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crackkhaus:
Lol, anyone deleting chats so their spouse doesn't read it, definitely has a lot to hide.

There's no other explanation for that kinda behaviour.

Maybe such spouse is an agent and was discussing highly classified government business.

I'm just saying tho

Magnoliaa:
bring it

Quite unfortunate you can't see it.

Magnoliaa:
LOL... that's me just playing with the word and idea of ''owning'' a woman, hooking her, etc. I've seen you guys talk about being this alpha thing and how a woman will always stay no matter what. But y'all also talk about how to have a woman, keep them, deal with them, what to do and not do, the kind of a man to be to attract, how to minimize rejections, how to get more sex, etc. Everything revolves the decision a woman make. You have to bring her down/shame her and do all sorts, see her in a particular way to win and stay at the top.

This is all in your head.

Magnoliaa:
If I ask you to bring a data backing this claim up now. . .

I'd bring all the failed relationships in the world.

Dangrace01:
Approximately 3 days. The guy Good

DE guy work na Kai! Him try well with pen oh! As in pen weh no get kworection

Dangrace01:
Ah baba 3 days work. Mad oh!!

E remain two hours to kwomplit 3days ni

wrose:
Heyyy Romancelanders. I know this isn't the appropriate section to post this but I had to because of the activeness of this section.

So due to the whole lockdown and the ample time it brought, here is a piece that took about 70hrs to complete.

A ballpoint pendrawing of Albert Einstein on paper
Size : 25×30cm.

Your constructive criticism is welcome

Lalasticlala, mynd44

I don't like how you gave him wrinkles.

Jk. Beautiful. Splendid.

Rawhumper:
Hi Omar howdy? I have missed ur candid advise.To be honest i have real feelings for her.
Well i intend engaging her in serious discussion when she comes if am not satisfied i will bleep her all night and The dump her.
I havent slept with her cos i wanted to Take it easy with her even she has requested to spend weekends with me to go to Work from my Place i declined,i know d Moment she is on d bed i be into her thats why am taking it slowly.

I met a Lady in my sis Shop she bought little brides gown there,after our Meeting she started Coming to out Shop after her Bank Work to spend time with me.
That was last yr sept,dis year i called her she told me she got married dis jan but promised to Visit my House after lockdown.
She is golden in complexion with hips ans ass together...has small hairs on her skin.Trust bankers na so i cant hold myself honestly i knw its wrong but deep in me i wish to be with her cos we had that attraction The First day she entered her Shop.
She told me not to Text her but can call her not often,she even called me 2days....she is a perfect Lady physically any man would love to be with....i even think of her been with me agaun

Hit me up o my email so I give you my WhatsApp number.

Modified

Here's my candid advice to you, you wanna bleep your old girlfriend, by all means. But that banker of a lady who is married, respect the fact she's married. She's throwing her body to you, don't be stůpid to fall for it, let her go, you missed her the first time in September last year, forget about her now and go for single ladies. For your own peace of mind and safety. You wouldn't want your wife to sleep with other me whilst married to you so don't do that in case she sleeps with other men, you'd know what to do without guilty conscience.

uwuana:
Please naira landers, I seriously need advice from you guys. There's this girl I have been trying to date for the past one month,she keeps giving me a No for an answer, though we live in the same compound and she shared so much secret about herself to me,even if other guys asked her out she turned them down, she seems not to hide anything from me and became so close. But I let her know that the feelings am having for her is beyond been just a mere friend. I told her I love her and I can't just pretend to be playing this game of just a friend when others are already seeing it that am the one banging her, I persuaded her so much to me where I stand with her and she promised to give me an answer yesterday been Saturday. So yesterday came and I called her for the answer and she told me her words are final and is a big No. [/b]Though I got angry and upset inside me but I didn't let it out, I just told her to go that I won't be getting any closer to her anymore so that I can get her out of my head, she took some time to ask me to explain to her what did I mean by those comments I made, I told her that with or without her I can still live my life and nothing change so I don't need her close to me again and she walked out of my house silently[b]. Three hours later she came knocking on my door when I opened the door it was her with tears on her eyes and she was sweating heavily and she asked me why am I doing that to her and I asked her what? At this point I was confused I don't know what to say again, I just ask her to go that I will get back to her, please that's why I write this article, please I need you guys advice.

This is not the best answer to her. You made it seem like she pointed a gun to your head and forced you to live your life revolving around hers and so you got fed up and was ready to take bullet .

