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By asking tricky questions and request for prove, you can nail a liar.

Great input, Igwe. I hope the ladies are reading. That simple observation can reduce the rate of conflicts in relationships.

Wao? Same guy contacted me though he did not request for money. I saw his offline yesterday but I didn't reply. I was just busy. But why would he do that?

To be honest, I tried communicating with Seun with no response from his part. Things like this happens because, Seun is too busy to talk to members. I think it is wrong to be dictatorial just because he own the place. He cannot be everywhere and therefore must have a feedback mechanism through which we can communicate to him. Posting certain information on nairaland may not make sense. The culprit would change tactic before he is caught.

As for banning Ayefele, it is also wrong. Perhaps the guy had offended before. We must be careful of how we respond to other people. What seun should have done is to have a means by which members can communicate to him freely. That way, he can be alert of untoward activities. We also need to be informed of any news/event that may affect nairaland users in a way that would enable us identify scams. Seun must also learn to ask question and not behave as a Mr Know-all. In the case of Aye, for instance, he should have asked how he arrived at his conclusion. Who knows the guy might be joking or there is another impersonator on the prowl.

Finally, Seun, don't be too quick in banning members. Haven't you read Robert Greene 48 laws of power? Try it and you'll be glad you do.

Wao? Same guy contacted me though he did not request for money. I saw his offline yesterday but I didn't reply. I was just busy. But why would he do that?

To be honest, I tried communicating with Seun with no response from his part. Things like this happens because, Seun is too busy to talk to members. I think it is wrong to be dictatorial just because he own the place. He cannot be everywhere and therefore must have a feedback mechanism through which we can communicate to him. Posting certain information on nairaland may not make sense. The culprit would change tactic before he is caught.

As for banning Ayefele, it is also wrong. Perhaps the guy had offended before. We must be careful of how we respond to other people. What seun should have done is to have a means by which members can communicate to him freely. That way, he can be alert of untoward activities. We also need to be informed of any news/event that may affect nairaland users in a way that would enable us identify scams. Seun must also learn to ask question and not behave as a Mr Know-all. In the case of Aye, for instance, he should have asked how he arrived at his conclusion. Who knows the guy might be joking or there is another impersonator on the prowl.

Finally, Seun, don't be too quick in banning members. Haven't you read Robert Greene 48 laws of power? Try it and you'll be glad you do.

Wao? Same guy contacted me though he did not request for money. I saw his offline yesterday but I didn't reply. I was just busy. But why would he do that?

To be honest, I tried communicating with Seun with no response from his part. Things like this happens because, Seun is too busy to talk to members. I think it is wrong to be dictatorial just because he own the place. He cannot be everywhere and therefore must have a feedback mechanism through which we can communicate to him. Posting certain information on nairaland may not make sense. The culprit would change tactic before he is caught.

As for banning Ayefele, it is also wrong. Perhaps the guy had offended before. We must be careful of how we respond to other people. What seun should have done is to have a means by which members can communicate to him freely. That way, he can be alert of untoward activities. We also need to be informed of any news/event that may affect nairaland users in a way that would enable us identify scams. Seun must also learn to ask question and not behave as a Mr Know-all. In the case of Aye, for instance, he should have asked how he arrived at his conclusion. Who knows the guy might be joking or there is another impersonator on the prowl.

Finally, Seun, don't be too quick in banning members. Haven't you read Robert Greene 48 laws of power? Try it and you'll be glad you do.

I know one powerful remedy against insecurity in relationship. It is TRUST. Nothing work better.

If insecurity exist in any relationship, it is an indication that something is wrong with TRUST.

there is no confusion at all. Most people authomatically see asking a lady out to mean dating! Check it out and your finding would amaze you. I have seen a number of these and I am very sorry for them. Someone need to explain to them what difference terminologies mean.

to be fair to him, his postting show it all. It is a good topic though.

So whenever a guy ask a babe out, he is toasting her and probably dating her? Hmm?

If you thinks that way, I am sorry you are still learning. Little wonder why some people complain of heartbreak and cheating just 3 months into the relationship.

FYI, I disagreed with the poster's definition of "asking out" and "toasting" they don't just measure up. They can't be the mindset of mature guys.

Frankly, dating is like trying to go into business with an unknown partner. Your ever efforts ought to be focused on knowing your partner and doing feasibility study for the intended business. You don't just go into business simply because he is wearing suits and carry briefcase or has impressive presentation. If you go into this stage of relationship thinking of the gain of relationship ( some people actually start thinking of how the first night would be!) without knowing the other party then you are gambling. And many of the couples gamble and eventually lose out. Many of the so-called heartbreaks may afterall not be heartbreak but rejection at the point of entrance.

