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Jceeee:
Hello

Michellekabod2, you still think DNA check is not important? Cause obviously it's the man's fault for not being there for the woman sexually that made her become promiscuous.

philip0906:
Senseless talk from her fellow witches!!!

Until you understand “Attraction” of men and women, you will still find what you bolded at my comment strange. If you checked very well, you will see I blamed her very well for her part in ruining the young man's life “.... You will be labeled a bad person cause you deserve it”.

Most marriages today is by force. Either the man is forcing himself on her or the woman is forcing herself to love him.

CaveAdullam:
<sup>After exhausting your time, space and energy in a business deal expecting a return share of 50% with your business partner, but only to get disappointed at the end receiving a share of 30% at a sudden appearance of another partner who has been hiding behind the business struggles. This is the pain of a woman who got served a bitter dish during the funeral of her husband, when it was announced that her first son is not really the first after all empirical evidences. Her late husband hid his original firstborn from his legal family.

It is even worst for a husband when he discovered that his first son is not his biological child after many investments, hoping to see him carry on with the family name and legacy. What a pity!

Thank God for latest development in all sectors, the eyes of men are receiving more light. Before you leap, at least make little steps, because everyone will be responsible for his or her action(s) whether done consciously or ignorantly. We are in the 21st century; an age of science, wisdom, knowledge and enlightenment.

Paternity test should be appreciated by women so that they won't cater for a child who is not theirs in the case of birth switching. Paternity test should also be accepted by men to save them the stress of investing in an already failed business(catering for a non biological child as
result of a game of deceit played especially by his wife) even as at from the beginning.
Lets beware of promiscuity because at the end it leads to various forms of chaos. Men of old were polygamous, have many children and live their lives in way that best suits them. But the question today is how many of their children were they able to cater for or give maximum fatherly love or care?
Hey don't get it twisted. Man is "authority and superiority". All subordinates(wife/wives and children) must dance to his tune. However, the sound must be one that won't cause chaos and rebellion in his family.
Me too, I hate manipulators/manipulations be it from a man or woman. I just damn hate it! It disgusts me!
Let us stride with care. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.
Thanks.
God bless.
Cc. Martin.ez39s Omar09, LilMiss.favvy, JONNYS.PUTE, Michelle.abod2, lefule.fu, muttle.ylaff, budat.uum.</sup>

Aptly written.

SoftChordz:
We've been dating for some months now and its all lovey dovey so something came up, there's a contract that she has a link to. she has been throwing and flinging the marriage package a round, anytime she sees married couples or newly weds she must show and ask me questions about them, if anyone I know gets or about to get married then my case is reopened. I love her but marriage is a very important decision in anyone's life because a lot will be determined by the person the marry. So she came up to me about the contract but told me that the "person" said that he wants to know how serious I am with her, if I'm going to marry her then I can get the contract but if I'm not then I should let her know.

Tell her let's see how things goes. Dasol

Michellekabod2:
Exactly the picture I was painting in thread,without understanding they have being mentioning me and calling me names.

Goan hire an artist to paint for you. You don't know how to paint.... Yen yen yen. Artist ko pant ni

emmaodet:
Yes sir, bought it at ilesa this January.
I bought 5
I bought Gazey - the local cows with hirn.
Agric specie is Bokolo without horn but always fatter, more rapid growth but less roughed like the native local gazey

I sent you a pm.

emmaodet:
Yes sir, bought it at ilesa this January.
I bought 5
I bought Gazey - the local cows with hirn.
Agric specie is Bokolo without horn but always fatter, more rapid growth but less roughed like the native local gazey

I sent you a pm.

ubunja:
yes sir. Women invented Game because Game is about manipulation and women have always been manipulators because they have always been the weaker sex who couldn't challenge men directly and win.and so they perfected Game over millennia. And pass it on from grandmother to mother to daughter to granddaughter. Generation to generation. We all learn from women.

And that's the other truth you just mentioned. All of our headaches are because we try to control the world from hurting us. Instead of learning to control ourselves so that the world can't hurt us. Like someone once said "The problem is not the problem. Your reaction to the problem is the problem".

For an example, You can't tell women how to dress just because miniskirts make you feel uncomfortable. Learn not to feel uncomfortable around miniskirtS instead. Control what you can control. And that's YOU. When you master that then you take it a step further and learn to control those who can't control themselves.and you've become a true Michaevallian.

