₦airaland Forum

And what a better time to do that than now? Education is the best way out and we have got to start from here. Many career women are reluctant to marry a poor man for fear that if he dies before her, some greedy family members and an illegitimate wife would spring from God know where to snatch the fruit of her labour from her.

Will is a good idea but with what happened to Abiola family and Raji Rasaki family, I can say that Will itself have been contributing to the problem. Now, I like that part where women have to work too. It is effective and ensure she has something for herself in the event inevitable happen.

Both men and women has a role to play.

Geegee,
i have heard of the worst treatment from family members. I want you to know that nothing you do can change what had happened. Believe me, I understand your pain. I got worst treatment from my uncle but today, he was the one trying to meet me.

When people hurt your feeling, they may seem to be winning but they are losing. Let not the hurt and ill treatment of any kind from any quarter rob your peace of mind. While injuries can be inflicted from any angle, the injury of people close to us is the most painful. Yet, overcoming this injury is a gateway toward being immune against any further injury regardless of the source. Resolve therefore to overcome and not to be grounded by any attack. Employ wisdom where confrontation is imminent. Never let desire for revenge overwhelm you. It is sweetest revenge, when enemy is transformed to friend.

Your task now is how to convince your sister to shut up. And how to make her see reason why her action would hurt her more than you. For instance, is she planning a quick exit for your mum who already have bp? Didn't she know that she would equally share in the stigmatization when it assume full force?

Win your enemy over to your side. That is the best way to conquer her.

Toyinrayo, in a layman language, it mean abortion.

Toyinrayo, in a layman language, it mean abortion.

You are under trial. Becareful! It always happen that after you find someone to love, you would sooner discover a better candidate. It goes on and on until you learn to understand the real meaning of contentment.

Whatever, you do, be fair to all.

I have recently been taking interest in the plight of widows. I had just finished watching a documentary on the subject and it make me cry.

We all want enduring love and fruitful homes. But then, come a time in our life when the man we love so dearly had to "go home". It is a natural expectation but we all wishes it come at old age. Meanwhile dead keep no appointment. It strikes when one least expect it. To those presently in rosy relationship, our enjoyment do not often allow us to meditate on inevitable occurrences. We can't die together except in case disaster. Somebody has to go first! Love can't solve this.

Unfortunately, we lives in a strange society where compassion is reserved for the rich and mighty.

For the unmarried youths and newly wed, it is time to examine this issues:
what next, if your partner dies before you? What action are you taking to insure yourself this social malady? What should we do individually and collectively to confine this ugly practice into history?

Let share, men and women.

Tammy o! Unfortunately, there is no special email anybody is waiting for. We were just communicating.

Bola oni, flash me when you are online.

Who told you she is searching? Some of you guys can be funny. Please drop your fantasy and get your type on Lagos street.

I love that, David. It is law or karma. Adultery for Adultery. I just pray he does not bring virus home. God forbide.

I think he is only looking for an excuse to shak the lady before she wed. The best alibi is his wife pregnancy.

I love that, David. It is law or karma. Adultery for Adultery. I just pray he does not bring virus home. God forbide.

I think he is only looking for an excuse to shak the lady before she wed. The best alibi is his wife pregnancy.

I love that, David. It is law or karma. Adultery for Adultery. I just pray he does not bring virus home. God forbide.

I think he is only looking for an excuse to shak the lady before she wed. The best alibi is his wife pregnancy.

@poster,
this is indeed very serious. I really understand your feeling. Your sister had committed a big blunder. One, she is aggravating your mother's health. Two, she had created a domino effect whose end no one know. people she told would tell someone else and on it goes. Three, she had betrayed your trust. She is no more a sister to be trusted. If I want you to pay her tit for tat, I would asked you to give her the virus and let her experience the stigma she is putting you through. But, every deeds has reward. No man shall escape the judgement of God. I therefore urge you to forgive her from the depth of your heart. It is hard, but you can do it.

Let the dust settle first. Then find way of chatting her in private. Let her know the gravity of her offence. Let her know she hurt you. Whether she is apologetic or not is not your goal. Tell her you forgive her and leave her to God if she is not sorry.

Focus on your new life and begin your medication. You shall not die but live! I have a feeling that God would see you through.

We love you!

Yes Ma! Trust me. I'll follow the guidelines.

I'll contact you when I get further brief.

Now, on issue: there is a problem associated with meeting goals and attaining objectives. It stems from the concept of African Time. Initially, this only applies to parties, and other events. But now, it had transformed into a monster eating every fabric of our National life. Today, African Time had penertrated our educational institutions. Now, we spend minimum of 6 years for 4 year programme and so on. In business, it takes you at least 6 hour, for instance, to open a saving account if you are lucky. And to get a loan, you would have to go for special deliverance to meet your deadline.

What has "African Time" has to do with these? Poor Time Management naturally affect goal setting if we ever bother to set one.

What does this to do with mentoring? Alot! Mentoring is about aiming at a goal through the guardianship of someone with superior intelligence and exposure. Our concept of African Time is enemy of progress. To reach any goal on time using African Time philosophy is to drag progress in the sand of time.

