₦airaland Forum

dexterush:
I want to eat fufu and repented ogbono soup

And with that sentence, you just win the internet! What is "Repented Ogbono Soup"? Have we all been eating unforgiven and unrepentant Ogbono soup?! Is this why sometimes my Ogbono Soup refuses to draw Because it is a sinner?! That makes so much sense....

Here to rant: ever since Madam Baby E realised what "Hello" and "Bye bye" was, she has been waving and expecting me to wave back at her. No matter what I'm doing. If I'm on the phone and Teletubbies says "bye bye tinky winky", she will pull the phone out of my hand and wave vigorously at me until I wave back and laugh delightedly. Himself has been woken from sleep to wave "Hello" at her, because she was watching "Hello" song on Pinkfong. Yeah, Pinkfong is another sore topic

Okay, everybody write anything till we get to page 667!

Price of bread and biscuits is going up an additional 15% this month! Everybody panic!!

thorpido:
If her story is real,I'll say it's naivety and carelessness.Quite a number of young girls are that way,sexually active but not having a contraceptive plan in place.Most rely on after morning pills.

I think it is because we treat contraceptives as a dirty word in Nigeria if you're not married. Imagine getting contraceptive subsidised at a Govt facility and those matrons giving you side eye.

My siblings used to tell me about young girls brought by their parents to hospital, the girls would be swearing that they didn't even associate with boys outside of school and the parents will be spending money paying for malaria test, typhoid test when the simple truth lay in front of their noses.

Blank, keepingmum, do you remember her initial moniker? I wonder how she was receiving money from the SA guy without a bank account, even if his friends were the ones giving her here, was she carrying the cash to put under her pillow?? She keeps choosing bad guys, after one baby she is still not keeping herself safe, she has learnt a trade but doesn't want to use it (instead she wants money to start a business, won't say what) and is expecting the world owes her help and making up silly tales to wring people's hearts. I dunno, but I think if we can get an NGO to agree to take the baby when born for a closed adoption, then we help financially AFTER the adoption has been confirmed and she has done a coil or implant (NGO from another state). Abortion if she's at 3 months is tricky and we don't want her claiming afterwards that she was forced to abort. We also don't want her claiming she was forced to sell her baby. Sometimes, loving a child is not enough and I would rather see a child with parents that will keep baby safe, not keeping a child beside you, suffering, when you know you're not the type mentally strong enough to be a good parent.

There's something called Safe Surrender, practised abroad, for mothers who want to safely give their babies up for adoption. I think an NGO should be formed around that idea: every LGA and GH and health centre and town hall has flyers with safe locations where you can drop a baby and walk away, no questions asked. But you don't come back.

Btw, a lot of NGOs are run for profit in Nigeria. So maybe a church/ mosque be involved cc Jaybee3

Tojued:
So that is how i went to Fidelity Bank today, they told me they don't do bonds, only treasury bills, and minimum investment amount is N1 million. I now went to FCMB and they said bonds are minimun N10 million investment.

Mbok, abeg, where can I get bonds for N100,000? i just came here and saw this Diamond PFA sha. Does anyone have any other recommendations?

Stanbic IBTC, 5% for like 5 years. Go to the branch on Walter Carrington in VI.

Dyt:
Ok
Here

But why is your life like this eh ? you'll soon say you picked the Four Points paper from a dustbin because you were too broke to afford a photocopy centre

dexterush:
Ehn if I hear say I don't know how to eat baby food
Lemme confess here
When making food for my los I intentionally make excess so I get to finish it baby food is so yummy I and my sil are partners in crime,she is ATCing but if you go to her house you will see baby milk,she enjoys licking it,and whenever she comes around my babies milk and cereals are not spared.her DH calls her cow and gate(and she is fat)

you're like my sister, she wpuld eat half my Similac in those days!

EfemenaXY:
Onegai, Ifyalways, and Thorpido...

Question for you: I've been toying with the idea for sometime of sponsoring a child in need in Naija with their Education. Ideally, a young child in nursery to start with. How can this be done without being tricked? Or the money for the child diverted elsewhere?

Is this possible? What would I need to do and know? My preference is for a little girl.

I can look around and recommend someone. I think the important thing is to not let them know why you're interested in the child until you're ready and then paying directly to the school.

