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Britain try, see flying glowing butterfly bicycle.

excondido: any idea the rock band playing?

Arctic Monkeys, check out their stuff on youtube if you like brit rock.

Band playing are the Arctic Monkeys, very good.

Look at my people, the USA looking guuuuddddd

Spain brought everyone, and who's that black spanish guy in a pink wig....

San Marino's flag bearer is a babe

Our outfit try

Moldova flag bearer, calllll mmmeeeeee

Lao democratic republic....are they teaching our kids all these new countries in Geography?

What country is Kiribati Where is it?

See fine flag carrier for Honduras, meeehhhnnnn

I liked the ceremony, I got all the references. Well done, Britain.

Cool, let's get some more people. I'm trying to put together an ensemble as well.

Is anyone here a good instrumentalist, classical (piano, violin, clarinet), western (electric guitar)or african (xylophone, yoruba talking drum, goge)? Would you like to get together? Please reply this thread, thanks.

My friend and her hubby are 13 years difference, and even though they have lots in common, they still have the same issue as you: she feels she has all the time in the world to build her career, he's itching to start a family. You need to figure out if you're emotionally ready.

Hmm, you guys don't like you're walking in-step with each other. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with wanting some time, yes you need money ( and not for sharing souvenirs at your wedding, how shallow are you?) but for you to know how to handle and earn a living and manage yourself. And if you really see him as a good husband and father (though he's 35 and lives in Abuja while his gf is 22 is telling me a lot about him), then make the best of the situation. What you should be looking for is emotional readiness in marriage, because cooking soup and having babies is REALLY EASY compared to supporting and loving and building up someone for the next 40 years while nurturing his kids to grow up well and providing a home free of screaming, nagging, fighting endlessly with your in-laws, and trying not to make too many big mistakes.

Do you want independence because he kind of feels like your dad, you wanna have some fun and party a little or is it because you want to at least know what it's like to have bills to pay for a year? Nothing wrong with all of those, as long as you are making a choice. Some of our parents did go from Daddy to hubby.

I really want to say "congrats, this is gonna be great" but I'm concerned. One of my brother-in-laws swears that you can tell the kind of person one is by observing the little insignificant things. Be careful and watch for the small things, because people can fake the big stuff, but they cannot hide the small things. So, shall we proceed?

You meet a girl, you tell her you like her and are serious. She smiles but doesn't trust you (normal and smart) and decides to watch and see. For a year (not a problem) until you factor in the fact that she lied to you for a full year, and the lie was a bad one (it looks small, but it wasn't). If your friend came and told you "there's this girl I like who had a bf, but she was encouraging me for a year (so I was kinda willing to cheat with her on her fake-bf and she was cool with this) and posting me and just when I vexed and had most likely subconsciously started to withdraw from her, she noticed this and Hey Presto! She is single", would you tell him to chop knuckle and plan wedding or would you not wonder why she couldn't test him without lying, like SO MANY women have done in the past and found good men??
How do you know this was a test, because she went on dates and you met her family and she said so?
I lied for a year to test if you were serious about me

If you have to resort to doing something wrong to get something right, then what you want isn't good for you. Go read your bible.
My ex never needed to beat me or cheat, he found wonderful ways to hurt me (like once letting me check in for my flight then telling me not to come, and switching off his phone, all because I didn't pick up his calls for 2 days before then and we were NOT even dating). He also liked to set tests for me to pass. He never changed. And whenever I got tired, Surprise! it was a test, or he would laugh. Manipulative people are the worst, because you're not sure what's going on.

Do you get me?

btw, after I and my family and friends had frantically searched for a hotel and couldn't find one, and I cancelled my non-refundable ticket, 30 minutes to takeoff he called and said it was a joke. Then he acted shocked when I burst into tears.

Bad situation. Break up with both girls and go and clear your head.

Yikes. Lots of patience and maturity needed here.

You don't want to be in a relationship where you might SUSPECT even that you were chosen only because his first option was not available. But at the same time, life is messy. He might like both of you, but one of you is his heart, and the other is his head.

You need to calmly acknowledge the possibilities, and tell him that you understand, but you can't be sure of whom he really wants. So give him space, if he really wants you more than her, he'll tell her that she has a good place in his heart, but you are now what he wants, to build his current future with you. Don't force him to say this (which is why you should give him space). He can't date you and be in love with someone else, that's unfair to all of you.

Give him space (not a breakup, you guys will still talk, but let him reach out to you more). Who knows what will happen in the future? All of you in this situation sound very young, so I don't think there's a lot of enduring, forever-type Love amongst any of you, so take this light-heartedly for now. But what you wanna gain from this is experience and maturity without too much pain.
If he does come back, they can't be close friends (not now) and you have to be part of that friendship, make her your friend. If he doesn't, don't be mad, just move along with your life.

That might be his emotions talking, unless of course you see actual craziness about him. I know some dude who convinced himself the craze he saw in his gf was "nothing". See us eating popcorn and waiting for the action that will follow once he sees the truth after marriage.

Tell him not to talk like that, carefully watch your fb and email to see if he's hacked in or is isolating you from family and friends. Use side-eye and watch him, don't brush this away. Give him space, if he cannot calm himself down, walk.

Well, I've seen this situation happen at least 3 times in my family, and in every situation, the parents were right. See, they are seeing us clearly, they know things about us we don't see and other places of us, they don't know, but they might suspect. So they pretty much have an idea of what suits us. Take their advice into consideration. The cases I saw, the guy/girl rejected the parent's candidate (and you know how children can be, in order to prove that they are in command of their own lives and their NO was NO, they went in the other direction and married all manner of stupi.d wahala. Mschewww)

Be careful sha: my friend married her husband when she saw how much her mother-in-law loved her (the babe was crazily in love with him and ignored every warning sign that he was bad). But it was because their son was a wild one and they were hoping a good girl would train him. Alas, it didn't.