The best thing would have been to just quietly walk out or gently ask her to leave your house and then you start bringing girls home or do whatever the fück you was doing before her.

Relationship and marriages today fail not because there's no love (in true fact love is just an illusion) or there's no compatibility (tho compatibility has its role tho), it fails because both parties are switching roles. No one wants to play there role because one thinks one's role is less deserving than the other's role.

Magnoliaa:
LMFAOO. No lie here... be preaching faux truths that breeds men with low self-esteem.

1.And what happens to the man? Should he remain stagnant or below her? Why not be to her those kind of men you think will 'snatch' her? Why don't you elevate yourself to that level too and be the only for her? Going by your logic then, you're telling men to intentionally pick a woman who is every way below them - just to avoid attention, etc.

2. Complacency and Inferiority complex rolled in one.

3. If she's yours, how can she be others'? Why are you "threatened" by a woman's choice to leave you and do as she pleases if you're alpha?? How is supposed to be?

I will take each paragraph whilst ignoring the first one.

1. The man is not supposed to elevate his girl whilst remaining in the same level as he met her. Both are supposed to compliment each other i.e elevate each other in the ramifications they best fit. And since this is far fetched in most ladies (notice I used "most" because few ladies know what is to elevate one and will do anything to elevate their man instead of bringing them down) since all the want is to take and take without bothering if the source is being replenished, well this is for men who gives such women attention and they deserve what's getting to them. As a man you should evaluate yourself before going into a relationship with anyone and also evaluate yourself in that relationship then compare the two evaluation, if there's no significant positive change in the latter, then there's a problem and you should not be with such women.

2. I like the names you gave it.

3. If she's "yours" how then can she be "other's"? By making herself available to others, it's simple. And there's no "yours" or "mine" in this game, it's all about "principles" and "principals".
For starters, I'm not threatened by a woman's choice to leave me, that's stupid and insecurity. If a woman wants and has to leave, she can. Whatever is her choice, she just has to bear the consequences.

Dasol!

yinkaOdutuyo:
This is not a joking matter at all, I'm in love with my babe and she love me too.

But early this week, we had a misunderstanding of which I said if she cant agree to what I want we should quit the relationship, but instead she started crying alone in the room and did a WhatsApp video call showing me a bottle of snipper, she bought in the morning, which she was threatening to drink it and poison herself because I told her am quitting the relationship.

This is the issue that do happen


Bro, the issue that happened between us doesn't worth quitting a relationship, but I just decided..

What is happened is she like making Male friends of which am not comfortable with, of which I use to tell her but she wont listen, she just see it as normal stuff but I dont like it..

And I told her, if she cant do away with those male friend or making male friends, she should go and date them, I can date or keep a girl with many male friends.


I love her too, but she is doing what I hate most in relationship. She is keeping too much of male friends, which I warned her, but she refuse to change.


[/b]But after much begging and assurance she didn't drink the snipper, but she said she will keep it till the day I might say am not interested in the relationship anymore and she will kill herself and leave a note.[b]

But she swear her life that any day I call off the relationship she will poisoned herself with the snipper she want to keep for other time.

She is a C&S girl she said, she love me and ready to marry me and she can do or undo to marry me, if truly I would marry her and she will stop making male friends or close male friends.

Pls what can I do about this?

At the Bolded, if she keeps it, it may expire before she uses it and it may not kill her. My opinion tho.

hazard7:
Long time brother.
No see bro. How have you been faring in our covid 19 era

Barely hanging. But not gonna fall off.

hazard7:

Long time brother.

SweetCunt97:
You just had to twist it huh?

I didn't have to. You let her stay in her current level, or even lower she will still make herself available for guys in that level. So what's the need elevating her?

Martinez39s:
Do you know your dp is a lie from the pit of hell?

You elevate your girl higher than she's supposed to be, she makes herself available for those guys in that level.

OrestesDante:


∆

Yes now, there is nothing bad at all. Infact, it is the best thing that can happen to anyone.
Because she clearly loves me for sending me her nude video. I will sleep her without thinking twice, she's going to make a good woman I may even wife her. Someone I met on Facebook that wants to sleep with me while she's still with her husband is the best woman on the planet, she will always love me and never leave me.

She is a virtuous woman. Guy you count yourself as the luckiest dude!!! Gosh!!

∆

You forgot to add, he won't go through the troubles of having kids. I mean the new kids must have grown a little past the breast suckling age yes! And not competition on who gets to suck mummies boobs!

galadima77:
Omo, see baggage! Told you guys will never learn..