MizMyColi:
My dear.
The emboldened might be the case.
It might be truly.

But she just needs money now.
Shebi if I give today, will you still come tomorrow and tell me to give you?
No na.

Per working, I will just call it God's grace.
I was at the verge of being sacked, but heaven spoke up for me.

Imagine I was sacked, no certificate, no extra means of income, no husband, one toddler, no mother to comfort me or even share her garri with me.

For some people it is not just easy to get up and get something doing like that. The onus is still on people like us to give her food first then lecture her on the importance of owning yourself with dignity including earning your meal. It lies with people like us to make her understand that she cannot continue to blame her mother for her woes. She put herself in this situation to begin with.

But shebi it is someone that has eaten bellefull that will listen to any empowerment lecture that you have to give.

But you're not her. Making hair and beauty concerns is a very steady source of income. Every Thursday to Saturday is a party, nothing stops her from even taking a chair, going to a field and tying gele for N50p apiece. Is LASU not around Igando, plenty customers. But she came here to spread a tale of woe and anguish, who makes the choice to starve their child rather than get productive? I'm not going to reward that sort of thinking, I don't have a steady income coming in and if I do, I will go down to the mall and take a Saleslady job and get ready to swallow all embarrassment from friends finding out. I'll give her money after she has the baby and puts it up for adoption and gets fitted with a 5-year Contraceptive.

cc moji26 suzzy16

Jaybee3, it's really expensive to terminate after 3 months (if she's upto that sef).

Mynd44:
Wait, what?

NOTHING OOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!

Look away, look away!!

MizMyColi:
Actually, I would have written something meaner but decided to change it.
This is just my mood today, and I feel very okay about it.

I wouldn't be the first to be hurt by someone and instead of raining curses on them, choose to bless them.
If I can help it, I would always want to pray for people who hurt and defraud me....always.

It is my understanding.

You see, what you fail to understand is that people own themselves actually.
If something does not resonate with you, why bother? Why give because I urged you to give when in reality every part of you is screaming "DO NOT GIVE"

I see beggars on the streets who claim the are blind or disabled, I give to them anyway, not because I am so sure of their status but because I feel compassionate enough to.

I see a woman who claims to be a mother and carrying an autistic child and I give. For all I know, she could have rented that child, for all I know she could have stolen the child, for all I know, none of her begging proceeds might ever get to that child.

But I give anyway...
why?
Because I am moved to to. Because I felt this wave of compassion for them.

These people might have one thing in common - fraudsters.
They also have another thing in common - they are in need.

it is that need that pushed them to all sorts of desperation including lying to me to collect my money.
If i eventually find out that they lied, I won't feel soooo bad for two reasons

1. I did not give away something sooo huge that actually told on my pocket.
2. I have an understanding that they don't. I have sowed a seed into their lives, one that will continually speak till they become better people, whether in this life or in the next.

But none of this changes what I felt then. I have seen lots of "help me" thread on NL.
You hardly see me feature actively on them. People who know me off of here can testify that I like money, I hate being cheated and nothing riles me up like feeling my intelligence has been played on.

But I don't feel this one is aaallll scam. This one made me go to work late. This one made me forget the braxton hicks et al. This one made me forget myself for a while there because I wanted to see her comforted no matter how short the while.

If she turns out fake, well God Bless Her. Posterity never judges wrongly.

She's not fake, she just depending on others for money. You're "happy" and are going to work, she's in her 1st trimester and she's unable to get a stool, a comb or 2, some cheap bottles of nail polish and a chair and break a sweat. People like this exist, not a big deal Oya, calm down and breathe deeply and go and eat fried chicken.

Dyt:
You see
They ignored me

You didn't call God and tell us you were starving and about to drink Sniper now, did you?

keepingmum:
I remember this lady posted whilst in SA regarding her baby daddy and how he had deceived her 2 come bk 2 9ja. Her mum was very disappointed in her for coming bk home wt an extra mouth 2 feed/ no source of income etc and she had being having challenges with her mum. ....this was on a thread about 2 yrs bk.

For the life of me I cannot understand how you can get pregnant again for another man who hasn't married you. You can barely feed urself not to talk of the 1st child .

I do not think you need antenatal. You need to terminate this pregnancy , get urself busy making hair. I am sure there are areas in igando where ladies go 2 make hair. Go there daily with ur child and you ll get customers and be able 2 feed.

