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Richnerd69:
She's had forceful sex experience in the past, hence her reason for snapping out every time.

Then it's not fair she ties you down for her phobia of sex. Still dump her and move on.

Too damaged man. But I have got some mad love for her. She's had other forms of consensual sex other than vaginal...

Bro the bolded will ruin you. Pro tip, don't go for a girl you love, rather go for one who loves you. E get why.

When is this competition ever gonna end?

I sell cheap data. All networks.

snipesdam:
Top tips for conceiving a boy; Remember there are no guarantees

Time sex to coincide with the day of ovulation (no earlier than 24 hours before you are about to ovulate).

Deep penetrative sex is preferable.

It helps if the woman reaches orgasm.
Have an energy drink, a cup of coffee or some chocolate before having sex it helps propel the Y sperm.

If you want a boy then avoid having sex:

Earlier than 24 hours before you are about to ovulate.

After 12 hours since you ovulated
To increase a father’s sperm count, he should not ejaculate for 4-5 days before ovulation, which according to Shettles will increase the chances of having a boy.

@Psalme91 read this.

Psalme91:
It is almost 4AM my husband hasn’t come home yet , just because we found out that I am carrying another baby girl. I’m in pained , I don’t know what I have done to deserve all this . Please help me beg God if I offended him unknowingly to please forgive me and blessed me with baby boys ( triplets). Please

This is one hell of stupi.dity in men which I hate. They seem to leave what they can control and worry themselves with what they can't control. Tell me is having a baby boy in man's control? Too bad he is killing himself for nothing.

ubunja:
I'm not comfortable having any part of my identity out there bro concerning the Red Pill stuff. Thats why I don't take calls in the first place.

Aight. No worries. I'd have to read it all again till it sinks.

Never accept a cheat back.
If I was in your shoes, I'd let her down gently. But thing is, we will never be like we used to.
Once a cheat (no matter the reason) always a cheat.

And as usual one female came here to just troll and not give a viable reason. Lol

ubunja:
some of the explanation is in the miseducation "Game of Emotions". But that's a dense document and an explanation of it point by point will make a very long writeup.

You could audio it to me. Anytime you are free. Tho I'd read that game of emotion again.

CAPSLOCKED:
CHILDREN WON'T EAT CONDOMS.

The presence of one eliminates the other.

crackkhaus:
If your goal was to bridge the divide, you ended up being a perfect example of the problem you are preaching against.

You started well by making your argument neutral in dealing with both genders and the faults on both sides.
However, by your second paragraph and up until the end, all you did was speak against men ONLY.

Anyone who hails your write-up is also part of the problem.. you people should not kid yourselves.
There's no victim as far as NL gender wars are concerned, the insults and demeaning tones go both ways in equal measure.

My only consolation is that it hurts you females more cos I don't see any males complaining about being called degrading/insulting names...yet, threads by females complaining about how the males here treat them are becoming a dime a dozen.

The thing is no one is your boyfriend or husband here, so a lot of you really need to learn how not to be so invested in the comments of guys who just don't care about your feelings. It's pathetic and quite comical.

This thread, is another whine and complain thread.

**Lights out

Richnerd69:
I have a good friend I've been seeing and dating for a while with no intimacy involved. 80% of our meetings is usually in my crib, and some other days I take her out.


Days ago, after we both closed from work, I invited her over in the cool of the evening and I decided to make a move by initiating romance , she never resisted . I necked her , and I noticed she gets really ticklish anytime I slightly bite or lick her ear. I fondled and played with her bosom , whilst caressing her thighs and hands in slow motion. I was about getting down there when she stopped my hand . I tried and tried , but she was persistently saying "no" in a low tone. I knew if I had pressed, I would have had my way.

She told me she didn't want vaginal sex but she could please me in any way I want, inclusive of BJ . I obliged to non but insisted on the sex , until I later gave up. She is the first to ever resist my advances .

So I asked her today, minutes ago, on why she snapped, she said to me, she would hate me if she had sex with me and I would be the one falling and our friendship will become an avenue for just sex only . **She's never had a consensual sex** and she snaps out of the mood easily...
She never said why she would hate me , but asks me of my opinion if it's weird?

Ladies, is it normal to hate a guy after sex, or she doesn't find me sexually attractive?

At first I thought I was reading an erotic novel. Bro you went too deep with the details. It wasn't necessary.

That is some manipulation playing itself right there. She doesn't want to have sex, but she does everything that will lead to sex, c'mon. Who keeps a goat and a tuber of yam together? She romances you, can give you a nice head, and all sort yet no sex. BTW what do you think is sex? Is it when there's penetration that it's called sex?
Have you asked yourself how she agreed quickly to give you head, if she didn't know how to do it, she wouldn't have suggested it. .. Bro that girl is not up sex and shouldn't be in a relationship. Ditch her, there are a million girls out there ready to Bleep you without giving a hoot about knowing you.

