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ubunja:
she's a pickmeisha. Broke Guys eat girls like her for breakfast lmfao. Independent women are the biggest losers.

Wanted to point that out but decided to answer the questions instead.

Tbh I didn't know how to put it across to her to be a gold digger. They always end up with good men and they handle those good men well that they(good men) don't wanna leave them(gold digger)

ubunja:
was talking to Michellekabod2 on WhatsApp. She says Hie.

Damn! Tell her to come back, I'm going insane!

Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.

None taken... Your post ain't long.

1. Yes it is very bad to show a man how much you love him because he will take you for granted. It is very few guys that you will show and they will value it and those guys have either read ubunja work here or have seen it from CRP on YouTube or are wired that way. Same goes for men too.

2. To be involved in one's life, some guys don't like it. Me I don't like it. We date, we date. I won't ask you shit about your workplace, don't ask me mine. You just gotta understand the guy are going to be with and know if he is the type that likes his partner "being involved in his life".

3. Asking for transparency is not a sin. And tbh with you, women don't like transparency. They know when men are lying, but cause of their emotions, they choose to believe otherwise. And 90% have learned this, in fact they are taught to lie to women right from infant. So you are never gonna get any transparency from any man. You just have to learn how to believe it.

4. Inexperience that's why.

divaluvmiz:
I can't believe I've spent 10 good years of my life without achieving any meaningful thing.
I was young, with great potentials and vision. I graduated early. Everybody wants me, but I don't know how it turn out like this.
I'm 32 already.
I graduated 10 years ago yet, I don't have a good job, I don't have a good marriage.
I felt this is not my life. Is like there's a switch somewhere.
Years ago, my late dad told me to send him my personal earned money so he can use it to buy goat and make some sacrifice to nulify some things on my behalf, otherwise, I would not be able to get a job with my certificate and I can't get married. then I was pregnant and wanted to get married to my child's father who was my friend. but I told my father that i can not do that. Because I'm a child of God and i don't believe in all that. (My dad was not a Christian. He was diabolic) Shortly, he died.

To my greatest surprised, my friend whom we were so much in love, who begged me with everything to keep our first child and not to have an abortion, the same guy who took me to his family and decleared we're having a baby and we wants to get married, left after 7 months into my pregnancy without any reason.

This is 7years already and nothing exciting has happened to me.
The only thing I heard from him, is messages of appology, no fianancia support. Nothing.
Till date, I don't have a meaningful job, I've watched good friends who loved me still walk away to marry some other people.
The last was my best friend who just got married. He told me few days to his wedding how much he loved me.
(What surprised me was: why didn't he tell me all along?) He's been so good to me. Every member of my family know him and they loved him. Nothing he can't do for me.
I had to block him on my phone so he can concentrate on his new life Instead calling me always.
He's not the first person who truly loved me, but can't marry me. I'm always meeting good people, who can walk a mile for me, but they can't marry me for no reason and they can't let me go.
The one I love to be with, always walk away. The one I have no connection, no interest in, are the one around me.

I just woke up and realized that I've really wasted time without achieving anything.

Could it be there are powers beyond God?

Are they prayers God don't answer until we appeal traditional gods?
Are they sin beyound God's forgiveness?
I was innocent and in love, had pre-marital sex and had a baby outside weddlock. Is this beyond God's forgiveness no matter how I tried?
I have been praying and asking God to fix my life even if there's a family course that I knew nothing about. Yet, nothing positive have changed. is there something I'm not doing well?




I feel depressed.
I don't even know how to help myself

Well good day ma'am. Wanted to let you know that there's nothing too big for God. And now we have seen the reason God abolished pre-marital sex... It leads to so many things of which being a single mom is one.

While you are still waiting for that man, I'd like you to pick yourself up from the dirt and dust yourself up and train that child. Because the whole issue is now complicated with the child and your age. Your child is your home and abroad.... Keep him. Let him be your joy. I can not advise any man to be with a single mom cause they come with a lot of baggage of which the child and it's father is one. But I'm not here to bash you.

For the part of job, people over qualified have not gotten any. All you have to do is be self employed. Look for something doing no matter how small. You can have a shop where you will sell soup condiments and rice.... You know.

Acidosis:
Who's your science teacher? Olamide or Naira Marley?

Mine is Zlatan Ibiliemovic

emmaodet:
We shouldn't yab the guy much, i was like him in my secondary and early uni days.
I think he needs someone like a big bros to guide him and give him moral.

With time, he will grow bolder and increase in experience but i think he will lose the lady sha.
It's well with him.

