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Can you be more specific?

Wonderful! I feel you, Mellow!!

Mellow,
So who do we use it for? Or who do I use it for?
Or who do you use it for?

hi olowo Tee.
long time. if you are online try IM me. I am waiting

Do you have a special attachment to him?

If my opposing blapheming the name of God, whatever language it is used, is the cause of your headache, then I have no cure.

I have no ego so their is nothing to wax. Perharps you want to drag me into a useless argument, I am sure you would be disappointed. You are not the first to try it. Keep trying, anyway.

I doubt if you even read my comment on Osama. Some people would go to a thread, read the first and last posts and gbam, they understand it all.

Patience is the key. Nowhere have I supported Osama. Though I'd have love to comment on his words. You don't even know my view yet. Anyway, I don't contribute into any topic that drag the name of GOD CHINEKE, ALLAH, OLODUMARE, JEHOVAH etc, whatever name, into the mud. That had been my policy for years. Nairaland can't change that.

Tell him!

Tell him!

So people can be killed in a dream? At least he would live to narrate the nightmare.

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And who is a muslim? We just do it!

Women, with all their power can melt the heart of a stubborn man. During courtship, these power were freely deployed to cement even a turbulence relationship. Sadly, after wedding, some of them simply go to sleep especially after having children: leaving their men at the mercy of other women. I am sorry if that line hurt, but it is the truth.

Go back to drawing board. Dust your skirts and blouse and begin a process of seduction! He is your man, what are you waiting for? Let the other lady do it for you and lose him. The only option other than this is Babelove option of reciprocity. Ramseh Nouah option!

Prayer can move the mountain. But "NOT WHAT HE WISHES AND PRAYS FOR DOES A MAN GET, HIS WISHES AND PRAYERS ARE ONLY GRATIFIED WHEN THEY HAMONIZE WITH HIS THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS".

So PRAY. And as you pray, do sumthin positive.

Find Job to do starting from now. Persuade your husband to get you something that can bring you money. Just in case.

The ex is a woman like you, there must be qualities you get that made your husband choose you over her in the first place. There must also be something she get that keep your husband returning to her. Find out your strength then maximize them. Find out her tricks then "steal" it! Apply it on your man and see if you can't keep him glue to your bedroom.

Stop getting jealous. If you feel anything, don't be overtly jealous. It scares men. Show your man why you are the better option. Be strong.

Divorce should not be your first option, you may not need it.

Let try it from there. I am sure the elders would add more to it later. That is why I said plenty plenty.

You can win! Stop crying. Let your confidence return. Cheer up and be positive. Tell yourself, "no matter how hard it is, I AM GOING TO MAKE IT".

Don't suffer in silence and don't be hasty to run out of your home with nothing. If you have faith in God and ready to work on the lapses, you will thank God.

Cheer!

Where else? My bowel now!

Have you forgotten Ramadan is here?


Beside, I get worms for belle, we go share together.

It is just Day One, and you are hungary, haba!

Don't worry. After posting two or three threads, I would go to "wonderland". From there I would take okada to join you. Very simple. I would return to naija through nairaland in the morning. Just prepare some foods for me. Amala, Tuwon Shinkafa, Gbegiri, Ewedu, Igbin, Turkey laps, and Dansa fruit juice is not too much asking. Please be prepare. Don't worry about toothpaste, I will bring "Pako Ijebu", chewing stick.

There was a story of a patience woman who married a man that live abroad.

After few years, the lovely man became hostile and started avoiding her and her foods. He no longer fancy her. In vain she tried everything with no result.

Somebody, suggested that she visit a herbalist for love charm so that she may win back her husband love.

She went to the most powerful man she could find in her village. After listening to him, the herbalist told her he would need a milk from a lioness that had just given birth. The milk would be used to make a love concoction that would bring joy to her marriage. He made it clear that the woman must personally get the milk.

After a long search, she finally located a lioness that had just delivered a baby. The next task was how to go into her den and get the milk. She know this mean death. But she was determined to win her husband's love. To her, dying is far better than living a hell of marriage.

She reasoned that if the lioness is a female,then she won't fail to recognize love. She employed her feminist instinct, tenderness, and power to move near to the cubs. She took care of them until she won the heart of their mother who was now relaxed and less threatening. She then shifted attention to the mother lion in the guise of helping her take care of her cubs.

Gradually, she moved to the mammary gland and tenderly extract her milk without raising suspicious. When she was through, she use another trick to escape the Den without the lioness suspecting anything.

Once out of sight, she ran with joy of escaping death and of getting her heart desire-the milk.

When she presented the milk to the herbalist. The later smiled and told her that she would now return to her husband and win his love with the same trick she employed to win the lioness love!

Disappointed, that that was all her efforts could get her, she nevertheless tried it and it worked. She won back her husband heart without a charm,

I stand firmly by those words because they are fair. There was no insult at all. Just plain observation. Posting four times on Religion doesn't make up 70%. I hardly even go there. But, then, I may not have a case really. Underlining those words, an intelligent man would find the truth.


Hei, did I just read my name written as OLA NAJEEM? That is a serious error. Just take note.

It was delibrate application. I am not ignorant believe me, I played my card well. You won't catch me using direct insult on anyone on or off Nairaland. I just drop the words and let you pick whichever that suit you.