This one is giving away everything for sex with a mother of 3.

Unbelievable!!

What did you expect when as boys growing up, you are not worthy to be called a "man" if you have not had sex or have a girlfriend. You will be greatly ostracized if you don't have any of those twos and that push us into doing anything possible just to have either of the two, and in fact just have the latter could cover up for the first. And this my friend is the second stage of simping. The first being what our mothers taught us.

All that is in the head of every young guy both developed and underdeveloped, both self aware and nonchalant, is just sex, few are not willing to lose their principles, peace and respect for it.

AbelAbdul:
Hello friends. Good evening. Please I'll be very brief.
I met a lady in 2014. After few months of knowing each other I made my intention known. She told me she can't date me that we should just be friends. I tried my best in convincing her to no avail. She told me we'd be better off friends than lovers.
I moved on and stop pressing on her and we became friends that even her family knows me. We talk and chat almost everytime. She introduced me to her boyfriend.
The girl is very good that I do wish I could marry her. Since she didn't not agree I moved on then fell in love with another girl.
Just last two weeks I was chatting with her on whatsapp. I told her am getting married soon. I sent her photos of my fiancée and engagement ring. She did not reply my chats. After a while she sent me t3xt never to call or chat with her again. I should focused on my fianáée.
I have been calling her, sending text but she refused to answer. I don't know if to call her mom. I hate when people keep malice with me.

You are really bad at adhering to instructions. How did you pass your exams?

No offense tho.

Martinez39s:
Too bad. Like a scam pua tutor, I would blame the adherents of these principles for not following them rightly.

Martinez39s:
Why are no testimonies forthcoming?

Those who tried it, didn't make it. It's sad, but they were overwhelmed by their girls. A minute of silence.

Ariza:
That doesn't sound like a complement, more like an insult to women. Are you saying we no get brain?

Now to your submission, please you need to know the difference between a 'grown girl' and a 'lady.' A lady knows what she wants, who she is and what interest her.These things are not so difficult to know, guys are not just patient enough.While some do not understand for example you. Wearing wigs and make up isn't an hobby That's part of dressing.
Lol the lady you describe might just be interested in fashion.If you watch fashion shows together she may love it and have lovely memories that would make it difficult to break up or want to lose you.

BTW I can say the same for guys too. Most guys do not know what they want. They want independent ladies but aren't ready to share chores. They want dependent women who will worship them but want them to bring something to the table. Give them sex without asking for anything, you are cheap or desperate, give them sex for something in return you become olosho. The list goes on and on. Some men too don't know what they want.

Yes sme men if not most don't know what they want and that's why end up in worse relationship

Ariza:
First, Do you take time to know what interest your partners?

Ariza, you seem intelligent for a woman, few of your post that are none biased here have proven it.

Now point is, these ladies are not even sure what interests them. They haven't had time to understand themselves as to say, I've got interest in poetry, writing, just to name a few. They don't. It's either putting on Mary Kay and human hair, not that I'm against it, I'm fact I love those on my woman, but these things they put on that could hardly be passed off as a hobby, they don't even know how to put it on. Well most of our Nigerian women haven't even discovered themselves yet as to what interests them and very few know.

Undissputed:
I've heard of guys here trying to shame women by asking what women offer in relationships. But the truth is, same questions should be asked of we male folks.

In the midst of the growing moral decadence, we are as guilty as every other gender, and that leads me to my hypothesis:

Most Nigerian guys have nothing to offer in a relationship.

Now, apart from money and sexx, what do most Nigerian guys bring to relationships? Most of the time, nothing else.

We are guilty of constantly sitting on our high pedestal, expecting the women we meet in our everyday life to come in a box with all the qualities we desire, yet we have done next to nothing to improve our own self.

So, again, apart from money and sexx, what do guys bring in a relationship?

A relationship cannot be built on just money and sex. We have set the standard so low that a man with money and a working dickk feels he is a god and can do and undo in any relationship he finds himself.

Because of this lackadaisical attitude, we see these men laying up women like eggs in a crate and paying their way through their many immoral fantasies. These are the men intentionally fuelling the current moral decadence and indignity among women, yet they are the first to shamelessly come out with their big mouth asking questions of the women whose decay they've been fundng all the while.

Today, try to have meaningful conversations with guys and you'll be surprised at the emptiness oozing out of their skull. Apart from boozing, smoking weed, and womanizing, what else do we offer?

