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Tell her to talk to her guy and then her conscience. If both say yes, she may continues the Ceremonial role. If they reply NO, then she should walk away with her head high.

That is found only in WORDS AND OPPOSITES. Primary 2 class.

What is your love about?

Maybe if a group of armed robbers had stormed your house and sex attacked her right in your presence you would have been happier?

They said they admires my stupidity, my lies, my dumbness and my ugly face. They aslo said I smells like rotten eggs which is the quality that drew them to me.

Murphy's Law states that: If anything can go wrong, it will.

No responsible Nigerian lady plan to be a single mother. They got there by circumstances beyond their control. Many ladies out there have gone through worse experience. Take it as your trying time. It had happened. It is not what happened that matters, what happened happens and it there is nothing you can do except to be calm, relax and see a light at the end of your dark turnel. You won't die. You would be a better, wiser, and greater person, if you can just make this experience a stepping stone.

You are lucky. One you lives in a country that is free. Being a single mother isn't as shameful as in Nigeria. Two, you have a job and can comfortably take care of yourself and unborn kid. Three, you are not lose. With these you have to get the fourth, COME CLOSER TO GOD. He is living. He transformes sorrow to joy, disappointments to blessings. Rejoice in Him and thank Him for what He had done. Tell Him to guide you and make you a better person. Tell Him to let His will be done in your life. You would not be disappointed.

Talking to the guy isn't difficult. He is upset. He knows what worries him. You know how to do it. Be firm, yet humble yourself.

I wish for you comforting words of the living God as you resolve the issue. God had never done anything by error neither has He ever regreted making something happen. He will never leave you when what He gave you unpleasant experience. Talk to God then talk to your guy.

Peace!

No, love, the way it is being defined on nairaland, is not good reason to get married.

@poster,
I quite understand you and your story. It is something that need further investigation on your part. If what you said were true, then, I can say the problem is not from you but the guy.

You see, I refused to blame you for getting pregnant. It is normal except that you got pregnant at the wrong time. Both of you are planning it before he suddenly changed his mind.

There might have been something going on in the guy that made him acted that way.There might be a secret between him and his X that made him subjected himself to her influence. It is certainly not love. And that secret may be both positive and negative hence his confusion.

YOUR MOST IMPORTANT TASK IS TO FIND OUT, DISCREETLY, WHAT IT IS THAT IS BETWEEN HIM AND X, THAT MADE THE X AN INFLUENTIAL FIGURE IN HIS LIFE. You are a woman like her, so you must use your feminist instinct to probe without revealing your intention. Do it with confidence and relax.

After finding out the link, you can then be in a position to act.

My only grudge is that you should have done this when you noticed the X coming over and interfering even after they are divorced. She must have reasons rightly or wrongly, for taking that steps.

That you are accepted by the guy's family is both gladdening and call for caution. I personally don't like my parents interfering in my love life. For reason I don't know, the closer a female friend get to my parents, the slimmer the chance of my dating her for real! Parents can influence children but not all children. If your guy happen to be one that can be influenced by his parents, then you are lucky.

In that case, draw closer to the parents and let them do what responsible parents do. Yet, DON'T EVER MAKE YOURSELF LOOK DESPERATE OR HELPLESS. DON'T EVER GIVE THEM ANY IMPRESSION THAT WOULD MAKE THEM THINK YOU TRAPPED THE GUY WITH PREGNANCY.

If d guy however is like me, who hate to be influenced by parents on matter of love, THEN YOU HAVE TO ACT ON YOUR OWN. TALK TO HIM. How?

Opokonwa, you r rite abt d virgin guy and shy guy explanation. I think that explain why some people would not believe a guy can be a virgin. Up till the time mine lasted, I really felt out of sort being one.

Whatever, I don't think girls care if you are one or not.

I think liars would re-examine their heads and learn not to post stupid lies.

As for the "kids", by their immaturity, you shall know them. We just have to treat them like kids when they behave irrationally.

When a kid wash his hands clear, he would dine with elders.

$$ammy, that remind me- KIDS TAKING OVER! Most of the lies are from that categories.

I know of two members who said they stopped posting because of the "kids". They can't stand there rudeness consistent lies. Methink mature members mustn't leave or go into retirement just because of the "kids". We must choose to stand in the market place of idea and wisdom. No adult must vacate a stood for kid that would defacate on it.

Ndumart,
you really make me laugh with that statement. Can lie actually boost anybody's ego? Hahahaha such a fellow must be suffering from intellectual cancer. The have moral depreciation arising from their over bloated ego. I think nairaland have enough doctor to cure them and make them feel better.

Efua, Jk,

that example is no lie but topical discussion meant to gauge public opinion and we have alot of them. I honestly encourages that type of topic as it avail us opportunity to learn from one another.

Ndumart,
you really make me laugh with that statement. Can lie actually boost anybody's ego? Hahahaha such a fellow must be suffering from intellectual cancer. The have moral depreciation arising from their over bloated ego. I think nairaland have enough doctor to cure them and make them feel better.

Efua, Jk,

that example is no lie but topical discussion meant to gauge public opinion and we have alot of them. I honestly encourages that type of topic as it avail us opportunity to learn from one another.

Again, I disagree! I don't like percentage, because they are assumptions that may never be true.

As a science man, I don't base my conviction on sentimental assumption. It is safer to use the words "many" "most" "about" etc instead of ruining some good works. That is better.

To be fair, liars are found on every sections in nairaland and not just on romance. In politics section, liars are in greater supply. They are good at the job thongh. In Business section, we have them. Entertainment can be spared because you are not supposed to take thing serious. In short, whatever figure you are giving affect all section on nairaland.

