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It is called wussy!

She guess that you are a wussy. That is all.

It is called wussy!

She guess that you are a wussy. That is all.

Why not first lose your mind? The lady that stay is your chosen love!




You are formenting trouble for yourself. The only problem you have now is that of your lust. I don't see any other solution until you kill that lust. Nobody can help you but YOU!


In case you are still confuse, please don't hesistate to lose your mind once and for all. The best lady stays. If none of them stay, then you must return to bride market.

This kind of issue is one of love spoilers. In this case, the lady is not trying to be funny at all. No lady, except one with "coconut head" or one acting a script, would delibrately hurt a man and still pick up the phone from the man, crying without reason. Her tear must have been incited by guilt conscience and deep feeling of remorse, more likely laced with yearning for re-union.

The case is clearly orchestrated by third party. In every relationship, there is a potential third party whose influence can make or mar the affair regardless of the couple's wish. NEVER UNDERESTIAMATE THE INFLUENCE OF THIRD PARTY. Ignore this warning at your own risk.

A third party can be anybody; friends, parents, rivals, family etc.

Among the motivating factors that may influence the intrusion of Third Party are Religion, Money, Tribe/Culture, Greed etc

When this happen, only mutual trust and strong conviction of the feuding partners can save them. If these two are absence, Love would crumble no matter how strong. That is why l used to say love is a cripple. The lady is crying because she still love the guy! Unfortunately, unless the guy can get rich overnight or placate the mother, by any means, he can't get the lady back. In that kind of cul de sac, the likely outcome is seperation. Permanent or temporary.

LET HER GO, IF THOSE BEHIND HER ACTIONS REMAIN ADAMANT.
But don't let them win! Make them a bad loser! That way, you become a cult that must be revered in their privacy thought!

One of the way you can let them lose badly is to accomplish what they thought you can't have. Be a success story, and you would have set machinary in motion for their private lamentation of great lost.

ok. I am online but busy, I got your message, I will reschedule.

I strong have objection to some of what +osisis had been posting. She is speaking for one backround and not general background. You lives in USA and in one part. That experience you might have is never the general norms. I want you to realize that, I raised this issue not because I don't know answer, but because I want us to learn from one another and to realize the problem ravaging our generations.

I am disappointed in most of the postings so far except a few. I want you guys to realize that this problem is a silent problem most of us would not admit in Nigeria. we must never turn it into a joke. I have had the opportunity of meeting people with this problem and I must admit that the posting so far show that many of our graduate are Intellectual ignorants. I am watching as we revel more about ourself to the world.

I also noticed that ladies are shy of contributing their mind. where are the responsible ladies?

How did you get yourself in this mess in the first place? Are you the only man in the area that would warrant a woman fostering herself on you? Are a Mr. Fantastic? Why did you ate her honey all along when you have no business committing? I don't pity you at all. Until I have my reply!

Are you sure you hate gentlemen with a passion? Hopefuly my blood is poisonous, acidic, and highly inflamable. Whoever shed it would be consumed by flame of disappointment because, it won't touch the earth. It would float like a balloon! By the way let me makd peace betweem you guys. What sacrifice do you seek?

In other word, you are advocating that if anyone, preferably a man, don't have job, he should forget about dating?

What if during the period of hibernating, he has the desire to cuddle a lady, a natural sexual appetite. What should he do?

Supposing he eventually make it say at 32 in Nigerian situation, would he then start looking for a lady? How many of such men had been humiliated on NL for daring to search for fitting wife? Tell me your view about that observations.

Somze, what are you waiting for? Whatever become of you Iranian Nuke.

I wonder who to support. The one pushing other below or the one persuading to die.

Why would iice watch while these chilly guys vapourise? Iiiiiccceeee!!!

Maybe l should invite zignorr! He know about conflict evolution.

You can how they are trying to anhilate one another? All frozen.

How could you be so ruthless with words? Please be specific.

like?

Babeelove, I have been searching for somze thread. how can I locate it?

