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Ariblaze,
It does appear you are either not reading or you are skip reading the dialogue. There is no contradiction whatsoever except that she keep raising the stake: bringing in fresh issues which l am enjoying. You certanly don't expect me to contradict facts when l know they are facts. That would be hypocrisis of the highest order for a man of creed. Defending your value and ideology does not mean you would be subject to debate. It is all about showing other people why you hold tenaciously to your ideology. Only men and women of strong conviction can stand by their faith when they ride on the storm. I look forward to such people as you learn more and more from other people. I also challenge you to defend your values with equal if not more passion.

Ufobabe,
the tragedy of our generation is not the absence of love but in misconception of love. Like l said, we must recognize there is a wide gap between theory and reality. Love, is an emotion and nothing more. It found expression in our actions. Thoughts. When applied in it purest form, it become a fertile ground for peace, happiness, joy and success to germinate and flourishes. A look at the reality in the world show, however that this projected outcome are clearly in the minority compare to their opposites. War, hunger, hate, crisis, sorrow, poverty etc are more common. Check it out,

Since love must give rise to its kind nature, we must not ascribe the ills in the society to it. Since product of love are in minority worldwide, it is fair to say that whatever that is causing those ills must have a backing force which edge out love. Love may be stronger, it is certainly not dominant. Evil men out numbered good men and then they rules. They also infect others at alarming rate.

Our major concern therefore, is to ensure that while we show love to our fellow men, we equally try to spread the gospel of love to win converts. Failure to do this would mean gradual descend into a loveless society.

Genius!

Chuks,
it definitely work wonder. I have seen men apply the same techniques, I strongly recommend it. It had side effect though and that is the guys attitude.

Funny enough, this is what most ladies see that made them conclude that men are heartless. Just because a man choose a drastic solution to nagging problem and refuse to cry does not mean he was not hurt. He was only protecting his manly pride.

A man frolicking with women while his wife is fighting for life in labour room must be under demonic influence. I think you should take to the advices of the ladies above. They are priceless.

Ikris, why not let her send email to you? You can then link up. She hid her email to avoid yahoo boys.

Personally, l think married women in the house should help. Her case is indeed pathetic, she may lose out if she take wrong step.

God bless you.

You would get over it if only you want to. It is a choice. Human being has the power to alter their thoughts. Ask anybody that had experienced heartbreak and they would tell you they thought the world would end.

By the way, what attitude did your ex had that you find in the banker?

It is obvious you are a mature person, you must be strong. Don't be pessimistic just because of one human. You would be making greater mistake and drawing good people away from you. Is it her beauty? She is a nobody until she graduate.

You are strong enough to withstand this. Draw from your inner strength, you would be glad you do.

You would get over it if only you want to. It is a choice. Human being has the power to alter their thoughts. Ask anybody that had experienced heartbreak and they would tell you they thought the world would end.

By the way, what attitude did your ex had that you find in the banker?

It is obvious you are a mature person, you must be strong. Don't be pessimistic just because of one human. You would be making greater mistake and drawing good people away from you. Is it her beauty? She is a nobody until she graduate.

You are strong enough to withstand this. Draw from your inner strength, you would be glad you do.

Mellow,
where have you been? Tis been an age. It is like everybody is fasting. Hopefully, Ramadan is about to end.

Ufobabe,

thanks for your prayers. I have no special gift. I am just being natural. You are even better than me.

We all have a role to build our nation. That is why we must be conscious of our words, deeds,and thoughts. Many people, mostly young ones, would inevitably pick them up. I believe in the law of reciprocity and law of multiplicity. That is why l think everyone must play his role.

In life, we must realize that what we sent forth would always be reflected back at us through both reflective or opaque wall of human judgement. We may or may not be aware of this reflected message. That is why we must embrace the mirror phillosophy, so that we can make amend where necesary. That is the underlying principle behind THE MIRROR as being propagated on Nairaland.

Mellow,
where have you been? Tis been an age. It is like everybody is fasting. Hopefully, Ramadan is about to end.

Ufobabe,

thanks for your prayers. I have no special gift. I am just being natural. You are even better than me.

We all have a role to build our nation. That is why we must be conscious of our words, deeds,and thoughts. Many people, mostly young ones, would inevitably pick them up. I believe in the law of reciprocity and law of multiplicity. That is why l think everyone must play his role.