Lol if we no yab, na women go yab am. With time and with the right big bros, he will grow bolder.

He has already lost the lady.

Saneesk:
I forgot to shout out omar09 and also thanks guys nairaland is the only place you'll get real anda honest advices on relationships but also don't 4get my superiors 4gettn a gyl ain't easy....


And how cN up my dating game 2 d next level help me with threads that i can read so as 2 learn more but seriously you guys have tried fir me and I'm blocking her ass right away I'm done with her
And please advice me more I'm working on another lady who normally asks me questions which i definitely know she already has the answers........

Thanks nairaland superiors

Search HARDDON and read all his post, or you could send me a pm introducing yourself with your moniker and your f. Up I've got a free book for you.

Saneesk:
1.There's this girl from my department she usually stares at me during and after lectures in as long as we're at the same place,but she never talks to me she can come and greet my friends where we're but she'll never talk to me so i decided to start talkn to her thinking maybe she's just forming hard to get and she's really into me.


2. So i chatted her up via WhatsApp and we had a smooth conversation then i i to her if she could find time for us to talk 2mrw at school if she's not busy and she said she's going to the school clinic we can jam there i said okay after then i didn't show d next day till the third day.

3. When i saw her i i couldn't even say her cox i i was the kind of fearful guy in school though she showed signs of hey won't you come and talk to me but i resisted cox of fear............

4. After that i asked her once again to find a place for us to meet and talk then she gave me a venue and still i couldn't talk later on dat day we met online and she asked me to tell her wat i was gonna tell her or she'll block me.................

5. So i spat out the words saying i love her and since after den she lost interest in me she no longer replies my chat n she openly rejected me,i i asked for anoda chance to prove to her that I'm worthy of her love and she said okay prove it but after i saw the message and said thanks 4 d 2nd chance she said the message wasn't meant 4 me but rather 4 anoda guy,she short lived my joy...



6. Since the commencement of dis strike we haven't met and she has been 4ming hard 2 get 4 me thru chat what do you suggest i do as soon as we return from strike..............

7. Note that we haven't had a conversation for like 5 minutes face 2 face with her.maybe she thinks I'm a coward but guys i really need your help and also I'm hausa by tribe n u know dem with shyness nairalander brodas help me i really luv her ...........
Insults are welcome if they'll add more meaning to my situation

Terrible! How you couldn't mention me. Haven't you seen my works here?
(I'm gonna go ahead and number each paragraph)

1. Now women do crush on men a lot! Yeah... She likes you and she was giving you green lights. Good thing you communicated with her. Bad thing is you couldn't convey your feelings properly and what you wanted from her to avoid being put in the friendzone of which you are already in their!

2. You are very st.upid to fix a date with a girl and not show up. It shows how much of a chicken you are. Imagine you fix a date with a girl and she doesn't show up, what will be your reaction? I know! You wouldn't react much cause you are weak and don't know what to do in such situations.

3. You gotta realize every girl looks very awful when popping. That face you see and tremble, you do not want to see when it's orgasming or pooping. It looks awful believe me. Well since you've got fear of looking at bitches, try to picture any girl naked in the toilet pooping. It will help!

4.You have to say what is on your mind. Whether or not you gonna loose her. She's not the best to happen to you and hell will never be. Always voice out what you feel. Be it anger, pain, love... Anything.

5. Well, you now told her the long awaited words... “you love her”. I will tell you why she rejected you. It's cause it took you almost a week to tell her how you felt about her. This is something you could have told her the first day you met her or at least the second time you were supposed to meet her and bailed on her. She rejected you cause you were not man enough to tell her your feelings. And then she rejected you and started begging? Why? Do you think love is begged? Do you think love is like salary you work for or earn? You should have ended it with OK glad you were honest. And please don't you tell a girl you love her on the first day... Or second or third or without building the relationship... It's a big turn off for them even I as a guy I will be turned off if a pretty lady tells me that on the first day... I'd be like you insane baby?

6. I suggest you move on and let her be. You bleeped up big time.

7. Hey look on the bright side, she doesn't think you are a coward. She knows for a fact YOU ARE A COWARD

When you see girl you like, before you approach her and start spitting shit, ask yourself what you want from her (note friendship is not part of it. Don't be friends with women, they will use you on that platform and you can't do anything about it.) when you done asking yourself what you want from her, communicate it as blunt as it comes to your head don't mix it up with words. Be straightforward and unapologetic.