By the way hope you are not stressed at all? I missed you.

Somze,

why do you always hadd CRAZY to your words?

A painful heartbreak on the way! A shower of tear from a loving lady. A feeling of satisfaction from a worried man. Love hurts no one but men hurt one another. I wish we could see the face of LOVE, we would be in position to know whether we are obeying or rebelling. . .

When we meet an opposite sex, must we lose ourself in the thrilling sensation in our heart or ponder on the consequence of our action, success of failure?

NEVER START ANYTHING YOU HAVE NO DESIRE TO CONCLUDE!


There is more to this than you said. But, l reserve my comment.

In my life, l had always pray never to be hurt in love. Alas, l had been disappointed once. The experience however made me a better person so much that l am now immuned against any form of heartbreak. I am so confidence, that it would be easier for a camel to pass through a needle than for any lady to break my heart. This is not just words but the reality.

My story of heartbreak is a bit similar to the poster in many ways though l would not be specific. I didn't have to invest in her parent or lose money. It is in another way.

However, that experience did not stop me from trusting women, or making friends among them. Those l met afterward would attest to that fact .

@poster,

you have many options before you. And if l must share my own experience of how l overcame that ugly experience and became a better person. Not that l am not good before that, l am always me. In fact l had been writting a manuscript on relationship before then. I would of course ask questions before l can tell you the options before you.

In my case, l unravel the person behind the lady's action by assuming "formlessness". Looking back, l am surprise at my own investigative prowess. I didn't have to rely on hearsay or buy her lies. I did what l considered extraordinary, giving the circumstance. All these, so that 'she would not suffer!' l even met the "lucky" guy with a big grin on my face and congratulate him!

Inwardly, l was hurt. But outwardly, l made a show of my bravado and wisdom. Though we live in the same area, the lady, probably due to shame, could not come near my vicinity till date. She turn herself into an outcast because of a stupid advice from an ignorant family member! I was actually the winner. No ill feeling, No verbal attack, Nothing. I played a psychological game that would forever made her guilty of what she did. But l want her to be happy, hence, l choose the option that would make us friends and nothing more.

You can get over her and become even better than you are.

Na lie. Secondary school girls are not expensive to keep. TheY are the cheapest comodity on display. Believe me. They are vulnerable. That is why parents must keep a close watch on them.

My finding and research show that most of them are curious to experience the thrill of love. All you need are sweet words, love cards, chocolate, Ice scream etc and before you know it, they would be all over you! I had had opportunity to mentor them and I am always sad when l hear a teenager saying she love somebody. Little wonder why most of them lost their virginity stupidly to a stupid boy.

Chaloo, are you really from Ghana?

Why shouldn't it? After all she benefited from the guy when the going was good. Are ladies that insensitive?

Your partner is unemployed while you are gainfully employed or both of you found yourself in labour market for no fault of yours.


Oftentimes, we humans are tried in life especially love. One of such trial is a situation where for one reason or the other one or both of the partners has no job. At times, it may be that he/she lost his her job after the two of you have committed into the relationship. Such a situation can be very traumatic. It is often the cause of infidelity in relationship.

If you found yourself in this situation, how would you manage it?

I put the blame at the door step of her parents.

One thing l have noticed is that most of these teenage mothers ends in poverty especially when their parents could not take the initiative of reforming them afterward.

Na wa o! The Godliest sinners!

Na wa o! The Godliest sinners!

Na wa o! The Godliest sinners!

Do u really want to get over it?

I didn't post my picture because I am shy and very private person. I only send to those who requested for it if they are ok and if I have one online.

Aside from that, I just have to protect my ugly face from occupying a beautiful land as NL. I am uglier than OBJ! Both saint and sinner would read your input and immediately want to see how you look like. If my character can't convinced anyone to like me then it is useless gazing at my OBJ-like face.

Finally, I want to remain invisible so that no one would recognise me on the road except my friends.

Druggie233, was right. I need to add that a lady can love many men at once. But may not even be in love with any of them.

