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Debosky,
maybe I should start hunting you or set a babe after you? How many do you want? I just can't imagine you are not a hunter!

Ika,
help me now. I want to know if I have that Gene so I can hunt while my homone is a concentrated level. I just hope Rachiwise isn't reading this.

Seriously, when I heard a lady saying men "thinks" with their "kini" I just laughed because I know that real men are smart and can't be tie down just like that.

Yeah, it depend on why you are hunting. I wish we can read minds, most guys would never have got a lady attention because their infatuation would be exposed.

Hei, are women really free of the same phenomenon? Weren't they also be found losing interest in guys after all the trip to Opebi to shop for expensive make-ups and creams? Are they not the real reason "hunters" don't settle for "old meat"?

Ufobabe, I must give you credit for that well articulated reply. I learn something from though. But life purpose and life partner tend to be inseperable. This is important for those who want to be happy in their old age. Too many unhappy relationship have their root in ignoring that fact.

So how do we go about it considering that love is a fast moving vehicle with a weak breaking system. How do you think men and women of value can handle this so that they do not fall in hands of a mad partner? Nobody would certaily want to spend his life with somebody that bring nothing but regret. What should we do or look out for?

Ariblaze, nobody is after you. You are a cat with nine life.

@Ika,

Gosh! You mean men actually have "hunting" flair in their blood? I'll try to discover mine. I just need a doctor or DNA expert to identify that gene.

By the way, what make women think every man must subscribe to lust all the time? I guess they are beginning to see the reality. Love may be blind to women, for men, it could just as well shut his eyes while being mistaken as blind. They get the message when the guy start hunting afresh.

@Ika,

Gosh! You mean men actually have "hunting" flair in their blood? I'll try to discover mine. I just need a doctor or DNA expert to identify that gene.

By the way, what make women think every man must subscribe to lust all the time? I guess they are beginning to see the reality. Love may be blind to women, for men, it could just as well shut his eyes while being mistaken as blind. They get the message when the guy start hunting afresh.

When would that be? Ethernity?

Good or bad, guys have reasons for losing interest and it has little or nothing to do with sex.

When a guy is chasing you, his primary motivation is lust and not love. In psychology, this is a normal process on the part to true love and commitment. What we calls "love at first sight" is nothing but a "lust" in it purest form. I guess our sense of modesty would not allow us admit this. Lust, is the first stage of Love and how you handle it determines what the outcome of the whole affair may be.

With this in mind, we can easily understand why men lose interest in ladies after expending more energy and time in it. It is inevitable. Everyman has this trait. We just have to nurture love.

1. After all the wahala, the guy later found out that "she is after all ordinary". That is when lust began to vanish. At this stage only a mind with concrete plan stays. I, strangely deviated from common practice. For instance, I avoid making too much contact with ladies I'd just met. I won't call you. But I will do things that let you know I value you. It was a result of long term observation. Sure, it hurt some girls. Definitely, they will get over it. Almost all the long term relationship I had till date started that way. Where I deviated and did all the nuisance mentioned above, the relation won't last! I quite understand why it is so and cannot be otherwise.

2. During the chasing, some guys mind are focus on physical attraction. The lady on her part look her best to heighten the lust process. Once succeeded, man begin to unravel hidden traits in the lady that either make him thank his star or curse his luck. It is apparent reaction to these, that may necesitate gradual or sudden lost of interest. Then, he began fresh "hunting"!

3. If the lady is guarantteed and the affair cemented, guys tend to be assured and divested their energy into other things like making money etc. The lady would have to do the "guarding". Responsible guys don't spend half their life chasing babe,

Best wish to you muki.

@poster,
i remember your earlier post on the guy. I am affraid, you have broken the rule. No wonder, you two are not living in peace. I understand now why he was treating you unfairly and bringing girls home. Don't you think he might have known all these in the past? He probably didn't know you are the cause until now.

The guy is indeed likely to be a gentle man. Like someone had said, you are lucky not to be on hospital bed. And to say he let you stay in his house?

What do you want now after apology? You want him back or do you want forgiveness? Both mean different thing my friend so let know what you want from him.

All these scientific processes you outlined are wrongly applied. Sorry. You are just complicating your problem. Scientists don't work that way. Take it or drop it.

Since you have not arrive at a conclusion, the best thing to do is to be patience and be a good investigator.Then try and keep a tab on her. You might be wrong afterall.

My advice is that you forget what you saw and act as if it never happen. Don't confront her. Don't hate her. Eliminate your suspicious instinct and then calmly do your homework before going to "KAAKAKI" on Nairaland. I bet if you do a careful job, you would be glad at the outcome. You can then bring the issue up again for examination.

All these scientific processes you outlined are wrongly applied. Sorry. You are just complicating your problem. Scientists don't work that way. Take it or drop it.

Since you have not arrive at a conclusion, the best thing to do is to be patience and be a good investigator.Then try and keep a tab on her. You might be wrong afterall.

My advice is that you forget what you saw and act as if it never happen. Don't confront her. Don't hate her. Eliminate your suspicious instinct and then calmly do your homework before going to "KAAKAKI" on Nairaland. I bet if you do a careful job, you would be glad at the outcome. You can then bring the issue up again for examination.

@poster,
the guy is on fire, either run or call fire brigages if you can't pour water on him.