Ciao

Martinez39s
Mart.inez39
Ubunja
Arthur21
Arthur21s
MissGhosted (my dorlin)
Pansophist
NwaAmaikpe nwanne
Emmaodet

hazard7:
Am surprised that guys like you still exist in this 21st century. You made a mistake that's all,just don't try to force the issue. You can still get your girl back by:
1)DHV (demonstrating high value)
2)Reading Ubunja's miseducation and apply it.
3)Go and make money as some SIMPS will tell you.
Whatever choice you choose may the force be with you.

The forces are with him....

skywalker240:
honestly bro, am not twisting it. I dont know how to explain it better to make you guys understand my point. And yes the bible didnt said a man should provide for a woman.

and you're right, the man is also part of the household, but the bible you said am twisting also said that he has been put incharge of the household, he is responsible for the houshold. The others (mother, wife, son, daughter, etc) look up to him.

no matter what, all women even feminist and lesbians (to some extent )definetly look up to Men in the system of life.

thats why you see feminist twist alot of things to favour them, but would still chicken out when it comes to responsibilities, spending, etc.

i hope you see what am trying to say bro.

one love.

its imbibed in their blood.

Seen.

Mynd44:
You live, eat, walk and love on earth and you want to allow your life to be directed by things that are light years away? I make my own things happen so I will say Hell No

Why the hell do you mods like to appear like once in a blue moon in comment section?

skywalker240:
There is bound to be a Mother or a Wife in almost every household.

if he is providing for his household, then that means he is providing for each and every individual of that house. If a woman (say Mother or Wife or maybe even Sister) is among the individuals benefiting from his providance in that household, then what do we call that?

Bro why are you twisting the Bible? It stated something clear and you are twisting it?

Let's go by your analogy, isn't a man part of a household? The boy child (brother, son husband and father)?

AnalQueenluci:
u are a man!

Oh my! WASITTOYA
So much for looking for scissors.

husbandsnatcha:
...be on top of me while tribbing or wat lesbian
?

Tribbing... We could take turns too... You know..

husbandsnatcha:
...I thought u are in league with michellekabod and co ,

...besides u are a female ,in my life now no more lesbianism , it kills

Not in the league of Michellekabod... But I like some scissors in action?

husbandsnatcha:
...I will be at d top

Term agreed or not?

I like to be the top.

husbandsnatcha:
...stop greeting me ok ...no more greetings

Oh c'mon! I'm trying to start a convo here.

Usorohtheman:
do you know that ubunja's points can be applied in office situations and it will work?

Nope they don't know.

Arthur21s:
WTF! You have not seen funmi troll and abuse ubunja? Seriously? She doesnt mention him randomly?
Except you chose to be dishonest,she trolls and insults some males. While it seems that it is the males that incept it is that they dont retailate immediately but troll her back when she has forgotten. Funmi gave me hard times with my first moniker.All those i insult are those who have offended and bullied me with my first moniker, u cant insult someone randomly
I dragged the guy in because he endorsed her acts and said only broke men and simps will have an issue with her broke shaming.

At least i dont sham girls or tag females so no one will use anything against me even if they realise i am engaged to a househelp..

PS: the lady in question is one who you have stood up to defend twice,she has being your buddy on this forum and she earns the respect of males and females on this forum

You are never gonna go anywhere trying to prove a point to her... You will keep moving in circles!

husbandsnatcha:
...how many centimetres do u have down there cos I don't want kingsteve "britboy" Uche's scenario of 2mm dic.k , damnassboy embarrassed me so bad that nite in pH city

Casalinda can bear witness , cos I screenshoted our regret message

I base in ahoada 4 now

Cc omar09 tweiker deepfeel liposure

Snatchy love... Hope you good?

sexylassie2:
What is disturbing me is that

[/b]I hate Broke men especially those ones that still want to bring a child to these world to suffer[b]

#redpill
#saynotobrokemen

Talk about having something in common. Me too! Me too.....!

Arthur21s:
feud? You both quarelled?

Yeah we had one of those couples fight. Where she decided not to talk to me.

ubunja:
damn.
It is what it is.

I'll talk to her on WhatsApp.

OK. Tell her I said hi.

Arthur21s:
everyone has a past. At least she isnt so vulgar,what will you say of funmi who can never change? You think in a decade from now when her NL beau has dumped her she will not pour the frustration on you by trolling you?
At least the a.riza girl has changed for good,her change is permanent.

I really did like that Michellekabod2 girl. Till she started joining the herd. Tho I was ready to look past that as a woman she is.... I was really liking her despite our little feud.