What I mean is that those who interpretes going out with babe as courtship, without any term of agreement, are actually deluding themselves. That she take your gifts, may not mean she love you. She might see you as father christmas worthy of being glorified while the season lasted.

Ika, true.


Vagasimple, why did you assumed the babe could be warri? Could you expantiate.

As for the black market theory, it is not impossible judging by what goes on in the society lately. We just have to be prayerful

There is no shame in telling someone you love that you have a baby. Sooner or later, the other fellow would know the beautiful dream they both nurtured would vanish. What use is it for planning to fail just to avoid failing?

Somehow, it had happen to my close friend. He love the girl so much and pampered her like a queen. Then come the revealation that the so-called last born in the family was actually the gal's baby. She had her while in J.S.S. 2! Unknown to her, my friend would have accepted the baby had he be informed earlier.

Needless to say that lie killed a promising relationship. The girl has not found another man since.

I think ladies and gents should know that when someone starts badmouthing others to win favour, be it love or whatever, then that fellow would inevitably be exposing his/her defficiencies. I honestly love hearing people who badmouth others because my psychological instinct works at it best during that time. I would know instantly the kind of person they are and quickly decide whether to run or crowl away.

Backbitting is a dangerous habit that hurt the carrier more than the victims. Yet, it may be true. Unfortunately, truth don't sell as fast as the falsehood. It is a bitter pill that too hard to swallow by many of us.

Hmmmm

I disagree with you girls for jumping into conclusion without probing the poster.

This topic had been treated more than three times. You may try locate one and share the experience of others.

Actually women expect guys to take it LIKE A MAN and resign to his fate. A man crying after break up is generally detested even if he was cheated. That is why you may not hear of men being used and dumped. It is really demeaning to manly pride.

If he must cry, it must be within the confinement of his bedroom.

As for ladies, they tend to make men the evil in every breakup, rightly or wrongly.

Oduduwa must be smiling at this.

People who underestimates Atiku/Yar'adua brotherhood are merely dissipating their energy on no issue. Someone even mentioned Rimi cross-carpeting to PDP as a sign of discord in Atiku camp. It is like the fellow have not been closely monitoring political events in Nigeria. It is also like the guy don't know much about hausa's as a tribe.

Atiku's reluctance at withdrawing political case against Yar'adua is for a cause.And he had not been seen open in AC lately. Rimi's cross-carpeting to PDP is no secret to Atiku. At afterall we all read papers. Finally, before Atiku joined AC, his loyalists were the first to go. He joined at 11th hr when his PDP bid was defeated. It is just a matter of time.

One thing, I am very sure of is that Atiku is not making the presidency a do or die affair. If the election is nulified and we have re-run, Yar'adua would emerged as candidate. This time with a truce. And if Yar'adua won the legal battle, we would all be for the better.

For one, Yar'adua had been erroding the structures left by OBJ in a systematical order. INEC is just buying time, it fate is dependent of the outcome of electoral reform committee. I doubt if Yar'adua would ever allow himself stand for election under Iwu, a professor of Electoral Sham. AC is more than death with her members returning to PDP. ANPP is factionalized and had practically aligned with PDP. Other parties had gone to sleep probably repaying loans expended on last election. I don't see any of them mounting a serious challenge to Yar'adua. This is the realism that is true. Even Buhari can't raise half of campaign fund he would need again. He had legal fees to pay and he is still in debt!

As for Atiku, he may still have some money to burn, he certainly would know better not to contest under AC again since his people are back in PDP. In short, Yar'adua wins regardless of the outcome of court case. Sadly, should there be a new election as a result of the case, then OBJ lose! He is actually on trial.

Ika,
what am I twisting? Who says ladies don't chase ladies? You might just be one of them. Or how could you know so much about guys and vizual impairment "VI" if you haven't tested the formula? Or have you been tested by one of those "VI" guys?

Anyway, I may still help if you need a hunter with microscopic vision. Just name it.

Remember whether HUNTer or HUNTed, the verb is still, HUNT.

MY CONCLUSION therefore is that something must have transpired behind the scene between Yar'adua's mother, Atiku, Yar'adua and Babagana Kingibe! We must also bear in mind the Babagana and Atiku have a long term political and personal relationship and both were very close to Yar'adua snr.

It is inconceivable that such a strong relation would be easily dented by politics. Hausas don't do their things that way. To them there is an unwritten law that placed brotherhood above everything else.

Those of you that see Yar'adua as OBJ extention MAY be disappointed someday. Babagana is in govt for a purpose. For as long as he is there, it would be difficult for OBJ to have 100% grip on Yar'adua! The probability of Yar'adua/Atiku remaining at peace with one another is every high.

Those fighting for or against would just be dissipating their energy on worthless venture.