@poster
u need to tell the house the position you saw them to arive at the conclusion that they are dating. Man and woman talking at a corner may not have any emotional linkage. Don't jump at conclusion without facts. You aint the only scientist in da house.

I have heard this rumour of condoms being laced with virus and if it is true, it is very sad. I still regard it as untrue though. Fact however is that many people are getting the virus under questionable circumstances. Some of the carriers don't know how and where they get it and all we do is to regard them as sexually promiscuos.

I think being faithful to one partner and abstinence is the best way out. Condom is a part of the problem. It is like condom makers and distributors expect you to do it every time.

The question is how do we tackle the problem they caused?

I have heard this rumour of condoms being laced with virus and if it is true, it is very sad. I still regard it as untrue though. Fact however is that many people are getting the virus under questionable circumstances. Some of the carriers don't know how and where they get it and all we do is to regard them as sexually promiscuos.

I think being faithful to one partner and abstinence is the best way out. Condom is a part of the problem. It is like condom makers and distributors expect you to do it every time.

The question is how do we tackle the problem they caused?

Gosh!

And to worsen the matter, they encourage underages to try sex by distributing condoms to secondary school and teaching them intimate sexual details. Those kids forget condom when it is needed most and ended up with the virus!

Somebody need to clear the mess. It appear people are being killed by stigmatization than by the virus.

I agree with you guys. So what can we do now that stigmatization is becoming the real problem?

Happy birthday to my dearest sister! May the grace and mercy of the lord continues to be yours.

Through the days of labour and nights of rest, may the peace and blessing of the lord abide in you.

Wishing you many more years ahead!

You are blessed.

Happy birthday to my dearest sister! May the grace and mercy of the lord continues to be yours.

Through the days of labour and nights of rest, may the peace and blessing of the lord abide in you.

Wishing you many more years ahead!

You are blessed.

Honourable Doctor Oluwaseun!

@poster,
the problem you are having is clearly the handiwork of an outside party. That is why the two of you are in pain. Both of you don't want to let go, love is there, but something is missing. Unless you locate the missing link, the relationship may eventually hit the rock.

Marriage is not built on love alone. You may love one another, if other ingredients are not presence, it may end up in trash can of history. That is why love sometimes go sour.

To be candid, intereligious love affair is a complex issue that require mutual understanding on the part of the couple to succeed. This understanding would have to be built under mutual trust and confidence. Then the couple would have to contend with third parties. Their parents, friends etc. I think what you are passing through is at this stage. Somebody might have convinced her to dump you on account of the religion difference. And that somebody must be someone whose opinion she respected. Now, instead of crying, you must bear this fact in mind and find a way of persuading her to tell you exactly why she want to part from you even though it is painful for her to bear. Assure her of your understanding. If you can persuade her to unburden her heart to you, the job is half done. Why? You would be in a position to know the exact problem.

You have alot to do. As a muslim, your religion does not stop you from marrying a christain lady. The questions are: would you, for the sake of love, let her practice her religion without molestation? Can you guaranttee her freedom to practice whatever religion she choose without coaxing her into accepting yours? I am sure this kind of questions are the likely content of the advices give to her by the "third party".

If she is a strong christain, then you have to address that issues before marriage talks can proceed.

Do that and feed us back on the outcome. Cheer.

Aisha, you are indeed lucky.

Sheraton is a good choice. Try it and you would keep coming.

Could you tell us more about how TAC operates? For instance how many months? Minimum age? Remuniration? Etc

Sincerely, we need to do a little reflection. Let look at nairaland as a case study.

I am yet to read a single advert from a dwarf looking for a wife or husband. Why?

The truth is that dwarfs understand their physical disadvantage and therefore have deviced another means of quietly getting their life partners. I do know that dwarfs abound but somehow, we know that they do marry at a stage in their life. Rich or poor, dwarf get married. What we think therefore does not matter. Generally dwarfs have mouth and they know how to talk their way to success. That is one of the basic ingredients to their success.

Like someone had said, a kind hearted dwarf is far better than 7" guy with nothing but poison heart.

Like it or not dwarfs get married. And if anyone is destined to marry a dwarf, nothing can stop the union!

God helps the poor!

Ever heard of AKI NA UKUA? Those celebrated dwarfs had married beautiful babe and more ladies still want their hands!

Women! Maybe only a poor man would be unlucky. Rich dwarfs have their hands full!

Three years of murder of unborn kids. Three years of deceiption! Wao! It is indeed stupidity. I agree with you Aisha.

What you are saying, therefore is that those who experienced heartbreak, or disappointment in relationship did so because they have not discovered who they really are?

What does this has to do with one life purpose and what suggestion do you have for them?

I am overgasted, flabberwhelmed!

What you are saying, therefore is that those who experienced heartbreak, or disappointment in relationship did so because they have not discovered who they really are?

What does this has to do with one life purpose and what suggestion do you have for them?

Thanks. We would be looking forward to it.

Vagasimple, l know spiritualism is real but we need more about this phenomenon. How does victim get into it in the first place? How would anybody suspect he/she has spiritual spouse?

Vagasimple, l know spiritualism is real but we need more about this phenomenon. How does victim get into it in the first place? How would anybody suspect he/she has spiritual spouse?