Damn!i said no one will miss her or even notice... And look at me reminiscing... Lol

ubunja:
what?? Michellekabod2 deactivated?

Well Ariza also has a long history of deactivating and coming back. Here is her list of monikers which I'm personally aware of, because we used to clash with all of them:
RuthDainels, MariaLavina , Ariza.

MariaLavina moniker was annihilated as a direct result of her fighting the Miseducation threads and trying to get them banned on NL. Instead SHE was banned and she deactivated. Copy paste this phrase [ marialavina dear Seun ] on the search bar on top to see the deleted threads she created against the Miseducations

Michellekabod2 said she was tired of NL shit n all and I came out and called her out on her bull.shit and asked her to deactivate already. I hate people feeling funky when they've got no effect whatsoever to a big platform like this. I knew my words hit her hard as much as she will be in denial. Silly girl she is.

Ariza:
Buda to be honest Red pill ideology isn't that bad. It is to liberate men from the claws of society, Women and Men themselves (Most times a Man's ego is his downfall) . I have come to realize after thorough research and Mental evaluation that Man is decietfully made a Slave for whom he thinks he Lords.In Men's societal duties and roles, they sacrifice more only to get little. Sometimes I wonder what Men get in return for all their efforts.. Sex? Well I may never be able to answer that because I am not a male.

Just last week, I had to help two male friends out of their emotional captivity they call relationships and believe me if their problems persist, I will introduce them to Ubun.ja' Redpills. They really need it ! One of them, I met through a cousin last year at my sister's wedding. This guy has been in a relationship with a lady for 9 years but lady changed after getting admission into Uni. She didn't break up with him but threated him badly and made lots of demands.Even after he was advised to back out, dude continued secretly until few days ago when he decided to let go.Lol after being cheated on severally.When I asked why he didn't heed to our advise then, he said it wasn't easy, that he had sacrificed so much in the relationship. This is a Guy struggling for himself with no parental support right from a very tender age.

The second is a guy I've known here for over 3 years now, from our conversations, I realized the babe started showing her real self when she got a job in another town. She acts indifferent, boss him around and complains a lot. I had to start lecturing the guy on how to be in control of his relationship and so on. Lol So tasking!
And I remember, early last year a friend of mine almost commited suicide because his girlfriend left him for another guy. Ladies aren't really nice to guys out there! They take advantage of the love Men offer. If Men decide to liberate themselves, I see no issue in that.


Like you typed earlier, things have changed. No more farms and wars.... Yes ! Things have changed! Men no longer have the submission, respect, care, support, freedom,sex, one sided love and dependency they enjoyed back then. Butdo you expect them to still give their all like they did back then? In all fairness, I believe Men are very much entitled to whatever ideologies they develop to balance up with the evolution as long as it isn't a threat to Humanity.

To be honest I don't think I read this right. But in all cases, thanks for understanding us.

D

ubunja:
I agree. I've always believed that once a guy becomes RedPill he has to dump his GF and find a new girl to start with in Alpha mode. I have not voiced this before because I'm aware how controversial it will be. So many of guys' headaches will evaporate if they just nuke the current relationship and start over this time employing all the wisdom of Game they have accumulated. From letting the woman choose them to being aware of a woman's sexual imprint (by checking what her Exes look like. Including info on the girl's first guy to sleep with her)

That way it will be a way smoother sailing.

Honestly after reading the miseducation the first time, I used to have a girl whom I knew for sure would have worked out between us, I had to let her go because we've gone too deep and she's very young, by the time she wises up I would have been done for. So I dumped her first. She was a million step ahead of me even now I'm red pilled. Didn't want to try anything silly.

ubunja:
never waste time on a troll. You are not having the effect you think you're having. Ignore a troll.

Oh... Sensei..

HeadNigga:
Now this is for d likes...

U call Ned Ancestor but low key wishing it was your younger sister he married. Old money is sweeter coz its way longer...e go reach everybody including in-laws

I deh tell you!

Skepticus:
I've constantly said this but some fellas would refuse to listen.

Ignore trolls. Ignore the one on this thread like the others before her and watch her disappear like it happened to the others.

I came here to read the posts and comments of wise red pillers like me but it's painful to be constantly interrupted by nonsensical posts of these trolls and the attention, guys give them.

Sometimes you troll the troll. But be careful na express you deh go!

Egungun don wise laidis. Lol

BULLIONVAN4:
Your moniker sounds familiar!

are you, or do you know anyone by the name, CHIOMA?? from orlu/njaba?

Nope. Came up with the moniker cause I liked the villain in Ride along 1.