem, not his.

Surely, you would find answer to the premarital cheating here.

As for marrital cheat, later.

Enjoy your weekend.

If distance matters, does it mean that those who love their spouse with deep commitment would follow their partner to great world beyond when s/she kick the bucket?

If s/he had to go to oversea to advance his/her career, is that the end? Would you stop him/her? Would you rather resign your job and follow?

Let us be reasonable. Sentiments don't always make sense.

Some years ago, It is generally unacceptable for couple to meet on the street and start dating. If you take a lady home and tell your people you met on the road, you would be castigate. To them, you might have picked up a wictch or roaming living dead. The tradition is to marry people you know or people your parents give you.

As time went by, we finds that youths started overiding that tradition and starts romance on the street, dance halls, supermarkets etc

Later, newspaper came in and many couple actually meet through newspaper. Be it pen pals, or friendship or direct romance ads. It is pure ignorance that would make anyone deny the aforementioned dating methods.

We all know that compare to newspaper, letter writting, internet is an improved communication method. Yet, due to some entrenched myths and scepticism, certain people never see any good in it. At any rate, we are slow to change. That is why we are backward. Five years ago, most of us never believe one can make money online without seeing the man you are dealing with. Today, thousands are scrambling for the opportunity.

To the topic, internet dating and marriage is not just real but realistic. Like sensible people have said, it depend on the people. It depend on them revealing their real identity and of course, if it must lead to marriage, they must meet. It is all about communication. Right communication for that matter. It is all about attitude.

I need to remind you all that every evils associated with internet datings also applies to your offline datings. Therefore, anything is possible.

My advice to wannabe internet spouse is TO LOVE WITH YOUR HEAD FIRST AND NOT YOUR HEART. That way, you can be in total control.

Dual Core,
I got your point. I was a bit hasty anyway.

Mr Pataki,
I quite understand you. Thanks. I would get in touch when I am less busy. You can send me mail though.

@all,
why is everyone getting sick of NL? Even seun was said the same. He even used foul words to describe nairaland.

I am not surprised. I just hope somebody grow fast. When Good people are getting sick and bad people are excited, then something is wrong. I think everyone know where to look.

I hope I would get to know as many of those good people before "the world" come to an end.

Ika,
happy new you!

Hi T,
Happy new year. I hope you have a happy holiday? Thank for ur txt too. It was invigorating.

@topic,
I know I was wrong I just posted the school that make sense to me. The one I am familiar with. He didn't have to attend it. I was trying to divert attention from those weird schools being listed.

Anyway, the poster had been bugged. You see, he asked an intelligent question but it had been blown out of proportion. Now, he may never get the answer as long as the aforelisted schools exist on the thread.

Does it really matter which school he attended? He is still learning any way.

Ifako international school.

Ifyalways,
happy new year.

To be fair to him, he banned only for a short time. And then unbanned later. But I choose to stay away till new year. To meditate on better things. Beside, I was resolute never to beg since he was the one that insulted me.

Yo, I am happy you are smiling. Hope you are in touch with Almondjoy? She made a whole lot of difference.

May 2008 bring you all to higher glory. A step forward.

What is that?

Thank you mellow. Happy new year to you. I really missed you.

As for seun, I honestly have no grudge with him. He unbanned me shortly after the ban. But it was my decision to stay away and enjoy life in my backyard. I actually don't miss the land at all. I have better things to do.

As for leading by example, you got my point. I wish he could reflect on his languages. He would quietly insult other people and expect others not to follow his part. I wish he know that he is like a mirror. He is seeing what he reflects to others directly or indirectly. And if you point it out, he would ban you. That is what he did to me.

I don't want to mention it again after this. Any comment must not remind me of the past. This forum was created to make him ponder on the new year.

To make him open his ears and learn to respect everyone. Of course, he may ban me. It is a honour to be the first to be ban in new year, for telling the truth.

Let chat on YM when you are free. I am offline though. Just add me. I would get in touch later.

@Seun,
shake my hands. Will you?

Mr pataki,
I am glad to come near you. I heard lot of good things of you. Maybe I wasn't lucky enough to come close. Let get connected. My YM is on my profile. I would link up later.

Dual Core,
it is a pity you either didn't read my post or you read half. Kindly return to it and locate where I drop name. My message was very clear to a neutral mind.

I have no beef or pork to exchange with anyone. Go through my past posts and pick out one where I insult or down grade anyone or creed. It would help you to grasp my person and the true meaning of my message.

This is new year. The best gift we can gift nairaland is the truth. Those who are gifted with foresight would tell you the inside content of the quotes you pasted above. There are two way to see. To see the image before you or to see the meaning of that image.

At any rate, you are right about the reason for public forum. I think somebody need that sermon and he is reading already. As for the rules, I read them over and over. I see no where I can be accused of breaking the rule while someone insulted my sensibility and still got my praise. That man who created the rules is the one breaking part it and covering his track.

Like I said, I want it gone. I shall not mention any name again.

I close this by saying "IT IS WELL".

As long as it is "figment of imagination" I will always see the good side of it.

I am happy we made the 2008 together. Next stage, . .

Sure, I know I can't control people. I have always love it when they throw mud at one another. But when a crazy folk is determined to stuff mud in my mouth for daring to look, I had to choose one out of the two options. That is what I did.

But now, I have my joker. I just hope we won't allow laws of karma to take it course.