You are complicating your own problem by using bogus expressions to narrate your story. I am not surprise you find yourself in that mess. It is well for you.

Frankly, why must you get pregnant for him in the first place knowing that his wife is waiting to return? From your narration, it is obvious that the man was hidding something from you. Did you ever sit him down and talk to him about your future before you get pregnant? Did he ask you to conceived? What was the problem between him and his wife that lead to seperation?

I do not agree that 95% of postings are lie. That is scandalous. We must also take note of postings that merely "assumed" the possibility of the event happening. For instance, some posters know that the event wasn't real. They merely want to know what you would do if it happen to you. At times, they personalize it to make it real. Few of them actually make it clear that it wasn't real.

Then there is issue of old thread coming back to life after the problem had been resolved. Isn't there any way we can block such thread so that any one who view it will know that it case is already closed? It is ok to read and learn from them. But what is the use of bringing it back again?

Somze the lie detector, that is good! Hope the liar know no one had been fooled but himself.

Jk,
I think this can only be tackle through collective effort. We must make conscious effort a giving genuine posters desired reply.

Like someone said above some people don't just know how to respond to truth. You hear things like "pele" "sorry" etc.

Another thing is that some chap won't believe anything on nairaland even if it is well known in public. To them, nothing good can come out of nairaland.

Jk,

LAW ONE: when a thread is too absurd to be real, we must take it with a pinch of salt until the poster show commitment to follow it up with reasonable clarification.

Reason?
Liars are generally affraid of being branded a liar! Hence, the would make frantic attempt at covering up their lies while appealing to general acceptance. Exception abounds.

LAW OF CONSISTENCY: you can detect a lie through inconsitency of the carrier. Except for a born liar, most liars can be caught by their own lies.

Just check their past postings on their profile and X-ray their consistencies.

LAW THREE: when truth and falsehood are clearly present in a post, consider it a sacarsm. To detect lies, disect the statement and isolate lies from the truths. In most case of sacarsm, you find embellished in wisdom, appreciable quantities of comedy and jibes.

LAW OF CONTRADICTION: liar would not fail to contradict themselves when subject to scrutiny. Exception are the parthological liars. They are the masters of absurd.


Bolarge, I love that input. It is better.

I hope someone give us more lie detectors.

Yeah, thank iice, you know I can't know everything. I would add that to the group. I hope someone keep posting more.

Nairaland is an offshoot of the society. A mirror through which we have a glimpse of the society. It is not only nairaland that liars abound. Even in real world, we have them. In politics, Business etc people enjoy listening to liars.

Sane men and women must resolve not to be poluted by the bad ones.

Jk,
how and when will you install the lie detector?

Free, yet you are collecting #5,000. Why?

I think there are different categories:

1. Those who can detect lies and play along for the fun of it. You know liars use appealing words and spice up their invention with humour and weird story.
2. Those who recognize lies and ignore them. These people hardly post. Unfortunately they also have cynics among them.
3. Those who could not disect lies. They merely do follow follow. From their replies their ignorant is boldly written.
4. Those who don't care whether you are lying or not. To them, it is worth the stress as long as they are not the victim. They just have fun and share ideas like the number one.

One thing I know is this:

YOU CAN FOOL ALL THE PEOPLE SOME OF THE TIME: YOU CAN FOOL SOME OF THE PEOPLE ALL THE TIME: BUT YOU CANNOT FOOL ALL OF THE PEOPLE ALL THE TIME!

With this conviction, I always protect myself without having to attack anybody for lying.

I think we credible men and women here. And with them around, liars can't rule for long.

A truly intelligent woman cannot be rude. No matter the collection of her degrees, if she hadn't master basic art of courtesy, politeness, and tact, she a first class educated ignorant. She need a comprensive tutorial on human relation.

Unfortunately, we have abundance stock of them! Little wonder why ladies like that don't enjoy their marrital life if they are lucky to get a man at all.

On the other hand, we also have some men with dented ego who would always want their view taken as right even when they are damn wrong. The problem is not their ego but their desire to foster their intellectual and moral stupidity on others, most especially women.

Then there is a group of men that see women as ethernally inferior. These men are more often responsible for the making of rude, arrogance, intellent women. This happens because some of these ladies got tired of such men and therefore conditioned their minds to suspect every men they come in contact with. This suspicio often manifests in form of their rudeness and arrogant.

Joey, those girls are intelligent, they know when to call spade a spade.

Yimiton,

i votes confidence it is possitive. Gut is negative and could end in useless pride.

Thanks all. If oko omoge felt that the second theory offend men sensibility. Or if anybody think we cannot all be evil, we must come to natural conclusion that the original theory is rejected flat by consensus. Evil deduction from that manipulation is therefore figment of the authur's imagination.



When you think the world is all wrong, remember it contains people like you!

What an equation! Mathematically correct but logically defective.

If these equations are considered, and accepted, then it can equally be shown that men are product of evil!

How?

Girls=evil from above eqns.

But girls= women that is from the law of transformation.




Since women conceives boys/men according to the law of reproduction.


It follow that girls=women* men = baby evil (boy/girl).

Hence men are byproduct of evil manipulation!

Remember when you are taking a photograph, you are told to say "cheese", do you know why? So that you would appear to be smiling even though you aint happy.

That is a fake smile efua and it look so real when you check the picture again.

Happiness come from within. Why not replicate the photography drama and say "cheese" even when you are sad? That way, like someone said, your body would follows.

So try again!

Marke, efua, that is unacceptable! Try again. Let nothing stop you from smiling. Please fake it!

Gosh! I don't know we have a smiling thread. And I went to preaching spree.

I'll have to stay here than carry Bugs around.

I don't like smiling faces I love them!


Ufo, I feel you, keep smiling!

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