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The first step toward resolving any conflict is to identify the root cause. Without knowing the root cause, the mediators would be chasing shadow.

You can only know the root if you are a witness, or if any or both of them open up to you. You can never force them to talk, but you can make them talk.

Somehow, I happen to have deal with a situation like this before. It was between my blood brother and his angel. None of them want to open up. They just parted way. I was away when it happened so I had no clue and nobody wanted to talk about it! I had to be patience ant maintain my neutral role before I was able to get the fact. It took me long time. 8 months to be precise. And when I found the cause, I proceeded to stage two. I didnt try to resolve the conflict, for a good reason. I however set machinary in motion to prevent them becoming ethernal foes.

The truth is that some conflicts are best left unresolved! That may not apply to all cases. You must first get the fact right before embarking on any action.

Since none of them open up to you, there is little you can do. But there is always a way. Forget people calling you bad names for your inability to settle the dispute. You are not an Almighty God. But you are in danger of being in bad book of the warring lovers if you should take side.

Somebody had made wonderful contribution above. I would love to wait on you before continuing.

What is your choice?

Then I give up! I am not a master of the absurd!

Do this my brother, pray over it. Then make a choice.

It is risky dating 3 ladies at once. If you truly want to be serious then take to my advice.

I expect others to give you more advice. Just don't let her fail exam.

Keep your eyes upon the goal. If she is meant for you, you will get her.

Ariblaze? Boiling? You want to be frozen by iice?

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You would be fighting shadow!

Ariblaze,
guess now! Iice is frozen, her kids must be chilly, and grand kid naturally would be grandchilly. That is my own .

Acid drop,
yes, na you!

Zignorr,
Didn't you read that I gave you an exception? Osama is the world most dangerous man. Even American and her sophisticated technology can't track him down. I don't fear him. The problem is how would I attack him when he would not even show up?

As for OBJ, I will try. I know how they catch monkey in India!

Ariblaze,
guess now! Iice is frozen, her kids must be chilly, and grand kid naturally would be grandchilly. That is my own .

Acid drop,
yes, na you!

Zignorr,
Didn't you read that I gave you an exception? Osama is the world most dangerous man. Even American and her sophisticated technology can't track him down. I don't fear him. The problem is how would I attack him when he would not even show up?

As for OBJ, I will try. I know how they catch monkey in India!

Ariblaze was right! That is what common sense is like. Though you are still my enemy, I give you pass mark. I hope one of those Jambites is not reading. He may well sit for Jamb a thousand times.

LESSON: when people gave you lemon turn it to lemonade. It was a tricky math but then, I cannot be in everybody good book.

Cyclone5,
you remind me of the flower. So beautiful aluring, and pleasant to sight and smell. Then when you think you have got it, it wither! Some leave a seed behind others leave thorn for the innocents. That is why beauty without brain is a poison to the man guided by passion.

Acid drop,
you are also correct. I have a feeling Einstein would have love to be your student. A great mathematician.

LESSON FROM YOU: In a contest where "WE" and "THEY" are vying for superiority. "WE" is always right. "THEY" are always wrong regardless of the reality.

As for me. I take a central stage. You get what you wish.

Yes now!
Such a face!
Outstanding!

Ariblaze,
grannie isn't having affair. One of her "chilling" gave birth to you and Somze. That is why she call you grandchilly.

Cyclone5, I like your choice.

Ariblaze, 1+1+0= ?

If you get it you would get your IQ! Test your math skill.

Acid drop, Hahahaha a prophet is talking. Did you know that I saw it in my dream?

Ariblaze, I am implying no such thing. Women are more intelligent than most men.

The average IQ for women on Nairaland is 200 nothing less.

Ariblaze, ask grannie about Somze background. Jealousy would soon catch you. He is a prodigal one sha. He is suffering from the effect of over exposure to Nukes he got from Iran. The bobo want to destroy every gentleman on Nairaland with Nuclear bomb! Can you beat that?

Thank God, we have someone from outer Space. UFO Zignor. His experience with Aliens would help.

Acid drop,
sorry. I thought you are attacking efua? Anyway, I like your face. I saw your real pics. Why not post it?

Zignor,
Gurumorin! I need enemies plenty plenty. Please send them to me. I am tired of fair weather friends. Do you know that enemies make you live longer? Please send them o jare.

WARNING:
I don't want Obj kind of enemy or Osama bin Laden type. Any other type is ok for me.

Mellow,
Zignor brought a wine for me from the Space. Brew by the Aliens. Manufactured in the moon. You can't beat the taste. I merely had a cup. I am keeping the rest of the bottle for Salah Day. The second bottle for my prospective in-law.

Don't stretch your imagination too thin. It is not the type you quoted.

Easybaby had hers. She is Zignor's babe. As for you, you aint sharing nothing. You gotta work for yours.

I deviated from nothing. I was ok.

Ugly intelligent anyday that is if given the choices. But I don't do my thing that way. I add moral. It is my choice not yours.