In life, we must realize that what we sent forth would always be reflected back at us through both reflective or opaque wall of human judgement. We may or may not be aware of this reflected message. That is why we must embrace the mirror phillosophy, so that we can make amend where necesary. That is the underlying principle behind THE MIRROR as being propagated on Nairaland.

If what you said are truth, Stanlord, forgeting her is one of the most difficult things to do. Do it anyway!

Everyone above had given you what is naturally the best advice. Go for it.

When you meet her anywhere, show no malice. Say "hi" act as if you have never seen her before. Act as if she didn't hurt you but herself. Her mind would be in confusion if she has any conscience. That is why she avoids you anyway. She is human, and every normal human finds guilt conscience a heavy burden to carry.

Don't think of the past, look at the presence and anticipate a brighter future. If you are indeed Godly, just consider all you have done for her in the past as act of charity for God and hamanity. God would give you someone better if you trust Him.

Personally issue like this hurts because most of us are selfish in nature. I learnt very early in life (while in primary school) to do thing without expecting direct reward from the beneficiaries. That way, ingratitute from him or her does not even come up when the other person deviated.

When you give, or do somebody a favour in anticipation of love exchange, you enter into a risky business. Just like insurance. In this case, to insure your love. You are paying a premium which may not be paid back to you. Depending on many factors.

Lovers who give for the sake of love ALONE must realize they are paying premium to their partner. It is not everybody that pay to insurance firm that would get full benefit. Often time, you discover that you are helping the firm to meet their obligations to other customers!

The way out is to try as much as possible to be an unselfish but wise giver. That way, when your beneficiary disappoint, it is easier to leave him or her to God for judgement. Somehow, l had never seen anyone offend God and go scot free. Unless he/she repent. God is fair.

Everything we do to our fellowmen, good or bad, are judged by our intentions. And will inevitably come back to us at a later date, GREATLY MULTIPLIED.

One more thing, acid drop, do you have any news of Babeelove? Kindly relay my concern to her. I just hope it has nothing to do with trouble. She get my mirror but rarely use it. It is a worrisome!

Just tell her l miss her like a dying man misses Oxygen.

0804190041900

i am on 72 hours

In fact l am now extra careful. That is why l don't come online regularly again. I just leave the thing on sometimes. Though l can't help coming to read posts from people like you, iice yimiton, ariblaze, mukand host of others.

By the way where have you been? You disappeared for a while, why? I hope it is has nothing to do with your bobo?

What do you mean? So l haven't been getting some love before? Anyway thanks a million.

I just madam won't catch me now. She forbade me talking to any lady till after our wedding.

What do you mean? So l haven't been getting some love before? Anyway thanks a million.

I just madam won't catch me now. She forbade me talking to any lady till after our wedding.

Which fame? A beg fame kills o!

Is it strange? After all all work and no fun make jack an dull man.

WHERE IS BABEELOVE!!

I hope you are not holidaying in the moon? I miss you! Please come back home. Tell your bobo to let you get a fresh air. I am sure you are reading this. Just know that you are have a place in somebody's heart!

My regard to your man.

Niceuzor,
seriously, try it. Fantasy do come true on NL. If people get job, business ideas, internet skills on NL, who says marriage is impossible. Even for a day? Keep dreaming my guy joseph didn't sweat it to move from prison to palace. It is all about the power behind the dream.


$ammy,
sorry, koko is with me right now please wait for your turn. We would soon have time table for sharing koko. Meanwhile you'll have to exercise patience. After all you have not been formally taken. Keep toasting! Just know that you are a second fiddle. There are two clear favourites already. Please fight for a place.

You would surely find her if only you can dream like joseph. They plenty for nairaland.

Pray for me to win the battle against my rivals.

My angel! We met in my dream, you know.

What? Number four? Thank God she is on vacation! Please don't apply yet. Make l enjoy small.

Niceu,
All foods would be on stand. No worry. Even Tuwon Wanke anything.

Rachi,
you'd gone off to my rival all weekend when it's my turn. That is cheating you know?

Niceu,
All foods would be on stand. No worry. Even Tuwon Wanke anything.

Rachi,
you'd gone off to my rival all weekend when it's my turn. That is cheating you know?

Then stay where your heart is and tell the old gal NO SECOND CHANCE. Let God guide you.
Take care.

What do you mean by "somewhat"? Remember, l am not there and have not seen any of the ladies. It is either YES OR NO. Somewhat mean you don't know and you are not sure. That means you should do your homework well.

As for you travelling abroad. Have you any assurance that your dream would soon materialized? What plan have you in place. Don't be a dreamer. Be a doer!