[/b]God gave man a woman to nurture her, to teach her, to build her, to protect her, to encourage her in all things. But before a man can do such, he must first develop himself.[b]

How many guys today invest in self-development? Very few.

Yet they want women to come to the table flawless, in their best attitude, and having developed into the woman of their dreams.

Men, keep dreaming.

The truth is, a woman is work. The woman was made for the man, and not the other way around.

That woman you are currently dating, God gave her to you. She is your responsibility. You must work to fulfill your responsibility to her and to God. Her only assignment is just to help and comfort you.

The bulk of the work is on we the male folks. So, if you cannot handle a woman in a relationship, please stay away instead of asking stupid questions and trying to ridicule the responsibilities (women) you are making a mess of.




PS: I am a man and this hypothesis applies to me as well.

@ bolded, I'm yet to see where it was written in the Bible and I will like you to point me to that part in the Bible that said such. Cause as far as I know, Eve was given to Adam as a companion and helpmate.

Now to your keyword “what do men bring to the table if not money and sex”. What else do you want a man to bring to the table if not money. Do you want him to bring emotions to the table? So as a man, after bringing money he is expected to bring something else, is it love cause every man at some point brought love to the table and very few was rewarded, the rest was taken for granted. Does it pain you that other men who has the money to have all the girls they want in world? I mean if not envy I don't know what is. Or haven't you heard that you can't dictate to a man how he spends his money?

Men bring money to the table, very few ladies brings something worth it like money and their virgin body to the table. I think you should focus more on developing our women, teach them trade than coming here to display how stůpid you can be.

You don't dictate to a man how he spends his money. Make yours and develop your woman you big fóol!

fairfora:
Thrash! If not for the moral decadence which is now a commonplace in our society with all sorts of vices, nobody would come here and be writing such a long story as this, bereft of valid points. That we live in a society where fathers sleep with their daughters doesn't mean a girl child is useless.

I married my wife in her early 30s as a virgin. Not because she's ugly, neither was it because she didn't have a job. My wife is very pretty and godfearing. She had encountered series of rape attempts, as an undergraduate and while serving during her nysc days. She was an active member and and exco of the NCCF back then. In spite of her alluring beauty,she stayed with me in our single room rented in those days. I met her where we both worked in an FMCG firm.

I hope you watched madam okonjo-iweala speak on channels tv tonight leading the AU to seek debt relief for Africa. Women have occupied (and still occupying) positions where men were saying "YES MA". It all depends on the way you raise your children that would determine what she would become in future, raise your child(ren) in the way of the lord... I read on NL a few hours ago where a lady was so impudent to post her video on YouTube, telling the whole world how starved she was sexually. We have millions of ladies out there who prefer slaying to using their brains to invent and be independent.

It's unfortunate many homes chase money nowadays at the expense of their children. Couples work Mondays to Fridays, leaving home as early as 5am, only to return 10pm. The lives of their kids are in the hands of their maids. My mum never had a maid. We never had one too. I'm not having a maid is bad but we live in a fragile world. I never allowed it rather, I pleaded with my wife to quit her job and shared my salary into 2, giving her half for accepting to stay home and taking care of our kids. Now, we can only say we thank God. They're all grown now in boarding school and my wife is also free now because she also has her own business in which shes doing very well. I'm also self-employed and before I quit my well-paying job to set up my company, I consulted her and she agreed I quit. I'm happy we both took that decision at the nick of time because kids were adding up but still very young then. I have a pretty girl among my children and by God's grace, she'd walk tall among her peers globally.

I wanted to say you are lucky to have ended up with such woman but then I realized, it's not luck, but rather knowing what one wants and going for and not settling for less. You should teach younger ones on the selection of wives to marry cause the first step in getting it wrong in training one's children is marrying the wrong woman.

Harjibode:
I don't want to have a girl child", someone said, and, when I got the knack of his excuses, I couldn't but think twice over my dream of having, at least, a beautiful female child. I used to picture her pretty, slim, intelligent, natural and innocent. I used to visualize a girl child, who would perch on my shoulder while I tell her stories of the tortoise and the hen. I used to see a future daughter, who would be fond of me and shout Dad! Dad!! in the house.

I had desired a daughter, with whom I'll play football in the compound. I used to want a girl, whom I would adorn with expensive clothes and jewelries. A daughter I would treat like a princess and worship. I wanted to name her Ewatomi, But, now, I'm afraid!