After a few months when you hv established ur customer Base, redirect them to ur house and continue frome there.

Raising a child is not beans and NOBODY owes you nada!!. Your mum has done all she can for u and whatever else she chooses to do is a bonus not an entitlement.

Finally, learn to have protected sezz. A condom/contraceptive is cheaper than a pack of pampers.

Nairn landers who want to help pls help this lady bit encourage her to utilize her time . I know she is genuine. I know these because I recall her earlier thread ...with a similar moji type of username

Finally, something that makes sense. So 2 years ago, she was here pleading for help after baby 1 and then went on to depend on another man financially, get pregnant and then come back here to beg again. I knew this was her 3rd moniker on NL. She can make hair and do nails and fix false lashes, but is broke, starving and sick and cannot do anything with her hands except beg with a new moniker. She's been active on NL for at least 2 years and came back to Nigeria since, yet couldn't open a bank account and has been friendless all this while. In the U.S. they call these ladies "Welfare Queens". We should totally reward her with lots of money. I refuse to believe that stunt she tried to pull soliciting in Sexu.ality section was caused by desperation, more likely a search for financial provider no 3.

Remember all those well-dressed ladies and men at bus stops...

cc ifyalways, mizmycoli, thorpido, jaybee3, moji26

Realhommie:
Lolz.... Yes ooooo, I know one. She's a double chief titled woman, we use to attend same church. Really funny oooo coz i never heard of such b4 her own story ooooo. And i was like ... WTF!!!! Hehehehehe

I almost think I know whom you are talking of...

damiso:
I think it did but the 'morality' was more aimed at a certain target audience on certain issues i.e. .women and marriage. Cos a lot of times you see the women sticking it out at all costs these days more than the past. Not like its necessarily a bad thing but its just funny when you see posts that romanticise the past.

Alot of older aunties and grandmas cant even comprehend the 'ruth abokokus me and my husband' ( ruth die with husband ) antics of the girls of these generation. I guess its cos there was more openness about polygamy so they sef no send the man I have aunties who cant understand all these 'our house our land ' business. They are asking 'what of your own house, what of your own land'

From childhood, I was told "house and land in your name". Those women didn't play and didn't carry Man ontop their heads like we do. But yeah, rose-tinted glasses at the "saints of the past and sinners of tomorrow".

This may cause a run on the banks

MetroTee:
Thank you o! But... Pooping a cockroach leg I don't even know which is worse among all these scenarios I forsee myself crying soon

Meanwhile the place is somewhere in VI. When I made enquiries, it was 5k for a day. I don't know about registration or monthly fees etc will make further enquiries and share. Can't get over cockroach leg, i will keep wondering if she swallowed just the leg or the whole thing. Mehn....

Get over it, toddlers like drinking from the toilet please let me know and what's the address.

stadora:
Mamas pls am getin frustrated here, I wonder how u mamas did it. Now I want 2 do it, am finding it difficult and to tink that I forsee it.

Am finding it difficult to wean my lo. He s nt accepting any food except pap, which must b spoon fed.
My hard times are at night/ wen he wakes up frm sleep. He crys til I put breast in his mouth. He doesn't Bootle feed n so doesn't take milk. He refuses even d pap weneva he s cryin; thereby resulting to bm. How els do I go abt this

Mamas dat has weaned their babies pls com to my aid.

He's going to cry. If I give you 24 carat Dubai gold to be wearing for 11 months and then take it from you, won't you cry Just keep at it, give him water, leave the room when he starts fighting for it. He will eventually adjust.

damiso:
No she is not a deltan which means you know another one sef that is deltan. so much for this olden day angels theory


Seriously, I actually think the influx of Pentecostal Christianity into Nigeria kinda curbed women a bit( not so sure about the men though )

Because the shenanigans and life style of some women from way back ehn all this stay there and die kinda marriage was not in their dictionary. I don't know any woman in the 25-45 age bracket who had 4 kids for 3 husbands ( and is very proud of it) but off the top off my head I know over 65's with that scenario.

Pentecostal Christianity sanitised a lot. It made everyone more moralistic.

MizMyColi:
Hopefully, she will come back online and proffer more explanation.