Here is another miseducation guys! The type he can't create a thread for. And those are the best.

Yusluv13:
meaning that we should change the proverb to "Smart work pay".

Perfect!

OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my own part I can take care of her finances. Anyway, We have been together for more than 2 years and also we are planning to get engaged traditional soon.

The unthinkable happened during one of my inquisitive quest of checking her WhatsApp messages when I saw her telling her closest buddy that she was chatting with her ex the other time and that they were talking about how many times they had sex and also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him.

Well, as it is I am feeling been cheated on and secondly, i can't imagine that she will still have this feeling for the ex so much that she could say that she can still sleep with the ex again.

The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

I have my own problems too. I can't decide if liked purple more than violet. I mean they're both blue and I think I will pick blue over them. But I love purple and want to stay with violet.

That's how you sound when you can't make a decision. Quit that girl bro.

ubunja:
it takes a strong mind to be able to read the miseducations backwards and benefit from them as a woman. Many guys failed that test when I wrote the miseducation for women. Instead of reading it backwards their minds were overwhelmed and a very great writeup with very great truths was dissed. Which is making me think of writing more of those types of Miseducations for women until men learn the art of taking truth without being emotional.

Nice one. You're one of the few vocal ladies who are for my writeups.

Bro I'm behind you on this.

@bolded, the reason behind this is because, as usual men tend to control other people's behavior. You revealed a secret, and they saw it as a flaw in women (mostly because, many women they've come in contact exhibited such behavior) rather than seeing it as a flaw in themselves. “A bad boy” (as you would put it, but I object to it and will rather use an “Alpha Male”) knows that he can not control the flaws of others but can control his behavior to others and how others behave towards him. This too can be related to women. In fact women are the real Alpha male, we should study and learn from.

falcon01:
between brick layer and a senator who works harder?

You'd be surprised to hear this. But it's the brick layer. He works harder... But the senator worked smarter.

namiji2598:
madam I am not married yet, but I have enough experience in marriage cos I have stayed with so many married couples in my life and am assuring you that marriage is very hard to be perfect, in as much as u can't force love in to ur heart, u can only allow it grow. Ur husband should try winning your heart, he should read you very well and know ur heart desires, he should know the kind of man you need and he should try being that type, sometimes is not by jus being a good man sometimes is by being the right man, if you ar the type that desires clubs and party, no matter how he tries he can never win you unless he is also that type, of you ar the type that needs flowers but your husband only gives you money, he can never win your heart, if you ar the type that needs vacations and great sex but your husband never took u for vacation, he will never win your heart,he have to know ur heart and try feeding it
And how did you guys cope with sexual urge? Do u guys cheat?

I disagree with the bolded. Why will he change himself to suit his wife? Or is "accept me the way I am" patterns to only women?

There's no way he can change and win the heart of the OP.. Best thing is, they should divorce and find better happiness separately.

Girlwhocares:
Yes,he forced himself on me,I wouldnt agrue less maybe becsuse of my background I wouldnt know but i remembered during the wedding preparation i wasn't excited of getting married,my family was fully responsible for all the expenses and it was an elaborated one.
One thing i remembered 1month to our weddin,i was always crying without no one to speak to but 2weeks to the day,i was courageous to open up to a close aunt that i wanted the wedding cut off but she gave me the shock of my life by saying and i quote " my dear,you want to put the family to shame,what will people think and say?how will you face the society that your wedding was cut off 2weeks to the said date and to crown it all, she said people don't marry for love,the feelings will grow as you grow and live together" but deep down i just needed someone to understand my feelings and not being sentimental.

Right from the day one i knew i was going to put all effort to make this work,but i didnt expect this resilence will linger this long, i have tried all my best,its just not yielding result.


All I wanted was just being friends with him and nothing more.

But you could have said no when he proposed. You should have rejected his proposal. You shouldn't have gone far when you knew your heart isn't with him.