Did the girl child, all at once, realise she's without value? Does she now see herself as made for men's buzz, and that alone? Does she think she's made to make boys feel good? Was she designed, just for boys' amusement and turn-on? In the strippers' club, you would see without-clothes girls, gallivanting and selling it cheap.

They would allow you handle their boobs, if you can pay. They would allow you do most nutty and slaphappy things with their bodies for a valueless naira note. The other day, A girl wrote this on specialspesh(Davido's friend)' s wall on instagram, " D Bleep way you Bleep me for free way you promised me toyota Corolla car way u never still fulfill nah thurnder go strike u one day."

What has come over the latest girl child? In the University, almost every girl is a hoe! Some are in the sex business, while some lay around just for the fun of it. Seeing a young boy take tramadol, cialis, levitra, viagra codeine etc, one would wonder who the victim of such make her cry anal rampage would be. She's the innocent-looking 17yrs old daddy's girl.

Isn't It demeaning, that 10 unclad, grown up ladies would twist and bunny hop around a fully clothed boy, all in the name of shooting a musical video? Isn't it worth crying for, that some 5 ladies would pride and joy in being baby Mamas for a small fry celebrity? Isn't it sorry and touching, that a girl would, with zeal, pose Unclad and 24 carat original for a shot? Haven't you seen a pretty young girl, expose her almost-bare vulva to the coldness of camera flashes? Isn't it pesky, that ladies now delight more pleasure in twerking than contributing anything intelligible to the society? Isn't it ugly? If a guy would boast, he would, of the number of girls he's had free sex with! He would boast of how recklessly, he bleeped that hijab-wearing girl.

He would boast of how he, without mercy, ravished that lady, who doesn't wear hear rings. He would, of how a Pastor's daughter came begging for more, after a war-like bed session. Ask some guy out there, He's got more than fifteen girls shouting for help.
Someone seems to have untied the girl child into nothingness. Someone seems to have primed her on being a low-grade mortal. She seems to have endorsed and taken stock in being made for men's pick-me-up alone. She seems aware of herself being only an easy mark for sexual pleasure. She now understands how the best she can offer is her curves and boobs.

She's like too afraid of being irrelevant, that she wants to lay bare, what's under her pant, if that would bring about attention. Let those punching out for gender equality stop wasting time, the girl child has accepted defeat! The ministry of women affairs should change name, ladies seem more comfortable as mere blow jobbers.

I would have said, that I would
instill in my own daughter ethics and ideals, but, will it make a difference? I would have sworn to bring her up very religiously, but Pastors' daughters seem not too good. I would have planned to give her a sky-scraping education, but, those ladies who went to Cambridge, don't they end up in the street nude? I would have decided to make life so comfortable for and give her every little thing she needs, but, daughters of rich parents are not different. I would have promised to shower attention on her, but, those of caring and tender parents also end up giving free sex.

I would, then, have promised to be tough on my own girl and always flog brain into her, but, daughters of such parents end up living couples' lives in school, cooking and receiving Bob doles on a daily basis. Nothing seem enough to stop a girl from going wild. Nothing seem enough to make her see herself as special and the best thing that has happened to the world. If you chastise her, it's trouble. If you don't at all, it is problem. So, Isn't it better not to give birth to a girl at all?

Ayeni Faith Damilola is a writer, public speaker and eulogist.
faithdamilolaayeni@yahoo.com

I too I'm scared of my girl child. Tho I don't have one. And I'm not sure I want one.

domDva:
Spotted ....one of those caged by the corn artists and manipulate pastorprepreneurs.



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And what are you? Fůck off asshole!

domDva:
This is the difference between knowledge based economy run in the West and Religion based economy run in Africa.

The funny thing is that even the miracle working pastors are also isolating and hoping for vaccine to be discovered by prayerless Westerners.

Wake up Africa wake up.

Fōol, it is one thing to be prayerless and another to have a working economy, then funding the science and technology eg hospitals and lab in the country. Don't be a fōol. Yes Africa has a religion issue, but most African countries' economy are flourishing eh Ghana, South Africa. What you should point out is bad government. That you are being ruled by a corrupt government and there's no chance of ever getting it to have a government that will deliver Nigeria does not mean it's religion that kept you where you are. You are the biggest føol ever to think its religion that's holding. Animal!

CAPSLOCKED:
INTRODUCE IT TO YOUR FAMILY AND RELATIVES. OR ARE THEY HAPPY TO BE POOR?

Have a positive spirit at least and ask him for his payment proof.

Chimeluv:
drop your email..

Cosibekelly@gmail.com