She's a damaged girl, don't put up with her.

Mariangeles:
Most times, when issues regarding people and relationships are discussed on this forum, the first thing that comes to the mind of most people here is to look at things from a gender point of view, rather than looking at it objectively.
It has gotten to a sad point to be about gender wars: males versus females, who wins and who loses.

There are some comments that'll have you thinking "does this person not have a father or a brother?" Or "where did this one come from if not through a woman?" "Does he even know the meaning of sister(s), aside having them?"

Men using demeaning words to refer to women has become the order of the day here.
Before I got to know about nairaland, a hoe was just a farm tool, now we all know it means something different on this forum.
Even the word "farm tool" is not left out.


We should be careful not to allow our minds be clouded or our sense of judgement be blinded by the difference in gender.
We should endeavour to always look at issues objectively.

Before you type that comment, think of your fathers or mothers or brothers or sisters...imagine them in the situation.
No lady in her right mind would ever want her own brother to be mistreated by another lady (Lord knows I'll never sit back and allow any female mistreat or disrespect any of my brothers) , same as no guy would want another guy to mess with their sister.

Let us learn to see beyond ourselves, beyond our gender.
Let us learn to be more compassionate to humanity at large

Regardless of our gender, let us not lose our sense of humanity, because at the end of the day, we're humans first before gender.


Please pardon any mistakes.
I am not a professional writer.

Never far from the truth. Emotions at work.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

I don't know if I read right. I mean am I supposed to see "wife" and I am seeing "girlfriend"? Even wives that are this crude and stupid are not hard to get rid off.

ubunja:
I generally don't take live calls. That document is one of the most important documents on the net in terms of game. Too bad many folks worked hard to debunk it and claim its satire or a joke and nothing more.

That's too bad. Can I send you hi and then record it over voice note on WhatsApp? I really need the explanation. Please!

ubunja:
here's the text of it: it's by Tyler Durden. I found a copy on Reddit. This is the document that set me on the Red Pill road online. I opened it thinking it was an Illuminati secret sex society being discussed:

I will need your help to break this down for me. When do I reach you, if your number is going through?

Michellekabod2:
all is fair in love and in war.

Some foolish guys make mistakes and come out to blame women

Very much it is.

Fiyinfoluwa20:
Yes bro, it’s a thing of fear to be a man these days , a Lady can decimate your person by laying false allegations online and boom ! Nobody wants to hear your own part of the story.

I used to be a male feminists until my ex showed me, almost slipped into depression bro, I am no longer a frea*king feminists whilst noting that I strongly support equality - I am just against the black women’s version of feminism targeted at destroying men!!!

Guys fear girls, always keep receipts and evidence of whatever happen between you both.

Pls share your story so that we can learn.

For her kinda face, her baby is a 4. Not a 10.

Happy birthday Lalasticlala.... More snakes

This girl again... (sighs)...

ubunja:
there are different levels and flavours to the Red Pill. We are not going to agree down to the minutest details. And it's OK.. At the end of the day each red piller must incorporate as much of the concepts as he's prepared to accommodate. No crime there.

As for marrying for money, I'll even take it a step further and say be a male prostitute even. And this is the second time I'm mentioning this on this thread.

My heart is not for sale if you can't afford it. And that means you ain't having it either. Lol

Martinez39s:
Women are who they are. Things won't change until boys start getting smart and start taking the red pill. Women don't struggle and build with you instead they wait at the finish line and date/marry the winners.

I always remind myself of the story of the lion kingdom. When lion king is dethroned, the females don't leave with ex king instead they give themselves to the new king. It's nature.

Michellekabod2:
Men aren't energized by talking,but women are. Rather their best element is challenges. Talking rarely impacts on a man as it does to a woman. Women are energized by talking but it drains men. If a lady has a bad day,after talking she feels better. The opposite is for a man.

So talking him into commitment will yield no result.
Only when you show up as a high value woman he commits.

Also another striking point in the post is that men see commitment differently from women. Men are by default commitment-phobic while ladies love and expect commitment.



PS: all these applies to a typical masculine man(not effeminate or wimps) and feminine women

Oh, OK. Now that explains why I'm not in any relationship. Weird.

Martinez39s:
Did I say I want a woman to spend on me?

Wow, thanks very much for helping spit out the redpill I have been preaching. I hope the beta men on nairaland can read and digest from the horse's mouth. Thank you.

Ubunja, Omar09, emmaodet, CAPSLOCKED, JONNYSPUTE, healthserve, HARDDON, iLegendd, and the rest, come see this.