It is possible if such a lady is confused.

She can love Guy A for his humour; GUY B, for his face; GUY C, for his fat pocket; Guy D, for his moral uprightness, Guy E for his academic support, Guy F for his charisma . Guy G for his phallus. That is the way it is.

When a lady met all these men, he would not admit it. Instead you will hear that she love them equally. She may be telling the truth. That equality had been illustrated above. But she cannot be in love with them equally. Even men that are polygamous in nature don't pretend they are in love with women equally. When women say such thing when, they are obviously confused.

Push them to the wall and they would pick the man they really love and damn the loser.

How do you know which one she love most? It is hard to say from outside. This is a matter that is closely guarded in her heart. That she is spending more time with one does necesarily translate to loving that man more. I can tell you that with bold confident.

If you truly want to know, let both of them appear to her unannounced at a time she need only one badly, like her birthday party or a date. She would choose right there the man she love most.

Your friend can save himself all the pains by boldly visiting her unannounced when the other guy is around! He must be mature enough not to let anger spoil his mood. He must also avoid confrontation with her or the other guy. Show up and request for attention. Watch her body language and other give-away signs. You would see the magic it would perform. There and then, she would choose the man she love most. Just wait a bit for her to come and apologise to the loser. The truth would be clear to you.

Druggie233, was right. I need to add that a lady can love many men at once. But may not even be in love with any of them.

It is possible if such a lady is confused.

She can love Guy A for his humour; GUY B, for his face; GUY C, for his fat pocket; Guy D, for his moral uprightness, Guy E for his academic support, Guy F for his charisma . Guy G for his phallus. That is the way it is.

When a lady met all these men, he would not admit it. Instead you will hear that she love them equally. She may be telling the truth. That equality had been illustrated above. But she cannot be in love with them equally. Even men that are polygamous in nature don't pretend they are in love with women equally. When women say such thing when, they are obviously confused.

Push them to the wall and they would pick the man they really love and damn the loser.

How do you know which one she love most? It is hard to say from outside. This is a matter that is closely guarded in her heart. That she is spending more time with one does necesarily translate to loving that man more. I can tell you that with bold confident.

If you truly want to know, let both of them appear to her unannounced at a time she need only one badly, like her birthday party or a date. She would choose right there the man she love most.

Your friend can save himself all the pains by boldly visiting her unannounced when the other guy is around! He must be mature enough not to let anger spoil his mood. He must also avoid confrontation with her or the other guy. Show up and request for attention. Watch her body language and other give-away signs. You would see the magic it would perform. There and then, she would choose the man she love most. Just wait a bit for her to come and apologise to the loser. The truth would be clear to you.

That is the real problem. Forgetting about! It is difficult to forget, my friend.

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Being heart broken can sometimes be fun! It bring out the worst and the best from the couple. It add or subtract wisdom to the individuals; it is one way to understand the power of our emotion.

I have gone through one, and it was both painful and fun. It make me a better and more understanding person. I know one thing though: I CAN NEVER PASS THROUGH ANY ONE AGAIN. NOT FROM LOVE, NEVER!


Sometimes, when it happen, you would wish the world come to an end. Disappointment in capital letters. Pain on your heart as if pierced by a sharp arrow. It is only if you did not invest in the relationship that you would not be hurt. And a wicked soul that sparked the problem, may feel unconcerned.

Mind you, the cause of heartbreak can be both internal or external. Internal, when either or both party are involved. External, when a third party enter the picture. Third party can be, gossipers, liars, husband/wife snatcher, parents, materialsm etc.

When it happen, there are ways to make it less painful. The world would not come to an end.

You need support to lean on. My adopted sister play a crucial role. We talked about it. And many more.

People often says "cry your heart, move on"! It is easier said than done. Who wear the shoe know it all. While the statement is true, it may be insufficient.

You can forgive. How easy is it to forget?

You just have to choose between wrecking your life with worry and picking up the broken pieces for mending! Life is short already, don't shorten it further!

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