Still talk to him and tell him you want a divorce. State the reason you want the divorce and make it very subtle with him, then divorce him. Don't go on to inflict more wounds on him....

emmaodet:
Because of your time limit and stress free business idea, i will share mine with you.
Look for fulanis rearing cows in abuja, meet their leader to recommend a good herdsman to you and then invest in the cow business.
Very quiet, highly profitable and No stress Passive Income.
Break down -
I bought 1 cow for 50k as seen in the picture.
Grazing for a year and you sell for 150k minimum. That is 200% ROI in a year. Cool cash and you can keep your job.
If you want to invest in the males alone, then you will need to pay them #500 per week for each cow for grazing them.
If with females, you can make a deal not to pay them but you get the first baby the first year while they take the second baby the following year.
Advantages - highly profitable, no stress
Disadvantage - mortality or death of cow can cause loss but not common.
Theft.
Human factor like disappearing with your cows.
If cows too many in one person's hand, like most humans may plan to kill you and take over.
That is why you need to meet their seriki to recommend good guys to you and also be their shorty.
Shalom

Bro I I will like to send you a pm via this business. Your email?

LilMissFavvy:
I do not expect you to see the first mention he sent to me, where he insulted me, how can a partially blind red pill like you see clearly or be impartial to a female?

So calling all red pills gay is cool cause you are in a hot argument with all of us at the same time. Have sense sis.

Girlwhocares:
Please help me,I'm loosing my sanity everyday!
I'm scared to open up to friends and families because of what they will think or how disappointed or bad i will make them feel,also I'm afraid people will be judgemental about my actions.

I'm not physically and emotional connected with my husband which is affecting our marriage and my well-being, we live as co-tenant,we hardly have any conversation,we do things differently,we share different rooms,no sex for the past 3years!even during courtship and the fist two years of marriage i can account for days we were intimate.

Things are fallen out of place everyday,we have a child together who will be 4yrs and the thought of having another child has not crossed my mind.

I get irritated at everything, i hardly show appreciation towards him even if it means he has done his best,which later i will find myself guilty and try to make up but the spark and connection isn't just there.

Most times,I have a non-challant attitude towards him and everything he does to make me happy.

I feel lonely,bored and incomplete even when I'm 90% sure my husband loves me and always ready to make me happy.

I feel awkward communicating my feelings and thoughts to him because i know i might flare up with anger even when he hasn't done or said anything to warrant it.


Please I have come to this faceless forum to pour out my mind,my heart is heavy,I need someone to talk to,I'm afraid my personal intention of walking out this marriage even when my husband hasn't done anything to deserve this might backfire and has its negative effect on our child.

I honestly dont need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through alots all i need is mature married wo(men) opinions

Thank you for your time.

I'm gonna go out of the way and do what others have failed to do here. And I wish your husband will see this comment of mine.


I blame your husband! Why do I blame him?
He forced himself on you. Because he forced himself on you, he couldn't see that you both should have remained at being just friends. He was hellbent on dating you and getting married to you. Which is bad. And you might have hidden your true self from him consciously or subconsciously and because he was blinded by his infatuation and lust couldn't see it coming.

To op, you just have to divorce him on the terms that you both are not compatible. He will see you as the bad person, but that's for you not showing him your true self and getting in on the bandwagon of marriage. And he will be heartbroken because he deserves it. He shouldn't have forced himself on you.

If you divorce him, you will do him a great favor so that he can find happiness. But make sure it comes to him as subtle as possible.

LilMissFavvy:
That's your current mental state, isn't it? You are sicckkk that's why you view phillandering by men in marriage as a norm, your morals are dead, most red pills are gays, so why are you on a thread that concerns paternity test/marriage. Continue to troll, stupiddd buffon.

Wow. This is very low of you. You get short of words to defend what you think is right and you result to calling names? Does that show your level of intelligence?

Michellekabod2:
you reason right? How does this relate to the topic at hand?
Do married men cheat and have kids outside? Yes or No?

Some do, but do they bring the child home and try to convince their wives that it's their child?

Michellekabod2:
More reasons why DNA tests should be done to tackle cases like baby switching. Imagine the agony a woman will go through if she is given a dead kid instead of hers.

DNA tests should be carried out on both man and wife to rule out case of birth switching.

I'm not sure you are aware of what you wrote. But I do agree with it.

Rodeoz:
A lot of wisdom.
Beautifully written. Thank you so much.
I take kindly to your concerns. It even means more coming from a lady.
But I have a question, what if she comes back the same way she left?
I mean if she comes and back and she’s still not deflowered.
What would you say to that?