The psychologists are amasing. I love 'em!

I go fly mummy!

You guys are amazing. I hope he is reading your replies.


Four years, running after AKOTILETA? If you get her, how many years will you spend to earn enough for her ward robe? Four? Then, how many years would you convince her to stay with you? Four? Before you know it, you would look back and shout, what a waste!


A proverb says "if you spend ten years to learn madness, how many years would you practice?

Meditate on it.

Iran? I will soon join you, muki.

Iran? I will soon join you, muki.

Maybe you you have asked "can you marry a girl who cannot have a child?"

we are strange people really. How could you people encourage someone in difficult marriage to quit only to reject her if she had had a baby?

I am just asking.

Now before I make my own suggestions known, I want to add a few more lines based on my own "imaginative" perception, my instinct.

If they were married for four years and only been living together for two years, there is a natural deduction from this. Please, linapeace, try and correct me if I made a wrong assumption. I am using my intuition and my instinct to decode the past and bring up the picture live so that we would be able to deal with it. I am not a prophet or seer. Just someone with intuition.


The man live abroad and the lady live in Naija. The ex lives? abroad, and her relationship with the man had come a very long way. Long before he met the wife.

When the man "toast" the wife, who was in Naija online, on phone, while the ex gave him the real Bleep. Therefore the attachment (to the ex) grew stronger but the commitment grew weaker. The man know he would NEVER marry her. He was using the ex 4 sex.

After marriage, the wife had a baby and in the African tradition went to live with the husband family to raise the first kid.( Am I right?) It was after two yearr that she was able to live with her husband. Baby two came just before they fully settle down. Naturally, the wife would have been preoccupied with nursing pregnancy and raising kids to observe that her hubby is flirting under her nose.

Take note that this husband is a "sharp shooter" a sexually virile young man.( I am correct?) if that be the case, it is obvious that he was f**king the dry smelly virginal of his ex during the two years the wife was serving her in-laws and raising kids in Naija!

I don't know how truth this can be but that is the predictable partern.

The man may love his wife but find it difficult to extricate himself from a lady with BOTTOM POWER. Or he might as well be a slave to his own passion. Either way, the wife must be determined to win by whatever means she can!!

The wife must not give up without trying to win her possessed husband, What can she do? Plenty, plenty!

I am looking at many possibilities. My goal is however to help and not complicate issue.

Please follow me again:

Number one: it is rare to find a cheating man knowingly sharing the secret to the medium of communication betweem him and his cuncubine (whether ex or current ) with his wife. Therefore, for that man to share the password of his email with his wife must mean:
1, he has nothing to hide/he is hidding nothing from his wife. Good or bad.
2, he trust his wife and believe the wife would understand when he explain to her. In this case he know he was wrong but probably fighting his guilts or
3, he is trying to bully his wife and inflict pains on her delibrately, knowing that the wife is either a toothless bull dog, or an unwanted domestic servant, or a mere baby manufacturer. Don't forget, I earlier pressumed that he married the lady because of his need for children. If my presumption happen to be right, then the wife is being used. Maybe it is time to dump her! On this presumption, divorce is not the best option now. She would LOSE EVERYTHING and probably found herself in Nigeria with the so-called ex taking possession of the home and children! You know the ex is barren, she would be glad to see this happen! This is just a possibility but we must consider every possibilties and plan for them. The evil doer must not be given a trophy for hurting innocent people!

Number two: the wife might be a jealous type. Who could not stand her husband proximity to other women. She may have good reason for nurturing that emotion just as the hubby have his reason for maintaining contact with his ex. I brought thejealousy topic into this based, on what you said that whenever she complain the man said her "own is too much".

If this the case, then I have no reason to blame the lady. She has the right to be jealous when her husband keep sending love messages to his ex. Maybe she overeact.

Number three:

so many more!!! Let save it and find solutions.

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Don't trouble her. Ramadan is here. She need to slow down. Ok?

Why he won't enjoy? He must catch the fun before Ramadan enter.

Something is missing in your last posting. I would like you to rephrase it with maximum clarity. Please bear the following in mind:

Is the mail electronics or postal? If email, did sha have the hubby password? Had she been helping her hubby to reply mails in the past? If NO, what had caused this change of attitude in the hubby? Is the hubby aware of the content of the mail she sent? Perhaps he dictated it to her or something. I think that action is strange. A man would not just wake up and ask his wife to write a reple to his ex mail and then ask the woman who is already in pain to add "love" at the end of the letter. He must either be a (   ). Sorry for the missing word. I want to get my fact right.

Please kindly keep us posted. Let us also know the reaction of the hubby.

The only comment I would make is to remind you of the earlier advices. SHE MUST GET A JOB, AS SOON AS SHE COULD.

Lizzy4u, point of correction: it is not realistic to think couples with bitter or sweat past relationship would forget one another just because they are seperated. For good or bad reason, memory lingers.

Henchbench, you said it all.

Doyin13, I feel you. Hope Babeelove had not gone out of control?

@poster, you have got the best advice already. Only you can solve the remaining riddles.

Babeelove, just tell him to IM me. I have a name in mind. In fact, i read his post just now. But, I just want to be sure. I may be wrong you know. Images in the mirror may sometimes be distorted by external factors. Or tell him to meet me at my creedo forum. Hope you get it?