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Almondjoy,
nice to have you around! I was actually looking for you.

Happiest new year to you and family.

Thanks for the YM messages. I read them and resolved to return. But in january.

Iice, happy new year. I missed your humour.

How is hubby?

Folore?
Best topic? Depends on what you want. By your post, I feel you should go to EDUCATION BOARD, CAREER, OR ENTERTAINMENT. You would find what you seek.

Seun, I have honour. I don't name people behind them. I let them show themselves. By their deeds you shall know them. By their words, you would read their heart.

I have alot of students. Past and present. The most important thing I thought them is to let their deeds speak for them. Truth is bitter. We all know it. Just learn from your mistakes and stop portraying yourself as arrogant. You have alot years to live and I am sure you don't intend dying on nairaland. You would want to do something bigger and better. Therefore do what Chief Odegbami taught me "behold the darkness, yet curse it not. Rather be the light that so transform it. For your light can do more than illuminate your path, " in other word, learn to change umpleasant situations into your preference, by transforming them for the better.

Always bear in mind, that just as good men are desirable, bad men gave these good men the reputation of being good. For without evil, goodness is useless.

Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.

I won't mention name. This is new year, the past is gone. A new dawn. Fortunately, I don't keep useless grudge. Let it go. Forget it.

But open your eyes and let wisdom guide you henceforth. That way, you would be alert at any lapse.

Once again, HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Nothing except what you show the world. And what those who slander you behind your back peddle about. Unfortunately, for them, I don't believe in their stupid lies.

To stop posting on Nairaland till people learn to behave like real human being and not like someone from the Mercury.

To stop posting on Nairaland till people learn to behave like real human being and not like someone from the Mercury.

As I wishes you a properous new year, I come with my usual frankness, hoping you would keep banning me.

Until you see the truth in my words. Unfortunately, I am not like some idiots who praises you to win your favour.

You have really offended so many people through your arogance and self-centredness, directly or indirectly. And the only way you can get to know the truth is to apologise to them.

I think you need a consgliere and adviser who would guide you as you plot your way through new year. No doubt, you have done well. It is not by your own intelligence that nairaland assume the reputation it had. Give credit to who is due and show gratitue to who deserve it.

You remind me of a famous dictator who, at the high of his power, started equating himself with the creator. Then, a child he raised up in his own backyard was used to put an end to his power. His kingdom never recovered after his fall. Pharaoh, what a close comparison!

As for me, I would remain firm to my words. I have no regret. Please ban!

Last word:
that chat I told you about has been praising you all over the forum. He is a good man on the surface, but beware of him. He is a wolf in sheep skin. I know you hate the truth. So carry go.

Once again, happy new year.

Hi, somze, almondjoy, aisha, bolaoni, ayomiful,
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

I am back but not with a bang. I was unbanned secretly by the yet to grow up Seun. But I made my point of no posting until new year.

I can do away with nairaland and seun. But there are people with great mind I can't trade for any amount. You guys are great and I am proud of you.

I am happy you all made it to 2008.

Iced coffee? I have never tried it. What make it better than hot?

That is the reality, Seun. Don't act as if you are living in the moon. To b honest, if you have had the priviledge of traversing the "areas that matter" in the country, you would stop hurling insults at the unlucky graduates. You are speaking from your own comfort zone.

Those whose bread had been buttered by gods must stop jubilating over the misfortunes of the unlucky majority whose voices were supressed by hunger and frustration. The really successful men are not those that make money and fortunes from the sweat of others, but those who acknowledge the role played by the poor in their rise to fortune.

Nkan mbe!

A known devil is better than a thousands unknown angels.

I can assure you that what you are feeling is infatuation of heigher order. You would never have love him and vice versa had you not sleep in the same room. The feeling would evaporate when you have sex with him and return to your boyfriend. You are passing through a normal situation that demand your self control.

When a normal warm blooded man sleep with a normal warm blooded woman in the same room, imagination is fired up and the emotion stirred. The bottled emotion is exerting pressure on the heart bmd the warning signal is flashing before your eyes. You have the time to stop it now.

So back to your question. What you are feling is infatuation. If the feeling persist, stop, in fact stop sleeping in the same room with him.

Exactly. But these party mentality is been taken to ridiculous level. Imagine you attend a party and you are the odd one in the park. It plays psychological effect on hapless people who do not want to seperated from the bunch. The poor are mostly affected as they may not want to offend the rich by not partaking in their party. They probably do this so that the rich would be a part of their own party.

Now when it is time for the poor, they starts hoarding substandard Aso Ebi and Gele at exhobitant costs.

The US had also realized it can't win the war with Iran. While US are wagging propaganda war, Iran in conjuction with Venezuela, is silently wagging economic War against US.

It is a welcoming development. US should follow it up by refuting many such lies.

Maybe the guy is pocketsome but not handsome. Maybe there is another man she met recently with a better prospect. Love don't make marriage happy. People make it happen. It is by choice and not by chance.

