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That you are single, still, searching?

Hmmm? Ask her! How about u? Anytime table, yet?

Tis' been a while Babeelove. You went on honeymoon?

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Fatty27, I hope you are not wishing my mirror broken. If that is your wish, goodluck.

I think you have got a challenge for ariblaze, mishoo. I'll wait and see what they have to say.

Fatty27, I hope you are not wishing my mirror broken. If that is your wish, goodluck.

I think you have got a challenge for ariblaze, mishoo. I'll wait and see what they have to say.

Fatty27, I hope you are not wishing my mirror broken. If that is your wish, goodluck.

I think you have got a challenge for ariblaze, mishoo. I'll wait and see what they have to say.

It is not too sudden. It is in order.

Cynics!

From the way Tanna was attacked, I just imagine what a home it would be to have that kind of opposing sides UNDER ONE ROOF! It would be fun, not trouble as you think. God help you! Sincerely, I don't know why we would descend so low as to attack individuals even when she is happy. They also reduced men to sex objects! That kalas kulus nuissance, have no correllation with the Arabic word it was meant to expressed. Arabic word for money is 'M'olun', Dinar. I read Arabic at secondary school and still remember vividly. That of sex is even outside it.

Laudate,
I have been enjoying your arguments. I love to read them. But I disagree with your way of twisting facts to support your arguments.

Your logic baffled me! Why would a man with low sex drive keep chains of women just to pose as socially responsible? Are the women under him so dumb they don't know their right from wrong? Why would any sane woman agree to that kind of union? I strongly disagree with your reasoning. At any rate, this is for women not men. Why would a sane woman agree to be used by men for whatever reason only to blame the menfolk afterward?

For the menopause women getting married, you are missing the point, my dear. Men don't marry menopaused women for fun, sex, whatever. If that is so, a randy man would not leave his wife of many years who had just attained menopause and go after young blood. Please do more research. When Nelson mandela, remarried, it was obviously not for sex. The woman he married was not a young lady.

Marriage is not about sex, children and living with a woman. A man marry for many reasons. My own point of choosing monogamy is predicated on my understanding of marriage itself. All these nuissance about sex is what I don't understand. During courtship, couples have sex, but something is missing. That is why it was not marriage. Since marriage is not about sex, it is logically right to guess that polygamy is also not about sex. We may just need to be fair and look deeper.

Tanna
Don't let people's ignorance dampen your spirit. Many of them are just unreasonable, they are basically here to express their frustration and not discurs . A lively forum must take into cognizance the opposing views, and not personalizing issues. We are here to know 'why' men go for second wife and not to 'condemn' those who have opposing views as mentally deranged. Such attitute will make the discursion one-sided and no meaningful result at the end. Those with even better contributions would just stay away.

Seun,
you made a point which these venom-spitting ladies still refused to grasp. I had earlier raised the issue. Women like to blame their every woes on men. I INSIST THAT MEN ARE DOING WOMEN A FAVOUR BY GOING POLYGAMOUS. I say WITHOUT MINCING WORDS THAT WOMEN MAKE POLYGAMY ATTRACTIVE. If NO WOMAN AGREE TO BE SECOND WIFE, POLYGAMY WOULD DIE A NATURAL DEATH. The fact however remains that certain factors contribute to the making of polygamy. As long as those factors present we would always have polygamy regardless of the opposition. No woman, No polygamy. I just wonder why they are blaiming men.

Omoge,
how can you be so sure that you are up to the task? Sure, from the way you are I can say with a woman like you, no man need polygamy. Just pray that your bobo would not K'AGBAKO OBINRIN. I know that if a woman want a man badly, she would get him by whatever mean. I like your contributions so far, at least you didn't say polygamists are mentally deranged people. You can give me a trial, but it is too late,

Sincerely, I now understand why some women are on the receiving end. I am surprised that beyond the polygamy we are meant to discursed, I could see something more. I hope I am not the only active observant in the house. I am learning.

I am learning why some polygamy wouldn't work; I am learning why monogamy would eventually produce either of a cheating partner, polygamy, or a broken home. I am also understudying psychology of women against women!

You want to kill it? Try it and get frozen

I do not need protection. But I also don't want to say I cannot be hurt. I know my weakness, so I know how to guard myself. What I am saying is that, when it come to a situation where I am facing threat, danger of any kind, I always have a way of detecting it before it reach me.

Talking of the rubberband and cottonwool theory, it is an attempt at warding off human predator, conflicts, and crisis. My way of spoting potential crisis while relating to other people.

As we match forth in an ethernal decades of time to an unknown tomorrow, we are going to meet people, men and women. Some of them would agree with us, while others would not. To go through life expecting acceptance of your every ideas, words, suggestions, etc is to expect conflict with other people. If your goal is to live in harmony with them, then you must equip yourself with conflict identification skills. That is what I was refering to as shield.

Yes, I have a weak point. Hmmmm I am not revealing on this forum. Who knows, tomorrow?

The overall objective is to either neutralize opponents, won them over, or let them have their way without any friction in the relationship. We can disagree without having to cut off tie. We can hit one another and still have a drink together. Such an attitute would never fail you.

After a war many heroes present themselves.

I will just advise you to beg her and set a time table for formal wedding. At 26, a lot would be going on in my mind. I think my earlier rebuke is 'too' harsh for your case. I still have my reservation though. I still believe you should have considered every options before going to abortion table. You have to convince her that you deserve her love. It is obvious you are sorry. Try and build faith and not succumb to problem again. You had been tested by God with that pregnancy. You failed the test of faith by allowing your work problems becloud your reason. Please return to her and try win back her confidence. If you can do that, you may discover a new meaning of love. She still love you, else she would have parted from you since. You have your second chance. Court her and make her feel special. You can win again.