A mentor/protege relationship is actually affected by time. No one want to commit to a goal that has no end.

How do you think we can overcome this malady of African Time? And what would you suggest as a mean of embracing Time management?

This may sound off topic, but I know it has merrrit

Lol

The poster indeed have a case. But, the wife condition must also be recognized. Maybe women in the house should answer the following questions so the we guys can learn to appreciate their condition during pregnancy.

1. Do women have sexual urge while at advance stage of pregnancy?

2. Do women experience pain at any stage of their pregnancy?

If all the above answer yes. Then the poster should put himself in that state and interpret the real meaning of empathy. I wish some men are given the role of child bearing! I wish they are made to stand beside their wives during labour.

@poster, put yourself in place of your wife. Can you stand your wife cheating on you just because you have a problem that prevents you from making love to her for few months?

Please be honest in your answer. Somehow I beleive you would find the answer to your question in YOU.

Don't bother. They know themselves. Thanks.

Don't bother. They know themselves. Thanks.

Almondjoy,
i recognize how busy you are. I would therefore make it short and straightforward.

You are right about the Nigerian factor. As for logistic, we would solve the problem. We would do our best to work it out.

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"I LOVE YOU" is not a statement exclusively reserved for husband and wife. That she say it in his presence should be enough reason for your friend to understand the lady. The way and manner it is said would be the only way to recognize it silence message. Only your friend can tell.

**speeeechless**

Akarabata!!

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I am irresponsible, that is why I am here.

So how do we get about this? We have to communicate. That is first stage. Then set a goal and put everything in perspective. We don't need more than five team. And from my counting we have four.

We know the problem. Let do something now. We do the evaluation and planning as well as the feasibility study. This is not a project that can be rushed. But a project needing careful plan that would take into cognizance the Nigerian factors.

This thread is meant for irresponsible men.

Thank you jare. I sometimes wonder why the obssession with beauty. I am sure "the guys" the poster was refering are those nice guys that ignore watermelon babe. Real men don't fall for faces. They look deeper. If you are endowed with beauty and had ugly heart, don't expect responsible men to jump at you.

I have lost count of the number so called beautiful ladies whose sight merely incite recentment in me. Every woman is beautiful in her own way.

Thank you jare. I sometimes wonder why the obssession with beauty. I am sure "the guys" the poster was refering are those nice guys that ignore watermelon babe. Real men don't fall for faces. They look deeper. If you are endowed with beauty and had ugly heart, don't expect responsible men to jump at you.

I have lost count of the number so called beautiful ladies whose sight merely incite recentment in me. Every woman is beautiful in her own way.

Sacrifice for what? Salah or christmas? Or did you mean something else?

Alimondjoy,
I agree divorce should be make easier. We actually have unwritten divorce law. I can tell you that I have lost count of such divorce. It is infact easier to divorce your partner here as long as you don't have court marriage. Even court marriage don't have much effect. You can walk out of your home without being made to pay for it.

Serious, such a thing happen because there is no effective law against it. Unfortunately, I don't see our NASS making effective family law in Nigeria. Child right Bill had been in that chamber for years with no hope of it being passed. I just wonder if it take such a long time for that bill, the divorce law will take twice as much before seeing the light of the day. We don't have law here, what we have is lawn!

This is a public forum. I would send them to your email. But we would keep looking for ideas. Right now, we would need to clear some debris and to compare idea.

Yes, our educational system is corrupted. Look, it is not just at university but also in Secondary school. A generation had been wasted and sacrifice on altar of mediocrity and another is wasting right now.

I mentioned something to you about Tony elumelu who had 3rd class and others. But today, this same people sad atop organisation that would never allow a third class holder to enter their fold. In fact, the new order today is to go for your masters after your NYSC. And then, you find that even first degree is becoming a nuisance.

I once visit a secondary school where a friend with master degree was teaching JSS1-3 while the younger teacher with HND was teaching SSS1-3 in the same subject! My finding later show that the master holder can't teach the senior class without floundering. What a nation!

Yet, we keep ranting about qualification and grades. We are more concerned with paper value than with mental value.

It is tough! But I see a revolution in years to come.

So the mentoring process would have to do alot of grandworks and hopefully, it would work. You would have to provide back up and ways it can work.

"when there is nothing to loss in embarking on an undertaking which fail and everything to gain when successful, then it is worth doing."

Spora,
that is a good business you are in. Why not post an advert near NASS, I am sure you will make alot of money expecially if there is a recurrence of ettehgate. What do you think? Another place is the Nigerian Police headquarter. As you are aware, christmas is nearer and they would need to take care of their colleagues that would surrender to stray bullets of Armed Robbers. Finally it would do you a lot of good to have an office on Lagos-Ibadan express way. You would make a cool money.

skyope,

it is part of the challenge. As an IT student, what you are witnessing should not discourage you at all. You must open your eyes and learn as fast as you can. Who knows, you may one day become a part of the solution to the rot in the system. Don't ever be discouraged.

Oyinbos are being hired because our people don't have the requisite technical exposure to man the job. At time, brain would be there but money would be absense. Since the oyinbos spent their money to put the thing in place, it is just natural that put there people there to monitor their investments.