You must make a firm commitment to forget her. Focus on your new gf and see if she has any good traits. Show her love. Tell her you hate a nagging gal and tell her to change. Be kind to her. Who knows she may turn a new leave. And if she remain a nuisance, write her off and flock with guys. Do anything to forget your old gal.

If she is just after your money then ask yourself whether you want to be her bank where she can draw money at will. If yes, go after her.

Did her character outshine that of your current gf? If NO, she get a minus.
Did you love your present gf? If yes, she get another minus!
Did you present gf love you? If yes, mark another bold minus.
Is she promising? If NO, a bolder minus.
Is your present gf better in term of future expectation? If yes, then put another minus!
Now, add up these minuses and it give a bold "NO SECOND CHANCE"

That is my candid advice. A girl of 18 talking of marriage without career prospect is in dreamland. Tell her you have got another gal and you can't double date. Tell her to wait till that new gal misbehave before she can "reapply"! NO VACANCY!

Finally make a move at creating a sound future for yourself.

Peace from me to you! God bless you.

If she is just after your money then ask yourself whether you want to be her bank where she can draw money at will. If yes, go after her.

Did her character outshine that of your current gf? If NO, she get a minus.
Did you love your present gf? If yes, she get another minus!
Did you present gf love you? If yes, mark another bold minus.
Is she promising? If NO, a bolder minus.
Is your present gf better in term of future expectation? If yes, then put another minus!
Now, add up these minuses and it give a bold "NO SECOND CHANCE"

That is my candid advice. A girl of 18 talking of marriage without career prospect is in dreamland. Tell her you have got another gal and you can't double date. Tell her to wait till that new gal misbehave before she can "reapply"! NO VACANCY!

Finally make a move at creating a sound future for yourself.

Peace from me to you! God bless you.

You may never get any good girl if you continue that way.

Firstly, you are diminishing your manly pride by wasting your energy on someone that had made it clear she can't love you. To her, you are second to somebody. As long as that somebody is there, you are a nobody! Get that fact into your head and it would begin to clear. She had started treating you like a leper now. Wait till she humiliate you before you know who is a "wussy"!

Secondly, your dream girl gave you 3 good years opportunity to show her why she should leave her man for you. All you did was advertising your emotional woes. You can still win her. And that is if you SHOW her that you are a better alternative to her lover. Or maybe you get the other guy off the way!
It is surprising that in a nation where hundred of thousands ladies cry out due to loneliness, you failed to realize NO WOMAN IS WORTH DYING FOR except she is yours already!
Thirdly, you did your present girlfriend a great dishonour. You proposed to a her and then told her you don't love her as much as someone who don't care if you existed. You can never find a woman who possesses 100% of the qualities you are looking for. That your dream girl would also have something you hate.

My advice:

save yourself from further humiliation, forget your dream girl! Even if you want her, the only way to get her is to forget her! Then concentrate on your girlfriend or better still, get another.
Make a show of your girl and let your dream girl see that you are happy.
Fake your happiness. Fake your love if you have none. Then instead of counting the negatives in your girl friend, count the positives.
Be firm. Be strong. Be a man. Don't ever go for a year playing "wussy" to any girl again. Three years is humiliating to a real man pride.

You can forget that dream girl if you could snap out of your dreamy state. Don't call her again. Don't visit her. Take control. Your mind would follow your resolution. It is up to you, not Nairaland users.

Wussy!

You are right.

And whoever say men are affraid of or avoiding educated women must do a personal soul searching.

Most men, even illiterate men would want to date educated women. But greater percentage of EW are arrogant self centred and chauvinist creatures. I have had personal study in this regard. I apologize to the real women of value among them. The truth however is that arrogant ones outnumbered the good ones.

I have a friend who hold OND and dating a secondary school graduate. Due to some reasons, he had to stop his education at that level. His gal went ahead to do her OND and later HND. She practicaly lived on that guy through her education. Then just before she graduated, she call off the affair because "the guy did not measure up to her standard!"

Another lady was dating a guy l understudied. The guy had just returned from Germany but didn't have University degree. He had money though. From 200 level to final year, the lady didn't mind his inferior education level. The guy transformed her to model and sponsored her education. Then she went for her Service. She returned to drop quit notice. Her reason: she can't marry anything less than Bsc holder!

Four out of five of educated lady would jilt a man who is less educated than her. It is this reality that make some to avoid them. They are potential heartbreaker anyday.

I must submit that there are good ones among them. Hard to find anyway.