By this observation, does it mean Atiku had compromised? Does it mean he had been defeated? NO!
Rather, Atiku had shown one of rarest traits in Nigerian politics. He had demostrated that he is indeed a great man worthy of emulation. I am neither his nor OBJ fan but I must state that he won my admiration. He is still in court but not on newspaper to drag his reputation in the mud .

As for OBJ, he remain the object of people's wrath even though he is no more in power! He refused to shut up even for awhile. Instead he had been talking of his reforms(some of which are being gradually erroded and replaced by better policy).He had been trying frantically to clear his name from being destroyed.

To make matter worse for him, Atiku loyalists are returning to PDP after Yar'adua promised to free PDP from OBJ power. It would be no surprise if Atiku return to PDP. Afterall that was how they left in reverse order. Methink they are preparing a ground just as they did in AC. Should that happen, then OBJ is on the way to political retirement unless he blend with the new crowd. Anything can happen. Let wait and see.

Big B1, you're correct about the reason behind Atiku's silence. Indeed, it was for strategic reasons and I would be surprised if many Nigerians don't see this picture clearly.

1. Everybody should note that Atiku, had NEVER for once attacked Yar'adua in person since the later's nomination as PDP flagbearer up till now. Even though he is in court challenging Yar'adua's election, he had NEVER said insultive words as he did to OBJ!

2. Before the election Atiku was a long term friend of Yar'adua's family by virture of his relation with Yar'adua snr. This connection was and is still very strong regardless of their political difference. The choice of Yar'adua by OBJ was not only for OBJ to control Yar'adua. Else, Odili would have been natural choice for OBJ plan. Rather, power brokers recognized that anybody to challenge Atiku in the last election must be someone who could be acceptable by Umar Yar'adua dynasty since this group still maintain strong influence in PDP. Their permutation turned out to be correct as it prevented many of them from following Atiku to AC.

3. After the fraudulence election and the emergence of Yar'adua as the winner, Atiku was reported to have said he would not accept the result. He was vocal. Shortly afterward, Yar'adua's mother granted an interview in the Punch saying that she would reconcile both Yar'adua and Atiku. Many people see through the elderly woman's words. Maybe because she is old and not a politician.

I would love to remind you that Yar'adua's mother was like mother to Atiku and their relationship was very very strong. In hausaland, children hardly goes against their parents.

Not long after the woman's interview, Atiku was heard not more. He merely comment about elections and OBJ but never cast aspersion Yar'adua as Buhari has been doing. All cases against him were suspended and he walk length and breath of the country freely. He didn't even object to AC joining Yar'adua govt though the party leadership didn't honour the call.

It would surprise you to know Arab christains actually call God ALLAH. They have a seperate name for jesus though.

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That is the most comprehensive person introduction I have read so far. She is saying she isn't a shadowy figure as some were. Yes, She is for real!

I love that. Thought evoking.

Welcome and have a nice time.

Smart chap! She sought your advice but here you are trying to compound her problem by introducing a new dimension. You sounded like an herberlist who was approached for love concoction only to use his charm to woo the woman to his side. Sorry.

@poster,
as observed by earlier contributors, your man is a jealous (extremely jealous) one. You should not have let it go into two years not to talk of five years. The good thing is that you are not married yet. So you can plot your escape strategy before going legal.

However, before dumping him, revaluate the relationship. Two major problems faces you.

1. He is a weakling who can't stand up to aggression. I won't be surprised if you can subdue physically in a combat. This problem can be overcome if he desire to.
2. He is jealous type that can't be influenced by reason. This is a deadly trap whose solution is rare.

Talk to him. And then watchout for his willingness to change. You don't need to waste time since you'd known him for close to 5 years.

If there is little or no improvement, follow what your heart tell you and quit. Sorry, it's going to be painful but life must go on.

Who told you that is a secret? Even a primary school boy know it.

Great input. Thanks Jk.

Netotse,
how do men measure that of women then? Divide it by a quarter? Well, exception abounds in men. Some can be true and others may just be 100% fake. So mathematical deduction may be wrong after all.

Ikamefa,
I was wondering how many ladies mind you have made love to. This is certainly revealing! A researcher can't just go out with a theory without first hand experience.

Since you postulated the THE HUNTER HYPOTHESIS, with such a deep conviction, you must be more than fit for the job.

Debosky,
Are you Taiwo or Kenny? I don't know you get twin brother. Ejire Orila Oba Omoge O so ile Alakisa d'ile alasho!!

Don't worry, I don't flow with those gabbages as psychotics, drama queen, gold digger etc that you mentioned. You would soon be receiving call from them. Just don't play them like football. They won't bounce and if they bounce they won't let you score cheap goal.