That tab which she claims the man bought for her might be the only means she has to communicate with the outside world.

Moreso, the tab might be having serious battery issues hence her putting up a thread to ask around for a good Powerbank.

Just thought to send out what I have got so far should it be that for some reason, I'm unable to participate actively on the thread for the rest of today due to work or rest.

Some time this year, someone sent me a mesaage via whatsapp, showed me samples of her work and I paid for a job. When she scammed me, I furiously contacted the whatsapp number, only for someone else to say it was HER phone, her friend had asked her to please borrow it and me pics of HER OWN work in order to get a job from me that she couldn't do.
I don't know what is going on, but Logic is not on the side of the OP. Let her come back and explain, and I'll support her.

MizMyColi:
I sent you an email with some of the proof you asked for.

I called her earlier, more like flashing, so I can hear her voice, it went through and I heard her voice. But her number wasn't going through last I tried. In fairness she told me she had low battery.

I also took shots of my convo with her where she talked about the low battery, ante-natal, among other things.

This I have done to help with some form of needed conviction with your intuition.

I know that you have done a lot of Nairalanders good in the past, this is why I did not hesitate to send whatever information I consider necessary to you.

Thank you.

Seen. I didn't see anything about the antenatal and other stuff, not even an explanation. All she said was no-one believes her here and her mum isn't helping her. She says she's friendless but has been contacting NLers offline with her other account (which is why I keep mentioning humbledbygrace, that's whom she interacted here with a lot, so how come she's totally friendless). Where's her antenatal card? How come she didn't want to sell her tecno tab and powerbank to raise money to go to the hospital? That was what she said here, that she was too hungry and sick to go for antenatal. How come she has a Nigerian International passport and no bank account? How come she has been browsing all this time on social networks and nothing, it didn't occur to her to open a bank account? Where was she getting money from, the man? She's not an illiterate o, so this is hard to believe.

I swear, I'm gonna pull this stunt next week...

Loisemm:
Onegai, pls don't meet her anywhere or take her to anywhere without company o. Times are dangerous. I would suggest u calm down and don't feel you have to exonorate yourself or prove you did nothing wrong by trying to check out her case. You did nothing wrong!

If you didn't spill out her story and all, someone else like Ifyalways or Amelian would have. In fact, I was waiting for them. It surprised me that you are also into detective work. I suggest u leave things now to others like Tehn and your colleagues here. Don't feel guilty and make mistakes trying to please others. If she is real and deserves help, people will respond. If not, it is well.

Okay then. I'll step back, let's see how things unfold.

ifyalways:
Amen!

Keeping fingers crossed now. Let's just hope the OP will not disappear now as this is the hardest part. New twists and excuses to the initial story will start springing up.

Person lived in and out of Nigeria, Yoruba geh for that matter, does not have bank account. Okay o. I'm sure she's pregnant (because she was checking out Pregnancy thread in health section and her friend called her there), but that she didn't realise she could have offloaded her tecno tab and her power bank and it would have been enough for paying for antenatal at a govt hospital (and that lack of knowledge is coming from someone who was asking about immunizations on Newborn thread in health section over a year ago, so she hangs out there and has access to a lot of valid info about how much it is to get a card there), well, okay o. I am active on those threads, it is impossible to read them and be clueless about giving birth in Nigeria. Those mamas write from every section and corner of Nigeria and the world, they have even turned to auxillary nurses the way they know stuff And everyone knows govt hospital is cheap, everyone. And there is one in Igando. But okay o.

Thorpido, biko, how much is it to open a card at GH for antenatal, has it reached N10,000?

Discard the instinctive emotional response and ask yourself "how logical is this", then see why I vexed here.

MizMyColi:
My dear.
I have seen a copy of her international passport. I asked for more docs. The picture on her profile and the passport checks out.

If you have people in Igando, let them help verify.

She swears she doesn't own a NIgerian bank account.

The reason anyone might be uninterested to help is because of her questionable past/present.

I don't want to judge since I haven't walked her journey.

But if we could look past that....

