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Hustler.

u see, that's the problem postee, U want to say no and u want to be friendly about it. That's sending two conflicting messages at the same time. He myt choose to listen to the one that encourages his cause. When say no U should only allow Urself be diplomatic about it the first time around. Any subsequent no's are permitted to be done in increasing levels of bluntness and sometimes aggression - the kind that wakes men up from fantasy land and brings them to reality. if after ur no has brought him to reality he still persists, maybe U should hear him out.

Delay is dangerous. If he didn't approach U in church U myt be handing him wedding invitation for a month away to some guy U met on Ur way out.

Nothing wrong with a guy in his twenties dating a teenager he can comfortably reason with as she can with him, as long as their relationship in no way puts either of them in harms way and if it does improve their state of well being positively.

There are are teenage girls that act and think more maturely than girls in their twenties and some in their 30's. they myt not be experienced in a lot of life's possible situations but when faced with those situations they tend to handle them better than the older women.

Funny thing is they seem to be more easy going and less terminally manipulative and more appreciative of older guys than the older girls that would more easily treat these same guys with contempt.

anyway, there is an exception to every rule. When I was younger girls my age fancied older guys; now I'm older and I'm in vogue with the younger girls U want to come and tell it's wrong? Foul!

Poster, how old are U. U don dey feel stiff competition already?

it's unfortunate but no sugestions myt find appeal with U now cos naturally Ur mind will be too puzzled trying to figure out why & Ur heart would be concentrated with hope that Ur 'defected' friend would return & see reason why the both of U are meant to be.

My counsel: let nature take its course. If U want to get over it & get ahead to a happy life badly enough, U can & U will; everyday, one step at a time,

Hmmm, This thread my just degenerate into some boys listing names of girls that have toasted them in a not so honourable manner & giving details that have not been solicited leading to lies; slander, exposure in negative light & defamation of character, which I'd like say are some reasons why most girls would rather not.

Simply put, some guys don't know how to shut up especially when indulged in an uncommon way.

Ps: those guys caling girls that don't ''old school" need to respect that some of us still prefer them that way.

Nonsense.

The hunter baits the trap and the lures in the game for the kill.

Question, who is the hunter and who is the game?

Don't get it twisted. U are the game and over half the girls U will ever get to talk to on a personal level put more effort into it that U realise to make it conducive for U to "get killed." U think they sell smiles that say "U r welcome and so myt Ur advances be" for market?

U have a problem with principled people?

Don't let her know U love her. Let her find our she loves U, Just liaise with the voices of her emotions, Call dem commot go one side make una do 1-2-1-2 then dem go relate to her on a personal person basis and she go just realise say she love U. That one no better pass?

Abi! why would I want to make my woman love smth I'm passionate about that's not her? that would just kill my passion cos more than half the time, Anyway, lemme not talk.

Just keep watching Ur soccer and try reassuring her that it doesn't make U love her any less. If e pain her to much start dey watch for outside house were there is beer and women with agendas that are in her interests and not Urs or Ur girls.

Marriage is first a self imposed call to service unto God. U meet a girl U take her to God before men and tell Him U want to love her like Christ Loves the Church. U meet a guy and U agree to follow Him to God and before men, tell Him U want to submit to him as Christ desires His Church to submit to Him.

Trust is like courage. Courage is the strength to take the bold step in the face of fear. It is not the absence of fear. Trust is the willingness to expect people to be honorable in their dealings with U, even tho they can still let u down.

Now the good part is we attract what we expect and mirror what we respect and when people see our character as compelling them to be accountable to us they either live accountable with us or avoid us consciously, subconsciously or unconsciously.

U shouldn't stereotype all girls as being unworthy of trust. Admitted the rate of wanton living among our girls that renders them untrustworthy is on the rise and they have the encouragement of many selfish boys, but then U should renew Ur mind in trust in God that u can find the exception to the order of the day and Urself be the exception to the order of the day among Ur gender.

Expectations are very powerful. Fueled with faith or fear they will bring forth what they are focused on.

U should have faith and act in faith.

Nigerians aren't rabbits U know? Even rabbits don't breed ALL the time. If U think we're that many U should try checking up China.

The wife is not expected to have as many children as possible. We use the same contraceptive measures that are used in other countries. We have I.U.D, Condoms, Femidoms, Vascetomy, Tubal Ligation, Diaphragms, Spermicides, Calendar method, Temperature method, billings method, Oral contraceptives, IM contraceptives, e.t.c
Couples are free to use which ever they are comfy with and can afford.

Babe, love Urself a little, just a little more and U won't be having this problems.

U are seeing the signs but Ur not heeding them.

Hmmm. . . Ok!

I truly love her but she's not available and won't, without my pressured influence, make herself available, I'd let her be. I don;t think I'm the kind of guy that would like to know I wooed a girl that wasn't single at the time and then feel like I can trust her not to be wooed from me. Peace of mind is a good thing and I like to have that in trust.

Been in this situation before. Could have gotten anything I wanted from her cos tho she was engaged she totally made herself available to me. I lost her; got nothing and I have no regrets. I guess I liked her that much and wouldnt have had that security in knowing she was "stealable."

Erm. . . The last line of Ur post sounds like U want other people to choose their wives for U? Dude, if U don;t know what U want in a wife U best wait till U have Ur own list otherwise U just myt "marry another man's wife" and find out later she's not the one for U.

Meanwyl, why would I pick a beautiful lady over a beautiful wife if I couldnt get the two in one?

Are u the Sarki of Kasuwan mata or what?

Anyway, I'd rather not list qualities. I'll know her when I meet her.

SA Lady:
^^^Today I learned something, thanks

U'r welcome.

ThoniaSlim:
For your info there are girls I knw who would never collect gifts from men. I am one of them.

One principle I pride myself on, I have never accepted gifts/spent any man's money I'm not dating or have an intent to date.

No doubt there are, I didnt say there weren't did I?

It's a good thing U have principles. Keep them and remain in that league of the exceptional.

A man's true character is best found in prosperity rather than it is in adversity. People of insufficient means aren't necessarily nice people. Most are just nice cos they feel by being nice good fortune will smile on them.