@poster

you aborted your gf pregnancy even though she asked you to leave it? Did you deceived her or persuaded her?

Regardless of whether she consented to it or not, I think you are wicked, irresponsible. What if she had lost her life in the process? What if she had had a permanent damage to her womb? What if there is an error that is not revealed now, but prove fatal later? Would you still love her if she were certified as infertile as a result of the abortion? You talk about a little problem at your job, would the baby complicate your problem or ruin your career? Do you know that what you did would a lasting psychological impact on the lady? And you claimed to love her! Love that seek anhilation and technical destruction of another partner? Love that could not make a simple sacrifice for the beloved. That is no love. Unless you are suspecting her fidelity. Or she is trying to tie you down with the pregnancy. If that is not the case, then I am justified to be hard on you.

I have heard of people having children in poverty and still live to make money afterward to take care of the kids. Most of the rich men we see don't marry when they are millionaire. So what is wrong with our youths? Have they no more faith in the creator anymore? Why did you have unprotected sex in the first place when you are not ready to bear the responsibility?

What you have done is not only against God, bv against humanity. If the lady would not forgive you, she is justified. If she were my sister I would tell her to kiss you bye bye unless I have any reason to think otherwise.

What then are you people trying to say? That engineering is unworthy profession? That the graduates are idiots? Or that the country is having problem with her engineering graduates? Or simply put, engineering has no place in Naija?

Ariblaze,

I know about the shortcoming of rubberbands. Like I said it is meant to be a shield. Tearing it or even burning it would never have any effect on me.

The good thing about it is that it hurt who ever pull it. I am not the one holding it so I fear no backlash.

Talking of the cottonwool. Here we go. That not just my shield. Honestly, it is an integral part of my creed. I have lean to understand human beings and relate cordially with them through COOTONWOOL PHILOSOPHY. It had never fail me. I hope you know a bit about it?

Ariblaze,

I know about the shortcoming of rubberbands. Like I said it is meant to be a shield. Tearing it or even burning it would never have any effect on me.

The good thing about it is that it hurt who ever pull it. I am not the one holding it so I fear no backlash.

Talking of the cottonwool. Here we go. That not just my shield. Honestly, it is an integral part of my creed. I have lean to understand human beings and relate cordially with them through COOTONWOOL PHILOSOPHY. It had never fail me. I hope you know a bit about it?

Millow,

I gotcha! Just keep cool. I feel you.

This is goodnews! May the lord bless the union. I wish I could attend, but my prayer and that of everyone would be enough.

iice,

you have never been a threat to anybody, including yours truly. I was only letting mishoo know that should it ever happen, which I doubt, I have a solution.

Mishoo,

why not go up and see if you have a question regarding your creed? We are also discursing something on destiny, life purpose before that chap interupted by poking his nose into my personality. He had probably been checking my profile. I wish him goodluck. I just hope he isn't trying to break my mirror.

Kam

No one could argue that God doctrine is positive. We know that men have a way of turning good thing/intention into nightmare. Ever had a quiet time to meditate of miracles we see from men of God? We all know that many of them bow for the devil in the nights. So don't tell me God doctrine is not prone to abuse by the ignorants. Ever given a thought at what drives suicide bombers?

As for your babe, I used the case as example. Not that I wish it would ever happen. You are for joy, not grief!

iice,

you have never been a threat to anybody, including yours truly. I was only letting mishoo know that should it ever happen, which I doubt, I have a solution.

Mishoo,

why not go up and see if you have a question regarding your creed? We are also discursing something on destiny, life purpose before that chap interupted by poking his nose into my personality. He had probably been checking my profile. I wish him goodluck. I just hope he isn't trying to break my mirror.

Kam

No one could argue that God doctrine is positive. We know that men have a way of turning good thing/intention into nightmare. Ever had a quiet time to meditate of miracles we see from men of God? We all know that many of them bow for the devil in the nights. So don't tell me God doctrine is not prone to abuse by the ignorants. Ever given a thought at what drives suicide bombers?

As for your babe, I used the case as example. Not that I wish it would ever happen. You are for joy, not grief!

Mishoo,

I have already won them over! Acid drop had transformed into a great pal now. I guess, she gave up after stretching so hard. As for iice, I have gone to an extent and I don't think she could pose any threat. Sure, I used my mirror on them. I think they are wonderful creatures. What you see outside is just their way of protecting themselves from unforeseen attackers.

And if any get lose again? I am here!

Mishoo,

I have already won them over! Acid drop had transformed into a great pal now. I guess, she gave up after stretching so hard. As for iice, I have gone to an extent and I don't think she could pose any threat. Sure, I used my mirror on them. I think they are wonderful creatures. What you see outside is just their way of protecting themselves from unforeseen attackers.

And if any get lose again? I am here!

Cautious insticnt!

Mishoo,

I Know that. In fact my choice of rubberband is strategic:

1, you would know when a wicked soul is pulling you to hurt you. When he get up to elastic limit, you would be wise to put a stop to his act.

2, at elastic limit, a wise man would know that he is wasting his time on rubberband by seeking to damage it that way.

3, talking of extreme weather, I have a solution to that too!

It is instructive to know all the aforementioned are meant to be a shield. Meaning that by the time they are struggling with that, I would have plotted an escape or prepare my assernals to attack them once they get to my fragile heart.

It is a good insurance for me. I developed it over time through experience.