If you want them to raise IQ to 110, then, you are certainly going to drive them out of business. Personally, I have never even shown interest in the Beauty contest. Though I read about it.

Beauty contest is not an intellectual contest. Hence high IQ is not the basic requirement. At least she has brain enough to promote the organizers' interest. And they try to ensure that the winner is an intelligent pick of Nudists on parade. If it is all about beauty, Northern women would be emerging as Miss Nigeria. Don't tell me they are all shy of going nude. Some of them are genius in beauty ettiquette.

Regarding Oceanic bank MD, please take a second look and picture her as a brainless poor woman. You would see the ugly side that had been intellectually transformed. Who cares! That is brain for you. I am not surprised someone want her type. Maybe if she is working at Mr Biggs as sale attendant, we could have a better view.

When Agbani Dorego won the Miss World contest, she certainly was not the most beautiful of the pack. Neither was she the facially most beautiful in Naija.

Apart from the above, I would add MORAL BEAUTY. Brain or no brain, a MORALLY CORRUPTED lady is an eye sore. She is the quintesential of Single parent Career woman. Often with secondary Occupation as SUGAR MUMMY. Nobody disputed the fact that most Sugar Mummies are morally ugly with brain and Money! That is why dey no get recognizable hubby.

So, after the lady passed the above tests, I go for the last test. Moral test.

He is my friend. He is doing me a favour. So don't spoil the party.

He is my friend. He is doing me a favour. So don't spoil the party.

I have forgotten what section. I thought you don't have interest.

Anyway, if you are realy serious about getting a babe, why not show it first? People get the bashing because some teenagers are abusing the Dating and Meeting section. Imagine someone with mosquito brain trying to brainwash a graduate into love affair? At times they would just be looking for fun. At time, it would be money.

My advice for you is to be careful if you are serious. I see a positive signal from your part hence my reason to chat you up. It is unnecessary anymore. But you that IM me when you can.

Don't post your CV as demanded on the forum. What they want is your identification. Introduce yourself with convincing detail of yourself. Your prospective suitor would read it.

It is in your own good that you befriend instead of belove. Know who you are dealing with. If you are active on the forum you would meet someone.

Other advices are personal.

The over all issue bother on how to manage and subdue anger on both sides of the equation.

The man who beat a woman lost his temper when a temperamental woman step on his toes.


I don't think I would ever beat my girl. It is unnecessary. I have discovered there are other means of dealing more effectively with a recalcitrant woman. Beating is a waste of energy.

There is actually nothing like an ugly woman in my dictionary. An intelligent ugly woman is far far far better than a brainless beautiful lady. Why do you think organisers of Miss World and other Beauty contest search for brain? Why do they ask the contestant intelligent questions?

Look, a brainless Beauty as a wife would inadvertently breds whores and social nuisance. We have alot of them already. Thanks to Fashola that is cleaning them up.

An intelligent ugly wife would certainly know how to transform her ugliness into attractive comodity. Ask Liberian president or Oceanic Bank MD. You would get my clue.

@poster, There is realy nothing to confusing in your case. You played your game badly and now realize that you are losing. You still at least two people to choose from.

Then you finally made a choice. Your choise had been beaten twice in your hands but still maintain communication with you!

It is obvious she is afraid that you still carry your old reputation in you. That to me is the reason she won't jump at you just because you are now single and "born again toaster".

Now her exam is in horizon. Instead of you to find way of helping her succeed, you are all over her with Romance with sexual intent. Sexual intent because she had always been around you as a platonic friend. There is no way you would subtract that emotion from the ingredient of your passion.

Why the desperation? Is she fleeing after her exam? Did you miss you former sexual partner so much as to warrant immediate replacement?

If you truly want to be serious; if you want a lasting relation; if you are not planning to use and dump the lady, then show no desperation. Wait for her to finish her exam but maintain communication with her without spicing it with sexual intent. Show her your worth and let her see why you are for real.

The more you show her how desperate you are, the more your chance of losing her. You are a player, is that so?

I am past caring. Just don't let your action lead to her failure and don't hurt her for the third time. It is a stupid thing to do.

Yeah, that is it. You let the other fellow do it. If he is right, done. If he miscalculated then, na in know. As for me, I know YOU ARE GOOOOD.

I know where the poster is going. I have read those lines again and again. I can bet that it doesn't work for everybody.

Both number one and number two would fail like OBJ THIRD TERM AGENDA when it come to general application.


I must therefore caution him from overgeneralizing. Women are strange creatures. Sometimes they simply fail to response to your calculation.  That research was done in one part of the world.

Talking on #2, you can change the mind of any woman if you could approach at a right time, and use the technique that best suit them. Women are not programmable robots. They are humans and response to change though at varrying degree.

The failure of many people to attract a woman is because they are too rigid and that they follows paper theory instead of being innovative,

You know me. I pick my words.

Can you tell me to shut my eyes against your good traits and point point at your mistake only? Apart from you, I can meantion other nice angels on nairaland. So many.