Please let her send it to me, I will take her to GH Igando myself to register for antenatal. This is not about any questionable past or me judging her morality, this is about genuine need. Everybody needs money but don't claim what you are not.

jaybee3:
I honestly get your point Sis. I'm just worried about us losing sight of what's important even though it hasn't been verified. I don't support anyone sending money without the case being verified

Yes it's possible that she and others might want to take people's goodwill for granted and all but we can't ignore the following until proven otherwise:

Suicidal thoughts
Absolute poverty
Pregnancy
Emotional Imbalance

etc

Had she sold the tablet, she would have enough money to register for antenatal at General Hospital Igando. Instead of her to say "please I want money for business, Naija dey hard" (which is what the suzzy16 profile said this year and also said she wanted to leave), she came here and started saying the magic words: helpless, child, suicide, God, abandoned. It's like all those well-dressed women you see at the busstops or 2 ladies on Lekki express way, whom for the past 2 years their twin babies seem not to have grown past more than 8 months of age. The day I confronted one of these "penniless, insane, pregnant" beggars and she spoke educated English to me, was the day I started believing all the tales my siblings used to tell me. They are doctors who passed through Nigerian government hospitals, they had seen it all.

cococandy:
I was just going to say what jaybee said. that her past doesn't mean she doesn't deserve help. But then the date thing caught my attention.

I don't know a one month old pregnant lady that will be interested in strangers for sex but what do I know. Maybe she hadn't found out then. But in that case that would mean she was still in good terms with the man since he only turned bad after the pregnancy news.

Color me confused.

my sister! oya, let us see her antenatal card, it will show when she registered, infact your first visit the doctor will estimate the due date of your baby based on LMP. It should be there. I walked into SLOT and sold my old tablet for N12k and it had no battery, so a 1 month preggers lady can't think like that, but hey, hooking up for pay with strangers online na d koko. A lot of people are looking for extra income and have started making up sob stories. She may be pregnant but the rest of that tale, nope!
moji26, please pm me and send your antenatal card.

MizMyColi:
From her post, she said the man did lots of nice things for her, only to abandon her when she turned out pregnant....

Ask yourself this question: whom are the sort of people who do not have bank accounts in their names? They exist in real life. But are they on NL, are they travelling internationally? Why the foolish lie? Okay, so you don't want people to identify you and you wanted to use someone's bank account to keep yourself coded, why drop the names "Quadri Moji suliat" here and ask for verification? Does that make sense? Will I tell you my real name and yet say I want to use my friend's account number in order to protect my privacy? Igando where is she?? I can go to Festac and drive down to Igando from there tomorrow because of this. I get big mamas for Igando, let me see if I can call her to go there, if she can convince a 77 year old wise crone, I send her money.

sisisioge:
Sweetie, daddy has spoken...so have you. He said ease up...you said can't deal. I'm with you here, let's stay on the other side of the fence while we see how it pans out. No be say I get money put for somewhere, na her baby woes grapped my attention.

My anger is that I would have carried her to Health section to try and organise stuff for her. Because there are truly desperate people out there. But they are never on NL, the ones that really need help.

cococandy:
Well.....

Go and donate. But first donate to me: I can use a smartphone and an andriod device yet I am totally helpless to get myself a bank account. Infact, what is a bank sef, never heard of those things...

jaybee3:
I honestly think everyone should relax about this scam busting charade

Are we going to throw her under the bus even if her stories are proven to be true just because she has a questionable past?

Check the dates of her postings. It's not her past, check the dates! Which girl gets pregnant and immediately in the first month of pregnancy, turns to prostitution when she has stuff she can exchange for money? Read thar suzzy16's posts and ask yourself if she sounds genuine or like a hustler. How come she did not have a bank account, had zero idea how to open one today, yet for the past year on NL has been chatting with foreigners and trying to make friends with people who didn't want to contact her? Does that sound logical? Does any of that past match up to the person you read about in the first post?

moji26:
my dear, all of them knows me, they re my friends, u can humblebygrace about me and bukola, if I ever lie, may God punish me, bt fine, when there is life, I believe there is hope, the tablet with me, it's d guy dat make me pregnant dat bought it for me

But you didn't have money to eat or do antenatal na, why are you holding onto the tablet?
If anyone is in the mood to dash money, please go ahead. As for me, I can't deal.

Oya come and entertain us with some more tales. Not one single mention of the other guy for over 1 year yet he beat you and got you pregnant. You have been posting on NL since 2015 yet don't have bank account.

She logged into her suzzy16 profile and removed the number and then came here to post.