Give her space, treat the relationship as if it a lighthearted one. If she loves you, she'll try and win you back. Then have a talk with her about what you two both want. She may not say she loves you a lot, but how about her actions?

Whatever you do, don't double-date. I am yet to see anyone who double-dated and ended up with a good marriage, nowadays no-one wan say na dia one wey get wahala for public. But I know the double-dating happened, and I always see the normal issues that arise in marriage grow worse because the couple spent the time they should have spent growing themselves together watering several plants.

OP, you're fighting for this girl. And that earns you points in my book, well done. What you're doing is not wrong, you're being sensible. Give it two months. If it doesn't grow into love after the trial period, let her go, try not to hold hard feelings against her. It isn't her fault for not loving you and it is certainly not your fault for loving her. Take it as experience, as you have to break some eggs before you make an omelette (you have to experience some heartbreak before getting a good relationship) keep your heart free and open, you show quite some maturity so I think you'll find happiness soon.

[/quote]Her jealousy is normal, she's ensuring no-one snatches her backup while she's playing. Every good player has a dependable backup, and you're hers.

She is NOT for you and she will never be for you, even if you break up and she comes shedding crocodile tears and dressing like MFM, because she's gotten used to using you to stroke her ego and it's a bad and tough habit to break once you've started, ask anyone. And I promise once you leave, the tears and MFM attending to get you back will start. [quote]

Ladies and Gentlemen, after the OP read the above, his darling proceeded to act as was predicted above and HE TOOK HER BACK. Yup. Their wedding will be coming up soon
OP, when you propose to this chick, inform me, there's this book I want to buy you (and one of my exes) as a gift, it's titled "WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU'RE EXPECTING TO MARRY AN EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATIVE, STRONG PERSONALITY SELFISH GIRLFRIEND". It's very good, one of my friends who did just the same as you wrote the foreword on the new print version
At least someone else will read this thread and hopefully learn, all is not lost...

[quote author=fresh_dude]Erm...what exactly is the problem with her marrying this dude? They both love each other so I fail to see the snag. @Nne, you are breaking no law by marrying him. Sure you might break his wife's heart but she'll eventually get over it. What you should bee concerned about is if he'lll still show you this level of love and respect(because the commitment is sure to decrease) as time goes by. If you are positivee that he'll still love andd cherish you years down the line please go for it. You will not be the first second wife and you surely won't be the last. Cheers.[/quote]Sadly this is true. You can do whatever you like, as long as you are willing to accept the consequences. I know a lot of second wives, most regret the choice to be one. OP, you are old enough to date a married man and think he'll love you forever, forgetting that one of the greatest signs of selfishness is him deciding to keep 2 women, rather than contenting himself with one. He's already showing signs of selfishness by cheating on his wife and family with you, yet getting angry if you receive calls from men. But you obviously know what's on your mind, so go ahead. Just remember you reap what you sow, and that karma mostly will affect your kids. Please be ready to accept whatever happens should you decide to keep on cheating AND DO NOT feel sorry for yourself no matter what happens, as you made this choice.

horny4u: Finding the book "the rules of dating" Ellen fein

Do not call him ! and always wait at least 24 hours before replying his mail.

Be easy to be with and very sweet when you are with him but be indifferent when you are not with him ( makes him want to be with you so you get dates and makes him wonder).

End telephone conversation first and within 10 mins ( If he wants to talk more he will set up a date).

Rori Raye diva Creed:
Date as many men as you can manage (not sleep) , treat all of them equally until you get the ring.

Actually, this is really bad advice. I used to believe it, then a friend talked to me and I realised the only reason this advice was any good was because it worked for a certain type of man: the guy whom without this type of behavior, he wouldn't notice you, a man who doesn't actually want YOU. Because if he did, you wouldn't need to pull all these stunts to get him, you're sorta competing with other ladies for his attention. If you have to play a game to get a guy, chances are once he's caught, he'll see the real you (and I've never met anyone who went "awesome, I got manipulated into marrying this person, yay". All those stunts work in the first 6 weeks of casual dating only. And it's super-important that a man feels that he got you himself, not that you played hard to get, they know and hate that.
And as for date as many men as you can manage until you get the ring, well, that means the important thing is the ring, not the man behind the ring. It becomes like the tv series The Bachelor "hey, I will date all these women casually, and I will marry one, though I couldn't concentrate on knowing her well before marrying.". Why not date casually, then pick a bf out of all those?

The advice Rori Raye gives is targeted to women who are trying to get high-maintenance men. And you want your spouse, not some guy who likes you because you acted hard to get. I've seen this rels in real life: he got the girl, then went back to happily cheating or whatever, the hunt was over (yes, even after marriage).

OP, my point is that being catholic is not a reason to not pursue a relationship with someone. And wow, you guys don't get sarcasm, do ya? No? Oh okay,okay.

OMG, run!!!! This is catholicism, forget that they preach the gospel of Jesus Christ there, read the same bible you read and one of their most powerful prayers is Psalm 23! They are obviously different from you because they are not pentecostals (even though the pentecostal church started from catholic church), infact, catholics are the same as hindus, muslims and Ifa and Olokun worshippers!! How can you expect this girl to understand and believe in the God you serve, whom is the same God she serves!! Nooo!!

Yep, that above is what sarcasm sounds like. You do know that you are judging this young lady and that isn't, oh what's the word, er, CHRIST-LIKE OF YOU.