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There is no confusion at all. The people especially Bola are the one confusing one another.

For those who don't know, in yoruba tradition, wedding ceremony is divided into 3 parts.

The Introduction: that is when a lady formally introduce her man to her family. This may not attract funfare. Just the families. Parents and couple on both sides. Minimum of 4 people complete the circle;

The Engagement: that is when traditional rites were done for the couple. This usually attract small crowd. Friends are allowed.;

The marriage ceremony: this is basically a carnival a feast, a celebration to announce official departure of a woman to her husband home. After this ceremony, a woman would be expected to be living permanently with her husband.

Many of us from the outside only read the announcement of wedding ceremony. At times they combine them together.

Technically, couple can sleep with one another after receiving the blessing of their parents. This happen during the Introduction. It was at that introduction that a date would be fixed for engagement and wedding.

The nature of engagemenu ceremony demand some tradition rites. Most of these rites are fetish in nature. Christain couple had therefore replaced them with Church rite". While muslims invites Imam. Thereafter we have the ceremony/reception.

MY POINT:

Seeing a pregnant wife on wedding MAY not translate to PREMARITAL SEX if they had passed through INTRODUCTION. I therefore disagree with people that generalizes on this topic.

At the same time, I agree with those who mentioned arrangee wedding. That is a situation where a lady get pregnant carelessly and has to quickly arrange a quickie wedding to avoid shame.

The bottomline: IF THEY ARE AT LEAST DOING THE WEDDING, IT IS BETTER THAN A SINGLE PARENTHOOD, ABORTION ETC. Let just congratulate them and wish them HAPPY MARRIED LIFE!

Clown? You said it!


Debosky, maybe the guys thought you are gay!

On a serious note, I think we should educate the ignorants. Some people don't know what the BUZZ is meant for. Others simply click on their computer!

Well that may not be the only reason. You have outlined the negatives without the positive. That is fallacious!

Well that may not be the only reason. You have outlined the negatives without the positive. That is fallacious!

Honestly, I don't know why they do it. Maybe when the system was not responding. It does not hurt me because I don't always pay attention to it.

For a stranger you mean, ThiefofHeart? Some people like it.

But if a complete stranger use it, it mean he is rude and impatience. But my friend can do so for age. It is ok.

Quite right. Sometimes, I also noticed that the fellow who IM you first would insist you first introduce yourself! A complete stranger. It is like walking up to me on the road and the say:

"who are you please identify yourself!".

The only people that I know with that bad manner are the Nigerian police! Nobody ever like them for it even if the police are doing their job. We hate it!

Sometimes, I just dribble them too until they tell me who they are.

However, if I had had a prior contact with fellow, like at a forum, I would be patience probably tell them why they should introduce themselves.

Yes, some guys on nairaland can be rude. They are mostly underage secondary school student. You would recognize them based on their choice of words. Mature mimd use matured words. Fools uses foul languages.

Learn to recognize people through their choice of words and you would know who is worthy of your time. I am not insinuating that every secondary school guys are rude. I have met very nice Jambites. But it appear, the idiots out numbered those nice chaps.

The problem with some people is that they don't know when to be serious. Personally, I don't ignore IM from strangers until I heard what they have to say. It is a stupid thing for a stranger to expect I would not ask questions about his mission. With yahoo boys on the prowl, everyone just has to be alert.

Maybe we should turn the table against the poster of this thread and change the direction of the topic from his negative intent into positive.

The issues are :

1,  How do we recognize a spammer? A potential swinddler?

2, what should you do to stop an unsolicited messenger, If it has stupid and irrational motive?

3, what are the signs that a particular messenger is running a foul course?

5, how best can we relate to a stranger using yahoo, knowing that providence sometimes bring good ones along bad ones?

Let share experience. Who knows some people with "CANCER OF THE MIND" ( apology to $$Rhino) would be healed once and for all. And some innocent would be spared of broken heart. With many people unwilling to share their mail, with bad internet image for Naija worldwide, methink this thread can achieve  something positive,

Let set the ball rolling.

Any relationship that has no friction is bound to fail. People who expect that a perfect relation must devoid of friction are hallucinating.

When such "perfect" relationship crash landed, it often shatter beyond repair.

Why not get your facts before you go public? You might well have a baseless suspicious.

You mean you get somze grandchild? Why is he then trying to kill something he has no aim of rebuilding? He is even thinking of going all the way to Iran of all nations, knowing he must cross American graveyard( Iraq)!

To give him my sincere advice if he is really serious. I had already posted it in another forum anyway. Just tired of repeation. Maybe he should locate my last posting.

By the way, I have an insurance policy, so don't fear for me. I am going to be ok.

You seem to know everyone mopegirl. Hmmm?

Sincerely, some people has a weird idea of making friends.  

1, Drop you numbers and email on a forum without any clue of who you are or who s/he is.

2, Stay behind your computer or clutch your cellphone closely to your heart in anticipation of a strange call from interested persons;

3, begin an impressive dialogue mostly what the other fellow want to hear;

4, fall in love. Love at first chat;

5, discover the other side of your "lover";

6, get mad and get heart broken;

7, return to the forum and begin from No. 1.

8, The cycle repeat it self!

Exactly.

I am fine. Thx

Hmmm?

Of?

I think he either have sinister motive or he is a PLAYER.

He had posted similar message in another thread.

Can I chat u chaloo? Not for love o. In fact I am a man. Uh?

He don't want to waste his credit!

Sorry! I thought you are 70!

A real gentle man, you are.

Someone you hardly know? What if she is a ghost or mammy water? Just reading an hotpant, and you are thinking of a fling? Na wa o! Pls add quick quick!

I just wonder. Maybe he is looking for a prey.

What kind of chat do you want to do that cannot be done on nl?

If everyone start having backup, the system would crumble completely.

Forget the guys face ur Nuke task.

Can't you carry by yourself?

Somze, your shipment, I am sorry was intercepted by the King oe Nairaland. He probably don't know that you put nukes there. Maybe, he had detonator.

Please Ahmadinajad that his soldiers did a very sloppy job. Order for reinforcement. Maybe one of those Iraqi bombers can help guide it. After all, they don't value their own life.