Took the words right out of your mouth I must say. Literally tho.

abercrombie:
Replying back is just a waste of time....go get some life

Now that's a lot of seconds lost on your life.

abercrombie:
So what's the essence you have Google on your phone

Most people have a lot and don't know how to use it. Example is you. You have a life and yet you seem to lack the ability to use it. I'm just saying.

Michellekabod2:

I didn't really get your point here. I mean there were few pointers like "talk about it" and "talking stuff". But I never got the point you were trying to make. I'm not hating or attacking, far from that, and I'm way past that. It's just I never seem to get your point, you might wanna simmer your point down a little.

What is an “Alpha Male”?
An alpha male is a man who takes charge, one who imposes his will on others, not the other way round. Other men want to be him, women want to be with him. An alpha male intimidates, he's unquestionably in charge, no matter what the situation. But it doesn't necessarily mean that an Alpha male has money or he is a billionaire. He is just confident in what he has and own them with pride (this is for those who always compare Alpha Male to those rich billionaire). The essence of an Alpha Male or his predominantly goal is to have as many women as possible and yet not be under control of any of them. An Alpha male is one who doesn't stick to one woman. Yes you heard right. Now let's take a look at how nature defined Alpha Male. In the lion kingdom, lions are divided into tribes. There are different tribes in different territories. With their territories marked and defended heavily. A young male lion once wined off its mother will leave his own Tribe he once lived and loved and was loved to another territory to displace the already Alpha male. Once the the Alpha male is displaced, the new one will take over. Now what is the Alpha male measured in the animal is strength and number of female lions. Look at the walrus, the strongest gets to mate with as much females as it wants. Even in the days of our forefathers, it was strength and women. The number of women you are married to determines your managerial skill, determines your reputation in the society. It was never amount of money.

To those who think Alpha male are those making that cash, it's never about the amount of money. It's about the number of women you have which you are not loyal to.

And to those who say NL Alphas are always about women. It's the number of women we can have and not loyal to determines our Alphaness.
Alpha is always related with sexual dominance and not necessarily finance or otherwise.

Cc ubunja Martinez39s Michellekabod2 AstroG1

Michellekabod2:
I am not meant to please you. I say things as they are(not caring how males or females would receive it).
In my entire life,only on nairaland I have seen alpha being reduced to a what is it you define as alpha. Kindly do much research,spread your tentacles,don't limit your knowledge to only nairaland.

My greatest wish has always being to see everyone have a fulfilled love life

If wishes were horses.

ebby9z:
Yes, the understanding is that most girls would appear "shocked and outraged" that you are talking sexual with them on first meeting. However, they will respect you immensely. The example I gave is not the only one, I have tons. What being straightforward does is that it eliminates pretenders and time wasters. You would eliminate girls who would take your time and money and still would say "no sex." You would avoid unnecessary movie dates and Chicken Republic hangout just for to stop chatting with you.
What a woman expects to hear is lies and attempts to convince her that you really like her and not for sex.

But do you know what she WANTS to hear? Your true intentions. She sees you as a very confident male. She wonders why you are so bold as to tell her you want to have sex with her straight up.

Girls are tired of guys lying to them that they want a relationship when all they want is sex. Even my current girlfriend, our first chat on Twitter was sexual. She is a "good Christian girl" yet she kept chatting with me. She was amused, she was enjoying me sexualising her. It was later that I discovered her other characteristics that I really liked.

To be honest, try it and let me know the results. And please get the book I mentioned. I can share it with you on WhatsApp as well.

I'd like to read that book.

I will create a topic on ALPHA and BETA.

Michellekabod2:
please allow all tom dick and harry to be called alphas. Some egos need to be massaged.

Also let's change the meaning of alpha from the well known and real meaning to just a low life with only expertise in fu¢king so that many will have a good self image of themselves

Hey, I do remember when you didn't have 'F' to your moniker. It was somewhat sweet and I thought I've finally seen someone who could stand by herself. But it just took funmisticqueen2 few words for you to add one to it just to belong. Even on a faceless forum. idk between us and you who is not actually living to what they believe. Think about it.

yeyeosoronga:
There is not a single benefit.
What is however surprising is a true alpha male claiming to be who he is not. Some have even added female gender on their monikers, when we all know they are male.
A true alpha will not do that.
I will keep reiterating it, many do not know the meaning of an alpha personality.
Those on here shouting alfafa have been seriously hurt by a woman in the past, possibly due to their financial status and they are just lashing out and having grandiose ideas on NL. It's allowed to live your fantasy sha.
A trained psychologist will see through the bulls#it of what has been said, and most importantly what has been left unsaid.

Tell me which one is pissing you off more, the female gender on my moniker or messages being passed on here?

@bolded I mean if it's there, why not use it.
@italics, a true alpha does things cause he wants to do it not because he was cajoled into doing it especially with the italics.