Whether or not she comes back the same way hymen intact or not, you don't accept her back for the simple reason of upholding your standard. If her hymen is intact, and you accept her, she will still leave. And still come back and you will accept her back again with another reason. And your heart will be broken again. And you will repeat that same circle again. And again. Eventually you will be bored and worse suicidal.

You don't want that, right?

CAPSLOCKED:
I'VE BEEN FORTUNATE TO ENTERTAIN MYSELF TO THE WAILINGS OF MARRIED MEN, WHO AFTER A FEW BOTTLES AT THE BAR THEY FORGET WHERE THEY ARE AND JUST... LET'S IT ALL OUT.

bloody hell! My rib cage! Ooin

CAPSLOCKED:
I'VE BEEN FORTUNATE TO ENTERTAIN MYSELF TO THE WAILINGS OF MARRIED MEN, WHO AFTER A FEW BOTTLES AT THE BAR THEY FORGET WHERE THEY ARE AND JUST... LET'S IT ALL OUT.

bloody hell! My rib cage!

I think @op is a confused fella

CAPSLOCKED:
THESE DAYS THE WAILING IS SOMETHING ELSE. I'M GLAD THEY RESERVE ALL WAILINGS ONLINE MATE IMAGINE IF WE HAD THESE WAILING MEN OFFLINE IN OUR STREETS.

I laugh in upper case. Bro, they wail on the street. And you the fun part about it all, they seek help from their fellow wailers and when things goes south, they still wail. But it's just that street wailing is very subtle. You wouldn't hear it unless your are close enough.

Rodeoz:
The quoted part is so true.
I started dating a girl few days to her 20th birthday(2018). She was so sweet and we’ve been on a jolly ride. She left for service last year and we continued talking and chatting, things were still going smoothly. She came home last December and we were together for the weekend and I even took her out on her 21st birthday. We had awesome time.
She returned to her Ppa around January and since then, there’s been a slight shift in her attitude. She doesn’t reply my chats as often and she seems backsliding. I noticed she now has couple of male friends they hang out together.
I was so worried cause I loved her so much and she’s technically my first love, I’m hers too. She knows how loyal and devoted I am to her and I can pretty much say the same about her.
Fast forward to this month, things became so bad that she doesn’t even reply my chat with enthusiasm again. So, I decided to reduce the way I engage myself too for like 3/4 days. She later asked after the 5th day why I was being cold. I told her why has she changed and things ain’t as smooth as they used to be.
She said maybe the stress of charging her phone etc... coz there’s no light there but that hasn’t been a problem for over 6 months she’s been there why now? Then she said maybe she’s falling out of love. Wow, like really? Just like that?
I told her, she ought to have told me this instead of all the signs. I told her she should have her time and thank you for all the memories. It was good while it lasted. Thank you.
I was even expecting her to say something like, she doesn’t mean we should break up and the likes. She said nothing. This is a girl I’ve contributed a lot into her life. I can’t even begin to mention and I’m 5 years older than her.
I just left her and it’s been 2weeks now since we broke up. I’m hurt like hell but I will never allow my love for her drag me to the mud of asking why she fell out of love or begging her to be loved.
I’ll just allow her be and see whether she will one day realized I’m more than worthy of her and come back.
Truly, you need to allow them get burnt and learn and maybe by then they will come to their senses.

She definitely will come back to her senses. She will be back. But the best present you will give yourself for that day she tries coming back into your life is to reject her there and then and move on from today. Don't ever accept a cheat or anyone who didn't think you worthy of her companion. Don't do that. You accept her back then you become one of those dogs women call men.

Martinez39s:
I will do that but it won't be today. I am usually slow to open threads but I will create that thread on single mothers. I have planned the contents in my head. I will tag you and CAPSLOCKED when I create the thread.

Aight.

franchasng:
We are now in a recycled world; the same we us will marrying thems so better is you joining is in the burnting thems too, so when is you get are burnted one, you are not is complains

Sir, I'm gonna have to call security on you. Are you OK?

Blu03:


don't give up now...
She'll soon yield...

She must oh!

Martinez39s:
Which thread? The one I told you about on WhatsApp or the single mother thread?

SM thread.

franchasng:
See the paedophiles hahahahahahahaha, I have the full video

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franchasng:
Abeg told them letting them heard it well well

Trying to comprehend this your write up can cure Coro...