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Learn this trick of being the woman that keeps the man she wants:

When a man is at his low points, move closer to him and be there for him. Reassure him and make him feel like he is still worth something  and will come out of the phantom zone eventually.

When success hits, become elusive and make Urself the prize again. U don't want to appear too available to a man whose levels has just changed for the better. He'll want new clothes, new furniture, new cars, new everything and he just myt end up feeling like he needs a new woman too forgetting U helped him through the dung he just came out of.
U can be that new woman by making it clear without being nasty or immoral that U can actually want new things too and that myt include a new man, "or maybe not?"

Supply and demand. Know how to control those and keep the balance in your favor and U'll have better opportunities at keeping the man U want.


For the guys, U want a tip? Don't ever let Urself get caught up in a web of a woman's emotions U didnt spin. If U spun it, U'd know how to move thru it and catch your meal. If she is caught up in those she created herself, stand back at a distance and spin new webs and guide her into them. Don't follow too deep, lead and when unsure of what's happening, stand aside.

ThoniaSlim:
Never collect anything from a guy your not dating or have any intention of dating.

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If I hear say dem hear U. The picture no even fit paint for my head say girls dey way fit refuse gift. HOW For this present world? Dem no plenty. Over scarce wan kpai dat crop of babes.

blackwood:
There is always this tendency to always wanting to expose/flaunt a piercing or tatoo. If its done in very private places i fear for the decency of those people

True.

The past has come haunting, Mmmm, That's nice.

And we think things can be kept hidden for ever. Hissss,

Babe, tell Ur husband bout Ur past and tell the brother to go and stick a powered chainsaw with his evil schlong.

Wait wait wait, Tell Ur husband and make sure he knows U are sorry and are repentant for the life U lived, then tell him bout his brothers wicked advances and invite the brother over for a romp as a trap with ur husby waiting to confirm that U werent lying then make sure he gets found out in a way he can wriggle out of.

Or just call me and I'll come give the home breaker a good beating with my boys. Nonsense!

Ayt, I've read thru ur post. I'm sorry for being hard on U in my previous response. It wasn't intended to make u feel like Ur no good with me.

Anyway, I perceive U are among the girls that want to live the script someone else wrote with the hope that following it will bring them good? Sounds to me like U try to be the good girlfriend but end up setting urself up with the things U do and those u dont just so u can be that different woman to a man that would appreciate Ur efforts and reward u by being to u the best man?

I myt not understand u very well but i think for Ur post there's enough evidence that U are not just being urself and letting the girlfriend in U be herself? Forget the how to be the best gf scripts in ur head (if that's what this is) Just be U and know what U want and what U expect and demand to be respected by who U are with as a person by what u allow or don't.

U are neither good nor bad but U probably assume ur good enuf to get good and bad enuf to be revered shey?

Lemme stp analysing U. The guy that slept with ur sister has issues and this one has serious issues but U seem to have let them with those issues affect ur joys negatively. Maybe U should take a break from the dating scene too and get to know Urself a lot better so next time around u'l be ontop of things.

Caro, mabe U bring out the shyt in men? U said it Urself, they don't appear to be shyte coming from afar but they seem to end up giving off shyty qualities when they are with U?

Lemme read the rest of Ur post and know what Ur on about first before I continue.

Kinky, Not always healthy or appealing.

Anyway, another person in similar situ fit relate to the post and responses use am take do better thing with his/her own case. No be so?

^lol! Wetin wan happen suppose don happen shey?

Oh that's normal. I don't know a single guy that won't feel a pinch or a punch from the discovery that "his girl" is sleeping with some other guy(s).

U'll come around eventually, the question now is are U man enough to sail thru this to become a better person or would U let it affect the kind of lover U become negatively?

Don't force it.

Not gay, Just usually very self absorbed. It's easier to find an egocentric among the guys that keep long nails than among those that keep em short.

My observations sha, I could be wronged cos I haven't really carried out studies on the consistency of this and there are exceptions to every mortal "rule" in life

Ur not wrong, Ur just not thinking smart and maybe that's cos you are not ready for the whole marriage thing.

What kind of a relationship did/do Ur folks have? Was Ur mum more happy than the average wife in her days? Was Ur dad more of a man than the men of his time? Maybe U should run this by them if they are anything U consider as marital role models.

U want to do that 'live and work in Lagos while Ur Husband is living and working in Sokoto' thing too? In Ur own case sef Ur fiance Sokoto cross water and no be pond or stream.

How does a new couple sustain a relationship in absence of themselves? How do U bond? Even if U rich pass those Arabs U'd still need the energy to travel to and fro very regularly to make time for bonding. Wetin U wan dey bond with sef, ring and title abi person wey be the reason behind the ring and the title.

Anyway, me I don't understand the modern world as much especially when it comes to love and marriage. I'm still traditional at heart.

Anyway (Part II), how does Ur man feel about Ur disposition and preferences? U want him to move to Naija for U?

About not being in a woman's nature to cheat? FOUL!!! Lets not even start on that cos we go write book U and me, from long story.

It's in the nature of any mortal being to do what they decide to do.

^^ "Until she's certain of what she wants." That's the part of Ur post I agree with 100%. Now U know why some of us guys would rather a girl said she wants us than she loves us. Cos a want is a decided and love could be just a passing thing.

Is she Ur girl or just a girl U love?