I am always peplexed when I read people saying they don't love someone and therefore can't be with that person. This is traversity of emotional judgement.

What is love? Isn't love supposed to be a verb? Does nouns and verbs mean the same? Weren't verbs supposed to be action words? That is to act? If you don't love someone, definitely you must him.

For being with someone over five years, then love must be there. But the desire to marry due to some factors may not be there. Marriage is not just about love. You can as well love a brute who hit you regularly.

If you know that the elements of successful marriage are absent, then look elsewhere and stop collecting his money. But if it is just about this feeling that are often motivated by the masks on people's faces, then you are missing a point.

To cool na. He'd been having tough time controlling the heat from his own blast. He fought Somze for daring to be your grandchilly and that heat him up and transformed him to a blazing individual.

I hope he is cool now sha.

Weren't you given a letter after your Orientation Camp?

From what?

I like flat ones! It conceal the fact from public.

Gbenga Adeyinka the wost? Maybe because he had been drown in childish Star Show and forgot his calling in one of bottles.

As for the best, I am still searching.

Fallen fallen the Babylon. . . .

He went on vacation. Destination Mars. To cool those blazing words.

A jobless guy has just put lady in family way. That  is not the news afterall in a city where a dozen unplanned babies are born daily. The news is that every well intentioned guest would have to cough out #1, 200 to buy Aso Ebi that normally cost #700 to celebrate the birth of unwanted foetus! And they must do this within three days.

It had been like that in western part of Naija recently. Maybe, it happens everywhere, who knows.

Why must everyone, regardless of their purchasing power pay for the party they did not prepare for? Or clothes they don't like? Personally, I hate Ankara. And the one I had are from "party investment". Must they throw party even when it is obvious that the celebrants are ill-equiped for the task of raising a family? Whose party?

I am angry and I am bitter at having to pay for people's wedding, naming ceremony, burrials etc when I know it is a waste of resource. In the last 2 months, I have purchased such clothes reluctantly just to please the celebrants. I got to the venue and all I get are plastic cup, match, rubber slippers, pure-water and chewing gums! All these on top of a badly cooked jolof rice. And when you don't buy their substandard Aso Ebi, all you get is backstabbing, and other form of subtle humiliations.

Aso Ebi, is a good innovation that is now being used as a business venture and fund raising ceremony by the poor/greedy folks. Must they throw party when they can't afford it? Must they celebrate unwanted pregnancy, and emergency wedding?

Fellow nairalanders, I need education here. Maybe I am missing a point. Must we incur liability for other people's party? How is the best way to go about it? I have already told the girl I am not paying for Aso Ebi. This is the second time in a month that that family is celebrating with Aso Ebi. I wonder why we can't wear the first one.

Please I need advices and input on this. Maybe I was wrong, maybe!

Hurray!!! I met iice at last! I am underjoy!

Back from the Mar? Blazing words!

I don't think we should generalise about that guy's intention. It can be misleading. It can go either way.

I must admit I had found myself in that state before, I want to believe that the guy may not be like me. It is fair to give allowance for deviation.

In my case, I look at the girl and told her exactly what the poster was told. I was honest and frank about it. The lady is perfect and my type. However, I noticed a great lapse which would make the relationship fail in the long run. I couldn't communicate it to her because it would demoralize her. I therefore began a gradual, but systematic withdrawal so that she can forget me. I later changed my location and stop communicating altogether.

It was years ago. And we later meet again. By which time she'd got herself another guy. We are friends now which is what I wanted.

My second experience was while I was fresh at school. I had wonderful female pal with whom I enjoy talking. But, I could not tell her what I wanted for fear of losing her! The lady found herself another guy and I learn a bitter lesson from it.

The bottomline is that, we cannot be too sure what happened and what is in that guy until the guy talk. And if he refuse to talk, the lady should accept that he had an issue on his mind. If the guy is mature, he definitely know what he is doing. The best advice is for the poster to stop communicating with him and watch his response. If he come back, he would tell you what he want. If he does not come back, then he has no plan for you. Look for another guy.

We are all responsible for the "profitability" of begging business.

The day we stop taking our charity to the street and send our donation to recognized homes that carter for the needy is the day street begging would become unattractive.

How many of us send donations and gifts to less priviledged homes? How many people take their tilt to orphanages? When these unlucky people could not get any help in those designated homes, they have no choice than troop to the street.

What is more, we fail to recognize an ultra modern begging institutions branded in the name of God. Churches, mosques and religious organisations had taken begging to an eniable height. Nobody see how the activities of these organisations raking millions of naira contributes immensely to rise in crime waves and street begging.

In our homes, we have people who are able bodied and need loans to establish petty businesses or better their life. The big men in us would rather take our tilts and sadakat to churches and mosques to earn publicity than our neighbours.

Little wonder why poor men had resorted to street begging to make end meet. I don't blame them at all. In fact, I give them when I am in the mood. And each time I do that, I curse the people responsible for their plight if it is not natural affliction!